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Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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I always try & reply. Sometimes it shows I'm online but my browser maybe open & I'm working (my job is my face,tattoos etc have got to be hidden) I get abuse for not answering.
Women on here get lots of mail but out of 27/30 of them there's cock pics. 
Profile pic's not a great start! Try torso pic's or something like shirt open tie round neck. Just in my opinion.  |
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Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Yes
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Yes there are other responses
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
You realise that private messages are only private until you hit the send button?
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?
How do you know your message is any diffrent to another regular single guy type? Common courtesy would imo be realising you control your actions and not anybody else's it would save you angst over your perception of what should happen
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
Over thinking and expecting to much chill and go with the flow instead of beating yourself up over someone else's actions |
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By *ibliosWoman
over a year ago
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If they match my preferences and have made a bit of an effort with their message I will - that in itself is enough of a rarity that it probably makes the answer pretty close to an outright 'no' though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Drop me a message mate, could link up with what I’m looking for with my mrs
"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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I do. But if they’ve clearly not my profile, not put any effort into their profile, sent a generic copy/paste message that could have been send to other profiles then I’m not going to put effort into my reply.
You aren’t the only person wanting to be discreet due to jobs or just lift in general but there’s lots of ways to be creative in taking pics without showing your face or a dick pic. If you have a look at guy profiles on the forums you can see how others take pics that are intriguing and not just a cartoon spoof which I’m not sure how you’ve not been flagged for since you’re not in the pic.
If you’re that worried about your job then why would you then send a face pic over private message? You can’t know that that person doesn’t actually know you or use that face pic against you. Catfishing is a thing. Once you send a pic it’s not private so that doesn’t make much sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These posts are like Groundhog Day man.
All you have to do is do a quick search for women seeking men within 5 miles of you, then do the same for men seeking women and you will see the difference in member results are tenfold if not more for the men. Now think of a fraction of those guys sending out messages…women’s inboxes (and couples) can be utterly horrific with messages. They can’t reply to them all, just not possible.
Your profile is what I’d refer to as a ‘shanner’. You’re starting it off with a demand, you’re talking utter testicles about being unable to share any photos (not even an headless smartly clothed body shot) and you have a photo up of Kermit and Mrs piggy. Cmon man.
So without knowing what on earth you will be messaging, you are being overlooked because you are 49, can’t accommodate, you’re body shaming in your profile that’s starts off with a demand to be read and you’re using kids entertainment characters as a photo to represent yourself. |
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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firstly I’d sort out a proper profile photo it doesn’t have to be of your face .
Most won’t reply if they don’t have a slight idea of you look like even by a body pic
I’ve never understood why guys need to be told no in an email surely a no reply would register that they are not interested in conversing with you .
I’d say read their profile and only mail if they match what you are looking for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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Can you imagine the amount of time the recipient would need to take to reply to every single message even to say no thanks? If everyone thinks like you then that could be upto 10/20 messages per hour or so(depending how popular the person is) the recipient would have to reply to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These posts are like Groundhog Day man.
All you have to do is do a quick search for women seeking men within 5 miles of you, then do the same for men seeking women and you will see the difference in member results are tenfold if not more for the men. Now think of a fraction of those guys sending out messages…women’s inboxes (and couples) can be utterly horrific with messages. They can’t reply to them all, just not possible.
Your profile is what I’d refer to as a ‘shanner’. You’re starting it off with a demand, you’re talking utter testicles about being unable to share any photos (not even an headless smartly clothed body shot) and you have a photo up of Kermit and Mrs piggy. Cmon man.
So without knowing what on earth you will be messaging, you are being overlooked because you are 49, can’t accommodate, you’re body shaming in your profile that’s starts off with a demand to be read and you’re using kids entertainment characters as a photo to represent yourself."
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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Every time I see a post like this I wonder 'have you not read the FAQs?' as it clearly states there that no one is entitled to a reply.
