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By *allGentleman72 OP Man over a year ago

Livingston

Hi All , I am a married man. I don’t get very much sex at home but also don’t want to leave due to commitments. There are so many in the same boat ,so I would love to share thoughts , desires and basically anything else with married men and women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All , I am a married man. I don’t get very much sex at home but also don’t want to leave due to commitments. There are so many in the same boat ,so I would love to share thoughts , desires and basically anything else with married men and women.

I believe communication is essential, speak to your wife and see what she thinks about it

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By *allGentleman72 OP Man over a year ago

Livingston

I have tried and failed , I don’t blame her at all.

It’s simple our desires are very different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sadly i am in the same boat. I have been a rogue in our marriage and had a choice to stay or go. The lady i was having the affair with was quite simply awesome in bed, beyond comprehension what level of sexual desire we could get to but then i thought of home, kids, wife and broke up. I confessed all and whilst it has been great for family life i am living a purgatory of no sex, limited physical contact and this is why i am here. I may never play away again but the thought that someone found me attractive enough from a few pictures to talk to is something. I dont regret my decision, my kids are doing great but it is a bit crap tbh as i want my wife but it is clearly not going to happen!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sadly i am in the same boat. I have been a rogue in our marriage and had a choice to stay or go. The lady i was having the affair with was quite simply awesome in bed, beyond comprehension what level of sexual desire we could get to but then i thought of home, kids, wife and broke up. I confessed all and whilst it has been great for family life i am living a purgatory of no sex, limited physical contact and this is why i am here. I may never play away again but the thought that someone found me attractive enough from a few pictures to talk to is something. I dont regret my decision, my kids are doing great but it is a bit crap tbh as i want my wife but it is clearly not going to happen! "

“I have been a rogue in our marriage”

“The lady i was having the affair with was quite simply awesome in bed, beyond comprehension what level of sexual desire we could get to”

“i am living a purgatory of no sex”

This forum is utterly amazing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love my wife but sex life non existent (yes we have discussed it)and she doesn't know I am on here because it would probably break our marriage up.I have not met anyone on here yet so not experienced in this.What I will say is people are quick to judge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love my wife but sex life non existent (yes we have discussed it)and she doesn't know I am on here because it would probably break our marriage up.I have not met anyone on here yet so not experienced in this.What I will say is people are quick to judge."

See if you have discussed it, not got anywhere and found yourself on here is it not maybe best to end the thing?

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

If any of you are hoping to get some sex from here, you're probably best to keep your woes to yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If any of you are hoping to get some sex from here, you're probably best to keep your woes to yourself "

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Let the people speak!

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By *lderChick65Woman over a year ago

my town

Everyone is on fab for different reasons wheather married or single some will condemn married pple some wont ...best not to go on too much oh i dont get enough at home line as most wont take kindly to that

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

I was never married ,but inna long term relationship, her sex drive was Tiny, but she was a wondeful woman.

qfter 20+ years i ended the realtionship, now i am ENM and the women i see/date all j ow of my past and accept/understand why i am here.

I recommend to all the poor married men either suck it up or leave.

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By *OSCCOSMITH69Man over a year ago

glasgow

Get help…

I took my then ex wife to sex theoropies and talked through our issue wirh a 3rd party rather than being degraded that i want sex more than once a month…

It worked really well went back to having sex like we where teenagers again for about 3 months but then slowly it went back to the same way and she add mighted that it was her sex drive now we challenge each other to provide more sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep my wife’s sex drive out your fucking mouth!

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By *ustyWoman over a year ago

inverclyde

Married guys if wife don't know at all about you being on here even if in a sexless/loveless marriage its to me still cheating ...sort it or get out of it. As if wife finds out then its over...just my opinion. I was in a controlling marriage not at first but as it got worse i decided to get out and took my daughter never been happier x

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By *oyeur 777Man over a year ago

glasgow

I'm recently separated from my long term wife.

Over the years I've caught her speaking/sexting other guys, even one that we see personally know that has been in our home. Sending and receiving videos with them and that is why I turned to fab.

You'll note that I'm on here as a voyeur as I don't really want to have full sex with someone because I would class that as cheating and taking it too far but I also think that she has crossed the boundaries of our relationship many times over and keeps denying it has happened

There are grown up children involved and it absolutely kills me everyday that I'm not there with my family.

I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes married men aren't on here to cheat on wives, it might just be a case of what's good enough for the goose and some like myself have had enough of their partners constant wandering too.

I totally get that there are a tonne of guys in sexless relationships that can't leave for the sake of the family but don't want to stay either because there is nothing there emotionally in the marriage.

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By *eatheryMan over a year ago

Cupar

My wife knows that I dress and I'm on this forum. It's just a part of me that she doesn't want any part of and I've no problem with that.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!"

Here here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!"

To a Tasman Archer soundtrack.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was a man & a father, in a sexless marriage where I had tried to resolve issues with my wife to no avail, then I'd probably be fucking about as well.

It's not a nice thought. But people are complicated.

