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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
lothians,scotland(wonderland.down the rabbit hole) lothian |
For me there has to be an attraction to a face for me to want to me or it wont happen. Thats why i very rarely reply if no face is sent. I do feel on here alot of people (mostly go with the any holes a goal)
Whats everyones views |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction is a must, problem is people assume when you have that view you are shallow, it's not shallow we all just like what we like  personally I need both attraction and the personality to be on point |
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If I wouldn’t date you I certainly
Wouldn’t fuck you is my motto, sometimes I think I’m cutting my nose off to spite my face as there’s been a few gorgeous guys over the years trying it on but they have no substance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need to be physically attracted to someone in order to be turned on and want to have sex with them. They also have to be able to stimulate my mind to though not just good looking. |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I need to be physically attracted to someone in order to be turned on and want to have sex with them. They also have to be able to stimulate my mind to though not just good looking. "
I 100% agree.if i just want to get of iv got toys for that .but in order to meet a guy couple or female i must be into them. The attraction the build up cheeky banter and the kiss is all important |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every on has there own likes in attraction. So many guys take the hump when i reply sayin no attraction"
You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea and a lot of people struggle to accept that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Every on has there own likes in attraction. So many guys take the hump when i reply sayin no attraction
You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea and a lot of people struggle to accept that. "
No-one likes rejection but it shows a person's character whether they can accept it or not. The ones that take the hump aren't worth giving a second thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Every on has there own likes in attraction. So many guys take the hump when i reply sayin no attraction
You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea and a lot of people struggle to accept that.
No-one likes rejection but it shows a person's character whether they can accept it or not. The ones that take the hump aren't worth giving a second thought."
I don’t know why people allow it to bother them so much , literally strangers on the internet. If we aren’t someone’s cup of tea we thank them for their honesty and move on. It’s simple really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was young and stupid 
Now I’m old and stupid - yeah if I I don’t find the package attractive (face, body, personality) but then it would all be a tad hollow. |
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"For me there has to be an attraction to a face for me to want to me or it wont happen. Thats why i very rarely reply if no face is sent. I do feel on here alot of people (mostly go with the any holes a goal)
Whats everyones views"
Absolutely. You have to be turned on, however you define attraction, so it is a must. |
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OP what if the attraction is with the kind and the chat? What if physical aspects aren't as important as clicking mentally and being on the same wavelength?
I don't have a type. And a face pic isn't an imperative early on (although it makes spotting someone in a cafe or bar easier when you meet).
Attraction can be in many forms, not just physical appearance.
Some.stunning guys are dicks, and some gorgeous ladies are not mentally stimulating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There has to be an attraction for me. Plus the kissing has to be good if not its not for me "
I agree plus kissing is so important to me too - attraction is a must but bad kissing is a sign everything else won’t be great |
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"There has to be an attraction for me. Plus the kissing has to be good if not its not for me
I agree plus kissing is so important to me too - attraction is a must but bad kissing is a sign everything else won’t be great "
Definitely |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
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There definitely has to be an attraction for me. Mentally first which I have been criticised for in the past from guys who can’t understand why that is important to me. I need my mind stimulated. Need to be physically attracted as well. It’s the difference between just going through the motions and being really turned on physically and mentally when you meet I think. Have had disappointments though where you think someone sounds great on paper, then in reality there’s no spark  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of messages a day asking me for sex without seeing my face or having a conversation makes me think attraction isn't all that important for loads of men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup, similar to a few others on the thread, there has to be an initial physical attraction.
I also need to feel some sort of chemistry/connection with the person so a good personality is just as important if you want to make good sex great sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
lothians,scotland(wonderland.down the rabbit hole) lothian |
"The amount of messages a day asking me for sex without seeing my face or having a conversation makes me think attraction isn't all that important for loads of men. "
Yeah thats the feeling i get |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
lothians,scotland(wonderland.down the rabbit hole) lothian |
"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X "
Kissing is a huge part for me too |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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Has to be attraction for us. We’ve been called picky 
However we are quite relaxed in terms of face pics as face pics can’t fully tell you whether you will be attracted to the person. Personality and intellect can play a big part too. |
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"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X
Kissing is a huge part for me too"
Kissing is definitely an underrated thing these days - the effect a good kisser can have is quite something!
I totally agree that attraction is a necessity - there does need to be at least a bit of physical attraction, but a mental attraction/being attracted to someone’s personality and demeanour can have even more of an effect to me |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
lothians,scotland(wonderland.down the rabbit hole) lothian |
"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X
Kissing is a huge part for me too
Kissing is definitely an underrated thing these days - the effect a good kisser can have is quite something!
