"How are you guys finding fab. Because I think I am using it wrong or just no one’s cup of tea. "
For the most part it’s an absolute struggle. Getting replies is hard, the “popular” women get hundreds if not thousands of messages per day. Men outnumber women on this site by quite a bit. Just play the long game and then something eventually will happen  |
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"How are you guys finding fab. Because I think I am using it wrong or just no one’s cup of tea. "
Have a look at the clubs and socials that are advertised in the forums...you'll probably find people (couples and singles) will take to you better if you get your face known and get some verificatios under your belt. It may not be your cup of tea, but a few social verifications can help for sure. |
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I think for normal guys on fab you get what you put into it.
I messaged a few people when I joined like most folk expecting a reply even just a thanks but no thanks but the reality is women and couples can literally have hundreds of messages daily so the liklihood of standing out is extremely slim.
Personally I started looking into the forums to find something that suited me and I was comfortable with, I found an event that looked fun and enjoyable and asked to attend, through that I had a social (during the week) and then the event itself where I met a fantastic group of people.
As mentioned above being verified as genuine as a new single guy by some long term members will do wonders for your chance or standing out as it shows a willingness to be involved and proves you are genuine.
Aware this isn't always possible for everyone but it certainly can increase your opportunities on the site.
Good luck ?? |
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"I have but like some older guys on here I have my girls Friday to Monday. If it’s a choice between a hook up or seeing my girls. My girls will will every time.
Thanks for replying people. "
I get that totally, I can't accommodate because I'm a single dad (a nuke strike to my house wouldn't budge my teens!).
There are clubs and events in Scotland during the week, most of the organisers for socials would be happy to discuss if you reach out to them too.
Also, maybe have a think about your profile, proof read through it (spelling, grammar) and maybe say something about you, but in a positive way! I'd ditch the line about how you look; its negative sounding and in all honesty you will be someone's Brad Pitt even if you don't think so. As much as most folk look at pretty pictures rather than words it wouldn't help to show a bit of your personality (I personally love the bit about only being here for the love honey discount, humour is supposedly a very good way to make a good impression with many ladies ). |
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Unless it's a complete mismatch, I will always respond to an intelligent, articulate first message with an accompanying clear, unfiltered face pic.
1. Spelling and grammar needs to be on point. A lot of people are more sapio than you think. I for one like being around intelligent, articulate gentlemen.
2. The message should have three things: it should state your name, something you have in common with the person, and what you want from the person.
E.g.,
"Good afternoon,
My name is Michaela. I saw your message on the forum and thought I'd get in touch. I have face pics on my profile for you to peruse.
Two kids, eh? Bet they're a handful! My two are 8 and 4, so a bit younger than yours, but I know exactly what you mean.
I'm a club girl, and I really love swingers clubs CJs in Glasgow and After Dark in Edinburgh. I'm looking for someone to accompany me on Saturday for a night of fun, socialising, and perhaps some play. Would you be interested in joining me?"
who wouldn't respond to this, if not just to say "thanks but you're too penisy for me"? |
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"Unless it's a complete mismatch, I will always respond to an intelligent, articulate first message with an accompanying clear, unfiltered face pic.
1. Spelling and grammar needs to be on point. A lot of people are more sapio than you think. I for one like being around intelligent, articulate gentlemen.
2. The message should have three things: it should state your name, something you have in common with the person, and what you want from the person.
E.g.,
"Good afternoon,
My name is Michaela. I saw your message on the forum and thought I'd get in touch. I have face pics on my profile for you to peruse.
Two kids, eh? Bet they're a handful! My two are 8 and 4, so a bit younger than yours, but I know exactly what you mean.
I'm a club girl, and I really love swingers clubs CJs in Glasgow and After Dark in Edinburgh. I'm looking for someone to accompany me on Saturday for a night of fun, socialising, and perhaps some play. Would you be interested in joining me?"
who wouldn't respond to this, if not just to say "thanks but you're too penisy for me"?"
Sorry I can't make Saturday, but I'd certainly like to arrange another time. 
Like you said, who wouldn't respond to that message |
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"How are you guys finding fab. Because I think I am using it wrong or just no one’s cup of tea.
