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over a year ago
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I was chatting to a lass when I was offshore on the rigs and thought all was going well.
I got home coming off 2 weeks of nightshift and always suffer with change over so I am up all hours.
with just getting home I was running around getting bills paid, visiting family and was off out a few days on my motorbike so havent been online.
Got a message from her today when I logged on saying "I take it your not interested" Happy fabbing!
bloody hell, I havent had a minute to myself and when I do log on it seems I havent been paying her enough attention.
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If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list. |
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"If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list."
Im not on fab all day every day, only when time allows as I love getting out on the bike especially with all this dry weather.
Maybe its a good thing that she cut ties as she is married.
We have only chatted so far and I was due to meet up for a coffee and chat,
such as life I suppose and again probably for the best when I think about it. |
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"If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list.
Im not on fab all day every day, only when time allows as I love getting out on the bike especially with all this dry weather.
Maybe its a good thing that she cut ties as she is married.
We have only chatted so far and I was due to meet up for a coffee and chat,
such as life I suppose and again probably for the best when I think about it."
Women are hard work.
Try a man next time. |
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"If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list.
Im not on fab all day every day, only when time allows as I love getting out on the bike especially with all this dry weather.
Maybe its a good thing that she cut ties as she is married.
We have only chatted so far and I was due to meet up for a coffee and chat,
such as life I suppose and again probably for the best when I think about it."
Tbh if you had time to go out on your bike you probably had 10 mins to spare to check your messages, so I get why she thought you weren't interested.
However, some people fail to understand that not all of us are on here all day every day, and had you met her she could be demanding of more and more attention over time. |
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"If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list.
Im not on fab all day every day, only when time allows as I love getting out on the bike especially with all this dry weather.
Maybe its a good thing that she cut ties as she is married.
We have only chatted so far and I was due to meet up for a coffee and chat,
such as life I suppose and again probably for the best when I think about it.
Tbh if you had time to go out on your bike you probably had 10 mins to spare to check your messages, so I get why she thought you weren't interested.
However, some people fail to understand that not all of us are on here all day every day, and had you met her she could be demanding of more and more attention over time."
Yes I agree and your right I should have logged on to check messages.
Guess I kind of thought she was more easy going.
Maybe its my loss.
Love your pics by the way, very white skin, looks nice. |
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"If you'd been chatting to her a lot and suddenly went quiet, it's fair enough that she'd wonder if you'd lost interest.
I personally wouldn't send a message like that, but perhaps she just wanted to know if she could scratch you off the list.
Im not on fab all day every day, only when time allows as I love getting out on the bike especially with all this dry weather.
Maybe its a good thing that she cut ties as she is married.
We have only chatted so far and I was due to meet up for a coffee and chat,
such as life I suppose and again probably for the best when I think about it.
Tbh if you had time to go out on your bike you probably had 10 mins to spare to check your messages, so I get why she thought you weren't interested.
However, some people fail to understand that not all of us are on here all day every day, and had you met her she could be demanding of more and more attention over time.
Yes I agree and your right I should have logged on to check messages.
Guess I kind of thought she was more easy going.
Maybe its my loss.
Love your pics by the way, very white skin, looks nice."
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over a year ago
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!"
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution. |
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution."
If she's reading this then I'm sure she be over the moon you talking bout her. |
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution.
If she's reading this then I'm sure she be over the moon you talking bout her. "
yeh true
but it was her that snubbed me, not the other way round.
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution."
Wow. It only took you 52 minutes to respond to my message!
I finished work today at 1500, cycled five miles home, got showered and packed my bag and caught a train at 1630.
I've just changed at Stirling and have a meet in five minutes.
It's all about getting your priorities right! |
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over a year ago
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution.
Wow. It only took you 52 minutes to respond to my message!
I finished work today at 1500, cycled five miles home, got showered and packed my bag and caught a train at 1630.
I've just changed at Stirling and have a meet in five minutes.
It's all about getting your priorities right!"
