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Social Discretion !!
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Right folks as you all know I regularly host very successful social events for all you fabby people but recently this has been jeopardised by some members lack of discretion regarding venue details as with all my socials anyone attending are asked NOT to discuss venue details with anyone not atending and if anyone asks they should be pointed in the direction of my profile.
Luckily this time and thankfully didn't result in any cancellation and the night was a great success. Can I just point out to everyone that puts their name down and attends that we all respect and adhere to these necessary rules .
Thanks luv jacs
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As a single male its difficult to get meets. and these socials are a great way of people getting to know singles. People put on the profile that they want discretion and respect...well it works both ways...whether its a meet a social or a club we all want that discretion...so please respect the rules of the organisers of each and every event.
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"As a single male its difficult to get meets. and these socials are a great way of people getting to know singles. People put on the profile that they want discretion and respect...well it works both ways...whether its a meet a social or a club we all want that discretion...so please respect the rules of the organisers of each and every event.
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"As a single male its difficult to get meets. and these socials are a great way of people getting to know singles. People put on the profile that they want discretion and respect...well it works both ways...whether its a meet a social or a club we all want that discretion...so please respect the rules of the organisers of each and every event.
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We agree with this. Another way might be to have a private room allowing only people on the list into it, no guests to be brought in, if their not on said list. |
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By *lue4youCouple
over a year ago
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The venue must be kept secret. God forbid it gets leaked and a bored journalist with nothing better to write about that week noseys in. Taking nothing away from the organisers (I applaud you Jaqs xx), there's more at stake than a cancelled venue. Some people may openly claim to be part of this fun club, others, like ourselves rely on discretion.   |
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"As a single male its difficult to get meets. and these socials are a great way of people getting to know singles. People put on the profile that they want discretion and respect...well it works both ways...whether its a meet a social or a club we all want that discretion...so please respect the rules of the organisers of each and every event.
We agree with this. Another way might be to have a private room allowing only people on the list into it, no guests to be brought in, if their not on said list."
Hiya it's not always possible to get a "private function room" in a pub or hotel without it costing a lot more money as well as having to then pay for entertainment such as Dj's etc....In the meantime people attending socials anywhere in country just need to keep details of the venue to thmeselves and not tell others...only those attending should know the venue details to help make them the sucess they always are... |
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"As a single male its difficult to get meets. and these socials are a great way of people getting to know singles. People put on the profile that they want discretion and respect...well it works both ways...whether its a meet a social or a club we all want that discretion...so please respect the rules of the organisers of each and every event.
We agree with this. Another way might be to have a private room allowing only people on the list into it, no guests to be brought in, if their not on said list.Hiya it's not always possible to get a "private function room" in a pub or hotel without it costing a lot more money as well as having to then pay for entertainment such as Dj's etc....In the meantime people attending socials anywhere in country just need to keep details of the venue to thmeselves and not tell others...only those attending should know the venue details to help make them the sucess they always are... "
I was just going to say this hun thats ok if its a full social event but not for just drinks nites but a list of people attending is still needind to keep the amount of people attending under control for it to be a sucess and for everyone to get the chance to chat etc jesus id luv to find somewhere that costs nothing and have everyone who wanted to attend there lol |
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Do folk wear badges or something saying i'm a promiscuous fucker and i'm shagging him, her, and they lot over there next at these socials ?
Lets be honest anyone seriously wanting a coup would have no hassle just registering and applying to attend like anyone else.
I attended a retirement dinner once and some smart arse called the establishment saying it was a swingers convention, the management are used to all this spoiling tactics as long as the coin is coming in and people are being "normal" then folks have nothing to worry about.  |
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over a year ago
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Same old story, the actions of a few could potentially spoil it for everyone.
Feel that if anyone is caught blabbing places out then they shouldn't be allowed to attend another social in the future
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"Do folk wear badges or something saying i'm a promiscuous fucker and i'm shagging him, her, and they lot over there next at these socials ?
Lets be honest anyone seriously wanting a coup would have no hassle just registering and applying to attend like anyone else.
I attended a retirement dinner once and some smart arse called the establishment saying it was a swingers convention, the management are used to all this spoiling tactics as long as the coin is coming in and people are being "normal" then folks have nothing to worry about. "
Im not going to go into details about what happend but it was nothing like this lol |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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the amount of no shows at lunches and socials is where the most concern should be... that is why paying in advance by paypal does help.
a few times people have sat outside watching others go in... |
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"the amount of no shows at lunches and socials is where the most concern should be... that is why paying in advance by paypal does help.
a few times people have sat outside watching others go in..."
Oh I hate when that happens! I've had guys message me the nxt day to say 'oh I thought I saw you, I sat at the bar all night! Grrrrrrrr 
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"the amount of no shows at lunches and socials is where the most concern should be... that is why paying in advance by paypal does help.
a few times people have sat outside watching others go in..."
Totaly agree _iew the past 3 drinks nites ive organised ive took a refundable £5 depost the amount turning up now compared to when there was no deposit has increased tenfold with almost 60 in attendance compared to 25/30 on a guest list of 50 shows it does work |
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If you persist in using the same pub club or clubhouse
Not hard for someone to gatecrash or badmouth to the management that you are a bunch of rank bajins.
Paypal is used, sifting the timewasters noshows or nosey ones from the actual attendees.
Been to a few different socials over the years from lanarkshire, mid lothian to Fife, pay at the door or free entry.