I totally agree that attraction is a necessity - there does need to be at least a bit of physical attraction, but a mental attraction/being attracted to someone’s personality and demeanour can have even more of an effect to me"
Iv met 1 guy a few times who has nearly made me orgasm thru mostly kissing |
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"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X
Kissing is a huge part for me too
Kissing is definitely an underrated thing these days - the effect a good kisser can have is quite something!
I totally agree that attraction is a necessity - there does need to be at least a bit of physical attraction, but a mental attraction/being attracted to someone’s personality and demeanour can have even more of an effect to me
Iv met 1 guy a few times who has nearly made me orgasm thru mostly kissing"
That’s a totally perfect example of what a good kisser can do then! It can definitely drive me crazy and get me a different level of turned on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X
Kissing is a huge part for me too
Kissing is definitely an underrated thing these days - the effect a good kisser can have is quite something!
I totally agree that attraction is a necessity - there does need to be at least a bit of physical attraction, but a mental attraction/being attracted to someone’s personality and demeanour can have even more of an effect to me
Iv met 1 guy a few times who has nearly made me orgasm thru mostly kissing"
2 guys have done this 2 me x its amazing and erotic and led to some if the best sex i have ever had x |
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Yep 100% need attraction which can lead to some nasty points of view from some people, but you like what you like. Just couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t feel the need to rip their clothes off don’t know how people manage it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely need attention but if good kisser and personality then can Definitely lend to great sex as had 1 women Definitely get me going with her kisses |
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"Just couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t feel the need to rip their clothes off don’t know how people manage it. "
100% agreed. I mean, I think you’re smokin’ hot but if we met up and there was no spark then nothing’s happening. You need that gut-level feeling of ‘fuck yes, right now’. |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Just couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t feel the need to rip their clothes off don’t know how people manage it.
100% agreed. I mean, I think you’re smokin’ hot but if we met up and there was no spark then nothing’s happening. You need that gut-level feeling of ‘fuck yes, right now’."
100% agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t feel the need to rip their clothes off don’t know how people manage it.
100% agreed. I mean, I think you’re smokin’ hot but if we met up and there was no spark then nothing’s happening. You need that gut-level feeling of ‘fuck yes, right now’."
Agreed! |
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Kissing is so important - that connection at its deepest between our lips gives a permission for more( or not). Permission and then exploring is everything. The lips and tongue play the most important part. Chris |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An attraction is needed. I dont think I could even attempt to get an erection without it. That kiss, or the eyes, that just melt away and have you just wanting. If you have both then, this may sound soppy. But it dose it for me. Throw in a sense of humor and a few laughs. Nothing better. If this is you. What are you waiting for lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely need attention but if good kisser and personality then can Definitely lend to great sex as had 1 women Definitely get me going with her kisses "
WOW she must have been some kisser x i know what u mean as 1 guy i had a connection with sent me wild with kisses and sex was hot and amazing x |
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"For me there has to be an attraction to a face for me to want to me or it wont happen. Thats why i very rarely reply if no face is sent. I do feel on here alot of people (mostly go with the any holes a goal)
Whats everyones views"
Erm.. Didn't you intimate that a female glory hole sounds fun? Are you planning to have a sneaky wee peek? Watch no get poked in the eye!  |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
lothians,scotland(wonderland.down the rabbit hole) lothian |
"For me there has to be an attraction to a face for me to want to me or it wont happen. Thats why i very rarely reply if no face is sent. I do feel on here alot of people (mostly go with the any holes a goal)
Whats everyones views
Erm.. Didn't you intimate that a female glory hole sounds fun? Are you planning to have a sneaky wee peek? Watch no get poked in the eye! "
I did say it sounds fun. Didnt say id do it. The fact that some1 is on the door .so no 1 goes in that u dont want to go in is a good idea . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely need attention but if good kisser and personality then can Definitely lend to great sex as had 1 women Definitely get me going with her kisses
WOW she must have been some kisser x i know what u mean as 1 guy i had a connection with sent me wild with attention and sex was hot and amazing x "
Definitely was a good kisser and definitely get my attention as there is a definite attraction with her both mind and body as well as the kisses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction to other men or couples is a must for me (Sharon) too. I could never let someone play with me if I was cringing over their looks.
Face pictures missing from messages get deleted and couples blocked if they can not provide a recent face picture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Impossible to engage with a woman unless we click personality wise and she is,what I think is, physically and facially attractive.
