Bit of a downer subject but how do all the singles cope with lonlyness. Im strugaling a bit with it at the moment. I am a very affectionate person and sometimes i wish i had like a cuddle buddy or something hahaha |
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It is a hard subject to approach. The answer doesn’t really lie in finding a cuddle buddy or a sex connection, but in getting yourself to social situations fab and non fab.
It’s about communicating to those around you that you are needing support too. I know that support from friends and family doesn’t replace intimacy, but intimacy is special because it isn’t feely available, it develops as a relationship does over time.
I do hope you are ok fella |
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Well done for speaking out.
As a single female who attends clubs and has a great social circle it really is about finding the right one.
Like above poster said get out and about and they may be just round the corner. Big hugs xx |
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"Bit of a downer subject but how do all the singles cope with lonlyness. Im strugaling a bit with it at the moment. I am a very affectionate person and sometimes i wish i had like a cuddle buddy or something hahaha "
I got myself an active dog. She really helped me get out and push the blood through my system again.
So much so I got a similar, hyper breed pup.
Now my anxiety is through the roof and I'm back where I started!
But, in all seriousness (checked me!) I found it hard to be happy in my own skin after my marriage ended. I was that used to doing "couple stuff" and thinking about others...
It took about 3 years to get to the point where I didn't want/need/lust for anyone and that is when I realised I could crack on and have a good time with people, or just leave it all and do my own thing.
Everyone is different. But the 2 lunatic dogs help.
Plus if you ever break into my house, say "Hi" to Jesus first  because you're off to see his dad once the lunatic's get hold of you...   |
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I'll not moan, but this is a subject I've been struggling a bit with in the last year.
Once you're used to having someone there all the time, it can suddenly be very depressing to be on your own, but the key is to find things you like doing and other way to distract yourself.
If I still had a dog, I know I'd be out walking for ages.
Mandy |
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It’s a tough thing to admit to, I’m very guilty of saying “I’m fine!” when I’m in the lonely moments.
I think you have to just find a way of accepting how you feel in the moment and as others have mentioned, make sure you build solid connections with friends.
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Tough thing to do is learn to love yourself and your own company. Best advice i got was you can't love anyone if you don't love yourself first.
Also don't take rejection on here too seriously either. Nobody's going to know the real you from any "first message"
And if there's something more going on in your life that's bringing you down start letting people know.
Talking is the best way to get control of your own life. |
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