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Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta 
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By *esLibertinesCouple
over a year ago
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
C x"
There is no pressure at all.
The venue is two floors, the ground floor is a "social area" like a normal pub or bar where the people just chatting to know each other.
The other floor is the playing area.
So you'll perfectly at your ease at ground floor. |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol  "
See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol
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We are still very new to the clubs aswell and only been to CJs twice but the twice we have been everybody was really friendly and we have had 2 great nights, there’s no pressure to play at all we never played the 1st time we went just enjoyed the night. Just take the plunge and you won’t look back, don’t go with any expectations and you won’t be disappointed |
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over a year ago
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I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. |
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over a year ago
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. "
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "
We are relatively new and don’t find chatting to people we don’t know easy but we love cjs and there is no posse everyone is friendly ! |
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CJs is one of the least threatening social environments we know. Since we started attending, less than a year ago we have had many wonderful visits, made some serious friends and never felt judged or intimidated as you might in a vanilla environment. CJs caters for all. Shy couples, insecure singles, LGBTQ(xyz) - everybody!
Come along and say hello  |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
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We had our very first experience of the scene courtesy of a night in CJs. We cannot recommend them enough. There were definitely a few nerves in the taxi on the way there but as soon as we arrived, we were immediately at ease. The team are amazing and after the tour, we got chatting to some other party goers. Everyone was so lovely and there was never any pressure felt at all. If you're thinking about going, get the email sent in to book   |
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over a year ago
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We have been to cjs a few times... whoever this 'clique" is...we are yet to find out.
Everyone is super friendly, we have never came across anyone who we felt was rude and the single men do tend to be respectful. We have always had a great night, and I (wife) have always felt completely safe. Now we are going in and saying hello and hugging people we have chatted to on previous visits and always have a great time getting to know new faces!
Caroline and her staff are incredible! We were there on Saturday, and I took a bit of a funny turn at the end of the night, felt a bit faint. Caroline instantly got me water and got my husband for me... After that I was given a cup of tea and a home made bit of caramel cake, then another couple we have met on the few times we have been, kindly took us home.
Hopefully that sums up just what cjs is like!
Always had the best time visiting!!
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"We have been to cjs a few times... whoever this 'clique" is...we are yet to find out.
Everyone is super friendly, we have never came across anyone who we felt was rude and the single men do tend to be respectful. We have always had a great night, and I (wife) have always felt completely safe. Now we are going in and saying hello and hugging people we have chatted to on previous visits and always have a great time getting to know new faces!
Caroline and her staff are incredible! We were there on Saturday, and I took a bit of a funny turn at the end of the night, felt a bit faint. Caroline instantly got me water and got my husband for me... After that I was given a cup of tea and a home made bit of caramel cake, then another couple we have met on the few times we have been, kindly took us home.
Hopefully that sums up just what cjs is like!
Always had the best time visiting!!
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And the nuts are free! |
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over a year ago
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"And the nuts are free!"
Yes they are! But you have to eat the whole ones first!!! The game was upped on Saturday though...we even got skittles and Crisps!! We were spoiled!! |
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
C x"
I am going along on Saturday for the second time. No plan, agenda or optimism |
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
C x"
You've nothing to worry about. I'm the least confident person in the world, and I've always felt comfortable there.
There's a friendly crowd and absolutely no pressure to do anything. You'll have an enjoyable time if you go, I'm sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
C x"
Hello, it is entirely normal to feel this way even in a day to day social meet. I havent attended CJs but have only read good things about it. I used to be so anxious goin to meets and events but have met so many genuine and lovely people at all kinds of meets and events (lots of amazing sex and stories too) and now its just a heap of fun. I'm sure you both will have a great time and it would be great to hear how u got on? Cheers |
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CJ’s is great when we went we met a couple for a social first (usually a post on here with people saying where they will be) and it got us “over the door” easier as we where both really nervous!
as soon as we where over the door nerves gone and it was just like a normal night out with the bonus of play rooms up stairs.
