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pay your own hotel ( a gripe)
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have you noticed the amount of couples that want to play away but not in a hotel ie - you must accommodate - this really pisses me off some times - do you know the amount of time it takes to tidy a house to show room standard and get a bar in so you allways have the right drink because that is what some are looking for and not a lived in home ,
for the fantasists- in lived homes there is a bit of untidiness that is normal so get over it try looking at your play mates and not the wall paper
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think "
To be fair though we have noticed that there are a lot of single guys who are maybe in their 40s or 50s, are highly successful but share a flat with a friend or elderly relative. It’s very common on Fab. Moreso than in the wider population.  |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow Scotland |
I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway |
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"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway "
I'd second this. I can't get my 2 teens to stay out of the house overnight with bribery or coercion. It'd be fantastic if they could stay with their mum and give me peace to entertain occasionally...but that's not a possibility in my case.
Not every guy is on here playing dirty on a lady at home...but I do understand if this is something people come across routinely then cheating becomes the normal expectation...even if there are some honest guys left around! |
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"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway "
100% this, it’s now just my home, it’s my kids home. |
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"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway "
People are just too quick to assume men are cheating whereas it could be something as exampled above. The art of conversation dies very quickly on this site because a message would be ignored immediately from a guy who states he doesn’t accommodate |
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"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway "
^^^ This plus many choose not to accommodate at home due to kids or relatives to often pop by or nosy neighbours lol  |
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as a messy git some times who accommodates when i want to i can see where folks are coming from with flat mates or relatives. but i think the original post has been lost in translation.
if you want to eat out you go to a restaurant
if you like a show you go to a theatre
if you want to go for a drink then its a bar
so why not if you want to play you go to a hotel - its neutral ground yeah you might split the cost with your playmates but you are still playing away and im not just talking about SINGLE guys both females and couples should do it if they dont like the club scene |
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"as a messy git some times who accommodates when i want to i can see where folks are coming from with flat mates or relatives. but i think the original post has been lost in translation.
if you want to eat out you go to a restaurant
if you like a show you go to a theatre
if you want to go for a drink then its a bar
so why not if you want to play you go to a hotel - its neutral ground yeah you might split the cost with your playmates but you are still playing away and im not just talking about SINGLE guys both females and couples should do it if they dont like the club scene"
For some, it will be about the money. It's not a cheap "hobby" if you like to do it on a regular basis.
Some don't feel the need to go to a restaurant for a nice meal and have a dinner party at home.
Some will go to friends for drinks/party instead of a bar.
Some are quite happy with a film on TV than going to the theatre.
Everyone is different.
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"as a messy git some times who accommodates when i want to i can see where folks are coming from with flat mates or relatives. but i think the original post has been lost in translation.
if you want to eat out you go to a restaurant
if you like a show you go to a theatre
if you want to go for a drink then its a bar
so why not if you want to play you go to a hotel - its neutral ground yeah you might split the cost with your playmates but you are still playing away and im not just talking about SINGLE guys both females and couples should do it if they dont like the club scene"
Nobody should do anything! If people want to meet at home, meet at home. If people want to meet in clubs, meet in clubs. If people want to meet in hotels, meet in hotels.
The just of it … do what works for you and let everyone else do the same! |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think
To be fair though we have noticed that there are a lot of single guys who are maybe in their 40s or 50s, are highly successful but share a flat with a friend or elderly relative. It’s very common on Fab. Moreso than in the wider population. "
I’m almost 55 and my adult kids live with me so I can’t accommodate. I know many single parents both Mums and Dads. There are also many single adults looking after elderly relatives. Not everyone is a ‘cheat’ just because they can’t accommodate. Some people say they can accommodate and then it becomes clear they can’t.
Don’t jump to conclusions. |
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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago
Paisley |
We don’t accommodate as a rule. One which we set out very early on our swinging journey. Our home is for us alone and once we walk through those doors, we focus only on each other.
We never ask anyone to accommodate for us either and we’re always happy to pay for a hotel since we can use it as a chance to get away for the night which we enjoy. |
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By *ewcpl80Couple
over a year ago
Scotland |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think
To be fair though we have noticed that there are a lot of single guys who are maybe in their 40s or 50s, are highly successful but share a flat with a friend or elderly relative. It’s very common on Fab. Moreso than in the wider population.
I’m almost 55 and my adult kids live with me so I can’t accommodate. I know many single parents both Mums and Dads. There are also many single adults looking after elderly relatives. Not everyone is a ‘cheat’ just because they can’t accommodate. Some people say they can accommodate and then it becomes clear they can’t.
Don’t jump to conclusions. "
Ok I won’t from now on  |
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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago
Edinburgh for few days |
We accommodate but that's because he has his own home and I'm away mostly during week looking after mum. It means we can have meets at his and I don't have to be worried people are going to turn up uninvited for some solo fun |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"We don’t accommodate as a rule. One which we set out very early on our swinging journey. Our home is for us alone and once we walk through those doors, we focus only on each other.
