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over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!"
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. |
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"Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
Ah, the good ol' "assault first, ask questions later" approach  |
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
What part of Kent are you from? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
How to add yourself to multiple folk who understand basic consents block list, Holy shit  Then again you'd probably just say they're from 'the snowflake generation' |
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
I never was one for consent before play… batter right in won’t you   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
I was sent this earlier, I’d imagine he will close his account and return to fab to continue onwards without any respect for consent.
In my opinion this attitude matches the No means Yes level… |
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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
I was sent this earlier, I’d imagine he will close his account and return to fab to continue onwards without any respect for consent.
In my opinion this attitude matches the No means Yes level…"
It show a level of entitlement and a lack of understanding that is quite scary. Raises so many red flags that Stalin would be proud... |
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder. "
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done "
Definitely not looking for a kick in the nuts but I never hit to hard unless the woman doesn’t mind. I’m not into torture |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done
Definitely not looking for a kick in the nuts but I never hit to hard unless the woman doesn’t mind. I’m not into torture "
How exactly do you know that you ‘never hit to hard’? If you hit me without consent you’d soon know about it. You don’t seem to understand that consent is important as is having safe words and knowing when to stop.
Impact play such as spanking isn’t a game and should be treated with the respect it deserves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done
Definitely not looking for a kick in the nuts but I never hit to hard unless the woman doesn’t mind. I’m not into torture
How exactly do you know that you ‘never hit to hard’? If you hit me without consent you’d soon know about it. You don’t seem to understand that consent is important as is having safe words and knowing when to stop.
Impact play such as spanking isn’t a game and should be treated with the respect it deserves. "
I think this topic is getting a bit to heated I was just meaning a gentle smack during sex then a bit harder any woman I have been with in the past just say to hard I stop easy. I don’t just have sex to smack a woman’s arse. So do you need consent during sex to do anything, we are all adults, to many people nowadays follow the masses and have no real direction and just do as others do. The topic was just a general question about arse smacking not torturing a woman. |
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over a year ago
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Consent is everything! Mate you’re sounding like the type of guy that would continue sexual activity when the other person revokes the consent only to then sit and say after that it’s not assault because “we are all adults”
I’d suggest maybe just saying you’ve had a mare here and leave it be…which btw is very rare coming from me. |
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over a year ago
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"Consent is everything! Mate you’re sounding like the type of guy that would continue sexual activity when the other person revokes the consent only to then sit and say after that it’s not assault because “we are all adults”
I’d suggest maybe just saying you’ve had a mare here and leave it be…which btw is very rare coming from me. "
I could say anything nobody knows me I will leave it at that totally took out of context. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hardly taken out of context, its literally taken from exactly what you said. Giving someone a slap and then stopping cause they've expressed they don't want that, means it's too late. You have already done the act that that person didn't want, instead of just asking before any clothes come off if they like being spanked, and in the moment if they want it. It's really not difficult, and it's not 'people going with the masses' it's basic respect. You sound like an utter buffoon, and I can just tell any play with you would be unsatisfying for the other parties because you approach it from a selfish view. |
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I have been in many situations (mainly outwith fab) where you in the middle of things and a guy slaps my arse without asking and it wasn’t taken as untoward by myself if I wanted more I made the right noises if not he just didn’t do it again. It’s a fine line with that as I find being stopped and asked is this ok for every thing they want to do kills the mood for me, being asked if it’s ok to kiss me just gives me the total ick. (That’s just personal preference.)But having said that esp on fab meets or club play it’s very much etiquette to have the chat before play begins so everyone knows the boundaries and what is allowed so I feel this is situational for myself . I do love a good spank or flog but I like to do it separate from play kind of like a nice warm up to action and obviously lots of communication goes on there. |
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done
Definitely not looking for a kick in the nuts but I never hit to hard unless the woman doesn’t mind. I’m not into torture
How exactly do you know that you ‘never hit to hard’? If you hit me without consent you’d soon know about it. You don’t seem to understand that consent is important as is having safe words and knowing when to stop.
Impact play such as spanking isn’t a game and should be treated with the respect it deserves.
I think this topic is getting a bit to heated I was just meaning a gentle smack during sex then a bit harder any woman I have been with in the past just say to hard I stop easy. I don’t just have sex to smack a woman’s arse. So do you need consent during sex to do anything, we are all adults, to many people nowadays follow the masses and have no real direction and just do as others do. The topic was just a general question about arse smacking not torturing a woman. "
Definitely not taken out of context, you said it quite clearly. You want to smack me you check first. It happens all too often in clubs - some guys think that in play they can smack arses, bite nipples or give a love bite. Every one of these is non consensual and would be told No if they asked me prior to play. I’ve stopped play for every one of these reasons as have many other women. We have a right to be respected and if you want to do anything that potentially involves pain or marking a body then you check first. I suspect for your ‘out of context’ comment you’ve rapidly gone on many women and couples ‘nope, never’ list. |
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I do understand spontaneity up to a point, and not everyone wants to negotiate absolutely everything to the nth degree but what baffles me just from a decency point of view is unilaterally choosing to 'have a go' at *anything* your partner might not be into and spoil the whole experience when a simple check in advance could ensure a good time's had by all. Yes, risks increase when you get into some kinkier stuff where more thorough negotiation can become important but surely that's just basic courtesy and consideration?!?! |
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over a year ago
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"Consent must be in place before it happens...
