Think most of us have been there at some time in our lives & it's neither nice nor easily dealt with. I was unemployed for a while & found it extremely difficult to cope. I didin't see it coming & wouldn't have admitted to it any way but I now realise that I was really quite depressed. Thankfully with the help & support of people I could condfide in, I came out the other side. My key learning from the experience was to recognise it, admit it to myself & talk about it. I hope this helps you, if you need it to?!

Mr.B xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

best advice is talk to people or to your doctor

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Google "moodjuice" or can phone breathing space for advice. Also your GP or NHS 24 can help. Your local area will also have counselling services which can be accessed, might be best to google it.

Can PM me if needing any other info.

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

somewhere

thanks

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I was in a very dark place when i was diagnosed with cervical cancer in jan of 2002 but thankfully after waiting way to long to seek attention i finaly got the help i needed and was on antidepressants for a long time but that combined with counselling i was in a much better place in no time .

First port of call is your Gp tell him/her everything and tell them what you think has triggerd it dont hold back any info because that can hinder how they begin to treat you .

I still suffer from anxiety and i think that is something that will never leave me but with the help of a great counselling service through my employers i manage very well x

Good luck hun but please seek help sooner rather than later xxx

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

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Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x"

Not getting the help you need from professionals would hinder any future job more surely?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x"
Thats where you've then got to decide whats more important your mental health or your job ...if you dont seek the help you need will you be able to continue to do your job ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x

Not getting the help you need from professionals would hinder any future job more surely?

very true...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x"
I can vividly remember saying exactly the same thing. Sadly, it just delayed my getting help for myself & ultimately held me back.

Mr.B xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

PM Sent..

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan over a year ago

Glenrothes

PM sent

happy to chat/talk - keep smiling - you are not alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Loads on here do

but I'm here for fun not to hear about folks woes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x"

Everything you tell a doctor is fully confidential, nothing you tell them will affect a future job/insurance/anything. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey hunni your health and well being should always come first coz without that u ain't gonna have much of a life let alone a job. Get yourself to the docs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I (mrs dlt) also suffer from depression, and some days I can be so low that I wish I could just disappear,

It took me a while before I went to the Doctor as am meant to be the strong one,

I am glad I did have been on my happy pills as we call them,and I don't care if am on them for ever,

Had a down period this week went for a bath and had a good cry, don't be afraid to cry,

Hope that helped a wee bit,

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I suffered from depression a few years ago, got help very early on and had great support. The stigma of mental health issues is not as real as you think it is when you are down.

Good luck to all who struggle at times... there is great help and when going for counselling, if you don't connect with the first, go to someone else. The key is the connection.

I also think that the features on a swingers site can help on some occasions, can severely hinder in others.

all the best

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

somewhere

So in other words a couple of you dont think i should have asked a simle question to which i gave no details to at all?.So its ok to ask "what did you have for brekkie", but its not ok to ask if anyone suffers from anxiety? hmmm ok.But i will say negative comments dont help and also if you dont want to read it the dont and certainly dont comment.Its as simple as that.Im not sorry for posting it ive had some rreally lovely pms from caring people.Its a shame the minority always have to pipe in a negative comment but hey each to their own.You saw the heading and u chose to read and comment

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Your current / future employer can indeed request a medical report - however, you have the legal right to refuse. Alternatively, you can agree to a medical report but request to see it first. Generally, a doctor will only report in what they are asked.

Your employer cannot dismiss you on capability grounds unless they have conclusive proof that you are unable to do your job due to your illness.

Your health has to come first, I have a very stressful job that holds a lot of responsibility. I have suffered with depression on and off for years, my employers knows and supports me and trusts me to manage my health to the benefit of my self and the company.

Shy xxx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

my advice with depression is 'recognise it, own it and do something about it'

and if it creeps back, you know the signs... don't delay.

