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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that. |
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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I've had that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that. "
No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.
What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable |
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh  "
Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up |
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that.
No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.
What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable "
They probably hoped that you would agree to meet without him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that.
No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.
What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable "
I don't think I'm missing the point I understood what you wrote, they where being honest in their reply as to not meeting yous you didn't like that response, simple as that, happens alot of times on fab.
Block them and move on |
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh
Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up"
I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t think the couple said anything wrong. Very often here if you just say no thanks there’s a flurry of “but why” questions. They were direct not insulting in my opinion and perhaps they have found it’s best to be so. You were offended, that’s also your prerogative. As often said though one needs a thickish skin here. |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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I get it, a polite no thanks would have sufficed.
Through probably they reading this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh
Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up
I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered "
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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you are perhaps being a wee bit sensitive by the delivery of the message .
There were other ways of saying thanks but no thanks without it coming in the form it did but perhaps the couple prefer to say outright why they do not wish to meet . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once had a couple message me and when I declined their invite I was asked which one of them was putting me off 
Pmsl please tell me you said both
I asked what answer they'd be happy with  "
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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a bit harsh but that's fab for you at times. Ironically we met him on Friday night and he's a charming fellow. |
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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh
Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up
I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered "
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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago
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Personally we have never had that message yet but in reality we believe some chats have faltered because 1 of us isn't their type and believe both us have been the reason before. You can't be everyone's type so chin up and onwards
Fab really can be a roller coaster sometimes with the highs and lows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd agree with you, there's more tactful ways of saying it. Saying you're not for them is totally fine but singling one person out as the reason is unnecessary. |
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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago
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We have had it too normally comes down to hubbies hight it would be much nicer to say as a cpl We don't feel your a good fit for us xx we have met your male half and he's an absolute gentleman BTW |
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh
Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up"
You ve pretty much summed up why folk thing your being over sensitive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say "you're not for me thanks", leaving the comment open to interpretation as to which half of the couple, or if neither floated my host.
If they persisted, I'd then rip the plaster and point out which one was a munter. |
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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Just you being sensitive. It seems you want the truth but delivered in a way that doesn't hurt your feelings. Or hurt your partners ego more to the point. |
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"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.
To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive
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I definitely think you're being over sensitive.
To explain why, I'd say that as a single male (and it's probably the same for females) whe I get a rejection, or if someone doesn't reply, the the other person's reason for that is down to me, whether it's my looks, personality etc. Therefore I'm essentially being singled out in the same way your hubby is, I don't see the issue with this and I think that if you're going to put yourself out there, you need to be ready for the rejection.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on
To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh "
Wish I could post the Michael Jackson eating popcorn meme right now |
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Tbh your profile doesn’t give much away in terms of what you’re looking for, you may very well be part of a couple who also play alone and they were putting it out there that you’re most welcome to play with them or the female half of the couple. tad insensitive maybe but hey it’s fab |
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