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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So lads it’s geting to that time of the year where mental health can start kicking in for us all wanted to make this a safe space for it on here "
Excellent mate. Great idea.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lost two friends to suicide this year.
One was never doing to well and we all rallied round to try and be there for him but he just decided to leave us one night.
The other, honestly, you would never have thought this guy in a million years, a bit mental like myself, always up for a laugh and then gone. Everyone was scunnered, devastated, there was never any hint of any depressive thoughts or any mental illness from him. He left a wife and 2 young kids.
Everyone needs to know that anyone can go through a metal illness and keep it hidden but for us all as long as they know that there is always someone here and there to talk and or listen, we could not ask for anything else. That there, is a life savior |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about the guys who come on and ridicule and belittle other guys with literacy issues or who are disappointed in the site give it a rest. It’s bullying and don’t think it goes unnoticed by the women and couples on here. |
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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago
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"How about the guys who come on and ridicule and belittle other guys with literacy issues or who are disappointed in the site give it a rest. It’s bullying and don’t think it goes unnoticed by the women and couples on here. "
To be fair if you fling in some sort of unfunny comment/attempted joke it's perfectly acceptable
Legit but everyone's mental health is important, possibly one of the best uses of the forum in a while op hopefully this can encourage people to speak to someone or seek some help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How about the guys who come on and ridicule and belittle other guys with literacy issues or who are disappointed in the site give it a rest. It’s bullying and don’t think it goes unnoticed by the women and couples on here. "
You have raised an issue here which actually doesn’t work with your narrative and I can’t not point it out.
Literacy issues are always acceptable and might only get a wee tongue in cheek jibe at best, which does often align with the humour of the forums. When things get unfriendly and no longer tongue in cheek, the admin removes and issues wanting bans.
The disappointed in the site bit you’ve tried to sneak in doesn’t fit this thread at all. Reasons for this are clear, it’s nothing to do with mental health or any form of disability. The ones that can’t find meets who come on the forums to cry and moan about it are the ones with lazy fuck now neanderthal approaches, a cheesy wully pic as the profile photo and a shite bio. It’s the same everytime.
Good try, but no, not letting that fly on a thread like this.
OP, I think you’re spot on. Men’s mental health still carries stigma and gets overlooked.
On social media these are ones I know of:
The Mens club
The Men’s Shed
Man Chat
Men Matter Scotland
Men’s mental health Scotland |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How about the guys who come on and ridicule and belittle other guys with literacy issues or who are disappointed in the site give it a rest. It’s bullying and don’t think it goes unnoticed by the women and couples on here.
You have raised an issue here which actually doesn’t work with your narrative and I can’t not point it out.
Literacy issues are always acceptable and might only get a wee tongue in cheek jibe at best, which does often align with the humour of the forums. When things get unfriendly and no longer tongue in cheek, the admin removes and issues wanting bans.
The disappointed in the site bit you’ve tried to sneak in doesn’t fit this thread at all. Reasons for this are clear, it’s nothing to do with mental health or any form of disability. The ones that can’t find meets who come on the forums to cry and moan about it are the ones with lazy fuck now neanderthal approaches, a cheesy wully pic as the profile photo and a shite bio. It’s the same everytime.
Good try, but no, not letting that fly on a thread like this.
OP, I think you’re spot on. Men’s mental health still carries stigma and gets overlooked.
On social media these are ones I know of:
The Mens club
The Men’s Shed
Man Chat
Men Matter Scotland
Men’s mental health Scotland "
I’m unsurprised by your response and you are correct admin did take down the post from the lad in Aberdeen to which you had added your voice. As I said supporting men’s health is the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How about the guys who come on and ridicule and belittle other guys with literacy issues or who are disappointed in the site give it a rest. It’s bullying and don’t think it goes unnoticed by the women and couples on here.
You have raised an issue here which actually doesn’t work with your narrative and I can’t not point it out.
Literacy issues are always acceptable and might only get a wee tongue in cheek jibe at best, which does often align with the humour of the forums. When things get unfriendly and no longer tongue in cheek, the admin removes and issues wanting bans.