For the most part it’s an absolute struggle. Getting replies is hard, the “popular” women get hundreds if not thousands of messages per day. "
Guess am not popular  im looking for a crying emoji lol |
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"Unless it's a complete mismatch, I will always respond to an intelligent, articulate first message with an accompanying clear, unfiltered face pic.
1. Spelling and grammar needs to be on point. A lot of people are more sapio than you think. I for one like being around intelligent, articulate gentlemen.
2. The message should have three things: it should state your name, something you have in common with the person, and what you want from the person.
E.g.,
"Good afternoon,
My name is Michaela. I saw your message on the forum and thought I'd get in touch. I have face pics on my profile for you to peruse.
Two kids, eh? Bet they're a handful! My two are 8 and 4, so a bit younger than yours, but I know exactly what you mean.
I'm a club girl, and I really love swingers clubs CJs in Glasgow and After Dark in Edinburgh. I'm looking for someone to accompany me on Saturday for a night of fun, socialising, and perhaps some play. Would you be interested in joining me?"
who wouldn't respond to this, if not just to say "thanks but you're too penisy for me"?"
This is an excellent example of a first message |
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To me the first message isn't that important. Unless it's filth.
I look at profiles first and if that's shite I delete.
If its a decent profile and meets my initial criteria I generally respond to find out more about compatability.
So my advice is make your profile as good as can be. Entice that reply. Then it's up to you and the person you're messaging to take it from there.
Ps 90% of these chats go nowhere as things come up in convo that can kill it either way |
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol "
I think Fab often highlights the worst qualities in both sexes. |
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol
I think Fab often highlights the worst qualities in both sexes."
.....and suggesting a woman is too fussy has never, in the history of human kind, resulted in her saying "awrite then, I'll fuck you". |
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over a year ago
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol "
Guess with some guys any holes a goal, personally I have standards and self respect I have to be attracted to a person before anything could happen that said atm I cba with sex |
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"To me the first message isn't that important. Unless it's filth.
I look at profiles first and if that's shite I delete.
If its a decent profile and meets my initial criteria I generally respond to find out more about compatability.
So my advice is make your profile as good as can be. Entice that reply. Then it's up to you and the person you're messaging to take it from there.
Ps 90% of these chats go nowhere as things come up in convo that can kill it either way"
What are the chances you can peek at my profile and see if I meet the criteria?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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.....and suggesting a woman is too fussy has never, in the history of human kind, resulted in her saying "awrite then, I'll fuck you"."
It’s seems so obvious now….
Need to change my approach.
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol
I think Fab often highlights the worst qualities in both sexes.
.....and suggesting a woman is too fussy has never, in the history of human kind, resulted in her saying "awrite then, I'll fuck you"."
Exactly |
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol "
Do you do that?
Should women on fab on who don’t pass the pretty test to someone be greatful and should just go with anyone?  aren’t they allowed to be picky? |
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Agree.
I have been a member for over 5 months now and chatted to about 3 woman in total.
Im actually finding not only is it difficult to meet but also starting to think that this site is utter BS at times with time wasters and liars....from both sides.
I understand that the ratio of Men to Woman is huge and that woman must get hundreds of texts a day and they cant reply to all,so like i was told...take you time and woman/couple might get back to you in time...but i personally dont feel that's true.
I actually quite a polite guy and looking to meet people in here and have some chats/meets/fun etc....but i feel as if its all just becoming pointless messaging woman now which is a shame.
I have taken people advice and written polite messages (as i would have anyways)...Then you look at profiles of some guys that are friends with many woman and in their profile its just plain stupid,no pics or a pic of a dick,no information etc.
So you not alone with all this....I personally feel as if its all Bullshit now and a good few men and woman are just using it to post pics of themselves (just like FB) to get attention.
Anyways....Hope ye have better luck than i have man.
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"Agree.
I have been a member for over 5 months now and chatted to about 3 woman in total.
Im actually finding not only is it difficult to meet but also starting to think that this site is utter BS at times with time wasters and liars....from both sides.
I understand that the ratio of Men to Woman is huge and that woman must get hundreds of texts a day and they cant reply to all,so like i was told...take you time and woman/couple might get back to you in time...but i personally dont feel that's true.
