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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am unsure about anyone else but I see many updates about time wasters/cancelled socials and
Meets and people being dropped out of no where then I wonder if these issues are having an adverse effect on people meeting in general.
I know as a gent trying to stand out is hard enough but I’m seeing more women and couples getting let down which is making me wonder what the causes are, end of the day, we should be making this a fantastic positive community where everyone can happily talk and see where things go.
Don’t get me wrong, not everyone is attracted to everyone and everyone has their preferences but just now the Angus/Tayside area feels a little off and I just can’t put my finger on what that actually is.
I would love to have a great community of people where there is lots of fun to be had. Feel free to discuss |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I was just thinking the other day how busy it all seemed just now. There are multiple threads about the clubs being busy, pre-drinks, socials etc. 
I ignore the negative updates, as the amount of people who are busy meeting far outnumber the people moaning they can't.
I travelled a lot years ago to build a network and also accommodated, so that helped me.
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Part of the problem is that there are many fantasists on here, and some are better at hiding it than others. And it's exhausting.
I recently had a social organised with a 27yr old single guy from Glenrothes. We agreed to meet for a social in Tayport. Communication on here had been great, pics had been swapped, chat on WhatsApp was strong even up to the night before when he was still telling me how excited he was.
I got to the place and messaged to tell him which door to come in. It was read immediately and while I waited I logged in here, to discover that he'd blocked me. I opened WhatsApp to find all his pics had just been deleted, he even went as far as deleting his WhatsApp profile pic! Like I hadn't already screenshot his pics anyway. He also blocked me on WhatsApp so I couldn't message him. Pathetic and childish.
Luckily, Tayport is not really out of my way, but that was time wasted that could have been spent with someone decent. I haven't been stood up in a long time and I felt I had done my due diligence, right up until the moment I got to the venue. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Also during that time I was chatting to 3 other guys who were giving it all chat but when I tried to pin down a date and time for socials they suddenly became very vague.
And that was just one week.
I understand people's frustration with timewasters but I always try to keep my statuses positive and not bitch about anything, but sometimes it's hard not to feel down and exhausted with it all. Those are the times when I take a step back from it all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was just thinking the other day how busy it all seemed just now. There are multiple threads about the clubs being busy, pre-drinks, socials etc.
I ignore the negative updates, as the amount of people who are busy meeting far outnumber the people moaning they can't.
I travelled a lot years ago to build a network and also accommodated, so that helped me.
good luck
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Not see much of that here, but there is in other areas. It’s just a shame |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Part of the problem is that there are many fantasists on here, and some are better at hiding it than others. And it's exhausting.
I recently had a social organised with a 27yr old single guy from Glenrothes. We agreed to meet for a social in Tayport. Communication on here had been great, pics had been swapped, chat on WhatsApp was strong even up to the night before when he was still telling me how excited he was.
I got to the place and messaged to tell him which door to come in. It was read immediately and while I waited I logged in here, to discover that he'd blocked me. I opened WhatsApp to find all his pics had just been deleted, he even went as far as deleting his WhatsApp profile pic! Like I hadn't already screenshot his pics anyway. He also blocked me on WhatsApp so I couldn't message him. Pathetic and childish.
Luckily, Tayport is not really out of my way, but that was time wasted that could have been spent with someone decent. I haven't been stood up in a long time and I felt I had done my due diligence, right up until the moment I got to the venue. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Also during that time I was chatting to 3 other guys who were giving it all chat but when I tried to pin down a date and time for socials they suddenly became very vague.
And that was just one week.
I understand people's frustration with timewasters but I always try to keep my statuses positive and not bitch about anything, but sometimes it's hard not to feel down and exhausted with it all. Those are the times when I take a step back from it all."
Oh, I can absolutely agree with that! Too many get cold feet or think this is a dating site…. Don’t get me wrong you may find that one person but it’s a swinging site. It’s to meet knew likeminded people and to have fun and broaden horizons.
Sorry too here about them V, it just crazy to think people are happy to do all of that. |
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"Part of the problem is that there are many fantasists on here, and some are better at hiding it than others. And it's exhausting.
I recently had a social organised with a 27yr old single guy from Glenrothes. We agreed to meet for a social in Tayport. Communication on here had been great, pics had been swapped, chat on WhatsApp was strong even up to the night before when he was still telling me how excited he was.
I got to the place and messaged to tell him which door to come in. It was read immediately and while I waited I logged in here, to discover that he'd blocked me. I opened WhatsApp to find all his pics had just been deleted, he even went as far as deleting his WhatsApp profile pic! Like I hadn't already screenshot his pics anyway. He also blocked me on WhatsApp so I couldn't message him. Pathetic and childish.
Luckily, Tayport is not really out of my way, but that was time wasted that could have been spent with someone decent. I haven't been stood up in a long time and I felt I had done my due diligence, right up until the moment I got to the venue. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Also during that time I was chatting to 3 other guys who were giving it all chat but when I tried to pin down a date and time for socials they suddenly became very vague.
