You could try the socials as always lots of couples attend and it’s a good way to meet people with no expectations just a fun evening out. Everyone is friendly so you won’t be left not talking to anyone
There are two coming up in February - valentines one on 11th I think might be full just now and silent disco on 24th, there are threads on the forum if you want to check them out |
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So hard. Seem to never get past the social despite them going well and everyone agreeing so. Seems people are always on the look out for something better or just for the verification maybe?
We are at the point now we think what’s the point lol.
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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago
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It takes some luck and determination to meet. Keeping conversation going sometimes can be time consuming but it's worth the effort when you meet someone you want to play with. |
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over a year ago
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it can be difficult fitting in around each others family commitments
we arnt necessarily the best at keeping conversation going via messages so you get chatting with a couple and maby they cant meet fir a week or two posibly now we arnt free that weekend so thats now 4 weeks of chat which just tends to dry up at that point
we usually end up meeting single guys last minute as they tend to be able to be more flexible |
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I think it takes more time as there has to be attraction between all relevant parties , for us both mentally and physically.
Equally you need to be what both the other couple are looking for ( we won’t be for everyone ). Failing that social only drinks and filthy chat can be as much fun for us.
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Even when a meet has been agreed a lot just gaslight you and then block you. We are getting to the point also like many others of thinking why do us genuine fabbers bother.
If anyone is interested we are in Inverness Friday Saturday 27th January in Inverness if our profile appeals to you
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
It’s very difficult. We probably would end up going to clubs to find people when we get more time. On our last club visit we got two Fab couples who then contacted us.
People behave online in a way they would never do face to face and sometimes the behaviour of people you contact on Fab can become tedious. Better to know people in the real world. |
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We agree with all of you above. Hard to find because we have some standards and we are sure others have too.
We are both "action" people, straight to the point, for instance we like to chat a bit and make social - to see people in a flesh and show ourselves. We appreciate if people has drive and enthusiasm.
Hard to arrange the meeting, we always feel like we are just an option and they have other shags arranged (tbh we understand they are not into us for various reasons)
No drama, we go with the flow. |
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"We agree with all of you above. Hard to find because we have some standards and we are sure others have too.
We are both "action" people, straight to the point, for instance we like to chat a bit and make social - to see people in a flesh and show ourselves. We appreciate if people has drive and enthusiasm.
Hard to arrange the meeting, we always feel like we are just an option and they have other shags arranged (tbh we understand they are not into us for various reasons)
No drama, we go with the flow. "
May we compliment you both fabulous |
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"It’s very difficult. We probably would end up going to clubs to find people when we get more time. On our last club visit we got two Fab couples who then contacted us.
People behave online in a way they would never do face to face and sometimes the behaviour of people you contact on Fab can become tedious. Better to know people in the real world. "
Totally agree with this. At least when you meet people in the flesh you know that there is an attraction there. Fab can have to many fakes, fantasists and filtered photos
F xx |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"It’s very difficult. We probably would end up going to clubs to find people when we get more time. On our last club visit we got two Fab couples who then contacted us.
People behave online in a way they would never do face to face and sometimes the behaviour of people you contact on Fab can become tedious. Better to know people in the real world.
Totally agree with this. At least when you meet people in the flesh you know that there is an attraction there. Fab can have to many fakes, fantasists and filtered photos
F xx"
Don’t talk to us about photos. lol.
People seem to treat face pics as the ultimate confirmation people are genuine. We’ve seen pics that were 20 years and 4 stone ago as well as seeing hugely filtered photos. Some we were not even sure it was the same person.
The best way to check people out is to meet people face to face. Lovely people can also take a bad picture and are more attractive face to face. |
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Everyone is different and that's ok.
For us
If someone messaged
We look at pics
If we are visually attracted
We would rather just be honest
What are you looking for
What we are looking for
Be honest if there's something you will not do
If we are all looking for similar things
Then meet
It's frustrating when people message
Not honest
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"We agree with all of you above. Hard to find because we have some standards and we are sure others have too.
We are both "action" people, straight to the point, for instance we like to chat a bit and make social - to see people in a flesh and show ourselves. We appreciate if people has drive and enthusiasm.
Hard to arrange the meeting, we always feel like we are just an option and they have other shags arranged (tbh we understand they are not into us for various reasons)
No drama, we go with the flow. "
Agreed on standards or preferences
Also if you are honest some people are not willing to give you time
There way or nothing |
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"Difficult!
Takes so much time & effort we sometimes think is it worth it.
There are lots of good genuine couples here, just need to change the way you find them x"
Also people put something on profile that is different in a message
We are easy going
If someone is wanting to build up or try something that is ok |
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"We agree with all of you above. Hard to find because we have some standards and we are sure others have too.
