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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I dont like them mainly because their availability tends to be rubbish, particularly when their partner is not aware. Lots of promises to meet, but reality is disappointing.
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By *igd888 OP Man 42 weeks ago
Inverness |
I can imagine that to be about right. I still fancy a bit of extra fun on here just maby not going to happen. Would be difficult making time sometimes but all the more exiting if it dose happen! |
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"Been on here single and attached? Everyone has there own opinions but used to be women liked attached or married men? Is this still the case or very rare?"
some will so won’t it’s as simple as that really
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By *wiftieeMan 41 weeks ago
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"I dont like them mainly because their availability tends to be rubbish, particularly when their partner is not aware. Lots of promises to meet, but reality is disappointing."
What you say is very valid, and true.
However, in my case, there's been no sex for about 20 years.
I have been stood up once by a girl, but I've never failed to break an arrangemet.
For me, I can only do what I've done because of the work I do. In the early days, I did the usual 1 off meets, but then have had the pleasure of 2 longish 'relationships'.
Since the last one finished, I've had no success, Fab would seem to be 'ageist', but I live in hope!!   |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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The abuse I get for not wanting to meet attached. I find asking for a social let’s you know who is really single. Kind of puts me of clubs as you have no idea who is attached, not fair on their partners, know a lot of women who get off on it but not for me at all |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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It's the same as married women, feck that.
Quite a while ago I started chatting to a woman, all going well, told me she was single etc... so we met and had fun and a day later she messaged me to tell me that her husband seen her coming into my flats. I didn't even knew she was married ffs. I'm not here for hassle and rather the woman was single or playing with a couple who both want to swing.
If we chose to have fun with a married person, then we cant expect any sympathy if it goes wrong   |
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I've got on my profile that I'm only looking for single men, and that I'll only have a first meet out in public as a social.
I find(if they read it), that the profile alone can stop a lot of people bothering wasting their time messaging me.
As above, availability can be an issue, especially if partner not aware, and I really don't want the drama personally. Been caught unawares in the middle of 2 couples before and it's just a disaster I don't want to repeat lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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In my opinion swinging when your attached or married and your partner doesn't know, it's not swinging its cheating, I go out to not meet attached men it's the lying you get from them though particularly when they know you avoid them or the then messages from their Mrs..... |
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"We don’t meet married or attached men. Just our preference as it’s potential drama. "
100% no issue with couples in the life who play separately but always double check partners permission
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"Been on here single and attached? Everyone has there own opinions but used to be women liked attached or married men? Is this still the case or very rare?some will so won’t it’s as simple as that really "
And what about you? Would you meet a man that's attached? |
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There must be some women that meet attached men somewhere. It’s personal taste. I don’t as getting meeting time can be hard plus the partner not knowing is a big no no for me as part of this lifestyle I enjoy is the openness and freedom you have and it’s important to be open and honest. I am single so I can enjoy the experience fully and it just seems abit selfish to me but each to their own. |
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"There must be some women that meet attached men somewhere. It’s personal taste. I don’t as getting meeting time can be hard plus the partner not knowing is a big no no for me as part of this lifestyle I enjoy is the openness and freedom you have and it’s important to be open and honest. I am single so I can enjoy the experience fully and it just seems abit selfish to me but each to their own. "
Thats weird, i keep getting told by couples it’s discretion and secrecy rather than that in the lifestyle.
Nice to see the same opinions as myself for once |
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By *ee69Man 41 weeks ago
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"I dont like them mainly because their availability tends to be rubbish, particularly when their partner is not aware. Lots of promises to meet, but reality is disappointing.
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Tbf I’m attached a always say so within first couple off messages and am honest about my availability, in my experience it the lady’s who let you down with the meets , maybe it’s just me lol , one thing for sure it getting harder to meet folk , either your meeting or no lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Plus, as someone else said, too much drama.
What a horrible comment to make when you know nothing about these people.
