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I hope my wife can try playing with girls
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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago
Paisley |
If she’s straight, you need to ask yourself if she’s doing it because she actually wants to or if it’s for your benefit. Don’t pressure her. If she wants it to happen, it’ll be at her own pace |
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"Wife straight, want let her play with girls, but she look a little resist, how can let her willing to start?"
Not sure what reaction you expected here other than what you’ve had.
I would be tempted to ask if you would have sex with a guy to make her happy, but the answer to that (although possibly illustrative of the point) is irrelevant.
If she’s straight, has no interest in having sex with women and doesn’t want to “explore” that, then you have your answer, so you not?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are missing the whole point of this lifestyle. It's ok to lay out what you want from this, but you can't decide for your wife if she is going to play with another woman.
You can still have plenty of fun without FF play. Have you discussed properly what the two of you want from this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And just to add, would you be 100% comfortable whilst playing knowing your partner wasn't? I know I wouldn't be.
We've stopped meets before if one of us or if we feel the other party isn't completely comfortable with the situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And just to add, would you be 100% comfortable whilst playing knowing your partner wasn't? I know I wouldn't be.
We've stopped meets before if one of us or if we feel the other party isn't completely comfortable with the situation."
I was in a club South of the border and there were 2 couples playing and you could clearly see one of the females was NOT comfortable with this and it was obvious that she was doing it just to please hubby.
Now I know its none of my business but couldn't help but step in and ask the woman if she was OK? Because she certainly didn't look it!
The hubby didn't seem happy about this.. (big muscly steroid guy)... but I couldn't just sit there and not say anything when it was clear to see this woman wasn't enjoying what was happening.
It's horrible to see a stranger doing something that they don't look like they want to never mind someone you love.
Nobody should ever feel they need to do anything in this lifestyle just to please their other half so I agree that you should maybe discuss this with her and find out how she feels about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And just to add, would you be 100% comfortable whilst playing knowing your partner wasn't? I know I wouldn't be.
We've stopped meets before if one of us or if we feel the other party isn't completely comfortable with the situation.
I was in a club South of the border and there were 2 couples playing and you could clearly see one of the females was NOT comfortable with this and it was obvious that she was doing it just to please hubby.
Now I know its none of my business but couldn't help but step in and ask the woman if she was OK? Because she certainly didn't look it!
The hubby didn't seem happy about this.. (big muscly steroid guy)... but I couldn't just sit there and not say anything when it was clear to see this woman wasn't enjoying what was happening.
It's horrible to see a stranger doing something that they don't look like they want to never mind someone you love.
Nobody should ever feel they need to do anything in this lifestyle just to please their other half so I agree that you should maybe discuss this with her and find out how she feels about it"
Well done for stepping in and checking in on her, fab/swinging need more people like you. Discussing what you and your partner wants and their limits should be the 1st thing before even considering a meet.
We had a couple at CJ's where the guy was into us but it was clear the female half wasn't so we respectively said no thanks. Next thing we are in the couples room playing, they walk in and he was trying to force her to join me and J, so I went and spoke to him telling him his own misses isn't comfortable and clearly doesn't want to join in. Anyways, said couple decided to have a full blown arguement in the play room because of it.   Kinda ruined the mood, not just for us but everyone else in the room. |
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"And just to add, would you be 100% comfortable whilst playing knowing your partner wasn't? I know I wouldn't be.
We've stopped meets before if one of us or if we feel the other party isn't completely comfortable with the situation.
I was in a club South of the border and there were 2 couples playing and you could clearly see one of the females was NOT comfortable with this and it was obvious that she was doing it just to please hubby.
Now I know its none of my business but couldn't help but step in and ask the woman if she was OK? Because she certainly didn't look it!
The hubby didn't seem happy about this.. (big muscly steroid guy)... but I couldn't just sit there and not say anything when it was clear to see this woman wasn't enjoying what was happening.
It's horrible to see a stranger doing something that they don't look like they want to never mind someone you love.
Nobody should ever feel they need to do anything in this lifestyle just to please their other half so I agree that you should maybe discuss this with her and find out how she feels about it
Well done for stepping in and checking in on her, fab/swinging need more people like you. Discussing what you and your partner wants and their limits should be the 1st thing before even considering a meet.
We had a couple at CJ's where the guy was into us but it was clear the female half wasn't so we respectively said no thanks. Next thing we are in the couples room playing, they walk in and he was trying to force her to join me and J, so I went and spoke to him telling him his own misses isn't comfortable and clearly doesn't want to join in. Anyways, said couple decided to have a full blown arguement in the play room because of it. Kinda ruined the mood, not just for us but everyone else in the room."
You can lead the horse to water but you can’t force it to take a drink!
The above happened to us in cjs as well couples night! The guy was a complete prick and after him and his mrs obviously had an argument the left the couples room and 5 min later he came back in alone and asked to join in!
Thankfully the staff as usual were on top form and chased him |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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If I was your OH OP I definitely would not be happy to read this. Communication is important when swinging with a partner. Both of you should be in agreement and have ground rules.
You’ve probably put couples off from meeting you with this post as well. |
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"If I was your OH OP I definitely would not be happy to read this. Communication is important when swinging with a partner. Both of you should be in agreement and have ground rules.
You’ve probably put couples off from meeting you with this post as well. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can lead the horse to water but you can’t force it to take a drink!
The above happened to us in cjs as well couples night! The guy was a complete prick and after him and his mrs obviously had an argument the left the couples room and 5 min later he came back in alone and asked to join in!
Thankfully the staff as usual were on top form and chased him "
We also had this another night maybe 6-12 months ago in the couples room.
In general, I don't see why people would disrespect their partners and risk a relationship just so they can get their leg over with someone new. If you have set boundaries as a couple and you care about them in the slightest, respect the boundaries. |
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"If I was your OH OP I definitely would not be happy to read this. Communication is important when swinging with a partner. Both of you should be in agreement and have ground rules.
You’ve probably put couples off from meeting you with this post as well.
This "
Yep. I can’t think of many things less sexy than someone not wanting to be there or doing it.
There is a word for that kind of sex and it’s not a nice one.
I know some couples profiles are written from one of the partner’s perspective than the other, but OP, between this and your post above, you’re giving off big “haven’t told her about this yet” vibes.
Someone needs to go and watch the “tea and consent” video, I think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wife straight, want let her play with girls, but she look a little resist, how can let her willing to start?"
If she is straight, she's straight... you can't force her to be with another woman. I find it disrespectful you're even considering trying to make her be with another woman for your own satisfaction.
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