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When I first started, the scatter gun approach didn't really work.
You need to read into the profiles you are messaging.
There are lots of subtle indicators as well as what's obviously written on thier profile.
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet  |
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By *x_xWoman 52 weeks ago
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"There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet "
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But also most men on here think they are somewhat entitled and that because we have signed up to a website like this us ladies should just be replying and dropping our panties to everyone - which is obviously not how it works. Most guys will argue back, want a reason as to why or throw abuse at you even if you respond saying a polite ‘no thanks’ so honestly leaving them unread becomes the easiest way until you have enough motivation to sit down and go through the inbox. Choose a captivating picture and a well written subject line and you might just grab their attention more.
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"There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet
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But also most men on here think they are somewhat entitled and that because we have signed up to a website like this us ladies should just be replying and dropping our panties to everyone - which is obviously not how it works. Most guys will argue back, want a reason as to why or throw abuse at you even if you respond saying a polite ‘no thanks’ so honestly leaving them unread becomes the easiest way until you have enough motivation to sit down and go through the inbox. Choose a captivating picture and a well written subject line and you might just grab their attention more.
Lx "
Yes this is very true a lot of guys do spoil it for the rest of the decent human beings amongst us and we do get tarred with the same brush somewhat, but this is life and important not to get too hung up on it. I do also think the range of emojis available is pretty poor to be able to convey a sense of fun and flirtasioness with your messages. You can write as much as you like but certain emojis can convey a sentiment a lot more than just words and not be misunderstood |
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Nobody is obligated to open, to read or even keep messages. The sense of entitlement is getting worse on here. People need to realise that you are not everyone's type, Chances are you be lucky if you are 5% of people you message. Move on grow up |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"Nobody is obligated to open, to read or even keep messages. The sense of entitlement is getting worse on here. People need to realise that you are not everyone's type, Chances are you be lucky if you are 5% of people you message. Move on grow up "
You having a bad day lol. First line of the profile “very laid back couple” the aggressive tone of the message certainly contradicts that. I don’t see anywhere on the thread where people are acting immature or have a sense of entitlement.
Back to the OP lol. It’s a bit of a lottery sometimes. Just keep messaging them every ten minutes until you get a reply. It might not be the reply you want but at least they get back to you ha |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"When I first started, the scatter gun approach didn't really work.
You need to read into the profiles you are messaging.
There are lots of subtle indicators as well as what's obviously written on thier profile.
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^^^ this. |
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Def have a few observations.
Woman who say read my profile before messaging. So I have to give 10 mins of my time reading war and peace but can't get 30 seconds of ur time for a reply?
People who put a question on their status they act offended when they receive answers the question. How dare people interrupt their call for attention. |
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You having a bad day lol. First line of the profile “very laid back couple” the aggressive tone of the message certainly contradicts that. I don’t see anywhere on the thread where people are acting immature or have a sense of entitlement. "
No aggression at all haha
I never said anything about anyone on this thread, it was a generalised point and observation |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet
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But also most men on here think they are somewhat entitled and that because we have signed up to a website like this us ladies should just be replying and dropping our panties to everyone - which is obviously not how it works. Most guys will argue back, want a reason as to why or throw abuse at you even if you respond saying a polite ‘no thanks’ so honestly leaving them unread becomes the easiest way until you have enough motivation to sit down and go through the inbox. Choose a captivating picture and a well written subject line and you might just grab their attention more.
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Yes this is very true a lot of guys do spoil it for the rest of the decent human beings amongst us and we do get tarred with the same brush somewhat, but this is life and important not to get too hung up on it. I do also think the range of emojis available is pretty poor to be able to convey a sense of fun and flirtasioness with your messages. You can write as much as you like but certain emojis can convey a sentiment a lot more than just words and not be misunderstood "
Yes decent point. I've found many women hyper sensitive to the grammar or wording and so needs balanced with judicious use of exclamation or the correct emoji.
OP id recommend you lower your expectations a good bit. Socials are the way to get noticed. Constant messaging with the practically non existent replies will wear you down and leave you jaded and disappointed. It's always the same advice on here with regard to message content which even if followed won't get you far really. It really is better to get your dancing shoes on and head out to meet at socials. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I do always try to answer any messages but fail to understand why anyone is confused by a non response. I would think it’s obvious there’s no interest and of course the site rules say it should be taken as a polite no thank you. Not a lot of folk look at the site rules alas. |
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You having a bad day lol. First line of the profile “very laid back couple” the aggressive tone of the message certainly contradicts that. I don’t see anywhere on the thread where people are acting immature or have a sense of entitlement.
