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over a year ago
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This is something I think is under utilised but for those who have socials I have a question,
Which kind of social do you prefer more:
-hot drink/coffee social
-an alcoholic drink social at a pub
-food social (there is some who do this)
-group socials/pre drinks
Be nice to see what everyone preference is, personally, group socials I have had most enjoyment at but if it’s 1 on 1 hot drink/coffee for me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've enjoyed all but a food social (possibly wouldn't be opposed to this just never happened)
All just depends on situation & person and also what time allows .
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I think a good social would be great but completely agree with on situation and time. It is all preference but think it’s a great talking point! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most of my socials are coffee socials or a drink in a pub, but I have done the others. I'm not overly keen on eating in front of people I don't know "
The eating one is an odd one but I can imagine some enjoy it.
Yeah coffee socials are great! Haven’t done a drink in a pub yet (well not 1 on 1) |
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Mostly coffee or early drink socials here but I’ve had food and other types too. Depends on the person and the conversation. As long as it’s relatively public for a 1st 1-1 that’s fine by me. A number of reasons I do this and it suits me well. |
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Personally would prefer a coffee in the afternoon or drink or cocktails on the evening. Hate eating in front of others (even with the Mr after 4+ years!). A wee cocktail or drink is good because it can calm the nerves especially as an anxious person, and coffee/tea taste homely and comforting so can ease a situation when meeting a stranger  |
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"This is something I think is under utilised but for those who have socials I have a question,
Which kind of social do you prefer more:
-hot drink/coffee social
-an alcoholic drink social at a pub
-food social (there is some who do this)
-group socials/pre drinks
Be nice to see what everyone preference is, personally, group socials I have had most enjoyment at but if it’s 1 on 1 hot drink/coffee for me.
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Done all above, as long as able to chat they are all good. Not sure it's under utilised though, socials are a must for lots of us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is something I think is under utilised but for those who have socials I have a question,
Which kind of social do you prefer more:
-hot drink/coffee social
-an alcoholic drink social at a pub
-food social (there is some who do this)
-group socials/pre drinks
Be nice to see what everyone preference is, personally, group socials I have had most enjoyment at but if it’s 1 on 1 hot drink/coffee for me.
Done all above, as long as able to chat they are all good. Not sure it's under utilised though, socials are a must for lots of us. "
I have seen quite a lot just go hung ho hence why I said it’s under-utilised. Still think the social side is the best part of as it you click the meet will be great!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Personally would prefer a coffee in the afternoon or drink or cocktails on the evening. Hate eating in front of others (even with the Mr after 4+ years!). A wee cocktail or drink is good because it can calm the nerves especially as an anxious person, and coffee/tea taste homely and comforting so can ease a situation when meeting a stranger "
Agree with the coffee/tea and can see how a wee drink would calm any nerves. It’s nice having conversations in a relaxed environment usually allows folk to come out their shells more |
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I usually get a coffee with someone, depending on where we go maybe even a walk too but just a walk somewhere public. I often meet socially on my own, think it gives a good indication if you will get on or not more than just messaging.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't be keen on going for a meal with someone I've never met before - plus if it was an awkward type of meet, it's not so easy to get out of.
I've done the pub drinks once so that's not a great gauge to go by lols.
Coffee/tea and cake had been my main social preference +/- a nice walk. Also met up for a walk too (all public areas for safety reasons) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn't be keen on going for a meal with someone I've never met before - plus if it was an awkward type of meet, it's not so easy to get out of.
I've done the pub drinks once so that's not a great gauge to go by lols.
Coffee/tea and cake had been my main social preference +/- a nice walk. Also met up for a walk too (all public areas for safety reasons) "
More than agreeable on all said. I do agree that safety is a must |
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You can never really know if you’ll click until you meet, can be all good on paper then in person…ick!  (and that goes for them to me too)
There’s also the safety aspect, as a single woman I need to feel comfortable with someone before I meet them privately be it at theirs or mine. Certainly wouldn’t want to give my address out to a virtual stranger.
I find it also s out those who would be embarrassed to be seen with me in public as an older/larger woman, if they won’t be seen with me in public they don’t get to see me in private.
And also tends to out cheats too, that I’m not interested in meeting.
So a lot of reasons why a 1st social is the way to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So glad it's not just me that gets uncomfortable eating in front of strangers.
For me coffee socials have been the best.
Group socials are good for getting yourself out there though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can never really know if you’ll click until you meet, can be all good on paper then in person…ick! (and that goes for them to me too)
There’s also the safety aspect, as a single woman I need to feel comfortable with someone before I meet them privately be it at theirs or mine. Certainly wouldn’t want to give my address out to a virtual stranger.
I find it also s out those who would be embarrassed to be seen with me in public as an older/larger woman, if they won’t be seen with me in public they don’t get to see me in private.
And also tends to out cheats too, that I’m not interested in meeting.