Go with 0 expectation that you will play and if you feel comfortable enough and do play then it’s a bonus! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my girlfriend are also thinking of going for the first time if you want we could have a chat maybe go together obviously no pressure but least we would be in numbers going for the first time lol could meet for a drink before hand drop us a message x |
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
C x"
"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "
When we first went, we went direct to CJs, and we saw there are clicks for sure in certain groups. But that's maybe because folk feel relaxed with each other.
Since then we goto the pre socials and have enjoyed CJs much more as your already relaxed and have spoken to some people.
Was at fancy dress night at the weekend and it was a great night.
There is no desire for yous to play on your first night, use it as a social evening if you like.
Staff are also really good.
Feel free to message us with any Questions
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We are going along for our first ever visit to CJs (and indeed any club) on Saturday 9th as it's couples and females only night. We think that probably a good place to start and are looking forward to it. |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
No need to pm me, you can say what you wish here.
I’m gutted I never got a PM I mean I regard myself as one of the furniture in cjs  "
Been twice this year. My posse must be lonely without me |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
No need to pm me, you can say what you wish here.
I’m gutted I never got a PM I mean I regard myself as one of the furniture in cjs
Been twice this year. My posse must be lonely without me "
Defo I’m missing you loads xx |
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"CJ’s is great when we went we met a couple for a social first (usually a post on here with people saying where they will be) and it got us “over the door” easier as we where both really nervous!
as soon as we where over the door nerves gone and it was just like a normal night out with the bonus of play rooms up stairs.
Go with 0 expectation that you will play and if you feel comfortable enough and do play then it’s a bonus! "
Was reading this excited to see something like “met some great people there” but nope…  ha ha ha.
It’s a great night out and as always it is what you make it. As Mr G says go with zero expectations and a willingness to chat to people and amazing times can be had. X |
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"How often do they hold coupled only evenings?"
If you have a look at the clubs website there’s info there on dates but usually 2 a month for couples & single F nights.
Good one is the Fun for All nights but single M spaces get booked up quickly.
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol
C x"
Definitely get yourself along to pre-drinks or social event which tend to be on the same night as the club nights.
I sometimes sit with friends but Ian & I make a point of talking to new folk and aren’t stuck to each other all night so it makes it easier for folk to chat.
Millie |
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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol
C x"
We have attended cjs a few times and our 1st time was super welcoming we didn't feel that there was any groups yes some ppl know each other but my advise if to just say hello to peeps we have always found 99% of ppl very chatty and nice |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you! |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!"
This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle.
People get confused with cliques and friends
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We would like to go but having never been, we've no idea what to expect other than what's going on in this thread.
What time does it open and what time does the fun usually start? What's the closing time?
Need to organise a baby sitter and taxi. |
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over a year ago
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Parties run from 9pm until 2am, and there are usually pre-drinks organised beforehand to meet people.
We’ve been twice. The first time, pre-pandemic, we were too intimidated to talk to anyone, and ended up just playing by ourselves in an open room (which led people to talk to us, but only at the very end of the night).
Second time, which was June’s couples and women night, we chatted to people and made some friends, and had some very fun times with several other couples. Best advice really is to just dive in, chat, and if all else fails go and play in an open room and try to be clear that it’s okay for people to join you (if that’s what you want!).
We’ll be back on the 9th. If any new couples or women want to chat to us, drop us a message here.
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By *inkyCJWoman
over a year ago
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If you look at my profile all the dates are advertised on there. There is one couples & females only nights a month usually the second weekend of the month. If you would like more info then please message me on here and happy to answer any questions. Cj xx |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!
This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle.
People get confused with cliques and friends
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See I can be very shy if I don't know anyone and I think this might be part of my issue lol I think I'm going tk have to make a friend before we go haha mr is fine he can talk to anyone but I'm a lot more reserved than him
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We're occasional visitors to CJs and whether it was when I was alone or with my partner it's always been a friendly and welcoming place, I've never felt uncomfortable there.