No aggression at all haha
I never said anything about anyone on this thread, it was a generalised point and observation "
Where did you observe it from as I must have missed it? |
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By *atinagirlWoman 52 weeks ago
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"There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet
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But also most men on here think they are somewhat entitled and that because we have signed up to a website like this us ladies should just be replying and dropping our panties to everyone - which is obviously not how it works. Most guys will argue back, want a reason as to why or throw abuse at you even if you respond saying a polite ‘no thanks’ so honestly leaving them unread becomes the easiest way until you have enough motivation to sit down and go through the inbox. Choose a captivating picture and a well written subject line and you might just grab their attention more.
Lx "
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By *atinagirlWoman 52 weeks ago
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Think it’s fair to say the ladies on here got a lot of messages I’m over 1000 unread messages and I am getting men messaging me telling me I’m rude n a cock tease when I haven't even seen their previous messages to read … I do try to read as many as I can but I like most have a life outside fab and I don’t have time to be on fab for hours on end reading messaging n replying … I simply ask if the message hasn’t been replied by a female check to see if it’s been read and either leave it be until she gets round to reading it or message again but be respectful … too many seen to think it’s ok to be abusive and it’s not but the majority of the ppl I chat to are lovely it’s just that small few  |
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The one thing I don’t understand is the amount of women claiming to have 100’s or even 1000’s of messages then complaining they are being bombarded with messages .
Use filters then this won’t be a problem .
As for replying myself I put all my effort of messaging into people I’m interested in meeting or have met rather than wasting time on people I have no interest in meeting .
A none reply should always be taken as a not interested .
Happy fabbing everyone it’s why we are here after all |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times. |
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"Gents, from the last 2/3 days. How many of your messages have gone unread? "
There’s no pattern but it’s. It just single dudes. We’ve been wi led and messaged and you reply and they never open it. I just block them now. R |
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As a couple who receive messages from single males. I (mrs) appreciates a decent message that you can actually reply to and I will usually reply to someone with a decent profile.
1 pic and 2 sentences shows no effort. If that's the case I won't waste our time or theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"The one thing I don’t understand is the amount of women claiming to have 100’s or even 1000’s of messages then complaining they are being bombarded with messages .
Use filters then this won’t be a problem .
As for replying myself I put all my effort of messaging into people I’m interested in meeting or have met rather than wasting time on people I have no interest in meeting .
A none reply should always be taken as a not interested .
Happy fabbing everyone it’s why we are here after all "
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times."
Begs the question why men are still here fawning after them. Any holes a goal eh  |
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By *atinagirlWoman 52 weeks ago
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times."
I agree manners cost nothing and sadly there have been times when I have done exactly that I’ve said no thank you and you get a nasty comment back .. just have to shrug it off n not dwell on it but it’s not nice … for the record I’m not for one minute saying your like that lol just to be clear lol |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times."
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
I agree manners cost nothing and sadly there have been times when I have done exactly that I’ve said no thank you and you get a nasty comment back .. just have to shrug it off n not dwell on it but it’s not nice … for the record I’m not for one minute saying your like that lol just to be clear lol "
Nobody should get abuse regardless,that’s when block button is required. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
Begs the question why men are still here fawning after them. Any holes a goal eh "
Im not in that category for sure,but your probably right about some men on here.Happy fabbing. |
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"The one thing I don’t understand is the amount of women claiming to have 100’s or even 1000’s of messages then complaining they are being bombarded with messages .
Use filters then this won’t be a problem .
As for replying myself I put all my effort of messaging into people I’m interested in meeting or have met rather than wasting time on people I have no interest in meeting .
A none reply should always be taken as a not interested .
Happy fabbing everyone it’s why we are here after all "
Yes! Just yes! |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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Do what I do OP, stop sending them. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve sent the first message this year. Wink, forums, socials, that’s how you find success on the scene.
When you try too hard online, you stay soft offline…  |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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Generally i find that when you are looking to become involved with someone in the most personal way you can, They will more than likely be very choosy of whom they allow into that space, Whilst receiving unlimited cock pics, absolute shite banter and unrealistic claims of being pounded all night long by the most dommy dom ever it can probably become difficult to find the genuinely decent types.
Don’t take it personally unless you have taken any of the above approaches, Patience and being yourself will eventually attract the right people for you. |
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I’ve never “had over 100 a day”, but your inbox can get full at times. I can go days and not get a single message, then post a photo and you get inundated. It’s more you get 10-20 at a time, you attempt to reply but more keep coming in. Then life distracts you from here.