The disappointed in the site bit you’ve tried to sneak in doesn’t fit this thread at all. Reasons for this are clear, it’s nothing to do with mental health or any form of disability. The ones that can’t find meets who come on the forums to cry and moan about it are the ones with lazy fuck now neanderthal approaches, a cheesy wully pic as the profile photo and a shite bio. It’s the same everytime.
Good try, but no, not letting that fly on a thread like this.
OP, I think you’re spot on. Men’s mental health still carries stigma and gets overlooked.
On social media these are ones I know of:
The Mens club
The Men’s Shed
Man Chat
Men Matter Scotland
Men’s mental health Scotland
I’m unsurprised by your response and you are correct admin did take down the post from the lad in Aberdeen to which you had added your voice. As I said supporting men’s health is the issue. "
On yer bike…the topic of the thread is supporting men’s mental health, the issue you have is something quite different my man.
Separate the two and thou shall be more content.
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Mental Health is 24/7 and not seasonal. Lost a few buddies to it.
This place can be a nightmare for it and if you have MH problems I can imaging it being exacerbated on here.
Have a bad day, say the wrong thing or upset a clique member either intentionally or not and you pay a heavy price. Fuckin Fabicide.
We've all done it.
I think.
Here's to looking after MH. Man Chat dude is a top man and done a great deal of work.
Happy Fabbing you wonderful beasts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Excellent idea, seldom had problems before this year, but a breakup with my ex- sent me into a spiral of deep hurt and mental anguish. Hoping 2024 will be better. |
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If I could offer any advice from my experience its Talk, talk to anyone and everyone and learn to be a little bit selfish. There really is no shame.
It's hard, really bloody hard. One of the hardest things I have ever gone through and there is no way I would still be here if I didn't Talk. You will be amazed when you start talking how many people are going or gone through something similar. It's not going to be an easy fix and it's not going to just suddenly disappear, Even now I still have days were I run to my safe place and cry but I know I'm not alone and I'm not ashamed.
The road might be short, the road might be long but you will be you again. Peace and love x |
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I was around 16/17 and read an article in FHM (yeah, remember that magazine!) About make suicide.
It said the average age for male suicide was between 40-46. Back then I thought "why the hell would you"
Now that I'm 40 and life isn't sunshine and rainbows...I do agree why some men have committed suicide |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I could offer any advice from my experience its Talk, talk to anyone and everyone and learn to be a little bit selfish. There really is no shame.
It's hard, really bloody hard. One of the hardest things I have ever gone through and there is no way I would still be here if I didn't Talk. You will be amazed when you start talking how many people are going or gone through something similar. It's not going to be an easy fix and it's not going to just suddenly disappear, Even now I still have days were I run to my safe place and cry but I know I'm not alone and I'm not ashamed.
The road might be short, the road might be long but you will be you again. Peace and love x"
I know you're absolutely right. What is hard, at least for me, is growing up where I did, you're never supposed to show hurt, fear or reach out to others. That's the part I still have problems with. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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Our inbox is always open, Mrs loves a chat!
I suffered (probably still do) with my ex trying to control access to my kids. Never thought I would suffer mental health issues but she did some stuff that could have lost me my kids and I broke down. Thankfully the court seen through the lies but C encouraged me to get some counselling and it probably saved my life. We’re ’meant’ to be the ones who are big and strong, provide and care but it’s totally ok to take a step back and ask for help, talking will help you.
I was going to set up an Andy’s men’s club in one of the pubs but can’t encourage drinking as that’s also an issue some of us face.
If you’re not getting meets here it’s most likely how you’re approaching people, some better pics, more personal bios and friendly communication would help. You won’t meet everyone you contract, accept that but it’s still nice chatting to folk . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few friends of mine have started a mens mental health group after loosing a close friend of theirs.. clear the head its called, they meet on a monday night in the east end, if anyone needs more info gimme a wee message or you can find their group on facebook
All the best guys please dont bottle things up xx |
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"Mental Health is 24/7 and not seasonal. Lost a few buddies to it.
