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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
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Why should people lower their standards You wouldnt do it in the real world so why do people expect/ask u to do it here.for me attraction is a:MUST .Im an adult and know im not for every1 and would never force myself on some 1 if they said no. Be picky be fussy. |
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Some folk will just keep trying, in the hopes of geting a Yes, when someone is at a low point.
I'm experiencing it sorta from an old FWB, but she just won't take no for an answer. Not even with my valid reasons.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there is a huge difference between an online profile and an actual social/meet. I understand everyone has their level of standard and rightly so however in reality I don't think any online profile gives a true insight into what that said person can be like in real life. Being attractive is only half the battle... so much goes on between ones lugs that can be so unattractive. Can we really judge someone truly on an online profile alone ? Without any form social its impossible to judge.
Trying to juggle attraction/personality to suit provides a hard task. |
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I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.
But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic. |
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"Why should people lower their standards You wouldnt do it in the real world so why do people expect/ask u to do it here.for me attraction is a:MUST .Im an adult and know im not for every1 and would never force myself on some 1 if they said no. Be picky be fussy."
I don’t !
If there isn’t an attraction then nothing is going to happen no matter how much they ask. |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
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I rarely meet and the vast majority of my veris are from social events. I'm incredibly fussy and have mentioned that more than once on my profile. I know what I'm attracted to and that will never change nor will I lower my standards for anyone!   |
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"Why should people lower their standards You wouldnt do it in the real world so why do people expect/ask u to do it here.for me attraction is a:MUST .Im an adult and know im not for every1 and would never force myself on some 1 if they said no. Be picky be fussy.I don’t !
If there isn’t an attraction then nothing is going to happen no matter how much they ask. "
Iv had guys threating to screen shot my profile and send it to people just because i said no there wasnt an attration. For me there has to be an attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I completely agree
I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it
I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait  |
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"I completely agree
I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it
I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait "
It’s that whole quality over quantity thing innit |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
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"I completely agree
I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it
I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait
100% agree with this ^^^^ I'd rather go without than have rubbish sex!
It’s that whole quality over quantity thing innit "
100% agree with this ^^^. If rather go without than have mediocre sex! |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Some folk will just keep trying, in the hopes of geting a Yes, when someone is at a low point.
I'm experiencing it sorta from an old FWB, but she just won't take no for an answer. Not even with my valid reasons.
Mandy"
It’s unfair to take advantage when someone is at a low point. They should be offering support. Hope you’re ok. Fx |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow Scotland |
I have to agree with what is being said. You know what you like and don’t like. You could be the hottest person in the world to me, but if there’s not much going on between the ears or you have the personality of a wet wipe, it’s not going to work. Equally I could get on great with you, but if I’m not attracted to you, it’s not working for me.
I want lust. I want passion. Don’t want mediocre sex and just going through the motions.
Everyone likes different types |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Nothing wrong with being selective, fussy, having standards, etc. What is wrong is receiving abusive messages because you’ve said ‘no’. Sometimes it’s easier to not reply, delete or block than get the barrage of abuse.
It’s also not ok for people to judge on the number of verifications or partners someone has had.
Fab is here to facilitate meets, there’s no guarantee of anything and until people realise that there will always be those who moan about not having any meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.
With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??  "
Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good. |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow Scotland |
"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.
With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??
Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good."
And know how to suck a callipo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.
With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??
Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good.
And know how to suck a callipo "
Absoultely, its my number 1 requirement.  |
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If I look at a face pic and think 'OK maybe' it's then down to the chat to see if I want to meet them for a social. Physical and mental attraction is a must, it just doesn't work with only one of them.
At something like greedy girls you can get away with it just being physical attraction alone, but it still doesn't really stimulate my mind. A good personality is so important.
Sadly, 95% of the messages I get are from people that I'm not physically attracted to. I just delete the message unless they've bothered to write a decent intro then I will reply with a sorry but no message.
This hasn't changed whether I've been single or in a relationship. If the choice was between sex with someone who didn't excite me and going without, I'd prefer to go without. I rarely have meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a strange way I actually don’t mind it at all when a fem says no to me after chatting and seeing my mush, it’s refreshing actually and I really respect that.
Lowering standards is sheer desperation and ultimately hugely disrespectful to other human beans. We need to start being better to each other and we can only do so once we start being better ourselves.
Ok fine, I was gutted recently when I was too ugly but I pulled my big boy pants up, dried my eyes….and ate a full bag of kettle chips to recover |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.
But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic."
Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.