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If they are married and cheating, what more would I need to know? |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Exciting for you, but frustrating for us trying to arrange a meet, being let down, and built up to nothing lol"
^ this and then the expectation of "sexting" to fill an immediate need which frankly, leaves me more frustrated which I no longer do. |
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Plus, as someone else said, too much drama.
What a horrible comment to make when you know nothing about these people.
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It’s not for me to judge someone else’s circumstances but my experience has been married/attached men are fine to chat with but not great at arranging a meet.
Not exactly surprising so I tend to reserve my time for single men, much easier! |
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I can see why women don't like it and I can see why some do. Maybe some women on here don't want to admit they like the thought of turning an attached man's head.
The reality is that it's extremely difficult to arrange a meet with an attatched person for obvious reasons. The sex chat is fun but then that starts to get less exciting we find. With no meet to keep it going you eventually just stop talking and move on. |
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
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Tbh that’s a little bit presumptuous because there could be many reasons for married or attached guys being here .
It could be him that doesn’t want her .
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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I'm really of the judgement where as if it doesn't affect me then it's none of my buisness ..
What I really don't get is the judgement , no one knows what goes behind closed doors .. but to judge others when you know nothing about them or the situation . Seems there's alot of folk out there willing to take the moral highground when their own morality seems to always be moving the goal posts ..
The answers simple if it's not for you then move along .. everyone has a choice . |
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"I'm really of the judgement where as if it doesn't affect me then it's none of my buisness ..
What I really don't get is the judgement , no one knows what goes behind closed doors .. but to judge others when you know nothing about them or the situation . Seems there's alot of folk out there willing to take the moral highground when their own morality seems to always be moving the goal posts ..
The answers simple if it's not for you then move along .. everyone has a choice ."
I’m all for personal choice and we never know the full story but as far as I’m concerned there’s never an excuse . And I don’t need or want the drama .. so yeah I will just move along and I wouldn’t criticise the person if they messaged me but it’s my personal choice too |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"I'm really of the judgement where as if it doesn't affect me then it's none of my buisness ..
What I really don't get is the judgement , no one knows what goes behind closed doors .. but to judge others when you know nothing about them or the situation . Seems there's alot of folk out there willing to take the moral highground when their own morality seems to always be moving the goal posts ..
The answers simple if it's not for you then move along .. everyone has a choice .
I’m all for personal choice and we never know the full story but as far as I’m concerned there’s never an excuse . And I don’t need or want the drama .. so yeah I will just move along and I wouldn’t criticise the person if they messaged me but it’s my personal choice too "
Yeah everyone has a choice whether to engage in corresponding or even meeting someone who is attached .. what I don't get is why a stranger would judge someone who has no bearing in their life , and take it upon themselves to be a moral conscience especially when their own is so easily moveable to suit themselves ( not saying you) .. I'm a live and let live kinda person and if it doesn't directly involve me then it's none of my buisness. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Tbh that’s a little bit presumptuous because there could be many reasons for married or attached guys being here .
It could be him that doesn’t want her .
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I actually don't care, it's my view which I'm entitled to hold.
You can offer excuses cheating that's your choice. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Plus, as someone else said, too much drama.
What a horrible comment to make when you know nothing about these people.
Shock 
Totally agree mate "
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Tbh that’s a little bit presumptuous because there could be many reasons for married or attached guys being here .
It could be him that doesn’t want her .
I actually don't care, it's my view which I'm entitled to hold.
You can offer excuses cheating that's your choice. "
no one was offering an excuse I was just stating that it was maybe him who didn’t want her & not the other way about .
Everyone has reason but it’s not ways black & white |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Tbh that’s a little bit presumptuous because there could be many reasons for married or attached guys being here .
It could be him that doesn’t want her .
I actually don't care, it's my view which I'm entitled to hold.
You can offer excuses cheating that's your choice. no one was offering an excuse I was just stating that it was maybe him who didn’t want her & not the other way about .