So a lot of reasons why a 1st social is the way to go. "
1000000000% agree with the out of cheats. I love socials, you get to meet and get to know new people, if there isn’t a click then who knows hopefully you have made a friend: hence why I feel it’s massively undervalued part of the lifestyle with a lot of new people thinking this is a dating site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would always have a social before any kind of meet. I believe the more you know of someone the better both will be.
Thanks to those who has replied so far, been good reading what everyone’s thoughts are |
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"You can never really know if you’ll click until you meet, can be all good on paper then in person…ick! (and that goes for them to me too)
There’s also the safety aspect, as a single woman I need to feel comfortable with someone before I meet them privately be it at theirs or mine. Certainly wouldn’t want to give my address out to a virtual stranger.
I find it also s out those who would be embarrassed to be seen with me in public as an older/larger woman, if they won’t be seen with me in public they don’t get to see me in private.
And also tends to out cheats too, that I’m not interested in meeting.
So a lot of reasons why a 1st social is the way to go.
1000000000% agree with the out of cheats. I love socials, you get to meet and get to know new people, if there isn’t a click then who knows hopefully you have made a friend: hence why I feel it’s massively undervalued part of the lifestyle with a lot of new people thinking this is a dating site "
Totally agree, I’ve made amazing platonic friends through fab too. Some started off as potential meets/fucks and for whatever reason things didn’t pan out that way, but we’re still friends. Be adults about it.
No it’s not a dating site but I’m also not just a sex doll, I’m a person with their own desires and dislikes etc rather too many (mainly men it must be said) need to learn this. Rather than moaning they can’t get meets. |
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My go to is a meet with an alcoholic drink. I tend to find the environment is easier to relax in as a coffee meet can be that level up in terms of a more formal meet.
Definitely not a dinner meet as that’s very formal and interview like if face to face. |
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Coffee socials and a nice chat to see if click face to face as much as chatting online. Many a time the online chats been great but felt nothing when met for a social. Unfortunately I’ve found many aren’t up for socials and not interested unless you are wanting nsa meets with no effort put in  |
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Think ive done all of the above, just depends who I’m chatting to
Don’t feel it’s under utilized, if you are happy to meet for fun straight away that’s your prerogative and saves the hassle of trying to align diaries twice which can be difficult at times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It varies though anywhere public that you can get a good chat.
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Can agree with that, for me I would be happy to let the women decide on where, then I know she is somewhere she can feel safe. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Think ive done all of the above, just depends who I’m chatting to
Don’t feel it’s under utilized, if you are happy to meet for fun straight away that’s your prerogative and saves the hassle of trying to align diaries twice which can be difficult at times "
Don’t get me wrong, every where is different and everyone has different situation but I love the social side of the lifestyle and even if you don’t play, you can find you have a friendly face to chat to or have a drink with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I actually really enjoy the social side of swinging nearly as much as the play side I’ve enjoyed some excellent socials and find that you benefit from getting a feel for the person you are meeting x |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I have weekly pub quiz and coffee socials as well as pre-drinks before CJs.
Also have one on one socials usually for a coffee but it has sometimes been food as well.
There’s a place for all sorts of socials. |
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Coffee is my preference, because you can go elsewhere from that coffee (i.e. a pub or something, mind out the gutter please!) or politely say "see you again soon/have a pleasant evening". I'd not do food unless it was lunch maybe |
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"I have weekly pub quiz and coffee socials as well as pre-drinks before CJs.
Also have one on one socials usually for a coffee but it has sometimes been food as well.
There’s a place for all sorts of socials. "
Absolutely! And you and NSV and others put a lot of effort into organising and running group socials. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have weekly pub quiz and coffee socials as well as pre-drinks before CJs.
Also have one on one socials usually for a coffee but it has sometimes been food as well.
There’s a place for all sorts of socials. "
Got to appreciate the effort of organising some of these! I do agree there is a social for everything if done right |
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Love a good social, group organised socials are always a great night and really good way to meet multiple people at once.
Aberdeen ones have an amazing crowd.
Have made some good fab friends through them. |
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"Most of my socials are coffee socials or a drink in a pub, but I have done the others. I'm not overly keen on eating in front of people I don't know "
Same as we just know we would spill something down ourselves. Not the best look ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Our monthly drinks socials are always well attended with a good mix of singles and couples, many who come along regularly and have become friends.
It's a great way to meet others from the lifestyle with no expectations other than to chat. If you click with someone then you can keep in touch and make other plans to meet again for shenanigans
As others have said someone may be totally different in person to how they come across in messaging  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Our monthly drinks socials are always well attended with a good mix of singles and couples, many who come along regularly and have become friends.
It's a great way to meet others from the lifestyle with no expectations other than to chat. If you click with someone then you can keep in touch and make other plans to meet again for shenanigans
As others have said someone may be totally different in person to how they come across in messaging "
You socials are brilliant! Can only commend the organising you out into them! |
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