I actually quite a polite guy and looking to meet people in here and have some chats/meets/fun etc....but i feel as if its all just becoming pointless messaging woman now which is a shame.
I have taken people advice and written polite messages (as i would have anyways)...Then you look at profiles of some guys that are friends with many woman and in their profile its just plain stupid,no pics or a pic of a dick,no information etc.
So you not alone with all this....I personally feel as if its all Bullshit now and a good few men and woman are just using it to post pics of themselves (just like FB) to get attention.
Anyways....Hope ye have better luck than i have man.
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You would do far better meeting people in person at the social events. Women can often be brutal on here given the crap and abuse they receive. Sadly you're just another potential numpty in their inbox. |
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"To me the first message isn't that important. Unless it's filth.
I look at profiles first and if that's shite I delete.
If its a decent profile and meets my initial criteria I generally respond to find out more about compatability.
So my advice is make your profile as good as can be. Entice that reply. Then it's up to you and the person you're messaging to take it from there.
Ps 90% of these chats go nowhere as things come up in convo that can kill it either way
What are the chances you can peek at my profile and see if I meet the criteria? "
You fell at the first hurdle. Yoo far away  |
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"Do u think guys drop their standards on fab to meet anyone then on the flip side some fems that arnt the prettiest start to get fussy lol "
This cracks me up. Some men don’t have standards ‘shag a hole on a barbers floor’ comes to mind
As for fussy women, why shouldn’t we be fussy? Why settle and be the barbers floor?  |
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over a year ago
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"I think for normal guys on fab you get what you put into it.
I messaged a few people when I joined like most folk expecting a reply even just a thanks but no thanks but the reality is women and couples can literally have hundreds of messages daily so the liklihood of standing out is extremely slim.
Personally I started looking into the forums to find something that suited me and I was comfortable with, I found an event that looked fun and enjoyable and asked to attend, through that I had a social (during the week) and then the event itself where I met a fantastic group of people.
As mentioned above being verified as genuine as a new single guy by some long term members will do wonders for your chance or standing out as it shows a willingness to be involved and proves you are genuine.
Aware this isn't always possible for everyone but it certainly can increase your opportunities on the site.
Good luck ?? "
We know a lot of single women get loads of messages but us as a couple we are lucky if we get one or two a week. Fab isn't a good place on the whole so we go to clubs and have great times. Think the trouble is with a lot they think this is a sex site, it's a site for swingers  |
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"I think for normal guys on fab you get what you put into it.
I messaged a few people when I joined like most folk expecting a reply even just a thanks but no thanks but the reality is women and couples can literally have hundreds of messages daily so the liklihood of standing out is extremely slim.
Personally I started looking into the forums to find something that suited me and I was comfortable with, I found an event that looked fun and enjoyable and asked to attend, through that I had a social (during the week) and then the event itself where I met a fantastic group of people.
As mentioned above being verified as genuine as a new single guy by some long term members will do wonders for your chance or standing out as it shows a willingness to be involved and proves you are genuine.
Aware this isn't always possible for everyone but it certainly can increase your opportunities on the site.
Good luck ??
We know a lot of single women get loads of messages but us as a couple we are lucky if we get one or two a week. Fab isn't a good place on the whole so we go to clubs and have great times. Think the trouble is with a lot they think this is a sex site, it's a site for swingers "
Isn't a swinger only a swinger if they do the sex? |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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Well that's where a lot don't get being a swinger. We do have fun with others but we do know folk who go to clubs with no intention of having fun with others, so a site for swingers. Swinging is a huge diverse subject, not all about the sex for lots of people. Hence not a sex site. Being respectful on a first message will go a long way. Art of conversation is dying |
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"Well that's where a lot don't get being a swinger. We do have fun with others but we do know folk who go to clubs with no intention of having fun with others, so a site for swingers. Swinging is a huge diverse subject, not all about the sex for lots of people. Hence not a sex site. Being respectful on a first message will go a long way. Art of conversation is dying "
That’s like us we love the social side and the atmosphere of the clubs. We don’t swap but love having sex with others around us in the clubs. Everybody likes different things at the end of the day  |
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