I personally have never been happier, more content and enjoying life. If there is negativity in your life and you are able to cut it out, do it...others can keep you down. I have changed careers and although I loved every day of my previous roles... I don't carry the same volume of responsibility and it feels great.

again all the best..

the forums are to share all types of experiences.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"my advice with depression is 'recognise it, own it and do something about it'

and if it creeps back, you know the signs... don't delay.

again all the best..

the forums are to share all types of experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Loads on here do

but I'm here for fun not to hear about folks woes "

Totally agree Cherry , im really sorry you are suffereing but this is a sex site surley if your feeling this way a sex site should be the last on your list.

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

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OMG how narrow minded and judgemental can you get..nobody made you read it or comment did they! If you dont like it then go sommewhere else these forums are for anything and everything and i didnt spread my woes i was very respectful and discrete...and i shouldnt be on here if i suffer anxiety or depression because?....for the love of god

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG how narrow minded and judgemental can you get..nobody made you read it or comment did they! If you dont like it then go sommewhere else these forums are for anything and everything and i didnt spread my woes i was very respectful and discrete...and i shouldnt be on here if i suffer anxiety or depression because?....for the love of god

You shouldnt sex and depression dont mix you should be taking time out to get yourselve better then get back in the sack !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

breath!! ignore the negative comments, focus on the positive ones...more importantly focus on what we talked about yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

breath!! ignore the negative comments, focus on the positive ones...more importantly focus on what we talked about yesterday

That's very sound advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just think a sex site forum is not the place to share your personal problems and mental health issues. Im sure the Samaritans must have a forum surely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just think a sex site forum is not the place to share your personal problems and mental health issues. Im sure the Samaritans must have a forum surely."

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's a sex site ...... BUT, you have a choice to either get involved in helping others or you can be very small & quite frankly selfish minded when someone asks for help!!!

If someone asked for advise on how to give a blow job, would you say they had no business being here because they were not fantastic at it........ I think not!!

Can't believe the negative posts on here, really disgusted actually.

Sex site or no sex site, the forums are for what anyone wants to talk about, either shut up or don't comment or maybe you are in the wrong site

BTW this not only doesn't apply to this post, i am very selective in the posts I comment on, but after reading some of the comments I'm really disgusted that some would kick another When they are feeling down

Mrs B

P. S. feel few to make any comments you want about this thread, negative of not, will just show how shallow you are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore folks that have been negative, and concentrate on those that have been more helpful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it's a sex site ...... BUT, you have a choice to either get involved in helping others or you can be very small & quite frankly selfish minded when someone asks for help!!!

If someone asked for advise on how to give a blow job, would you say they had no business being here because they were not fantastic at it........ I think not!!

Can't believe the negative posts on here, really disgusted actually.

Sex site or no sex site, the forums are for what anyone wants to talk about, either shut up or don't comment or maybe you are in the wrong site

Mrs B

P. S. feel few to make any comments you want about this thread, negative of not, will just show how shallow you are."

Omg its a sex site forum it has no place for medical issues what would you do if someone gave her the wrong comment and something happened (depression wise hurting yourselve) so no this is for Doctors not us !!We all have different opinions this one is mine !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it's a sex site ...... BUT, you have a choice to either get involved in helping others or you can be very small & quite frankly selfish minded when someone asks for help!!!

If someone asked for advise on how to give a blow job, would you say they had no business being here because they were not fantastic at it........ I think not!!

Can't believe the negative posts on here, really disgusted actually.

Sex site or no sex site, the forums are for what anyone wants to talk about, either shut up or don't comment or maybe you are in the wrong site

Mrs B

P. S. feel few to make any comments you want about this thread, negative of not, will just show how shallow you are."

spot on Mrs B!!

the forums are for anything, and if someone has the courage to ask for advice, why should others knock them for it.

sex site, forum....who cares where help is sought as long as someone seeks it, they will get it from those that care....there are no rules on this site that say people only have to take about sex and nothing else......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it's a sex site ...... BUT, you have a choice to either get involved in helping others or you can be very small & quite frankly selfish minded when someone asks for help!!!

If someone asked for advise on how to give a blow job, would you say they had no business being here because they were not fantastic at it........ I think not!!