We never ask anyone to accommodate for us either and we’re always happy to pay for a hotel since we can use it as a chance to get away for the night which we enjoy. "
We would echo this approach. We wouldn't accommodate at home as it's our space, just for us. We don't judge anyone who does accommodate and certainly wouldn't expect anyone to do so for us but we would prefer to keep our home as that and that alone
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think
To be fair though we have noticed that there are a lot of single guys who are maybe in their 40s or 50s, are highly successful but share a flat with a friend or elderly relative. It’s very common on Fab. Moreso than in the wider population. "
This was my situation when I lived in Aberdeenshire for a while. I did have "can accommodate" ticked on my profile but would explain the situation, that although I had a private room someone else may be in the house. Luckily my regular fab friend at the time was happy to visit any way |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway ^^^ This plus many choose not to accommodate at home due to kids or relatives to often pop by or nosy neighbours lol "
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I'm a single guy, own my own home, but would prefer first meets to be not at my place for my protection.
It saves people that I might not want to see again knowing my address, or the possibility of stuff going missing from my home. |
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"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think "
Well that fucks single dads that have there kids at the weekend and work during the week then….
How fab has broken society |
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Would you contribute to the said hotel ? Or expect couple to pay it all?
Would you pay upfront your share incase you are a no show?
I suppose each and everyone have their own reasons why they cant accommodate.
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By *ewcpl80Couple
over a year ago
Scotland |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think
Well that fucks single dads that have there kids at the weekend and work during the week then….
How fab has broken society"
Because that’s what I’d think ?
I’m no expert but I’m guessing there’s other couples here they could choose from ?? just read up you’ll see. Find it really hard to believe one couple has broken society but hey…
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"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think
To be fair though we have noticed that there are a lot of single guys who are maybe in their 40s or 50s, are highly successful but share a flat with a friend or elderly relative. It’s very common on Fab. Moreso than in the wider population.
I’m almost 55 and my adult kids live with me so I can’t accommodate. I know many single parents both Mums and Dads. There are also many single adults looking after elderly relatives. Not everyone is a ‘cheat’ just because they can’t accommodate. Some people say they can accommodate and then it becomes clear they can’t.
Don’t jump to conclusions. "
I’m the same even if a miracle happens and both of mine were away for the night my dog would terrify most people ( then would cry till she was in the bed taking most of it up) so either way I’m going to a club/party or hotel for a meet if the other person can’t accommodate. But I do feel safer for first meets socially or in a club as if there’s no spark the other person is free to find fun elsewhere with no feelings hurt ( or wasted trip/babysitter etc )
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By *illy7239Man
over a year ago
Stenhousemuir |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think "
I'd say generally true but I'm a single dad so can't always accomidate
There are plenty acceptions to your rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have noticed massively on here the amount of men in their 30’s/40’s that can’t/don’t accommodate and a lot of the time it’s because marriages etc have broken down and they have moved back home or sharing until they can get their own place etc, or they have kids living with them who are there most of the time. That’s fair enough. I wouldn’t always assume they are cheating. I like my safety at my home as well anyway ^^^ This plus many choose not to accommodate at home due to kids or relatives to often pop by or nosy neighbours lol
I have a nosey neighbour.... Doesn't seem to matter though also good to put a wee show on for them lol  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup loads of people assume guys are cheating if they don’t accommodate.
We’ve all got circumstances
Oh and as it happens I wouldn’t give a hoot what someone’s marital status was. You are statistically highly highly unlikely ever going to see them again so where’s the problem.
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow Scotland |
"Yup loads of people assume guys are cheating if they don’t accommodate.
We’ve all got circumstances
Oh and as it happens I wouldn’t give a hoot what someone’s marital status was. You are statistically highly highly unlikely ever going to see them again so where’s the problem.
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I care because I don’t meet with the assumption I won’t again. I prefer quality and regular over quantity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd prefer to accommodate personally, its not hard to beforehand get the house in a decent shape for a potential guest and having the comfort of your own home I like.
And it's safer for the other person, people to check the area out 1st or let someone know where they are |
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We only meet singles who can accommodate. Experience tells us that it's much more likely to happen. Unfortunately about 90% of the singles who say they can accommodate on their profile actually can't when asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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maybe they cant accomadate because of house shares , maybe they live with relatives due to a break down of a relationship , maybe their kids live with them or maybe they just dont want strangers in their home , why is it that is taken for granted that the single folk of fab should just open their home up for a meet while a couple dont and is expecting to be invited into someones personal space .. whats good for the goose is good for the gander . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't accommodate anymore at home. Occasionally we will at our holiday cottage. Our home is our place where we raise our children.
We certainly don't expect anyone to open their home up to us. We like hotel meets and usually pay for it ourselves as we use the hotel for the full night/all weekend ourselves, as a break. We like to add others for a bit of fun. Not all couples play by the same rules
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !"