Contrary to popular belief just because someone posts a photo, or is logged in, it doesn’t mean they are looking to meet that very minute which a lot of messages seem to think! |
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By *atinagirlWoman 52 weeks ago
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"Think it’s fair to say the ladies on here got a lot of messages I’m over 1000 unread messages and I am getting men messaging me telling me I’m rude n a cock tease when I haven't even seen their previous messages to read … I do try to read as many as I can but I like most have a life outside fab and I don’t have time to be on fab for hours on end reading messaging n replying … I simply ask if the message hasn’t been replied by a female check to see if it’s been read and either leave it be until she gets round to reading it or message again but be respectful … too many seen to think it’s ok to be abusive and it’s not but the majority of the ppl I chat to are lovely it’s just that small few
I dunno Latina, I remember buying you a coffee a decade ago and you have not returned the favour….rude  "
Lol you ram for the hills lol or Aberdeen lol I’m in Aberdeen often so coffee and a dessert  next time .. stop you from moaning lol |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times."
Ah yes, here comes the entitlement |
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"A lot of interesting points made. Thanks for those than contributed something rather than asking why I asked lol.
Some food for thought."
Don't think it was unreasonable to ask why it matters - your experience is not someone else's experience so there isn't really a 'standard' |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
Ah yes, here comes the entitlement "
Looking at some of your comments,you sure come across as a lovely person not……you are very good at telling people what they mean by all accounts |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages."
Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me."
I had one today... saying that I'm missing out yet before she said I wasn't her type soo I let it go... confusing and trying to make me the bad guy. Meh |
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"A lot of interesting points made. Thanks for those than contributed something rather than asking why I asked lol.
Some food for thought.
Don't think it was unreasonable to ask why it matters - your experience is not someone else's experience so there isn't really a 'standard' "
Given this post wasn't even aimed at you we're going to need to agree to disagree this time.
Looking at the replies it suggests a lot of mens experience is similar. |
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Complete mixed bag for me. I don't send too many as the pool has dried up around me mostly, but I have had most read, some not replied, some deleted before being read, some read and then made unread (never know why lol) and some very nice replies. I enjoy messaging and do not expect replies at all.
If I was getting dozens/hundreds I wouldn't be wasting my time sending out polite 'thanks but you're not the one for me' replies. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"If I was getting dozens/hundreds I wouldn't be wasting my time sending out polite 'thanks but you're not the one for me' replies."
Absolutely!
A lot of people, us included, have stated in our profile what we're looking for and how we would like to open up further communication. Profiles are by themselves communicating a message (well some are). If our profile is unread then generally so will any message to us be. No one is anymore obligated to read our profile than we are to either open or reply to their message to us. |
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We always read messages. We reply most of the time. We very rarely get abusive messages from guys if they are rejected. It has happened but not very often.
We actually get very few messages. If women are getting too many messages then maybe couples get less attention. |
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"We always read messages. We reply most of the time. We very rarely get abusive messages from guys if they are rejected. It has happened but not very often
We actually get very few messages. If women are getting too many messages then maybe couples get less attention."
You guys sounds great,exactly what swinging should be about.Now if all couples were like you both….well said. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.
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Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me."
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What's the impetus of that "rudeness of some ladies"? Is it something to do with the dialogue between you and them or is it just random, out of the blue? |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
Ah yes, here comes the entitlement
Looking at some of your comments,you sure come across as a lovely person not……you are very good at telling people what they mean by all accounts "
I'm not the one coming on here to call women munters who wouldn't get a second glance in the street, that was you. Firstly it's not an original comment and secondly it just makes you sound a bitter and childish manbaby who's having a tantrum at being rejected.
If your approach is having no success it's not the fault of women, regardless of their size and looks. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
If you don't like me saying that your comment is nonsense, then don't post a nonsense comment. If you don't like my comments, that's a you problem and not a me problem.
And finally, the age old reminder but louder for those at the back:
YOU. ARE. NOT. ENTITLED. TO. A. REPLY. EVER.
Which you would know if you'd just bothered to read the FAQs.
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
Ah yes, here comes the entitlement
Looking at some of your comments,you sure come across as a lovely person not……you are very good at telling people what they mean by all accounts
I'm not the one coming on here to call women munters who wouldn't get a second glance in the street, that was you. Firstly it's not an original comment and secondly it just makes you sound a bitter and childish manbaby who's having a tantrum at being rejected.
If your approach is having no success it's not the fault of women, regardless of their size and looks. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
If you don't like me saying that your comment is nonsense, then don't post a nonsense comment. If you don't like my comments, that's a you problem and not a me problem.
And finally, the age old reminder but louder for those at the back:
YOU. ARE. NOT. ENTITLED. TO. A. REPLY. EVER.
Which you would know if you'd just bothered to read the FAQs.