We are both "action" people, straight to the point, for instance we like to chat a bit and make social - to see people in a flesh and show ourselves. We appreciate if people has drive and enthusiasm.
Hard to arrange the meeting, we always feel like we are just an option and they have other shags arranged (tbh we understand they are not into us for various reasons)
No drama, we go with the flow.
Agreed on standards or preferences
Also if you are honest some people are not willing to give you time
There way or nothing "
Sometimes being to honest can go against you but I’m not going to lie, if someone doesn’t like me i don’t mind at least they are being honest back and I appreciate this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were really enthusiastic when we first ventured into this, probably naively thinking it can't be that difficult to make something happen, but it definitely requires patience. Organised socials are a great way to connect with people. We prefer clubs these days to meeting people for individual socials, as it increases the chances on the night. |
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It is difficult.
We met up with a woman from the Fife area here but nothing happened. She left Fab because of abuse from other members on here.
We are currently looking for a girl to join my partner and I for fun but we are taking our time due to work commitments and real life. I am considering asking my partner if he wants another couple to join us.
Hopefully, something will happen because I do enjoy Fab. |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
To be honest online people are just flaky.
We met a new unverified couple for a social. Seemed nice and all agreed we might meet up again. They’re new so we did not pressure them.
They contact us to say another social would be good and when were we available. We messaged some dates. They read the email then blanked us for a few months. Then before Christmas messaged to say they’re leaving the site.
Then last night they’re looking for a meet then saying looking forward to a sexy meet if anyone is available. WTF.
Yes so many couples are flaky and just waste time. As someone said clubs and socials are the answer. |
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By *ife2010Couple
over a year ago
Kirkcaldy |
"To be honest online people are just flaky.
We met a new unverified couple for a social. Seemed nice and all agreed we might meet up again. They’re new so we did not pressure them.
They contact us to say another social would be good and when were we available. We messaged some dates. They read the email then blanked us for a few months. Then before Christmas messaged to say they’re leaving the site.
Then last night they’re looking for a meet then saying looking forward to a sexy meet if anyone is available. WTF.
Yes so many couples are flaky and just waste time. As someone said clubs and socials are the answer. "
Some couples aren’t ’couples’! |
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"To be honest online people are just flaky.
We met a new unverified couple for a social. Seemed nice and all agreed we might meet up again. They’re new so we did not pressure them.
They contact us to say another social would be good and when were we available. We messaged some dates. They read the email then blanked us for a few months. Then before Christmas messaged to say they’re leaving the site.
Then last night they’re looking for a meet then saying looking forward to a sexy meet if anyone is available. WTF.
Yes so many couples are flaky and just waste time. As someone said clubs and socials are the answer. "
That’s a right pain, I get the same couple contacting me wanting friends requests face pic then some messages and ghosted. Happened 4 times I don’t understand them well the woman who does the messaging. |
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Sometimes it can be very difficult. I think that’s why some couples give up every now and again. If you are fortunate enough to live close(ish) to a good club I imagine it would make life so much easier. |
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Very simply said by Fife2010...
Some couples aren’t ’couples’!
The have photos up from long ago and then repeat post them after erased earlier. (Photo recycling)
Or... keen to meet until you set a date then cancelled with messages saying the female can't make it but they can.
Yes, linking up with couples is sometimes difficult but when it happens, we have made really good friends. 
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We have had our fair share of couples that are complete timewasters but have never put us off from great times with many more.
We all have our day to day life's and some people need to remember this.
We are always looking for more genuine couples and single females x |
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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Our overall experience of the people on fab has been great.
Our problem is we can only meet 2 or 3 time per year. our list of folk to meet is much long than our availability. So it’s a bit frustrating for all parties involved. |
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"Our overall experience of the people on fab has been great.
Our problem is we can only meet 2 or 3 time per year. our list of folk to meet is much long than our availability. So it’s a bit frustrating for all parties involved. "
Oh wow 
Would love to be added to your folk to meet list lol x |
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"Only ever met 2 couples on here, would like to do the social but paranoid about bumping into someone we would know"
Many feel like this.
Two things.
If you live in Glasgow then go to a Dundee or Edinburgh Social or if you live in Edinburgh then go to Glasgow or Ayrshire social, in your mind you will feel more at ease in your mind of less chance of meeting someone you know..
