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over a year ago
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It’s a big one for me I’d love to go but obviously being a single male could prove difficult is there any one who would want a social first and to go to cjs if all goes well?x |
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When the Aberdeen club was open I was approached a few times by single guys asking to accompany me to the club. I always declined because if they behaved badly that would reflect badly on me.
Are you asking the lady to stay with you through the night or will you go your separate ways once inside? As the latter is no different to being in by yourself and you're just another single guy.
Plus attending with a woman doesn't increase your chances of playing, as some couples are only interested in genuine couples. And if you're staying together you may be limiting her chances to play.
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"When the Aberdeen club was open I was approached a few times by single guys asking to accompany me to the club. I always declined because if they behaved badly that would reflect badly on me.
Are you asking the lady to stay with you through the night or will you go your separate ways once inside? As the latter is no different to being in by yourself and you're just another single guy.
Plus attending with a woman doesn't increase your chances of playing, as some couples are only interested in genuine couples. And if you're staying together you may be limiting her chances to play.
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This  I went my first couple of times myself as was on here as a single lass. Still wouldn't walk in with others even now that were not vanilla friends. You have no idea how the night will go and how their behaviour will be. I made the mistake of taking another single lass under my wing to help her out on her first time going. She ended up an absolute fruit loop and I ended up flying for her as her attitude was absolutely disgusting towards the staff and people in there. Lesson learned lol. Meet others in there or go in with a large social group. Everyone is friendly and will chat away. Well as long as you are not stoating about being a sleezy sod  |
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Well this is is I’d like to meet people for pre drinks or a social before it as I’d like to get to know people and that’s the only way people would know I’m not some sort of crazy sleezy guy, it’s not all about just trying to get In there and shag every thing that moves, the way I see it is the people that go there regularly have built up friendships and got to know one another and all are able to have fun which is more along the lines of what I’m looking for, to become part of the cjs community rather than in,out and up the road haha |
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"Well this is is I’d like to meet people for pre drinks or a social before it as I’d like to get to know people and that’s the only way people would know I’m not some sort of crazy sleezy guy, it’s not all about just trying to get In there and shag every thing that moves, the way I see it is the people that go there regularly have built up friendships and got to know one another and all are able to have fun which is more along the lines of what I’m looking for, to become part of the cjs community rather than in,out and up the road haha "
You have definitely got the right attitude  Just take the deep breath and go for it lol. Life is on the other side of fear |
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Amy time I have been everyone has been very welcoming. One thing I would say is maybe add to your profile it is completely blank. Yes I know if in a club this is irelavant as such but might help you to chat to others on here easier. |
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"Amy time I have been everyone has been very welcoming. One thing I would say is maybe add to your profile it is completely blank. Yes I know if in a club this is irelavant as such but might help you to chat to others on here easier. "
I totally agree here...I looked at your profile and there is almost zero content... I would build on that first if you want people to communicate with you x |
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Always happy to have a social with any newbies grab a coffee and verify you or welcome you along to pre drinks however very few ladies will take a newbie as your behaviour may reflect on them
However it’s a really friendly and welcoming environment xx staff and regulars will always try to make newbies feel welcome  |
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Brilliant it sounds good and ye totally understandable you don’t want that on your head as people can be completely different with a drink in them!! X |
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I’ve been to cjs and several other clubs throughout the country and always gone by myself. And the thought is always worse than the experience once you get over the fear you’ll think what was the fuss about and I think people will respect you more for having the balls and confidence to do it alone rather that as a hanger on to someone you’ve only just met and are using to massage your ego.
As someone said
There’s life on the other side of fear(and it’s not as scary as your imagining!! )
I’d say just bite the bullet and go it alone be friendly and respectful and you’ll have a blast and meet some lovely friendly folk.
All the best and hope you go for it |
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