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here we go again….name calling is not a thing I will get into,but Barry on if it makes you feel good….happy fabbing |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
Ah yes, here comes the entitlement
Looking at some of your comments,you sure come across as a lovely person not……you are very good at telling people what they mean by all accounts
I'm not the one coming on here to call women munters who wouldn't get a second glance in the street, that was you. Firstly it's not an original comment and secondly it just makes you sound a bitter and childish manbaby who's having a tantrum at being rejected.
If your approach is having no success it's not the fault of women, regardless of their size and looks. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
If you don't like me saying that your comment is nonsense, then don't post a nonsense comment. If you don't like my comments, that's a you problem and not a me problem.
And finally, the age old reminder but louder for those at the back:
YOU. ARE. NOT. ENTITLED. TO. A. REPLY. EVER.
Which you would know if you'd just bothered to read the FAQs.
here we go again….name calling is not a thing I will get into,but Barry on if it makes you feel good….happy fabbing"
You won’t win a fight against a woman buddy but would be interesting to see you keep going back and forward |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me."
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option"
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked "
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
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"I do always try to answer any messages but fail to understand why anyone is confused by a non response. I would think it’s obvious there’s no interest and of course the site rules say it should be taken as a polite no thank you. Not a lot of folk look at the site rules alas. "
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
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Wouldn't be me I use a million message filters. Also wouldn't want anyone to message just cause I have very little. I like it this way. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
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Still wouldn't guarantee a response. If someone wants to respond they will. Decent messages stand out in the inbox. But your profile has to back it up.
Just a generalisation from a woman's perspective. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
Wouldn't be me I use a million message filters. Also wouldn't want anyone to message just cause I have very little. I like it this way. "
Do you not like messages then ? How do you get in contact with charming sophisticated guys. I’m not talking about me there |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
Wouldn't be me I use a million message filters. Also wouldn't want anyone to message just cause I have very little. I like it this way.
Do you not like messages then ? How do you get in contact with charming sophisticated guys. I’m not talking about me there "
Organised socials mostly now. Can't be arsed to do the online messaging thing. It takes up way too much time. |
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
Wouldn't be me I use a million message filters. Also wouldn't want anyone to message just cause I have very little. I like it this way.
Do you not like messages then ? How do you get in contact with charming sophisticated guys. I’m not talking about me there
Organised socials mostly now. Can't be arsed to do the online messaging thing. It takes up way too much time. "
I think that is a good shout, definitely like to chat to people face to face. I find it hard to express what I say in a message. But saying that I’m probably not much better in person |
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"There's no logic to this I have found you can tailor your message to the individual, picking up on points within their profile all well mannered and respectful just for it to be left unread or deleted right off the bat or even blocked. Or you can msg hey nice boobs you have there and you can end up chatting for hours on end leading to a meet. I think its just your Donald duck what mood your recipient is in as to weather you receive a response or not. I have had replies to a message a good week after it being read (ladies on here need a full time PA lol). Think if you keep it respectful well mannered and don't bombard the same individual someone might just be in the right frame of mind to welcome your advances and you can take it from there. Anyway that's my two cents on it. Happy fabbing. Be the person you would want to meet "
100% this.
I see the messages my partner gets though and while she does try to reply to all the decent ones, it can take a while!
Even our couples profile gets enough that it can take a while to read and reply to them all - but again, the decent ones, we do try and reply to - even if it's a "Sorry, not for us" type thing.
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"Quite a few ladies (not all) on this site are so up themselves…yet most guys wouldn’t give a second glance to in the street.
There’s no need for it…a no thanks is suffice and all that’s required most times.
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Women on here are inundated with their ever-increasing InBoxes. It's not always easy or practical to send 300+ "no thank you" messages.Its not so much the no reply I’m getting at….its the rudeness of some ladies on here(not all may I add) that irritates me.
Rudeness or straight to the point. Have you seen the inbox of a single female. There are some who deserve the responses they get (not all men) as hitting rhem with a sledgehammer to male them understand how crass they are isn't an option
Would be another good idea to see how many messages a woman has when you scroll profiles. Then if they don’t have much you might be in with a chance of getting a response. I was lucky yesterday had two messages sitting to be read felt stoked
Absolutely not!!!
I wouldn't want anyone knowing how many messages I have or dont have. Mental idea.
That’s alright for you to say your a woman it’s only a idea and at the end of every week we could see who has the most messages
Still wouldn't guarantee a response. If someone wants to respond they will. Decent messages stand out in the inbox. But your profile has to back it up.
Just a generalisation from a woman's perspective. "
Very well put…thanks for the input. |
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"Gents, from the last 2/3 days. How many of your messages have gone unread? "
Most of them tbh, but not sent that many. Got too mind that most woman will get literally hundreds a week. I had a friend on here who got on average 150 a day, every day. Impossible to read or reply to them. |
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I'm using that excuse n sticking with it 