If you do meet anyone you know, guess what they are there for the same reason you are, so don’t worry about it. You can take it further but if they are not for you then don’t. Your here as a couple to meet couples, Don't let anyone hold you back, just have an absolute blast together. |
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We find that like ourselves most couples have limited time available due to having kids. Trying to align diaries is always tricky and conversations can dwindle as time goes on. We're probably going to try a club this year to see what that's like. |
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We tend to explore together in clubs and socials. Also fun to have other exploring playmates interested in other aspects. We make doace for each other to have alternate fun.
Yes the traditional mf mf let's make a date has never quite worked for us. We plan in advance and then the other party cancels last minute.
I'm hopeful we will find a lovely long term couple soon. |
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It seems that a lot of people are feeling the same
It's clicking with another couple
Who like the same as you
Also when suits
Then send address what if ....
Also people put information on profile that could stop you messaging
Or couples who it's what they want no flexibility
So many reasons it can be difficult
We naively thought it would be easier
Also if you are discreet it can be hard |
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"Just seen a good idea on the form
A social for couples
But a fun social
For couples to meet chat play bowling etc
Have a drink and see how it goes
Less pressure
Definitely sounds good "
Sounds good to us. Just need someone to organise it. |
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"Just seen a good idea on the form
A social for couples
But a fun social
For couples to meet chat play bowling etc
Have a drink and see how it goes
Less pressure
Definitely sounds good
Sounds good to us. Just need someone to organise it. "
It does seem like it is more difficult for couples meeting other couples
And some people have their day to day life
Then their naughty side
Social isn't for everyone
But it actually sounds like fun
A good mix of couples
Meeting up at a location
Drinks ,pool,beer pong etc
May meet friends
May go further
Less pressure
And for some keeping it secret restricts meets |
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We find it's far too much hard work here, understand that's there has to be an attraction and that but people are to weird lol, site works great for us abroad but Scotland is torture for this site, so many attention seekers and folk that are scared to take the leap or seeking perfection, tend to have our fun on holidays as it's limited here x |
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We all have different preferences
Good to know we are not the only ones
If u just do anything with anyone then it's easy
But if you are restricted with kids etc
If you have a preference
And discreet
It makes things harder
Could write a book
Ppl who messaged you tell them your preference
They say ok ...
Then backtrack only so they can come see female
Why lie just message others suitable
Then the ppl who don't show
Stop taking
Etc
Or they ppl who are just fishing to see who you are to out you locally makes u worry x |
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"Only ever met 2 couples on here, would like to do the social but paranoid about bumping into someone we would know
Many feel like this.
Two things.
If you live in Glasgow then go to a Dundee or Edinburgh Social or if you live in Edinburgh then go to Glasgow or Ayrshire social, in your mind you will feel more at ease in your mind of less chance of meeting someone you know..
If you do meet anyone you know, guess what they are there for the same reason you are, so don’t worry about it. You can take it further but if they are not for you then don’t. Your here as a couple to meet couples, Don't let anyone hold you back, just have an absolute blast together. "
I get your points but although people are generally all there for the same reason the impact of people recognising you can be different for everyone.
For example I have adult children so if their friends happened to be there then it could be embarrassing for my kids if they found out.
Some people it can be their jobs, not all companies would be understanding, would say it gives out the wrong image or could compromise you if your position is one that makes decisions that impacts on other people’s lives.
I don’t mind people knowing I’m on here, many people do, but there are people I would prefer didn’t know |
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"Only ever met 2 couples on here, would like to do the social but paranoid about bumping into someone we would know
Many feel like this.
Two things.
If you live in Glasgow then go to a Dundee or Edinburgh Social or if you live in Edinburgh then go to Glasgow or Ayrshire social, in your mind you will feel more at ease in your mind of less chance of meeting someone you know..
If you do meet anyone you know, guess what they are there for the same reason you are, so don’t worry about it. You can take it further but if they are not for you then don’t. Your here as a couple to meet couples, Don't let anyone hold you back, just have an absolute blast together.
I get your points but although people are generally all there for the same reason the impact of people recognising you can be different for everyone.
For example I have adult children so if their friends happened to be there then it could be embarrassing for my kids if they found out.
Some people it can be their jobs, not all companies would be understanding, would say it gives out the wrong image or could compromise you if your position is one that makes decisions that impacts on other people’s lives.
I don’t mind people knowing I’m on here, many people do, but there are people I would prefer didn’t know "
Yes it's difficult if you want to keep your privacy intact
Not everyone is respectful
Or decent
We have had someone call at all times threatening to just show up
So stopped giving our number
Another person threatening to publicly out us
So now wary of sending face pics
Send address then they don't show
So it starts being less fun
Pros and cons
We don't mind knowing someone as long as it's not shared
If we see someone we have met
We would need put them in a position
Just a hi or something.x |
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