This place can be a nightmare for it and if you have MH problems I can imaging it being exacerbated on here.
Have a bad day, say the wrong thing or upset a clique member either intentionally or not and you pay a heavy price. Fuckin Fabicide.
We've all done it.
I think.
Here's to looking after MH. Man Chat dude is a top man and done a great deal of work.
Happy Fabbing you wonderful beasts."
It is absolutely a thing, it’s called seasonal depression. |
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"Mental Health is 24/7 and not seasonal. Lost a few buddies to it.
This place can be a nightmare for it and if you have MH problems I can imaging it being exacerbated on here.
Have a bad day, say the wrong thing or upset a clique member either intentionally or not and you pay a heavy price. Fuckin Fabicide.
We've all done it.
I think.
Here's to looking after MH. Man Chat dude is a top man and done a great deal of work.
Happy Fabbing you wonderful beasts.
It is absolutely a thing, it’s called seasonal depression. "
You're misreading my intent. MH is 24/7/365. Of course you have SAD etc etc. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"If I could offer any advice from my experience its Talk, talk to anyone and everyone and learn to be a little bit selfish. There really is no shame.
It's hard, really bloody hard. One of the hardest things I have ever gone through and there is no way I would still be here if I didn't Talk. You will be amazed when you start talking how many people are going or gone through something similar. It's not going to be an easy fix and it's not going to just suddenly disappear, Even now I still have days were I run to my safe place and cry but I know I'm not alone and I'm not ashamed.
The road might be short, the road might be long but you will be you again. Peace and love x
I know you're absolutely right. What is hard, at least for me, is growing up where I did, you're never supposed to show hurt, fear or reach out to others. That's the part I still have problems with."
I agree with that, it's a council scheme mentality. Emotions were frowned upon in the one I grew up in and anyone who did something different in life was ridiculed, bullied. And gawd forbid those when go educated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm only ever a message away if anyone needs to chat. I've been in dark places myself, so I know how hard it can be to get out of the hole you feel like you're in.
In this day and age it's a lot more acceptable to talk about MH as there aren't the same stigmas around it as there used to be, so no one should be suffering in silence x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So lads it’s geting to that time of the year where mental health can start kicking in for us all wanted to make this a safe space for it on here "
Fantastic idea
It’s something that doesn’t get enough attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Xmas time can be very hard for some men, especially those who are facing parental alienation from their kids at a time of year where everything can seem so family orientated.
For those fighting going down the dark rabbit hole on Xmas day then it's worth having a look at local charities/churches/hostels and seeing if they are needing any volunteers on Xmas eve/Xmas day. It can give those dreaded cpl of days a positive focus while helping those who are really struggling in life, and at the end of it, it also puts you in a much more positive frame of mind going into the new year.
For those facing demons , chin up, grind it out and remember there is always someone to talk to.
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Great idea! it's amazing how much talking can help lift a weight of the shoulders and can be the start of a journey of recovery.
I'm getting help for issues at the moment.
Long story short I've been alienated from my daughter by her mother and currently no matter how much I reach out text or send messages nothing gets replied to, me and my daughter talk fine and lovely when we do and even when we last talked but I know its more her mum behind it all and putting the pressure on her not to speak to me.
Thankfully I had good friends point out it was the Mum that was toxic by texts she would send and language but even stil I was quick to blame myself and carried all the guilt for my parents and nephews missing out.
It caused me to self-sabotage my life and do things that were not in my character just trying to find comfort or feel loved now I'm getting the help and the imposter is fading away.
Last christmas was spent in tears and I was heartbroken and questioning who would miss me if i was gone from this world. I had good people pull me from that void. but it's coming up to christmas again and my daughters birthday its going to be hard as I've no way of getting anything to her.
If anyone ever needs to talk my messages are always open and I don't judge anyone or there situation, lifes not easy and we need to try and be as kind as we can to ourselves. |
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