And that was just one week.
I understand people's frustration with timewasters but I always try to keep my statuses positive and not bitch about anything, but sometimes it's hard not to feel down and exhausted with it all. Those are the times when I take a step back from it all.
Oh, I can absolutely agree with that! Too many get cold feet or think this is a dating site…. Don’t get me wrong you may find that one person but it’s a swinging site. It’s to meet knew likeminded people and to have fun and broaden horizons.
Sorry too here about them V, it just crazy to think people are happy to do all of that. "
I don't think he got cold feet, i think he never had any intention of meeting me. It just shows that no matter how careful you are, you can never be 100% sure until they turn up.
As I know quite a few single ladies in Fife, I think he might find his choices have got a little slimmer  |
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"Part of the problem is that there are many fantasists on here, and some are better at hiding it than others. And it's exhausting.
I recently had a social organised with a 27yr old single guy from Glenrothes. We agreed to meet for a social in Tayport. Communication on here had been great, pics had been swapped, chat on WhatsApp was strong even up to the night before when he was still telling me how excited he was.
I got to the place and messaged to tell him which door to come in. It was read immediately and while I waited I logged in here, to discover that he'd blocked me. I opened WhatsApp to find all his pics had just been deleted, he even went as far as deleting his WhatsApp profile pic! Like I hadn't already screenshot his pics anyway. He also blocked me on WhatsApp so I couldn't message him. Pathetic and childish.
Luckily, Tayport is not really out of my way, but that was time wasted that could have been spent with someone decent. I haven't been stood up in a long time and I felt I had done my due diligence, right up until the moment I got to the venue. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Also during that time I was chatting to 3 other guys who were giving it all chat but when I tried to pin down a date and time for socials they suddenly became very vague.
And that was just one week.
I understand people's frustration with timewasters but I always try to keep my statuses positive and not bitch about anything, but sometimes it's hard not to feel down and exhausted with it all. Those are the times when I take a step back from it all.
Oh, I can absolutely agree with that! Too many get cold feet or think this is a dating site…. Don’t get me wrong you may find that one person but it’s a swinging site. It’s to meet knew likeminded people and to have fun and broaden horizons.
Sorry too here about them V, it just crazy to think people are happy to do all of that.
I don't think he got cold feet, i think he never had any intention of meeting me. It just shows that no matter how careful you are, you can never be 100% sure until they turn up.
As I know quite a few single ladies in Fife, I think he might find his choices have got a little slimmer "
He was a fantasist, too many of them. They like the idea but the minute it could become real they panic. Scared little boys really. |
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I completely agree with what people are saying on here I am not from that area but have had my fair share of time wasters too.
It has gone downhill since covid I think and it’s harder to meet genuine people who are into swinging and not fantasists or people expecting a hook up at a moments notice .
As a woman it’s not easy on here either as I know that men find it hard as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I completely agree with what people are saying on here I am not from that area but have had my fair share of time wasters too.
It has gone downhill since covid I think and it’s harder to meet genuine people who are into swinging and not fantasists or people expecting a hook up at a moments notice .
As a woman it’s not easy on here either as I know that men find it hard as well "
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No I completely agree! Been on with my wife since last July, got a solo page in December and just struggle to anywhere. I know there has been issues that will stop many get anywhere.
It’s a shame on all fronts are the genuine people are getting completely screwed over and in turn makes this site have a sour taste to it.
Between fake profiles, liars, and the fantasists you need to be epically special to grab someone’s attention (in my opinion, not that my opinion is correct)
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've noticed that too lately in this area. It's so frustrating. I chatted with a couple for a while agreed to meet for coffee then nothing they just disappear. Also a single guy. Was chatting basically right up to him picking me up telling me how he was really looking forward to our meet, then a very sudden change of plan.. I'm left sitting like a twat after spending ages getting ready. Now it's made me quite wary, I've been on a few years and only started noticing this lately. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've noticed that too lately in this area. It's so frustrating. I chatted with a couple for a while agreed to meet for coffee then nothing they just disappear. Also a single guy. Was chatting basically right up to him picking me up telling me how he was really looking forward to our meet, then a very sudden change of plan.. I'm left sitting like a twat after spending ages getting ready. Now it's made me quite wary, I've been on a few years and only started noticing this lately. X"
Then you are more apprehensive when a genuine person comes along because you are worried weather yiu will waste your time or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Exactly. I've seen myself being more guarded now with chat and commiting to meeting that's why for now I will only meet very local as I'm not going to travel to be stood up. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's unfortunate that we don't have a club like cjs where it's easier to meet genuine people "
Completely agree there! Your social was really good but agreed with your that is a lot of time to organise an quarterly 1 let alone anything more |
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