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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield 
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received "
Best advice I can give is to not take not getting a reply to heart. Message whoever you think might be a good match for you, try and put some effort into the messages and hope for the best.
Sometimes you get a reply but I find 90% of my effort is in vain. But when that happens I don't harass or turn into a dick.
Basically, if you wouldn't say it to someone in a bar in public, don't say it in DMs here.
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received "
You can hotlist anyone you want and they don't know you’ve done it (unless you start fabbing their pics within seconds of them posting them  ) take your time, read profiles, no answer/message deleted means they aren't interested, read to unread could mean they are too busy to answer right now...don't bombard with the same message or seconds later this ????? because you got no reply.. enjoy the site, but remember you're not guaranteed anything  |
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response "
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When you joined, what did you think would be the best way of going about finding a woman to meet?"
I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
Best advice I can give is to not take not getting a reply to heart. Message whoever you think might be a good match for you, try and put some effort into the messages and hope for the best.
Sometimes you get a reply but I find 90% of my effort is in vain. But when that happens I don't harass or turn into a dick.
Basically, if you wouldn't say it to someone in a bar in public, don't say it in DMs here.
Best of luck."
Nice one, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
You can hotlist anyone you want and they don't know you’ve done it (unless you start fabbing their pics within seconds of them posting them ) take your time, read profiles, no answer/message deleted means they aren't interested, read to unread could mean they are too busy to answer right now...don't bombard with the same message or seconds later this ????? because you got no reply.. enjoy the site, but remember you're not guaranteed anything "
That’s brilliant! Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Take some time to read a profile. Think about what it says and if you'd be a match for what theyre looking for then send a message and ask a few questions and tell someone about yourself. Chat a little then if it feel like next progressions friend request, ask.
I don't use the wink button so no idea there. I use the hot list to add people if like to chat to or meet soon. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics "
Thank you again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Take some time to read a profile. Think about what it says and if you'd be a match for what theyre looking for then send a message and ask a few questions and tell someone about yourself. Chat a little then if it feel like next progressions friend request, ask.
I don't use the wink button so no idea there. I use the hot list to add people if like to chat to or meet soon. "
Thanks, that’s what I’ve been doing pretty much so hopefully I’m on the right track |
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By *BCxCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received "
My best piece of advice is not to Copy and Paste a generic message like- 'I think you have a really nice ass' when none of the public pics are of their ass or maybe don't even have pics.
Like others have said single females can get 100+ messages a day so don't take it to heart if you don't hear back. Sometimes it could just be good timing that works!
Cx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
My best piece of advice is not to Copy and Paste a generic message like- 'I think you have a really nice ass' when none of the public pics are of their ass or maybe don't even have pics.
Like others have said single females can get 100+ messages a day so don't take it to heart if you don't hear back. Sometimes it could just be good timing that works!
Cx"
Thanks! I definitely try to make any messages I send personal to the profile of the person I’m sending to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely all off above, great advice from some.
Only send friend request if been chatting a while as a lot of people have friends only photos of face etc.
You are honest and state your married but understand that does put some singles and couples off unless your wife is aware and day time meets are hard for most people so a lot won’t reply if this is all you can manage.
Profile states straight but a lot of your photos are bum etc so this will no doubt get a lot of attention from men and in my opinion I don’t want to see a man on the toilet on here, no matter the circumstances
Best of luck and yeah just enjoy it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely all off above, great advice from some.
Only send friend request if been chatting a while as a lot of people have friends only photos of face etc.
You are honest and state your married but understand that does put some singles and couples off unless your wife is aware and day time meets are hard for most people so a lot won’t reply if this is all you can manage.
Profile states straight but a lot of your photos are bum etc so this will no doubt get a lot of attention from men and in my opinion I don’t want to see a man on the toilet on here, no matter the circumstances
Best of luck and yeah just enjoy it"
Appreciate the comments and I wasn’t thinking that about my pics! I’ll have an edit
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The fact you’re married you will struggle with many women on here so defo read the profiles before you message "
Fair point and I understand that.