It seems that very few people have read them. |
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So I think what the majority of guys on here don’t understand is the volume of messages women get sent every day! I have all the filters on to block newbies, unverified and with no photos and I still receive at least 100-150 a day, sometimes more if I’ve put up a photo. Out of those 150 messages will be at least a third that are from over 100 miles away, a third will have dick pics attached and there will be maybe 5-10 that I’d be interested in and fit into what I’m looking for! But those messages get lost amongst all the others and it really is hard to keep up and reply to even the ones that could be a potential meet |
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I always try and reply but if guys cannot be arsed reading my profile then I just ignore as it clearly states what am looking for, if i get multiple messages then blocked, a few do spoil it for the majority
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
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Do you reply to junk emails?
I don't get lots of typical messages probs cause I have a bare profile but I'm also not looking for messages like yourself. (I'm meeting people via social events atm).
But I'll not reply if I don't want to.
If I like the look of a profile I will.
It's kinda that simple.
Why do you want someone to respond that isn't interested?
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"Thanks everyone….
All good advice taken on board!
Sometimes you need the obvious poked in your face to realise… what a stupid question in the first place!
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I see you’ve taken some points on board via your profile bio apart from you still expect a reply to your emails .
As myself an some others have said if you do not get a reply to your message then move on to the next profile because no one owes you a reply .
Again why do you need to be told in an email that people arnt interested in you surely the no reply would tell you that !? |
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By *x_xWoman
over a year ago
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"Plenty of females reply to single males.
Remember no reply is a reply. "
This 
Just remember that those who have taken the time to write a genuine undemanding message actually based on the females people are more like to get a reply! I tend to not bother with unverified and blank profiles because of the amount of time wasters who have no intention of ever meeting
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger |
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger "
It's more about if they fancy something about you. Be that pics or profile info.
It's not all about the numbers. There could be 10 guys on fab. If I don't fancy them I don't fancy them. Not very many women will go with the best of a bad bunch scenario!
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger
It's more about if they fancy something about you. Be that pics or profile info.
It's not all about the numbers. There could be 10 guys on fab. If I don't fancy them I don't fancy them. Not very many women will go with the best of a bad bunch scenario!
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Point taken. I’ve often wondered just what the ratios are ? |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Some girls on here do receive 100’s of messages in a day. It’s Fab etiquette that a no response means they aren’t interested. It’s not being rude it’s just not possible to reply to every message. Often a ‘no’ is met with abuse, another reason to not respond.
Search in the forums before posting, you’ll usually find it’s been asked before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger "
Everyone has different tastes and preferences too. It's impossible to appeal to everyone that you message.
Best advice is to move on to the next profile and see if you're what they're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow .. yet another post about the same issues. It really isn't the place for single guys, average Joe or those with 'dad bods' or even good looking guys with tons of personality but just want to remain discrete for hundreds of possible reasons, so don't throw out identifying pictures from the get go like so many women seem to demand.
OP yes you need to reduce your expectations. Just enjoy the pics and the odd bit of chat you get from some. If you are wanting to date you are way better using bumble tinder etc. get every bit as much kink on there. |
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By *eebzMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
I can understand the frustration mate, it can get really disheartening when you are writing out thoughtful messages to zero response,sometimes feel invisible lol but as everyone is saying woman and couples get so many messages you just have to appreciate it when you do get a response |
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It can be very annoying though, especially when u meet the criteria in someones profile, so these things work both ways. If I didn't match someone's interests then I wouldn't msg them. But see when u do meet them and u send them a nice msg with ur face picture and it gets deleted straight away ... well that's really disheartening lol! A simple no thanks is sufficient. I have been told that folk think my profile is fake which I don't really know how to take except maybe as a compliment |
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"It can be very annoying though, especially when u meet the criteria in someones profile, so these things work both ways. If I didn't match someone's interests then I wouldn't msg them. But see when u do meet them and u send them a nice msg with ur face picture and it gets deleted straight away ... well that's really disheartening lol! A simple no thanks is sufficient. I have been told that folk think my profile is fake which I don't really know how to take except maybe as a compliment"
Meeting someone's criteria doesn't mean they'll fancy you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys!
