I was married for 16 years and suffered years of emotional neglect, starved of sex and thought it was normal. That ended in 2011 and I have gone long periods on my own as well as a 3 year relationship where she dumped me twice.
Over the last 2 years I have dated 3 lovely females who I could not have changed anything about, they were perfect. After a while I ended it for no real reason. I went for counselling over the last 3 months to see why I did that, it turned out I was still traumatised by my marriage and had never felt good enough.
I feel absolutely amazing now and totally free of everything. Many men who do what I did get the name of players for such things. I never was but I can totally recommend getting help for anything wrong in your head, some people can’t be helped.
Now I am ready to move on to the next stage of my life, hopefully with a girl open for some adventure.
I just wanted to share this in case it can help 1 person.
Have a brilliant weekend |
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I would say that's your take on things and it does not fit for everyone.
I was in a marriage an open one of sorts because we felt that would work. it didn't we were simply incompatible I've also been in long term relationships and I've even told them at the outset it wouldn't work as I am me and I'm unwilling to change. They don't last.
Talking with a therapist may be good for you defiantly not good for all psycobabblers just infuriate me.
For me it's this simple your either compatible and willing to sacrifice traits and things or your not if your not you gotta be happy in your own skin |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t think people realise how traumatic a break up can be. Many of us have trust issues and find it difficult to form relationships.
Self esteem and confidence take a while to build up again if you’ve been treated badly by a partner. |
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"I don’t think people realise how traumatic a break up can be. Many of us have trust issues and find it difficult to form relationships.
Self esteem and confidence take a while to build up again if you’ve been treated badly by a partner. "
I find it's good friends are hard to find. Maybe it's from moving away from some close ones and not having ability to really bond with people my age because we all have our own lives now. Thank heavens for the Tuesday quiz you little diamond x |
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