Can't believe the negative posts on here, really disgusted actually.

Sex site or no sex site, the forums are for what anyone wants to talk about, either shut up or don't comment or maybe you are in the wrong site

Mrs B

P. S. feel few to make any comments you want about this thread, negative of not, will just show how shallow you are.

spot on Mrs B!!

the forums are for anything, and if someone has the courage to ask for advice, why should others knock them for it.

Are you a doctor are you qulifed to give out advice on depression ???

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

for goodness sake calm down the girl asked for a wee bit of help its no big deal

the forums are for discussing what ever anyone wants to as long as its within the rules let the people who want to offer her help and the rest should calm down about it .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually I am a mental health professional. And my advice is to seek help and advice from the right professional. Not random strangers on a sex site. Honestly. And if they're your friends mail them in private. This is a personal issue not for a public forum or debate. I hope you do get the right advice but honestly a sex site forum!!! So I'll say no more on the subject as I don't want to add to your anxieties. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it's a sex site ...... BUT, you have a choice to either get involved in helping others or you can be very small & quite frankly selfish minded when someone asks for help!!!

If someone asked for advise on how to give a blow job, would you say they had no business being here because they were not fantastic at it........ I think not!!

Can't believe the negative posts on here, really disgusted actually.

Sex site or no sex site, the forums are for what anyone wants to talk about, either shut up or don't comment or maybe you are in the wrong site

Mrs B

P. S. feel few to make any comments you want about this thread, negative of not, will just show how shallow you are.

spot on Mrs B!!

the forums are for anything, and if someone has the courage to ask for advice, why should others knock them for it.

Are you a doctor are you qulifed to give out advice on depression ???

Most people want to get some advise before the seek professional help, that applies to everything.

Simply- a caring ear can be worth a lot

Doesn't cost anything & sometimes people just need to talk

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually I am a mental health professional. And my advice is to seek help and advice from the right professional. Not random strangers on a sex site. Honestly. And if they're your friends mail them in private. This is a personal issue not for a public forum or debate. I hope you do get the right advice but honestly a sex site forum!!! So I'll say no more on the subject as I don't want to add to your anxieties. Good luck x"

Exactly Cherry its not a place were private issues that are fragile should be discust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly Cherry its not a place were private issues that are fragile should be discust."

If you don't agree then don't comment - simples!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly Cherry its not a place were private issues that are fragile should be discust.

If you don't agree then don't comment - simples!"

Ooh this a new rule for topical discussion. If you don't agree say Nowt. How democratic. I honestly do feel for the poster and all you other depressives on these sites. Honestly I do. But just feel not right place to air dirty laundry. Now if you don't agree with what I've said. Remember not to reply :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hey guys, lets just leave this now eh?

We have all had our comments and _iews, and we are never all gona agree lol...thats life.

The lady has both sides of the argument now, so to speak, the rest is up to her. Nothing else we say is gona help now.

Let's leave it eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly Cherry its not a place were private issues that are fragile should be discust.

If you don't agree then don't comment - simples!

Too many Meer Cat quotes aha best retorts if ya blah blah dont comment simples...offft grinds my gears everyone is entiled to an opinion , personaly i would never share anything like that with strangers thats what doctors are for at the end of the day we are not qulifed to give advice so how would you know what the OP needs to get back on track, NHS they have a forum go there not a sex site ....would you not agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who gets to decide what people want to talk about in forums????

It may not be something that everyone would want to share but everyone is different

Doesn't matter if it's a sex site or not, and at times talking and asking advise from strangers is much easier first.