I assume women feel the same about men? |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
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"Def an attraction needed wether thats facially or after chatting but when it comes to kissing i can be immed turned off if its not good.
Kissing is a major turn on to me. X
Kissing is a huge part for me too
Kissing is definitely an underrated thing these days - the effect a good kisser can have is quite something!
I totally agree that attraction is a necessity - there does need to be at least a bit of physical attraction, but a mental attraction/being attracted to someone’s personality and demeanour can have even more of an effect to me
Iv met 1 guy a few times who has nearly made me orgasm thru mostly kissing"
Send him my way haha! Sharing is caring  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Impossible to engage with a woman unless we click personality wise and she is,what I think is, physically and facially attractive.
I assume women feel the same about men?"
Yup  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A physical attraction is the starter for 10 imho. Mental stimulation and personality complete it.
Nothing worse than not being able to have a conversation or sitting at a table with awkward silence and it's all dull as dishwater.
We are all different it's what makes things interesting.
We all have a biological need but the mental need requires satisfaction too |
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I would assume that most if not all people are the same. The problem is that most profiles don't and won't show their faces, yet they expect to see who is messaging them. A lot of people on here need to get a grip, and show what they are expecting from others. |
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I like to have a social meet first if possible as I like to chat.
There has to be an attraction and I'm just not looking for another notch on the bedpost.
I do like kissing and think that it is essential. |
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A lot of couples on here only put pics of female on their profile, we are looking for hot couples we are attracted too not just females and it's hard. Guys in relationships seem to think they don't need to make an effort as they have a female to look good for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of couples on here only put pics of female on their profile, we are looking for hot couples we are attracted too not just females and it's hard. Guys in relationships seem to think they don't need to make an effort as they have a female to look good for them "
Think it's more to do with guys feeling self conscious about how they look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Vast majority of couples profiles my impression is that the women have more nuts than their partners who are total bottlers. Both should be displaying their “talent”
Before I get slagged off I’ve been on here in couple mode and always a 50/50 split pics wise |
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You know… I’m a handsome man, and even ladies who some might consider not their type or “unattractive” … actually give me the best sex because the banter outweighs attraction and you don’t notice the little things. It’s why I like to believe I am not shallow like the OP here |
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"What's shallow about wanting tae be attracted tae someone I'm confused more a preference really and having self respect imo"
Not giving people a chance based on their looks. I think it’s pretty narrow minded but I understand everyone is different. Just my opinion Mr hero |
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"What's shallow about wanting tae be attracted tae someone I'm confused more a preference really and having self respect imo"
Self respect??? Yeah I know, a good looking guy like yourself can pick and choose. No mingers for you eh? |
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OK personality is why friends exist though everyone has there preferences but my opinion is you lack self respect for yourself if you'll sleep with someone your not attracted to just due to being able to laugh and talk wasn't being a hero doing what you did yourself personally and voiced my opinion |
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Bro did I say I was good looking ? Nope!! Thing is I just show myself as am at a age I don't care and saves the whole having to exchange a face pic straight up at least a lady can see if there's no attraction and skip me by saves us both time rather than trying to chat/laugh a lass into bed I hope if she don't find me attractive well we already got a connection |
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"Bro did I say I was good looking ? Nope!! Thing is I just show myself as am at a age I don't care and saves the whole having to exchange a face pic straight up at least a lady can see if there's no attraction and skip me by saves us both time rather than trying to chat/laugh a lass into bed I hope if she don't find me attractive well we already got a connection "
Well you certainly won’t laugh them into like that Mr Serious  |
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"Each to there own pal least you don't lack self confidence so fair play tae you bud "
I’m the most sexiest guy here according to me but if we go with the majority of the site I would be diagnosed with delusions of grandeur |
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"Bro did I say I was good looking ? Nope!! Thing is I just show myself as am at a age I don't care and saves the whole having to exchange a face pic straight up at least a lady can see if there's no attraction and skip me by saves us both time rather than trying to chat/laugh a lass into bed I hope if she don't find me attractive well we already got a connection "
My guess is what you consider attractive will vary on how long it has been since you got your end away. Its a good strategy though not to sound too desperate the forum. |
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Tbh not really pal left a lassies house a few weeks back as wasnt attracted I was nice about like made the old got be somewhere excuse and that was me quite a while without sex let's say so for me personally it don't vary good theory but |
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"Tbh not really pal left a lassies house a few weeks back as wasnt attracted I was nice about like made the old got be somewhere excuse and that was me quite a while without sex let's say so for me personally it don't vary good theory but "
So sticking to the strategy then. Best of luck. |
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"Yes for us similar type of people
And most people have a preference
Shape size age etc
I see PPL with 100s of meets
It's not for me/us
Shag anything that moves
No thanks "
Just because people have loads veris doesn't mean they just shag anything that moves, sounds a bit neive. I'm sure most will have standards and if alot of people meet those standards then why shouldn't they. Life's too short not to enjoy meeting people from all walks of life and experience all sorts of fuckery and of course since its swinging that can includes loads veris from socialising also  |
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"Yes for us similar type of people
And most people have a preference
Shape size age etc
I see PPL with 100s of meets
It's not for me/us
Shag anything that moves
No thanks
Just because people have loads veris doesn't mean they just shag anything that moves, sounds a bit neive. I'm sure most will have standards and if alot of people meet those standards then why shouldn't they. Life's too short not to enjoy meeting people from all walks of life and experience all sorts of fuckery and of course since its swinging that can includes loads veris from socialising also "
Absolutely. I would have thought those with loads of veris would be those in most demand??? I think some may be a little jealous of the attention others get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction however we get huge numbers telling us they want to meet us before even knowing what we look like, it’s pretty off putting tbh.
