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Do your friends know.......?
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Being recently single, I've decided that I want to be as honest to myself and others as possible - hence my detailed profile.
4 unconnected friends now know my sexual inclinations and it's so lovely to be open and honest with them. One even then felt able to tell she had had a FMM experience in the past and you could see the sparkle in her eyeing! I appreciate many here can't live thier lives as openly. But I'm just wondering if others out there have told vanilla friends and how they've reacted.
Any regrets or words of caution?
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A few of our friends know that we go to clubs and like to watch/be watched.
They had the same seedy ideas that we had when we first started out so it’s good to let people know it’s not what they think. |
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Absolutely. I was in a cab on Saturday and God knows why but we were momentarily talking about The Crankies. I said, 'Oh there was always something creepy about that pair'. The cabbie said 'Yer, they're swingers'. My response was 'That's nothing wrong with that - rather a man hanging out with a woman dresses as a school boy....'.
He shot me a glance in the rear view morrow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a topic that comes up in general conversation or something that I feel I need to share.
However a former work colleague confided in me a while back and that led to a discussion about sexuality & related stuff. Otherwise, I tend to keep my business to myself. |
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"No I wouldn't tell my friends or family. It's the one and only secret I have that's not to be shared. It's my business what I do x"
This....a close friend has a habit if disclosing his sexual exploits but its something I don't tell him. |
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By *tagnMrsCouple
over a year ago
Wishaw |
A fair few people know about our lifestyle, friends and some family. If someone asks we don't lie about it, but there are certain people we'd rather not have the conversation with. It's also not public knowledge because then we'd be "that couple", since we still live in a society that believes sexually active people should be frowned upon lol |
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A handful of friends and family know, reactions were very positive and encouraging. It started because I was letting a friend know where I was going (safety reasons) then I told a couple more.
I don’t mind people knowing though dont go out of my way to tell people. Wouldnt tell my sons as they really wouldnt want to know ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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By *unbud3Man
over a year ago
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But we do - certain tattoo either on the inside of the wrist and sometimes on a female ankle. More European known than UK known. Sure google can help more.
Mind you pamper grass might be more fun because I don't have a tattoo ![](/icons/s/eek.gif) |
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"The LGBT have a rainbow We should have something similar so that those who choose ‘can come out’
We can walk about like Morrissey with some pampas grass in our back pocket "
Thought we had moved on to a pineapple ![](/icons/s/2/halo.gif) |
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"The LGBT have a rainbow We should have something similar so that those who choose ‘can come out’
We can walk about like Morrissey with some pampas grass in our back pocket
Thought we had moved on to a pineapple "
The pampas grass thing is a lot of shit! We bought our house 16 years ago and it had it already. So far nothing ![](/icons/s/surprised.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being recently single, I've decided that I want to be as honest to myself and others as possible - hence my detailed profile.
4 unconnected friends now know my sexual inclinations and it's so lovely to be open and honest with them. One even then felt able to tell she had had a FMM experience in the past and you could see the sparkle in her eyeing! I appreciate many here can't live thier lives as openly. But I'm just wondering if others out there have told vanilla friends and how they've reacted.
Any regrets or words of caution?
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A few of my friends know some are in a similar situation. But what surprises me is the amount of folk that think your shagging everything with a pulse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My very best friends know, as we're very open with each other and enjoy healthy discussions about our sex lives/lives in general. They're all mostly in relationships and don't swing but are very supportive and non judgemental.
From a safety standpoint aswell its a comfort to have friends I can count on and can let them know where I am if need be.
Can understand others wanting to keep things to themselves, everyone's different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To my knowledge no-one that I am close to knows other than my ex-fiancé (on very good terms) who has hidden our couples profile for now.
Knowing the friends I have, whilst most are genuinely kind and decent people, they would want to know who I’ve met etc which would not only break the trust of the other person but it would right get on my tits quickly.
Blimey, the messages I get being like “hey man you met ….. was she a good ride” are flippin irritating enough |
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I’m pretty open about my sexuality and preferences as well as being in the bdsm scene 25 years but I have friends who are into the same scene or open minded. I don’t think I could go back to living in the closet about my lifestyle but I would never out anyone or mention what happens between me and another in detail. I try to live by the mantra no shame no guilt ( as long as it’s consensual adults)
Oh and many people on here would be considered part of the lgbtqia+ rainbow ![](/icons/rainbow.png) |
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We were supposed to keep it a secret but at a new year party my gf told her two close friends.
Both were supportive and intrigued and one of them was suppose to come to CJs with us. On the night she pulled out then deleted her fab account. A few weeks later we found out she told everyone and showed them pics from Mrs solo account so we had to change her name and make the pic's less recognisable
I told some of my pals what we're in to but none of them really care and dont ask about it. One did say he would like to but couldn't share his wife
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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago
Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders |
We have told two couples of our best friends. They were ok with it, asked some sensible questions and I don't think it changed anything in our relationships with them. I (mr) have also told a female friend, who was interested and generally ok as well. So it looks like our friends are quite accepting. I don't see any reason to speak about it with anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My sister and 3 friends know im on here and my sexual exploits, 1 of my friends is also a fellow fabber "
She’s a bad influence
As much as no one likes to share details about their sexual life, I personally think it’s a good idea to let at least one person you trust know for safety. As me and E normally message and say “I’m meeting such and such at and where” |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
I’ve only ever told women that I am going to be or might be intimate with (no details) except for one local woman who was hitting on me big time. We were friends but I wasn’t interested in a relationship with her (mad as a brush) and I though telling her would put her off me. Kinda worked but she was intrigued rather than a runner. |
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A couple of my close friends know as one of them is also on here. If anyone was to ask me then I wouldn’t deny it but at the same time, I don’t go about opening telling anyone.
Each to their own I suppose and what they are comfortable with. |
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My wife told one of her vanilla friends years ago!
She was surprised at first then really intrigued.
She loved me to tell her all the details of our meets and even wanked me off once as I was telling her stuff!!
All these years later she still asks when I am getting round to fucking her?? ?? |
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