Everyone has reason but it’s not ways black & white "
Exactly this.. far too many folk get offended on other people behalfs x |
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By *igd888 OP Man 41 weeks ago
Inverness |
Oh dear I didn't think this would cause so much upset with the nature of the site. Not had many meets on here but the 2 best have been married women without permission and it certainly seemed to add to the excitement for both parties |
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"Oh dear I didn't think this would cause so much upset with the nature of the site. Not had many meets on here but the 2 best have been married women without permission and it certainly seemed to add to the excitement for both parties "
see what you started haha |
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By *ibliosWoman 41 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Am with a partner ..sex isn't high on her agenda so hence am on hear .. am a decent guy just looking for a bit of descent fun .. wheres the harm ? "
If they know about it and are happy with it then potentially none. If not they could get pretty hurt (along with anyone else you think it's OK to lie to because you've decided getting a shag is the priority) |
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People have their reasons for being here. In some cases it may even help them to stay in an otherwise happy marriage but meet an unfulfilled need.
What I abhor though is people who actively get off on cheating. |
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"Agree with your reply if it's the only thing missing in your marriage why leave an otherwise good relationship to seek a new one
If you can fulfill your needs here all the better "
Assuming you have that talk with your partner and are upfront. Otherwise it's just deceit |
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We don’t really care either way. Someone else’s business isn’t really our responsibility but attached guys tend to be less reliable than single as they are never free and can’t really stick to plans |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Been on here single and attached? Everyone has there own opinions but used to be women liked attached or married men? Is this still the case or very rare?"
Nope, never, nadda , no !! Each to their own but i would never knowingly meet a married man |
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"I'm really of the judgement where as if it doesn't affect me then it's none of my buisness ..
What I really don't get is the judgement , no one knows what goes behind closed doors .. but to judge others when you know nothing about them or the situation . Seems there's alot of folk out there willing to take the moral highground when their own morality seems to always be moving the goal posts ..
The answers simple if it's not for you then move along .. everyone has a choice ."
Well said |
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"Don’t really care tbh. Even if you ask does he know / does she know they’ll lie to you anyway.
It is nice though asking the question what he or she won’t do ……cos you know I will. "
Do you trim toenails? |
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"Don’t really care tbh. Even if you ask does he know / does she know they’ll lie to you anyway.
It is nice though asking the question what he or she won’t do ……cos you know I will.
Do you trim toenails?"
If it gets you off…..yes  |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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My thoughts, been on and off the site for years.
I think most people don't read the profile.
Some profiles will say, some want. I'm single but I woukd never like to be someone's hidden secret unless their partner knew |
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"Don’t really care tbh. Even if you ask does he know / does she know they’ll lie to you anyway.
It is nice though asking the question what he or she won’t do ……cos you know I will.
Do you trim toenails?
If it gets you off…..yes "
Nah, it's for him.
Toenails like Quavers. |
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By *ookie69Man 40 weeks ago
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"My thoughts, been on and off the site for years.
I think most people don't read the profile.
Some profiles will say, some want. I'm single but I woukd never like to be someone's hidden secret unless their partner knew"
So,
Three gorgeous looking married women on a girls night out want to take back to their Hotel room and pump ya silly,
You’re gonna say “Naw”
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random one, iv was chatting to a lady and getting on well, but she thought i was lying about being married?
is that a thing? as she seems to think it is, i don’t understand it, why would i say i am if im not, surly just hinders my chances or chatting etc |
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By *oobsorbumMan 37 weeks ago
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"Exciting for you, but frustrating for us trying to arrange a meet, being let down, and built up to nothing lol"
Is that not expected after all they are married, poor wives, sleazy husbands |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"Way I see it is if his Mrs doesn't want him, why would anyone else.
Plus, as someone else said, too much drama.
What a horrible comment to make when you know nothing about these people.
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Yeah a bit too strong for the previous poster but the too much drama is soo true.
However, I totally agree they are with a partner and cheating behind their back ffs, there is not one excuse you, I or anyone can say, they are cheating End of
But if you play with a cheating partner, it is your choice and there is no sympathy if anything goes wrong |
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