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives. |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
"have you noticed the amount of couples that want to play away but not in a hotel ie - you must accommodate - this really pisses me off some times - do you know the amount of time it takes to tidy a house to show room standard and get a bar in so you allways have the right drink because that is what some are looking for and not a lived in home ,
for the fantasists- in lived homes there is a bit of untidiness that is normal so get over it try looking at your play mates and not the wall paper
Support the local hospitality trade Pay for a hotel room "
I can't understand why the place can't be clean and tidy. My place gets a little untidy at times but if someone is visiting surely it's worth the effort to have a tidy up. |
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives."
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"have you noticed the amount of couples that want to play away but not in a hotel ie - you must accommodate - this really pisses me off some times - do you know the amount of time it takes to tidy a house to show room standard and get a bar in so you allways have the right drink because that is what some are looking for and not a lived in home ,
for the fantasists- in lived homes there is a bit of untidiness that is normal so get over it try looking at your play mates and not the wall paper
Support the local hospitality trade Pay for a hotel room
I can't understand why the place can't be clean and tidy. My place gets a little untidy at times but if someone is visiting surely it's worth the effort to have a tidy up. "
Ngl I try my best keep my house tidy at all times just incase anyone visits be that family friends etc obviously can be a little mess on occasions is a 2 bed but never takes me longer than like 5 mins clean up I hate filth though |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Maybe the ‘can/cannot accommodate’ should be removed from the profile as it seems to raise the issues of people making assumptions.
I know of people who have received abusive messages because they were single but couldn’t accommodate and accused of being cheats. No one deserves that sort of treatment.
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives."
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives.
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
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Regardless of who has the kids, for many their homes are their safe place and don’t want anyone else to know where they live. Some have been in abusive relationships and can’t risk anyone finding out.
I definitely think that the accommodation criteria should be removed from the profile.
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives.
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
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Even if the statistics are accurate yes I really did raise my son alone as a single father from about 9months to 8yrs old but at time wasn't on Fab as this lifestyle could and did wait til my home life was more appropriate for me.
Even now I am on Fab I still won't accommodate but not cause my son who still lives with me or my partner as she is fully aware and we have an active couples profile but cause I have 3 large dogs who are all very active who would be a nuisance if we tried to play at home.
Additionally, we don't mind that factor as we also like keeping our home as our space just for each other, we share many aspects of us we are allowed to keep a few just for us.
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives.
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
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They statistics seem to me as if their plucked out the air .. once again guys getting a bad rap I know very decent dads some live with their kids some don't but all decent .. what about mothers that keep dads away from their children because let's face it theirs no better weapon ye can use than a kid .. although it's off topic but Throwing daft statistics like that about is off topic and I notice there no been any absent mother statistics banded about . |
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives.
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
They statistics seem to me as if their plucked out the air .. once again guys getting a bad rap I know very decent dads some live with their kids some don't but all decent .. what about mothers that keep dads away from their children because let's face it theirs no better weapon ye can use than a kid .. although it's off topic but Throwing daft statistics like that about is off topic and I notice there no been any absent mother statistics banded about ."
I can't normally do weekends for my kids. Oh, they come way before any shenanigans |
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"Only 4.5 % of children live with the father and, they are all on fab !
What about fathers/mothers who regularly see their children , can have them pop by at the drop pf a hat . Kids don't need to live with parent full time for them to be involved in their kids lives.
1 in 5 separated dads see their kids less than once a month and 1 in 10 do not see them at all.
They statistics seem to me as if their plucked out the air .. once again guys getting a bad rap I know very decent dads some live with their kids some don't but all decent .. what about mothers that keep dads away from their children because let's face it theirs no better weapon ye can use than a kid .. although it's off topic but Throwing daft statistics like that about is off topic and I notice there no been any absent mother statistics banded about .
I can't normally do weekends for my kids. Oh, they come way before any shenanigans "
Damn straight pal kids always come first |
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We can only meet away from home as our house is busy and even getting time to ourselves is a mission
We have met a few single guys at their houses we don't expect a Palace or a fully stocked bar We just want a good fun night
Saying that we have been cancelled on at last minute a couple of times too so I can understand the need to out the cheaters as they say |
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By *nn1330Woman
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Weeds out the cheats.
If your over 25 and can’t accommodate that’s generally what we would think "
I'm single but my home is my children's home also and a couple of my children are adults who can come and go as they please, obviously. |
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By *nn1330Woman
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Maybe the ‘can/cannot accommodate’ should be removed from the profile as it seems to raise the issues of people making assumptions.
I know of people who have received abusive messages because they were single but couldn’t accommodate and accused of being cheats. No one deserves that sort of treatment.
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Yes I've been on the receiving end of this also. Never mind kids what about the fact that I don't want anyone in my house full stop. People on here are so unrealistic also x |
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