Yes
Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!
Yes there are other responses
Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.
You realise that private messages are only private until you hit the send button?
I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?
How do you know your message is any diffrent to another regular single guy type? Common courtesy would imo be realising you control your actions and not anybody else's it would save you angst over your perception of what should happen
Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!
Over thinking and expecting to much chill and go with the flow instead of beating yourself up over someone else's actions "
you been takening a short break as no seen u in forum for a long time |
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You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow .. yet another post about the same issues. It really isn't the place for single guys, average Joe or those with 'dad bods' or even good looking guys with tons of personality but just want to remain discrete for hundreds of possible reasons
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Going to have to disagree here. I’d say im very average in the looks dept but I am more gym fit on the body yet I get negative comments a lot. Some say I look stuck up and others say they don’t like posers, which both don’t describe me at all. Guys with the ‘dad bods’ don’t get comments like that and I’d say are more successful on fab rather than guys that are gym fit or have abs popping out like a perverts pupils.
It’s more about how you converse and carry yourself online. Seriously that’s the key to opening a form of online communication. |
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By *ibliosWoman
over a year ago
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. "
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so."
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' |
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"Wow .. yet another post about the same issues. It really isn't the place for single guys, average Joe or those with 'dad bods' or even good looking guys with tons of personality but just want to remain discrete for hundreds of possible reasons
Going to have to disagree here. I’d say im very average in the looks dept but I am more gym fit on the body yet I get negative comments a lot. Some say I look stuck up and others say they don’t like posers, which both don’t describe me at all. Guys with the ‘dad bods’ don’t get comments like that and I’d say are more successful on fab rather than guys that are gym fit or have abs popping out like a perverts pupils.
It’s more about how you converse and carry yourself online. Seriously that’s the key to opening a form of online communication. "
Disagree? :-/.. you are kind of agreeing tbh.. distinct white knightish comment..  |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so.
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' "
Ignorant behaviour! 
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice. |
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over a year ago
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Disagree? :-/.. you are kind of agreeing tbh.. distinct white knightish comment.. "
Well that makes no sense, oh mate you’re agreeing with me but you’re also white knighting.
Where do you lot crawl out from because honestly it becomes so tiresome.
I disagreed with the thought process that average guys with dad bods don’t get a look in.
It’s probably more to do with the thin air between the ears. Howzat for a white knight |
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I dont reply to about 90% of messages for multiple reasons. Either guys didn't read the profile, the message is a copy paste one or didn't get my attention because it is yet another "how are you" or something similiar boring, imo nobody owes anyone an answer to a 1st message , its simple as that if I don't know u , I dont owe u |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so.
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' "
Not at all it’s to help women because a lot of guys (not all) totally disregard what a woman’s profile says. On mine I clearly state I am not seeking new contacts and that, as the site states a non response is a polite no thank you. Yet I still get umpteen messages a day. I do still answer some out of that “politeness” you refer to. Sometimes to a very nice thank you BUT if they had read the profile they would have saved us both time and effort. I don’t use too many filters as sometimes there might be someone who messages re a forum post for example so the non response rule is handy there… this is something I fear will continue to surface periodically… sometimes I think fab should have a very quick questionnaire before allowing full use of the site with a primary question being “what does a non response to your message mean?”  |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so.
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette'
Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice. "
That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so.
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette'
Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice.
That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. "
As do women … |
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.
If only that last segment were true...
Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so.
Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette'
Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice.
That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. "
I actually don't get why guys are fed up and stay and complain about it actually.
It's bizarre to me!
If I wasn't enjoying fab I'd just leave.
Thankfully there's some lovley folk on here though.
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“Does anyone actually reply to single guys!”