When you look at a good % of the posts in the forums they have absolutely nothing to do with sex

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Feel the love !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are a mental health pro you are a bad one. Nobody who unders_ands depression would talk to someone suffering like you do. By definaition they are desperate for help and often irrational and this needs to be understood. Help and understanding can come from many places. If one member of a sex site can help its worth it. My wife has suffered severe depression for a very very long time and sex and depression can mix. This lady is looking for support not negativity

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

on these forums are

help with a dismissal and advice on a tribunal

help with buying a house

help with depression

all were told to seek professional advice alongside sharing of experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"on these forums are

help with a dismissal and advice on a tribunal

help with buying a house

help with depression

all were told to seek professional advice alongside sharing of experience."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes in the wee small hours when you feel alone and lost, a word or two from a stranger on a forum can be a lifeline.

I think it's entirely up to the OP how she aproaches her medical problems, that kind word may be all she needs to carry on until professional help is available.

How many of us have come onto the forums feeling low and left laughing with spirits raised?

I've seen people on the forums who have had cancer or a serious illness, lost a loved one, gone through a break up, had/lost a baby etc. etc. and a few kind words have made all the difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes in the wee small hours when you feel alone and lost, a word or two from a stranger on a forum can be a lifeline.

I think it's entirely up to the OP how she aproaches her medical problems, that kind word may be all she needs to carry on until professional help is available.

How many of us have come onto the forums feeling low and left laughing with spirits raised?

I've seen people on the forums who have had cancer or a serious illness, lost a loved one, gone through a break up, had/lost a baby etc. etc. and a few kind words have made all the difference. "

Exactly. And a mental health pro wou;d know that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said,

Many a time I have been awake and lonely and checked the forums and had a good laugh,

A person my work in the mental health profession and still not understand what it is like to have depression,

Just like when a member of ur family ie father dies no one else know how u feel unless they have gone throu the same thing,

And hell yes its easier to talk to someone that can't see ur face and ur eyes to tell how you feel,

Why else would we have a fone line to the Samaritans, AND NO I AM NOT SAYING FONE THEM,

Its just times u just want to let it out but just not to a family member or someone that has know you ie GP,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes in the wee small hours when you feel alone and lost, a word or two from a stranger on a forum can be a lifeline.

I think it's entirely up to the OP how she aproaches her medical problems, that kind word may be all she needs to carry on until professional help is available.

How many of us have come onto the forums feeling low and left laughing with spirits raised?

I've seen people on the forums who have had cancer or a serious illness, lost a loved one, gone through a break up, had/lost a baby etc. etc. and a few kind words have made all the difference. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To get back to the original question from the Op I too suffer from depression and taking each day doing little and often helps me. i.e don't top and bottom the whole house, do a room a day. Part of a room.

Going out each day if I have to go to three shops but manage only one, no biggie it's one more than staying in the house. Don't set yourself big impossible tasks then give up, set yourself small managable tasks and do as many as you can.xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes in the wee small hours when you feel alone and lost, a word or two from a stranger on a forum can be a lifeline.

I think it's entirely up to the OP how she aproaches her medical problems, that kind word may be all she needs to carry on until professional help is available.

How many of us have come onto the forums feeling low and left laughing with spirits raised?

I've seen people on the forums who have had cancer or a serious illness, lost a loved one, gone through a break up, had/lost a baby etc. etc. and a few kind words have made all the difference. "

Exactly! Have seen people who have been either diagnosed with or fearing a diagnosis of cancer being given some great support in the forums, and nobody has once said not to talk about their illness or concerns.

But again the minute its mental health it becomes an illness that should be dealt with behind closed doors and not discussed in an open forum.

How sad that in 2012 we can accept all kinds of issues, but mental health remains stigmatised.

Its the kind of negative comments that people have expressed in this thread that keeps folks silent and ashamed to admit to having a mental illness, when its exactly that....an illness!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

here here Roxy, how very true- none of us, knows whats round the corner for us, a broken limb, mends, but a mind is a whole lot more difficult to fix- and people who stigmatise folks with mental illness, should take the attitude, there but for the grace of god, then and only then- will they have any empathy for what some folks go through, some of can roll with the punches life throws at us, some can't so please spare a thought for those who cannot hold it together, like the previous posting said, mental illness is exactly that its an illness- anyone who has any prejudices, would be better not to voice them.