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Yeah, i can see where she's coming from. You have to respond within 2 minutes of receiving a message, otherwise you're in the bad books. Honestly, you need to switch on notifications, DROP EVERYTHING YOU'RE DOING when a message comes in and send a suitable instant reply 
All kidding aside, it is awfully common on here to get told off if the reply doesn't come quickly enough. I don't really mind if that happens, because these people aren't for me and i won't waste any more time on them.
What also has happened is that I appear online when I'm not and someone will think I'm ignoring them. When you're not actually on fab, make sure you're logged out. Otherwise every time you pick up your phone to fo something non fab related, you'll appear online, unintentionally causing frustration or confusion for the person at the other end.
Sorry it didn't work out for you this time, maybe the 2 of you will reconnect at some point x |
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"If I got ghosted by a woman who preferred to go out for a spin in their Mini, I know what I'd be thinking. Union Jack brake lights or not!
ghosted, not logging on to fab for 2 or 3 days lol, how the hell is that ghosting?
I can go weeks without logging on, there are more important things in my life than logging on in here each day.
I had been offshore 14 days of 12 hour shifts, got home and had bills & mail to go through, then with the dry weather I thought lets make the most of it and fire up the bike.
Guess I have other priorities to some.
If she reads this, I am happy to chat to her again and meet up but she is also married so I will play with caution.
Wow. It only took you 52 minutes to respond to my message!
I finished work today at 1500, cycled five miles home, got showered and packed my bag and caught a train at 1630.
I've just changed at Stirling and have a meet in five minutes.
It's all about getting your priorities right!
Did you lose your licence or can you not drive?"
I spent all week driving around in my NHS work van.
I cycled home, caught the train to Polmont and have just had an amazing meet.
Next Saturday I am driving to Edinburgh Airport to pick up my Latvian playmate, and we will see the V&A in Dundee on the way to Aberdeen.
Then it's suspension Shibari at mine, followed by the ASS bedroom bondage training session on Sunday.
On Monday we are visiting Balmoral Castle. I'll be driving!
Tuesday, we're flying to Dublin for half a day and a pint of Guinness in the Temple Bar before we fly back to our respective countries!
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"Yeah, i can see where she's coming from. You have to respond within 2 minutes of receiving a message, otherwise you're in the bad books. Honestly, you need to switch on notifications, DROP EVERYTHING YOU'RE DOING when a message comes in and send a suitable instant reply
All kidding aside, it is awfully common on here to get told off if the reply doesn't come quickly enough. I don't really mind if that happens, because these people aren't for me and i won't waste any more time on them.
What also has happened is that I appear online when I'm not and someone will think I'm ignoring them. When you're not actually on fab, make sure you're logged out. Otherwise every time you pick up your phone to fo something non fab related, you'll appear online, unintentionally causing frustration or confusion for the person at the other end.
Sorry it didn't work out for you this time, maybe the 2 of you will reconnect at some point x"
well said and I agree
the good thing is that I may have avoided and had a very close encounter with a bunny boiler. |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
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If you have been bored offshore and messaging her regularly, then once other exciting stuff comes into your life you ignore her for three days, she is probably entitled to ask if you are still interested to be fair. |
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"If you have been bored offshore and messaging her regularly, then once other exciting stuff comes into your life you ignore her for three days, she is probably entitled to ask if you are still interested to be fair. "
there was no "asking" involved.
she presumed I had no interest and said have a good life
One lady on here had the correct advice and comments when she said - people expect immediate replies within 2 or 3 minutes of messaging.
Fab is supposed to be easy going for all, and not, where have you been, who have you been with, why didnt you answer, lol |
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over a year ago
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"If you have been bored offshore and messaging her regularly, then once other exciting stuff comes into your life you ignore her for three days, she is probably entitled to ask if you are still interested to be fair.
there was no "asking" involved.
she presumed I had no interest and said have a good life
One lady on here had the correct advice and comments when she said - people expect immediate replies within 2 or 3 minutes of messaging.
