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Reaching out to single Females or Couples
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Are any of u interested in a single male in the west of Scotland at all? At the risk of sounding like a loser or desperate I'm really struggling to connect with anyone! I'm a nice guy, I look after myself, train regularly, can hold a conversation and don't take myself too seriously. Not sure why I'm struggling so much but cant even get a response on here and its becoming very tiresome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok… you’ve asked… my opinion (and it’s only that) is …
You’re verified and here over a year - to me that equates to some success and (hopefully) an understanding of the site and how it works.
I’d ask you what are your expectations here exactly??? Are they realistic?
And I’d say that personally… this bit on your profile I’d find off putting…
“Find it hilarious on here the amount of demanding folk who want pictures sent to a blank profile and get nothing sent back in return!”
Not because you’re wrong… just because people can do and say what they want on their profile. It’s theirs to do as they wish with. If I don’t like a profile I move on. It’s their right to specify and mine to react or not too. It’s a choice.
Happy future fabbing though
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Cheers for the advice I've updated my profile as I only posted that due to frustration a while ago and forgot it was there. As for expectation... as I said just looking to connect and have some fun. No hidden agendas. |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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You're profile is ok, I'd say it could use more content and maybe a bit more about what you actually bring to the table or are looking for. There's almost no conversation starters in your profile apart from the fact that you go to the gym, add some stuff about what you're into, what you're looking for and maybe a little about what you're not into.
One of my biggest turn offs on here is when people say they will meet anyone from 18-99. I'm more attracted to profiles that specify who they are actually looking for |
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I think your profile is alright, great pictures.
Trying to connect online is even more difficult now though, since we're all fed up with the online thing after the last year and a half. Going over the same kind of conversations over and over again has gotten a bit tedious. Be original with your message (avoid "hows you" type one liners) and sense of humour always works well.
Maybe try to get yourself out there, attend some social events (you'll find them on the Scotland forum as well), or a club x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profiles fine for basic but I'd be looking for more pics and wee bit more info about you, you really need make yourself stand out on fab as a single guy.
And most of all just be you, dont try and be someone your not when doing a 1st message and don't do the typical copy and paste lol
C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was meeting single guys I'd find a post like this completely off putting. To ask for anyone to have sex with you reeks of desperation and a lack of integrity or self respect, never attractive qualities in a potential meet.
Attend socials, make sure your outgoing messages are up to scratch, and contact people you're actually attracted to!
Good luck xx |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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OP. Think most people struggle on Fab to some extent. The last three single guys we chatted to on here have ‘let us down’ in different ways through last minute cancellations or disappearing. One cancelled a meet at a couple of days notice because he forgot he was taking his kids on holiday . One guy was supposed to get back yesterday for a social this week and we’re still waiting to hear. Another hid their profile mid way conversations. You’d think it would be easier for a couple but don’t think it is.
That’s after pic exchange too and a lot of subsequent chat so you assume there was some sort of attraction to continue in depth conversation.
It does dent confidence and you end up becoming more suspicious and cynical which becomes self fulfilling. The effort becomes more than the reward.
We seem to be at the stage where going to clubs and parties is going to be the only option left to us. We don’t particularly want to as we much prefer one to one social and play meets but like you, OP, Fab has not really given us the connections we would like.
So OP it sounds like face to face events where the chance of timewasters is reduced is the way to go. 
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"Are any of u interested in a single male in the west of Scotland at all? At the risk of sounding like a loser or desperate I'm really struggling to connect with anyone! I'm a nice guy, I look after myself, train regularly, can hold a conversation and don't take myself too seriously. Not sure why I'm struggling so much but cant even get a response on here and its becoming very tiresome"
So, just from looking at your profile, there's not enough to pique my interest. And, as judgemental as it sounds, shortened text speak doesn't cut it for me, it makes me feel like I'm talking to a man child. So, if I look at your profile, my instant reaction is...
"Nice, but not enough photos to keep me interested. Doesn't give a lot away about himself, and uses text speak, making me feel like I'll be the sensible one."
It's not enough to make me want to message you xx |
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Cheers for the advice everyone didnt realise I was being judged on my grammar but fair enough I can understand if that puts folk off lol. Not sure I'll necessarily change it as that's the sort of person I am and some others have suggested just be you. Guess the pics need updated and I'm not the type of guy to discuss myself, I'm much more interested in knowing about u. Not that I have anything to hide and I have some amazing stories and experiences that I can share |
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"Cheers for the advice everyone didnt realise I was being judged on my grammar but fair enough I can understand if that puts folk off lol. Not sure I'll necessarily change it as that's the sort of person I am and some others have suggested just be you. Guess the pics need updated and I'm not the type of guy to discuss myself, I'm much more interested in knowing about u. Not that I have anything to hide and I have some amazing stories and experiences that I can share"
So, say that. Explain there's not a lot to say about you, but you're far more interested in finding out about your meet, say you're a good listener.
As for the text speak, as you've said, leave it as it is but it will definitely put some people off you; and you won't always know why.
And not knowing you're being judged on grammar... this might sound terrible, but you're being judged on everything. You're on a sex site, everyone HAS to make a snap judgement, or you'll waste time talking to people who don't interest you. It tends to follow a pattern for women, so with me for text speak. I find that men who use text speak, tend to be younger than me, and I generally prefer someone more mature who can hold a conversation. This won't always be the case, but it's an easy way for women to 'filter' for ourselves xx |
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Fair enough I can respect but I also think that's a very broad assumption to make. I get that women are hounded on these sites and it must be difficult to wade through the dead wood until u find something that peaks ur interest, I know I'm well educated and can hold a conversation and have a meaningful debate if necessary. Like u said I guess I dont highlight these attributes but I also didnt feel it was necessary. Guess I'm more stuck in my ways than I thought lol |
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"Fair enough I can respect but I also think that's a very broad assumption to make. I get that women are hounded on these sites and it must be difficult to wade through the dead wood until u find something that peaks ur interest, I know I'm well educated and can hold a conversation and have a meaningful debate if necessary. Like u said I guess I dont highlight these attributes but I also didnt feel it was necessary. Guess I'm more stuck in my ways than I thought lol"
Yeah, I think that's the important thing here; it's not about you, or what you like, it's about what makes your profile stand out. What, about you, is going to make me want to message you? Does that make sense? I don't mean that to sound rude, but it is about selling yourself. Unfortunately, women get it so much easier. We could have a profile that says, " I want cock." And still get hundreds of messages.
You really want to make yourself stand out. So, big yourself up. Be confident, but not arrogant. Be complimentary, but not cheesy. It's all about getting a fine balance xx |
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