Roxy, well done with your posting hunxxx

tomma xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes in the wee small hours when you feel alone and lost, a word or two from a stranger on a forum can be a lifeline.

I think it's entirely up to the OP how she aproaches her medical problems, that kind word may be all she needs to carry on until professional help is available.

How many of us have come onto the forums feeling low and left laughing with spirits raised?

I've seen people on the forums who have had cancer or a serious illness, lost a loved one, gone through a break up, had/lost a baby etc. etc. and a few kind words have made all the difference.

But again the minute its mental health it becomes an illness that should be dealt with behind closed doors and not discussed in an open forum.

How sad that in 2012 we can accept all kinds of issues, but mental health remains stigmatised.

Its the kind of negative comments that people have expressed in this thread that keeps folks silent and ashamed to admit to having a mental illness, when its exactly that....an illness!!"

Thank you. It was a telling comment to see that the mental health professional was the one who referred to it as airing ones dirty linen in public.

The OP only asked how others coped, not for a diagnosis (or not) on her mental health.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

in this day and age, there is a act of parliament called the mental health anti-discrimination act, making it un-lawful for a person to be sacked for having a mental illness, those doing so leave themselves open to being sued,in addition to any compensation, they may pay the employee,who has their contract terminated, due to mental instability, through depression- however im sure employers would get round this by claiming that person was un-fit in other ways.

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

somewhere

Thank you to all the lovely comments and advice given.Much appreciated.There will always be negative people around but i just ignore them as they have nothing better to do than pick on someone when they are not at their best.Thats there needy issues not mine

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By *rcplCouple over a year ago

here not there

Having suffered from depression myself I know only to well everyday tasks can become . Not wanting to go out , feeling like you could cry all the time . What I found helped me was talking to family and then going to a local gp that is a councellor too who talked me through it and was told I was lucky as it was obvious the cause which is why I changed my job . Was advised to get out house at least once a day even if only to go shop and buy a paper . As getting out in fresh air helps along with talking about it and not bottling up the feelings .

No matter what kind of place you find to talk about it as long as there be a helpful ear at the end of it then it has to be a good thing

Does help to talk to complete strangers too if they have been through depression

Hope you find something that works for you as each case is different

Yours Rich

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By *ayseanMan over a year ago

Cardiff

Whenever i feel a bit down,i find exercise is the best remedie for me personally,im suprised no one has mentioned this,exercise releases feel good endorphins into the body,(natural body reaction to exercise)anything from walking,to cycling or swimming is great for your self esteem,obviously also chat to someone and open up,whether thats a stranger,or your closest friend/family member whoever your comfortable with,hope things work out well for you take care

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suffer from anxiety and for a period from panic attacks but I got rid of them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks but im scared to open up n tell anyone everything specialy my gp as will go on my file and can hinder my future job x"

I've been off work nearly six months I've had depression since I was a teen and usually cope with it pretty well my work actually triggered it off this time, employers can't discriminate against you if you have any mental health problems the worst thing you can do us bottle it up and hope it will go away, it only festers and gets worse

Physical health can be affected by depression I tend to find they go hand in hand, I'd sient do long trying not to take time off work for a viral infection I ended up in hospital and triggering my depression this has been the worst episode I've ever had and only now have we mastered medication that's working that isn't going to make me drowsy now it's just a case of getting back to work and talking about when I'm feeling down as much as I'd like to think I'm superwoman and can do everything by myself I can't and sometimes I've got to bite the bullet and say I can't cope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whenever i feel a bit down,i find exercise is the best remedie for me personally,im suprised no one has mentioned this,exercise releases feel good endorphins into the body,(natural body reaction to exercise)anything from walking,to cycling or swimming is great for your self esteem,obviously also chat to someone and open up,whether thats a stranger,or your closest friend/family member whoever your comfortable with,hope things work out well for you take care"

This is true but also need the motivation to go which is the hardest part, sex releases the feel good endorphins too and depression and promiscuity go hand in hand hence why I try to avoid meeting anyone when I'm not well as I am fully aware of this in myself and don't want to gO down the route of fuckibg anything and everything to get a little fix as its just that a little fix like drugs it doesn't last long and the come downs take you even lower than you were before xx if your not single like me however jumping your partners bones a few times a day will work wonders for your mood providing you throw in a good orgasm

perfect release for tension

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes it's just good to type how you feel... Get word's of encouragement from others... That in itself could have an effect on ones self.