If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself |
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"I think there is a huge difference between an online profile and an actual social/meet. I understand everyone has their level of standard and rightly so however in reality I don't think any online profile gives a true insight into what that said person can be like in real life. Being attractive is only half the battle... so much goes on between ones lugs that can be so unattractive. Can we really judge someone truly on an online profile alone ? Without any form social its impossible to judge.
Trying to juggle attraction/personality to suit provides a hard task. "
Agree with this as I recently met someone for a social whom I got on with during online chat but his pictures meant I wasn’t sure if I would be attracted to but I was pleasantly surprised at how much I did find him attractive, his pics definitely didn’t do him justice however he must have felt the opposite about me as didn’t hear from him again |
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"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.
But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.
Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.
If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself "
Arm wrestle you for him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest that says more about him than you, end of the day probably his loss, not the end of the world for yourself. A simple reply or message after a social goes a long way whichever way it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.
But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.
Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.
If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself
Arm wrestle you for him!"
Can we leg wrestle my arms ain't the strongest and I want to win! |
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Never sell yourself short, that goes for any human no matter the gender, to many people message everyone without any form of possible physical attraction trying to get a meet/sex a pair tits is a pair tits same goes for vag, ass and dick and indeed tummy or without a big tummy (to many forums atm) |
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Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his? |
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his? "
Given you're already hypothetically fighting over him, I'm gonna take that as a yes. |
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"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.
But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.
Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.
If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself
Arm wrestle you for him!
Can we leg wrestle my arms ain't the strongest and I want to win!"
If you insist |
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his? "
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends |
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends "
Sorry - that wasn't aimed at the upper echelons - more the Nestle and Mars Girls. |
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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago
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There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.
I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life. |
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends "
I do love a bit of sarcasm |
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"There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.
I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life. "
Intellectual?
I got upset because I thought they sent an actual beagle into space and I still feel like fucking Einstein on here sometimes! |
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Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.
All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.  |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
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"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.
All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers. "
Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile? |
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"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.
All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.
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Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile? "
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Certainly.  |
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"There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.
I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life.
Intellectual?
I got upset because I thought they sent an actual beagle into space and I still feel like fucking Einstein on here sometimes!"
Einstein on here is a 62 year old single male! Above your age limit and the wrong sex! Don't go lowering your standards!!! |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
Here, There and Everywhere |
"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.
All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.
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Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?
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Certainly. "
I may have adapted it for my profile! Hope you approve! |
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"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.
All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.
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Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?
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Certainly.
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I may have adapted it for my profile! Hope you approve! "
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It's perfect!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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According to some of the messages I get,(from men with dented egos) apparently, lots of men wouldn't look twice at me in the real world but lower their standards here and I should be grateful for it.
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends
Sorry - that wasn't aimed at the upper echelons - more the Nestle and Mars Girls. "
That’s alright then |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
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"According to some of the messages I get,(from men with dented egos) apparently, lots of men wouldn't look twice at me in the real world but lower their standards here and I should be grateful for it.
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Thank you for bringing that up! I'm frequently told I should be grateful for any interest at my age! Therefore I'm totally gonna be dropping my knickers for them! Absolute twats! |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"According to some of the messages I get,(from men with dented egos) apparently, lots of men wouldn't look twice at me in the real world but lower their standards here and I should be grateful for it.
Thank you for bringing that up! I'm frequently told I should be grateful for any interest at my age! Therefore I'm totally gonna be dropping my knickers for them! Absolute twats! "
Wtf … I trust both you ladies tell them to get to! X |
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends
I do love a bit of sarcasm"
Sarcasm? I was being honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me you should always respect the other persons wishes and boundaries the way I see it is once a mind is made up no point trying to change it. Unfortunately it will always be apart of some peoples mentality to think they can negotiate or change it.
But saying that if i'm bribed with food well that may change my standards haha
But while reading this thread this song popped into my head.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llGvsgN17CQ
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"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?
Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends
I do love a bit of sarcasm
Sarcasm? I was being honest "
You're funny. |
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Quality over quantity every time, and not just with physical attraction! Biphobia is the most common reason I preventatively block people. If you say something that comes off as racist, transphobic, bi/homophobic, fatphobic etc - I'm out. Honest ignorance is one thing, but if you're in my inbox fetishizing me you can get lost. I'm a person not a sex toy. |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
lanarkshire |
Maybe not lowering standards, but if the personality, attitude and confidence shines through then that’s already an attraction for us, sparks that interest to explore more..on line is already a minefield trying to get to know someone… |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Online persona is quite often different to face-to-face persona.
I can get along with most people, but if i don't feel attracted, half my brain is thinking of an escape plan while flirting  |
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