Could never want to meet someone before knowing if we’re attracted but it’s just the way it is here I guess |
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There was a time I’d attend a certain popular club and see rows of bodies that lived by that, “Any holes a goal” mantra like it was the 11th commandment.
Frankly, more often than not it looked like pigs fighting each other shoulder to shoulder at a troth.
Then… Literally, moments later. They couldn’t even look the woman in the face, because (with respect) the level of attraction was in the basement…
It’s how “some” feel they have to play it. |
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By *at me drink me OP Woman
over a year ago
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I think alot of people see the site as an "easy"sex site. Dont have to make an effort dont have to show face treat women like esscor×× then take the huff when women say no. For me its like kinky tinder. No like no lighty .i want attraction i want chemistry i want the guy woman or couple to be attracted to me i want to feel wanted sexually. .thats alot of i wants but sex is fun naughty dirty kinky and i want to share that experience with people who WANT to share it with me not people who just want to use abuse and fill a hole |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"There was a time I’d attend a certain popular club and see rows of bodies that lived by that, “Any holes a goal” mantra like it was the 11th commandment.
Frankly, more often than not it looked like pigs fighting each other shoulder to shoulder at a troth.
Then… Literally, moments later. They couldn’t even look the woman in the face, because (with respect) the level of attraction was in the basement…
It’s how “some” feel they have to play it."
There's a lot of woman and couples that go to clubs and spend the evening picking guys, minimal chat , and off they go. They are not interested in chatting after , they are on to the next guy..
Not much difference really ... |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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"There was a time I’d attend a certain popular club and see rows of bodies that lived by that, “Any holes a goal” mantra like it was the 11th commandment.
Frankly, more often than not it looked like pigs fighting each other shoulder to shoulder at a troth.
Then… Literally, moments later. They couldn’t even look the woman in the face, because (with respect) the level of attraction was in the basement…
It’s how “some” feel they have to play it."
Haven’t been to a club but you’re really selling the whole ‘club experience’ to us with your vivid description.
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"There was a time I’d attend a certain popular club and see rows of bodies that lived by that, “Any holes a goal” mantra like it was the 11th commandment.
Frankly, more often than not it looked like pigs fighting each other shoulder to shoulder at a troth.
Then… Literally, moments later. They couldn’t even look the woman in the face, because (with respect) the level of attraction was in the basement…
It’s how “some” feel they have to play it."
Are you telling me now that orgies are somehow sub moral, the participants are pigs and only your sort of sex is acceptable? Mt guess is you probably weren't invited to join in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me there has to be an attraction to a face for me to want to me or it wont happen. Thats why i very rarely reply if no face is sent. I do feel on here alot of people (mostly go with the any holes a goal)
Whats everyones views"
Personally I gave up that kind of carry on years ago. Getting people just to meet up in the first place is the hardest battle but if I meet up and the attraction is non existent then I’ll be polite thank them and wish them all the best.
Some of us can control ourselves but getting a good seeing to with like minded is great  |
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"100% in agreement which is why i d always have a social first to see if we click and fancy each other it’s more than any hole will do people should go to other sites for that in my view "
100% agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely needs to be a physical attraction and even more past that! Personality can be attractive or even unattractive in some cases.. if even the most beautiful person has an ugly personality then this can then make this person physically unattractive too if that makes sense |
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