I'm sure the op is aware they are better seeking professional advice but it's nice to get support from others that have gone through the same.

A problem shared and all that.

And I wouldn't class this as a sex site btw, it's a swinging site... By nature its a community... Where like minded people can help others, regardless of what it concerns.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really good post this..........so many questions asked and answered with genuine responses. Keep it up guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you to all the lovely comments and advice given.Much appreciated.There will always be negative people around but i just ignore them as they have nothing better to do than pick on someone when they are not at their best.Thats there needy issues not mine

No one is picking on you, you left the post in an open forum obivously people will have different reactions to different comments, if you cant take the good with the negitive dont post.

And Cherry and i,s comments have sound advice go seek medical advice or is this just a post to get attention ?

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

sorry but i fail to see how asking about OTHER PEOPLE and their exsperiences is attention seeking ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck to the op and hope you get the help you need and understand that there are others out there with the same problems,it is a swinging site and loads of users form a nice community on here and are happy to share their problems and ask for similar advice.

Look above those that give negatives as it is not what you need at this time in your life and take on the positives put both together and get on the right path,it is hard and may get harder but there is light at the end of the tunnel xx

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"Sometimes it's just good to type how you feel... Get word's of encouragement from others... That in itself could have an effect on ones self.

I'm sure the op is aware they are better seeking professional advice but it's nice to get support from others that have gone through the same.

A problem shared and all that.

And I wouldn't class this as a sex site btw, it's a swinging site... By nature its a community... Where like minded people can help others, regardless of what it concerns.

Steve "

A common sense post!

I agree it is a community and on the most part a very supportive one

Shy

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By *ig jugs OP Woman over a year ago

somewhere

Thank you to all who direected me in the right direction and who said very nice things on here in my defence.I feel sorry for the minority who feek the need to bully the vunerable, its their issue not mine.I asked a question not give my life story and i asked it on a place where real people meet and chat and all have good life experiences to share.It is better talking to someone live so to speak than sitting on google.I have been to seek medical advice today and i will not further comment or read anymore of this thread but again thank you to all the lovely people out there. x

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Thank you to all who direected me in the right direction and who said very nice things on here in my defence.I feel sorry for the minority who feek the need to bully the vunerable, its their issue not mine.I asked a question not give my life story and i asked it on a place where real people meet and chat and all have good life experiences to share.It is better talking to someone live so to speak than sitting on google.I have been to seek medical advice today and i will not further comment or read anymore of this thread but again thank you to all the lovely people out there. x"

they didn't bully, they gave their opinion

don't dwell on it... move forward.... good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

they didn't bully, they gave their opinion

don't dwell on it... move forward.... good luck"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Glad to hear you're getting help xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh dear...

truths usually somewhere in the middle.....thats all i will say.....

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By *andsCouple over a year ago

Edin

"oh dear...

truths usually somewhere in the middle.....thats all i will say.....

.."

yip I never believe what anyone says on here tbh

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"oh dear...

truths usually somewhere in the middle.....thats all i will say.....

yip I never believe what anyone says on here tbh "
wooooo hooo in that case am a total timewaster who is broke down on his luck ex wife did a bobbit on me and its tiny anyways not really looking to meet and fun sexy times dont intrest me !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh dear...

truths usually somewhere in the middle.....thats all i will say.....

yip I never believe what anyone says on here tbh "

You know what Trac.... Yet again I agree with ya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sadly, it's difficult to reason with somebody who's in the grip of depression.

And yes, there is always 2 sides to a story, and admittedly sometimes even 3!!

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By *andsCouple over a year ago

Edin

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