Just because you want to do it, doesn't mean they want to receive it!
Mmm no it’s not if I’m with a woman I’m not going to ask her can I smack your ass I do it slightly then if she seems to like it I do it harder.
Oh a swift kick to the balls in return. Ah you seemed to like it....I shall continue to assault you. I will expect a thank you when I'm done
Definitely not looking for a kick in the nuts but I never hit to hard unless the woman doesn’t mind. I’m not into torture
How exactly do you know that you ‘never hit to hard’? If you hit me without consent you’d soon know about it. You don’t seem to understand that consent is important as is having safe words and knowing when to stop.
Impact play such as spanking isn’t a game and should be treated with the respect it deserves.
I think this topic is getting a bit to heated I was just meaning a gentle smack during sex then a bit harder any woman I have been with in the past just say to hard I stop easy. I don’t just have sex to smack a woman’s arse. So do you need consent during sex to do anything, we are all adults, to many people nowadays follow the masses and have no real direction and just do as others do. The topic was just a general question about arse smacking not torturing a woman.
Definitely not taken out of context, you said it quite clearly. You want to smack me you check first. It happens all too often in clubs - some guys think that in play they can smack arses, bite nipples or give a love bite. Every one of these is non consensual and would be told No if they asked me prior to play. I’ve stopped play for every one of these reasons as have many other women. We have a right to be respected and if you want to do anything that potentially involves pain or marking a body then you check first. I suspect for your ‘out of context’ comment you’ve rapidly gone on many women and couples ‘nope, never’ list. "
I do respect woman and what I said has went down pretty badly. Nothing I can say to change people’s views of me. Let’s just hope if people meet me in person they can actually judge me in the flesh and not on a comment I made in a forum. |
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"Nothing I can say to change people’s views of me. Let’s just hope if people meet me in person they can actually judge me in the flesh and not on a comment I made in a forum. "
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news buddy, but that doesn’t often happen on fab.
Regardless of what’s been said here (which I’ve said my piece on above) once disliked by some online, they will always be overly vocal about you.
Il be honest, I thought you’d have deleted the account and restarted with a new profile
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"Nothing I can say to change people’s views of me. Let’s just hope if people meet me in person they can actually judge me in the flesh and not on a comment I made in a forum.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news buddy, but that doesn’t often happen on fab.
Regardless of what’s been said here (which I’ve said my piece on above) once disliked by some online, they will always be overly vocal about you.
Il be honest, I thought you’d have deleted the account and restarted with a new profile
I can’t please everyone and maybe I should think things through before I open my mouth. My profile says I’m not for everyone, already had two bans on the forum so I will be cautious what I say well if I can. If I had deleted my account I’m sure someone would have recognised my profile pics. I know I’m not the type of guy people might think I am. I always take onboard peoples opinion's.
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"Nothing I can say to change people’s views of me. Let’s just hope if people meet me in person they can actually judge me in the flesh and not on a comment I made in a forum.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news buddy, but that doesn’t often happen on fab.
Regardless of what’s been said here (which I’ve said my piece on above) once disliked by some online, they will always be overly vocal about you.
Il be honest, I thought you’d have deleted the account and restarted with a new profile
I can’t please everyone and maybe I should think things through before I open my mouth. My profile says I’m not for everyone, already had two bans on the forum so I will be cautious what I say well if I can. If I had deleted my account I’m sure someone would have recognised my profile pics. I know I’m not the type of guy people might think I am. I always take onboard peoples opinion's.
Cheers
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I understand that consent is key , but arse smacking is a playful and albeit in the moment situation , I think where you've went wrong is with the wording you used.
As adults we should be able to say what we want in sexual situations but not everyone feels comfortable expressing that with words , some people might use visual ques such as raising their arse during sex etc .. and all too often folk go with what feels good in that moment .
I don't for a minute think your a wrong yin and think it's rather unfair that it's went down this way for you , as I say think you could've worded it better but by all means you shouldn't be vilified for it either . |
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"Nothing I can say to change people’s views of me. Let’s just hope if people meet me in person they can actually judge me in the flesh and not on a comment I made in a forum.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news buddy, but that doesn’t often happen on fab.
Regardless of what’s been said here (which I’ve said my piece on above) once disliked by some online, they will always be overly vocal about you.
Il be honest, I thought you’d have deleted the account and restarted with a new profile
I can’t please everyone and maybe I should think things through before I open my mouth. My profile says I’m not for everyone, already had two bans on the forum so I will be cautious what I say well if I can. If I had deleted my account I’m sure someone would have recognised my profile pics. I know I’m not the type of guy people might think I am. I always take onboard peoples opinion's.
Cheers
I understand that consent is key , but arse smacking is a playful and albeit in the moment situation , I think where you've went wrong is with the wording you used.
As adults we should be able to say what we want in sexual situations but not everyone feels comfortable expressing that with words , some people might use visual ques such as raising their arse during sex etc .. and all too often folk go with what feels good in that moment .
I don't for a minute think your a wrong yin and think it's rather unfair that it's went down this way for you , as I say think you could've worded it better but by all means you shouldn't be vilified for it either ."
All taking on board thanks for your message |
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