Fab is supposed to be easy going for all, and not, where have you been, who have you been with, why didnt you answer, lol"
Just meaning that if you have shown her a lot of attention, then suddenly don't, she is probably entitled to be a bit miffed. |
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"Yeah, i can see where she's coming from. You have to respond within 2 minutes of receiving a message, otherwise you're in the bad books. Honestly, you need to switch on notifications, DROP EVERYTHING YOU'RE DOING when a message comes in and send a suitable instant reply
All kidding aside, it is awfully common on here to get told off if the reply doesn't come quickly enough. I don't really mind if that happens, because these people aren't for me and i won't waste any more time on them.
What also has happened is that I appear online when I'm not and someone will think I'm ignoring them. When you're not actually on fab, make sure you're logged out. Otherwise every time you pick up your phone to fo something non fab related, you'll appear online, unintentionally causing frustration or confusion for the person at the other end.
Sorry it didn't work out for you this time, maybe the 2 of you will reconnect at some point x
well said and I agree
the good thing is that I may have avoided and had a very close encounter with a bunny boiler."
She hadn't heard from you in days so thought you'd changed your mind. Hardly a bunny boiler  |
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Personally, if I'm talking to someone, and they go quiet, I presume I've said something they don't like, are busy, have found someone else, or, are dead.
I wouldn't send a hissy fit message, or get stressed about it  |
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Continuity…. I get that fab is good when you work in a limiting place when basically cut off from the rest of the world, and chatting to someone is the next best thing, but may have been better had you forewarned her that you’d be back on the mainland and had things to sort out (like bills) family to see, the open road, and so you’d be offline for a while. Then get back to her. But it’s not ok to use fab as a stop gap, potentially sorting a meet out, then literally disappearing off the face of the earth when you come back to your waiting life. I’d be miffed too. |
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"Continuity…. I get that fab is good when you work in a limiting place when basically cut off from the rest of the world, and chatting to someone is the next best thing, but may have been better had you forewarned her that you’d be back on the mainland and had things to sort out (like bills) family to see, the open road, and so you’d be offline for a while. Then get back to her. But it’s not ok to use fab as a stop gap, potentially sorting a meet out, then literally disappearing off the face of the earth when you come back to your waiting life. I’d be miffed too. "
lol, going off fab for 3 days is not a crime
jeeez I cannot believe people take this place so serious.
it is up to the individual to decide when to log on if that individual so wishes to log on. And if they decide not to log on for an hour, a day or even 3 days so bloody what. No different from face book and all other online forums, well apart from motorcycle forums thats different and they should be looked at every day |
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I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol |
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"Continuity…. I get that fab is good when you work in a limiting place when basically cut off from the rest of the world, and chatting to someone is the next best thing, but may have been better had you forewarned her that you’d be back on the mainland and had things to sort out (like bills) family to see, the open road, and so you’d be offline for a while. Then get back to her. But it’s not ok to use fab as a stop gap, potentially sorting a meet out, then literally disappearing off the face of the earth when you come back to your waiting life. I’d be miffed too.
lol, going off fab for 3 days is not a crime
jeeez I cannot believe people take this place so serious.
it is up to the individual to decide when to log on if that individual so wishes to log on. And if they decide not to log on for an hour, a day or even 3 days so bloody what. No different from face book and all other online forums, well apart from motorcycle forums thats different and they should be looked at every day "
In all fairness, slipping off the radar for 3 days after keeping you entertained when you were offshore would put me off as well. Wouldn't send a message about it though. I'd just ignore you next time you're out on the rig looking for something to do |
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"Continuity…. I get that fab is good when you work in a limiting place when basically cut off from the rest of the world, and chatting to someone is the next best thing, but may have been better had you forewarned her that you’d be back on the mainland and had things to sort out (like bills) family to see, the open road, and so you’d be offline for a while. Then get back to her. But it’s not ok to use fab as a stop gap, potentially sorting a meet out, then literally disappearing off the face of the earth when you come back to your waiting life. I’d be miffed too.
lol, going off fab for 3 days is not a crime
jeeez I cannot believe people take this place so serious.
