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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago
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So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X |
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"
Definitely needs to be some sort of attraction…. Not necessarily physical though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"
Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time  |
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X
Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time "
Totally this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago
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Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x |
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"Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x"
If the conversation can’t flow then there’s a good chance nothing else will! |
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"Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x
If the conversation can’t flow then there’s a good chance nothing else will!"
It doesn't stop my fabbing your cleavage though  |
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"Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x"
100% agree! |
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X
Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time
Totally this!"
Another for this. No point fucking an adonis with zero personality |
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By *hyme2020Woman 33 weeks ago
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I need to beable to get on with someone. If their personality doesn’t float my boat, it means no matter how good the physical attraction is, I wouldn’t meet them. I need both but when I am more into someone, it becomes much more fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Personality, similar interest’s, having certain quirks that are worth making an effort to get to know. Nice manicured hands, make up especially mascara. Someone that’s available during school hours, not much to ask for |
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"
Always has to be attraction for me |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..
For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..
So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"
Exactly the same as you, the attraction drives it! |
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Both…….greedy we know! We find lots of people attractive but don’t need to fuck them!
Then there are others, we are both horny (so a need is created), then an attraction is there with a person/couple also! Perfect combo! But other times both horny, but no attraction, so it home and porn time for us!!!
Good question/thread this !!!!! |
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By *hyme2020Woman 33 weeks ago
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"Attraction can generate need more than need can generate attraction!"
Oh yes to this. If I’m attracted to someone and have been with them and it’s been good, I definitely need it. That’s when the disappointment comes in because it’s ages until I see them again or whatever. Still haven’t been able to find someone as regular as I want them
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Sometimes the need wins but then, there still has to be something to be attracted to I suppose. Ideally there's a physical attraction but it can be as simple as scent, personality and mood or even the setting/scenario. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Always about the connection for me however if someone is offering to help an itch I wouldn't say no  "
I get messages from guys asking to meet and i ask for a facepic if they arent for me il politely say so more times than not they will say but its only sex, maybe they could fuck just anyone but i cant |
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For me it’s all about attraction and chemistry… had a few social coffee meets and the spark simply wasn’t there to consider taking things further.
The initial flirting, the anticipation of what “might” be, the realisation that you are on the same page and have a mutual interest all adds to the end game…. The feeling of satisfaction on both sides.
It could result in a memorable one off meet (for the right reasons), but ideally lead to a trusted regular arrangement. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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For us it's attraction, that natural attraction either at first sight, or when you just connect and bounce off the opposite persons personality.
I think that's why we hardly look to meet from the site unless we've met first. There's plenty on here that looking at pics we would say are very attractive but in person it can feel different. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Attraction and personality, but I think you can only appreciate them when you meet and then decide if it's enough to take it further. "
Exactly, we've had a meets where we can acknowledge the other half is attractive but not for us and can still have a good night without play.
We've also had nights are we've met and initially not physically attracted to them as we thought we would be but then became attracted because of who they are as a person and it's then moved on from there.
I get some can still go all the way without a physical or mental attraction but that's something I can't do. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Depends how I long it’s been for me. I’d love to lie and say it’s based on attraction but then other times I think fuck it, it’s a hook up site and I’m horny. "
Id rather go without than have someone im not attracted to |
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I feel it’s definitely a bit of both for me. The need is pretty much always there so I would be a pretty tired girl if I went in that all the time. There would still need to be something about someone for me to meet them though even when the need is high but they might not be my more usual type shall we say. |
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Don’t need a meeting but would love one, but the attraction is what it’s all about for us 