Thanks for the comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some great points mentioned above, but just wanted to say that your profile already looks better or more
complete than most of the blank/low-effort men’s profiles on here. So you’re not off to the worst of starts! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some great points mentioned above, but just wanted to say that your profile already looks better or more
complete than most of the blank/low-effort men’s profiles on here. So you’re not off to the worst of starts! "
Thanks, appreciate that
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sending friends invites without talking to the person looks like your collecting photos, we get a fair amount of friends invites without the person speaking to us, they get blocked. "
Yeah I get that now. Wouldn’t send a request until after a lot of chat and it seems appropriate |
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Have patience
Be polite and respectful, take part in the forums as people get to know you that way, ask to join a social when they are advertised it’s a good way to meet people in a relaxed atmosphere
If you don’t expect too much from the site you won’t be disappointed and maybe even surprised when things do happen
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have patience
Be polite and respectful, take part in the forums as people get to know you that way, ask to join a social when they are advertised it’s a good way to meet people in a relaxed atmosphere
If you don’t expect too much from the site you won’t be disappointed and maybe even surprised when things do happen
Good luck xx"
Good advice and thanks for replying. Much appreciated |
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics "
That's what I'll do. Ask first, that way you definitely won't annoyed anyone! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics
That's what I'll do. Ask first, that way you definitely won't annoyed anyone!"
Definitely the way ahead! |
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics
That's what I'll do. Ask first, that way you definitely won't annoyed anyone!"
Your private message to me is not going to get you a perv at my friends only pics |
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"I thought like other social media you would add friends but then I saw that didn’t seem to be the done thing. I’ve sent a few messages but realise ladies get loads of this on here so I know I might not get any response
I normally ask first before I send a friend invite, also it's to guys I've been chatting to, I won't send randoms an invite unless I'm on a perving mission and want to see their friends only pics
That's what I'll do. Ask first, that way you definitely won't annoyed anyone!
Your private message to me is not going to get you a perv at my friends only pics "
Your call, I can take rejection. More than used to it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received "
We are relatively new to this as a couple, but J has been on here with a single profile and has a bit more experience than me in all things internet dating etc related! I still feel very naive and finding my feet with how it all works. Just take your time reading through profiles, don’t be shy about messaging anyone who catches your eye, put some effort into your profile, and don’t worry about politely declining anyone who isn’t for you.
Good luck!
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
We are relatively new to this as a couple, but J has been on here with a single profile and has a bit more experience than me in all things internet dating etc related! I still feel very naive and finding my feet with how it all works. Just take your time reading through profiles, don’t be shy about messaging anyone who catches your eye, put some effort into your profile, and don’t worry about politely declining anyone who isn’t for you.
Good luck!
Mrs"
Thank you for your comments and glad to hear it’s not just me that finds it a bit overwhelming. Hope it all works out well for you and you get to have some fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
We are relatively new to this as a couple, but J has been on here with a single profile and has a bit more experience than me in all things internet dating etc related! I still feel very naive and finding my feet with how it all works. Just take your time reading through profiles, don’t be shy about messaging anyone who catches your eye, put some effort into your profile, and don’t worry about politely declining anyone who isn’t for you.
Good luck!
Mrs
Thank you for your comments and glad to hear it’s not just me that finds it a bit overwhelming. Hope it all works out well for you and you get to have some fun x"
I’m sure there’s lots of fun to be had out there, it’s just taking time to get to know people who are on the same wavelength as you, and want the same things. We aren’t generally up for random meets, we’d prefer to get to know people a bit first, which isn’t for everyone. J is better at browsing for profiles that catch our eye, I enjoy chatting on the forums and doing most of the messaging…just go with the flow and don’t take it personally if you don’t get winks back or replies to messages
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, still quite new to this so looking for some pointers please. Jumped in when I joined and sent a few friend requests. Now realise that’s not done (sorry if you got one). When do they get sent? When do you send a wink? Is it only friends you can hotlist? So many questions! It’s a minefield
All advice gratefully received
We are relatively new to this as a couple, but J has been on here with a single profile and has a bit more experience than me in all things internet dating etc related! I still feel very naive and finding my feet with how it all works. Just take your time reading through profiles, don’t be shy about messaging anyone who catches your eye, put some effort into your profile, and don’t worry about politely declining anyone who isn’t for you.
Good luck!
Mrs
Thank you for your comments and glad to hear it’s not just me that finds it a bit overwhelming. Hope it all works out well for you and you get to have some fun x
I’m sure there’s lots of fun to be had out there, it’s just taking time to get to know people who are on the same wavelength as you, and want the same things. We aren’t generally up for random meets, we’d prefer to get to know people a bit first, which isn’t for everyone. J is better at browsing for profiles that catch our eye, I enjoy chatting on the forums and doing most of the messaging…just go with the flow and don’t take it personally if you don’t get winks back or replies to messages
Mrs"
Good stuff, thanks again x |
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