it is up to the individual to decide when to log on if that individual so wishes to log on. And if they decide not to log on for an hour, a day or even 3 days so bloody what. No different from face book and all other online forums, well apart from motorcycle forums thats different and they should be looked at every day
In all fairness, slipping off the radar for 3 days after keeping you entertained when you were offshore would put me off as well. Wouldn't send a message about it though. I'd just ignore you next time you're out on the rig looking for something to do "
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"I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol"
Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off
And although you are from Stonehaven you are a bit out of touch with the offshore game. "meet me at my hotel room out at the airport" im afraid that doesnt happen, offshore workers are more family orientated |
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"U should have just sent nessage to say u just got home and woukd b in touch "
Agree with this. Would it have been so hard just to say " busy time, won't be on for a few days" at least she would know. |
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"I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol
Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off
And although you are from Stonehaven you are a bit out of touch with the offshore game. "meet me at my hotel room out at the airport" im afraid that doesnt happen, offshore workers are more family orientated "
If you don't want to meet married, you definitely should have told her and not waste her time. |
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"I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol
Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off
And although you are from Stonehaven you are a bit out of touch with the offshore game. "meet me at my hotel room out at the airport" im afraid that doesnt happen, offshore workers are more family orientated
If you don't want to meet married, you definitely should have told her and not waste her time."
Yeah I would say the same as here, if her being married put you off then why continue chatting with her?
To me comes off as you were bored and just looking for some entertainment on the rig. Then off the rig seems like excuses come out for not bothering with them.
If I was speaking with someone and knew I'd most likely be away for a few days I'd be giving a quick heads up about it. |
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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago
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"I was chatting to a lass when I was offshore on the rigs and thought all was going well.
I got home coming off 2 weeks of nightshift and always suffer with change over so I am up all hours.
with just getting home I was running around getting bills paid, visiting family and was off out a few days on my motorbike so havent been online.
Got a message from her today when I logged on saying "I take it your not interested" Happy fabbing!
bloody hell, I havent had a minute to myself and when I do log on it seems I havent been paying her enough attention.
cant do right for doing wrong."
You really haven't done yourself any favours with this post. |
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You sound a little bitter.
You have asked advice and not liked any response other than a couple who have agreed with you. You easily could have take 5 mins out of a day to send a message had you wanted to.
You are commenting on her being out of order as she is married yet you choose to message her anyway.
And now "can't believe everyone is so serious".... yet you choose to come to an open public forum to complain, maybe even to cause embarrassment to the woman if she sees it.
I doubt she will get back in contact, any self respecting female wouldn't. No hate here though..just my thoughts. Happy fabbing. |
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Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off"
It looks like the fact she is married only put you off after she said she was no longer interested.
It would have been so easy, not to mention polite, just to let her know youd be busy for a few days once home. Sounds more like she'd served her purpose whilst you were offshore. |
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Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off
It looks like the fact she is married only put you off after she said she was no longer interested.
It would have been so easy, not to mention polite, just to let her know youd be busy for a few days once home. Sounds more like she'd served her purpose whilst you were offshore."
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"I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol"
Typical Rig pig behaviour lol |
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"I have to agree with what a couple of others have said. You were offshore bored and messaging her lots, making her think she was a priority. Then you get home and the message pattern changes. She realises she’s not a priority and decides that’s not what she wants.
Or she thought you were married and had gone home to your wife.
Typical offshore pattern although you skipped the meet me at my hotel room out at the airport lol
Lady, im not the one married, she is married and looking to stray, thats another thing that put me off
And although you are from Stonehaven you are a bit out of touch with the offshore game. "meet me at my hotel room out at the airport" im afraid that doesnt happen, offshore workers are more family orientated "
Hahahahahahahahahaha
More family orientated??
If that’s the case why are so many working girls in aberdeen? Why do so many relationships break down? End? People stray?
The only person you are kidding is yourself
You led a lady on for the duration of your trip. She is married but maybe has problems at home. You make her feel special, needed and wanted.
Then you ignore her to pay bills and play on your motorbike. Take to a public forum and call her a bunny boiler.
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