Yes, but there has to be a reason to.
Fab FAQs do state no reply = no thank you, not for me.
I operate in “stealth mode” and check the profile before even opening the message, which a lot of women on here do. If the profile is of no interest the message is deleted.
“Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks!”
Not statutory - you are not owed a reply at all, getting a thanks but no thanks is a bit of a bonus tbh.
“Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message.”
Plenty of people on here in professional roles where sensitivity and discretion are important to them. Face pics and dick pics are but 2 of the many pic options available to you. Consider others photos (male and female) and the different styles and editing.
“I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner??”
No. You are not owed a reply. I’m not even an “hottie” type and I get many messages daily, impossible to read let alone answer them all.
Many are perfectly polite, if rather banal. I’ve had days when I’ve received 20/30/40 messages JUST of the “hello how are you” variety. You have to find a way to stand out from the crowd and even then if you’re not attractive to someone you have to just accept that I’m afraid. Boring messages also earn a delete from me.
Are you being realistic in who you are approaching?
“Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows!”
I think there’s a possibility expectations aren’t matching reality.
Messages that don’t get deleted?
Belong to someone with a well thought out and supported by good pics profile.
Show they can start and continue a decent conversation. Even better if they make me laugh, smile or think. Also good if it shows they’ve read my bio and considered what I may be looking for.
Another reason why women avoid sending a “thanks but no thanks” message is because it often results in at the very least a “but whyyyyy?” Message and at worst abuse or even threats (no exaggeration! I don’t hesitate to report these).
“You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs.”
What on earth is wrong with just deleting? It is my right to use fab as I wish, I am here for me not to placate the men on fab.
As for types, there’s a wide variation, even look at celeb siblings they will be broadly the same “type” but one is attractive and one is not.
Personally I don’t really have a physical type so my profile does express my type as my type is self assured, intelligent, thoughtful and interesting people - interesting being very subjective also.
Plus as Biblios says very few guys even read the bio anyway! They see pics they like and wee brain overtakes the big one!
It’s NOT rude to not read and reply to EVERY message, that would be crazy.
The women on the site have lives of their own, they are not here to “serve” the men of the site be that egos or more.
I don’t expect everyone to fancy me, neither should the men on the site expect anything from any woman they message. Be that a reply or more.
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I hate this yea I gst ignored by most women I try speak to regardless to wat there looking for I'm geuinly after a polite conversation abd getting to know people wouldn't be so bad wen they don't read it but wen it's clearly been read abd rubberd it's just rude especially wen we're 10/10 times normally complimenting and asking general questions with a nice pace pic abd nothing els |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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Been ignored by every woman iv messaged, no dick pics in messages etc.
Just genuine nice guy messages that end if I fit what your looking for let me know and we can chat further, if not just let me know. And all I get is deleted.
Av giving up trying, and definitely won't be paying for the membership once it runs our this time |
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It's pretty simple, really.
No return message = not interested.
Have no expectations = you don't get disappointed.
Get on the social scene. Get known. Prove you're not a pic collecting sausage puller.
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The only thing that makes me fed up of the site and these constantly regurgitated threads: “why won’t women respond to me”, “where can I find dogging sites”, “here’s my shopping list of demands I want some woman to fulfil”, and so on and so on.
You know exactly what they’re going to say before you even read them, and it’s always (mostly straight, occasionally bi) men.
When I’ve been out with female friends, they have showed me their Fab inboxes and it is a constant, massive yellow wall of incoming messages. Even as a man, with a profile which has nothing to suggest I’m even fractionally interested in men, I still get messages from desperate guys, who are clearly just looking for something - anything! - with an orifice and a pulse, rather than engage with a human being. I take my hat off to the women who bear with this site for the nonsense they have to put up with (including some of the posts on this thread, and the hundreds like it).
However, this thread has reminded me that I need to get some better photos taken for my own profile (which I forgot about when busy with other things recently). So it might have a positive outcome yet! |
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