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By *ustmethistimeCouple over a year ago

East Midlands

"Married guys if wife don't know at all about you being on here even if in a sexless/loveless marriage its to me still cheating ...sort it or get out of it. As if wife finds out then its over...just my opinion. I was in a controlling marriage not at first but as it got worse i decided to get out and took my daughter never been happier x"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is an interesting thread and topic.

Whilst I’m not sure fabswingers is the place for this, for both men and women, the issue is more common across society I’d imagine. I worked, for a handful of weeks, with individuals with sexual addictions and sexual drives that society would class as deviancy (I’m not saying this is anyone here btw). Most often they were signposted to a Dr Baradhi in Dundee. I’m sure professionals across the psychosexual therapies would be much more help. Give it a Google.

All the best,

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!

To a Tasman Archer soundtrack."

I can't get on board with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!

To a Tasman Archer soundtrack.

I can't get on board with that "

I blame you for the moonlit sky

And the dream that died.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

The world isn’t all diddy rides and blowjobs.

Well it should be!

To a Tasman Archer soundtrack.

I can't get on board with that

I blame you for the moonlit sky

And the dream that died."

Aww diddums

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By *ixenFoxCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"Keep my wife’s sex drive out your fucking mouth!"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep my wife’s sex drive out your fucking mouth!"

That did make me laugh

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

See if you have discussed it, not got anywhere and found yourself on here is it not maybe best to end the thing?"

He still loves his wife so why should he leave? If they’re happy with other aspects of their marriage then there’s no need to rock the boat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

See if you have discussed it, not got anywhere and found yourself on here is it not maybe best to end the thing?

He still loves his wife so why should he leave? If they’re happy with other aspects of their marriage then there’s no need to rock the boat. "

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

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By *ustyWoman over a year ago

inverclyde

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness."

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

Agree to an extent but I think where kids are involved, the man has more to lose. 99% of the time, the kids stay with Mum, so he's not just walking away from a wife, comfort, familiarity. He knows he's going to see less of his kids too. I couldn't do this. I'd probably stay, cheat, feel like a total cunt about it but at least see my kids everyday.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk."

Any decent human being will allow and encourage her kids to see their dad even if he is a dick. Some fathers have even been known to become better dads when they don’t have the mother in the home to take all the parental onus.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk."

Not got any kids do can’t pretend to get where you are coming from but perennial cheating would ruin my mind for any reason I would try and justify it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk.

Not got any kids do can’t pretend to get where you are coming from but perennial cheating would ruin my mind for any reason I would try and justify it."

I'm trying to sound all reasonable and rational but I know he'd be under the patio if he fucked about on me.

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By *ungislanderMan over a year ago

Can you not just start a conversation about swinging together or being in an open relationship? And if it’s not for her and you can’t agree why stay in a unhappy marriage especially if you have kids to look after only they will suffer with unhappy parents together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk.

Yeah, believe that could be the case. But I can appreciate the fear of possibly not being able to see them regularly as a deciding factor in whether I stayed with my wife or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but sounds a bit scared to be alone/out a comfort zone rather than have an attempt at real happiness.

I agree. I think men are less likely to leave a relationship for the unknown because they need the comfort/attachment that their wife provides.

I could be wrong but when speaking to couples that have separated, in my experience, it is mostly the female who has initiated the split or divorce.

No kids involved? Life's too short. Walk.

Unfortunately it's the opposite in quite a lot of situations, kids are weaponised in separation situations. As for other comments about being afraid to be alone I think it's also rarely that reason for not leaving , let's see if any married man on Fab will back up the fact he is scared of being alone so stays put .

I'm not only in agreement with Miss Muff that staying and cheating is a good option in many circumstances but that was my choice too. Having got through the bad times and out the other end we are now stronger and happier that ever before. So nonsense about just leaving if your not happy as the only option is just that, nonsense, and generalising with sweeping statements that does not take into account many complicated situations is what makes it nonsense.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Can you not just start a conversation about swinging together or being in an open relationship? And if it’s not for her and you can’t agree why stay in a unhappy marriage especially if you have kids to look after only they will suffer with unhappy parents together. "

This! Kids are perceptive. By staying together an unhappy couple are teaching their offspring it’s best to just settle instead of living their best life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This! Kids are perceptive. By staying together an unhappy couple are teaching their offspring it’s best to just settle instead of living their best life."

Can't really argue with that. It's just a horrible situation all round. Happily not one I've ever found myself in.

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By *ustmethistimeCouple over a year ago

East Midlands

This! Kids are perceptive. By staying together an unhappy couple are teaching their offspring it’s best to just settle instead of living their best life."

And they leave the kids with a sense of guilt.

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By *andsCouple over a year ago

Edin

Tbh I don’t care about anyone else’s life other than my own, this is a sex site, if you are on here looking to meet why does everyone need to know the reasons why?

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By *ustmethistimeCouple over a year ago

East Midlands

See if you have discussed it, not got anywhere and found yourself on here is it not maybe best to end the thing?

He still loves his wife so why should he leave? If they’re happy with other aspects of their marriage then there’s no need to rock the boat. "

Shouldn't the wife have a say in it as well?

Shouldn't she get to choose whether she is happy with a cheating husband??

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