I do think some people confuse 'cliques' with 'groups of friends' though, so don't put too much stock in that.
Take the plunge, go with no expectations and I'm sure you'll have a great time |
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!
This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle.
People get confused with cliques and friends
See I can be very shy if I don't know anyone and I think this might be part of my issue lol I think I'm going tk have to make a friend before we go haha mr is fine he can talk to anyone but I'm a lot more reserved than him
C x"
A good icebreaker is to perhaps compliment someone on their outfit, or tell them they seem to know their way around and could they give you some first timer pointers, much as you've done here.
We also usually advertise that we are attending and try to get chatting to people beforehand so you know there will be someone to chat to! |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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The bar and the kitchen are usually good places to start a chat.
Chatting on the forums is also good as people get to know you before meeting up.
I do sometimes arrange socials before Fun for all nights along with No Shrinking Violet but we don’t go to all of them.
There’s no such thing as a silly question so feel free to ask it here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi all.
After reading all the messages here. It's made me feel a little more at ease. Will be attending CJ's on Saturday on my own. Was getting a little nervous as it's my 1st time on the scene.  |
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves.
Put on your big boy pants and go yourself "
100% this I don’t understand why guys keep
Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night. |
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves.
Put on your big boy pants and go yourself
100% this I don’t understand why guys keep
Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night. "
There is another reason or two as to why they want to go in with a female. 1 - so they can get into the couples room (which is out of bounds to single guys!) and 2 - it's cheaper for guys to pay the couples price.
Who the heck are they fooling? I don't believe any man who says they can't go into a club by themselves  |
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Thanks so much everyone, defo made this less daunting lol hopefully it might be something we can do when we come back our holidays and hopefully by then maybe know a few wee faces aswell before we go lol
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves.
Put on your big boy pants and go yourself
100% this I don’t understand why guys keep
Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night.
There is another reason or two as to why they want to go in with a female. 1 - so they can get into the couples room (which is out of bounds to single guys!) and 2 - it's cheaper for guys to pay the couples price.
Who the heck are they fooling? I don't believe any man who says they can't go into a club by themselves "
Me either and I have done plenty of times |
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I went as a single women back in April to the couples and single women night and really enjoyed it .
Very safe ,very welcoming , I like the no phones policies and that they check the play rooms and activities regularly just in case of any issues .
I was even given a lift back to my hotel as there was no taxis and they didn’t want me waiting around alone .
Only thing for me was it was mainly couples so I may try an all for everyone night next time but def will return sometime soon .
No pressure to do anything at all felt in full control .
I d say go for it and if I m free I may join you too |
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play?
I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious
Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol
Ta
Happy to answer any questions if you mail me
C x"
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week.
What’s the best night to go please?
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You're best to check what dates that it's open on CJ's profile because its only open certain nights. Look for KinkyCJ or check the website to see what's on and when.  C x |
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week.
What’s the best night to go please?
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My vote goes for a Fun For All night, however check the upcoming events as previously mentioned, and see if any of the nights appeal to you. |
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week.
What’s the best night to go please?
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Saturday this week is couples and single women only, so if you want to go as a single man, it’ll need to be another evening. |
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week.
What’s the best night to go please?
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Couples and single females this Saturday so
You’re outta luck there check cjs profile for dates |
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You will love Cjs. Everyone was once walking in for the first time, having the same nerves.
People will go out their way to say hi, but like chatting online, you sometimes have to break the ice with a "hello, it's out first night".
There will be people there purely for social, and there is never any pressure to head up stairs.
I hope you guys go, I hope you enjoy yourself, because we all need a night out now and again.
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "
Well as a complete outsider and southerner lol, I've never been alienated, nor have I noticed any posse on our visits.
I've always felt welcome, and everyone has always been polite and spoken to me at some point during the night.
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