If someone wants to disrupt your night then you need to look more closely at who is peeved at you. Not everyone smiling at you is your friend jealousy is just as cruel as envy.
Glad you had a good night hope your next one is succesful
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"If you persist in using the same pub club or clubhouse
Not hard for someone to gatecrash or badmouth to the management that you are a bunch of rank bajins.
Paypal is used, sifting the timewasters noshows or nosey ones from the actual attendees.
Been to a few different socials over the years from lanarkshire, mid lothian to Fife, pay at the door or free entry.
If someone wants to disrupt your night then you need to look more closely at who is peeved at you. Not everyone smiling at you is your friend jealousy is just as cruel as envy.
Glad you had a good night hope your next one is succesful
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"If you persist in using the same pub club or clubhouse
Not hard for someone to gatecrash or badmouth to the management that you are a bunch of rank bajins.
Paypal is used, sifting the timewasters noshows or nosey ones from the actual attendees.
Been to a few different socials over the years from lanarkshire, mid lothian to Fife, pay at the door or free entry.
If someone wants to disrupt your night then you need to look more closely at who is peeved at you. Not everyone smiling at you is your friend jealousy is just as cruel as envy.
Glad you had a good night hope your next one is succesful
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Dunno how to read this message. Is there an underlying grievience here?  |
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"Couldn't agree more.....possibly a private room may be slightly more expensive but then if it is worth the privacy, why not! Discretion is essential. "
But these nites out i arrange are only drinks nites most tend to keep private venue socials for the likes of balls halloween and christmas socials etc making them just that wee bit special... these drinks nites are free and from being on here such a long time people will not cough up dosh every six weeks for drinks socials so they in my opinion would eventually fizzle out and that would be a shame x
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"Couldn't agree more.....possibly a private room may be slightly more expensive but then if it is worth the privacy, why not! Discretion is essential. But these nites out i arrange are only drinks nites most tend to keep private venue socials for the likes of balls halloween and christmas socials etc making them just that wee bit special... these drinks nites are free and from being on here such a long time people will not cough up dosh every six weeks for drinks socials so they in my opinion would eventually fizzle out and that would be a shame x"
It certainly would be a shame Jacs and I agree with what u r saying also but we and many others on here cannot afford a lack of discretion and the damage this would cause.
It is such a shame as it flies in the face of all the hard work you and othe organisers do to make such events happen. P n P x
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"Couldn't agree more.....possibly a private room may be slightly more expensive but then if it is worth the privacy, why not! Discretion is essential. But these nites out i arrange are only drinks nites most tend to keep private venue socials for the likes of balls halloween and christmas socials etc making them just that wee bit special... these drinks nites are free and from being on here such a long time people will not cough up dosh every six weeks for drinks socials so they in my opinion would eventually fizzle out and that would be a shame x
It certainly would be a shame Jacs and I agree with what u r saying also but we and many others on here cannot afford a lack of discretion and the damage this would cause.
It is such a shame as it flies in the face of all the hard work you and othe organisers do to make such events happen. P n P x
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Well let just hope by highlighting it in the forums it makes people think twice about it x |
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"Lets be honest anyone seriously wanting a coup would have no hassle just registering and applying to attend like anyone else."
True...
"as the coin is coming in and people are being "normal" then folks have nothing to worry about."
Have to disagree with that, a drinks night / social I went to quite some time ago, someone had contacted the the venue on the day and said the booking was for swingers..... and they cancelled the booking at the last minute! .... Now this didn't affect me too much, the night out was in Glasgow and I knew (and had phone numbers) for lots of people who were going.
But there were newbies coming, and people coming from as far afield as Aberdeen / Inverness etc who no one had phone numbers etc for..
If someone's pissed off with either no getting a place to come along, or with someone attending / organising these things.....is there really any need to at best ruin a lot of people night, and at worst have people's private business outed.
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"Lets be honest anyone seriously wanting a coup would have no hassle just registering and applying to attend like anyone else.
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as the coin is coming in and people are being "normal" then folks have nothing to worry about.
Have to disagree with that, a drinks night / social I went to quite some time ago, someone had contacted the the venue on the day and said the booking was for swingers..... and they cancelled the booking at the last minute!"
They cancelled a booking on the presumption it was swingers ?
I find that hard to believe unless there was actually other "evidence"
Lets not forget this thread is actually doing the opposite of its intended purpose and playing into the hands of the disgruntled, If i actually gave a fuck who knows by business which i don't i'd not be keen on attending after reading this thread.
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"Is that not a contradiction there? U don't care who knows your business but after reading this thread you wouldn't be keen on attending! "
No contradiction, the reference to " after reading the thread" was for new folk looking in or those thinking of attending a social. Or if "i" gave a fuck which i don't  |
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"Is that not a contradiction there? U don't care who knows your business but after reading this thread you wouldn't be keen on attending!
No contradiction, the reference to " after reading the thread" was for new folk looking in or those thinking of attending a social. Or if "i" gave a fuck which i don't "
Who gives a fuck lets shag |
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The whole point of my post was that i put in a lot of effort to put these nites together and when i email people the venue details as ask that they are NOT discussed with anyone not attending then please do as i ask or dont bother adding your names in future if you cant stick by the rules lol |
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"The whole point of my post was that i put in a lot of effort to put these nites together and when i email people the venue details as ask that they are NOT discussed with anyone not attending then please do as i ask or dont bother adding your names in future if you cant stick by the rules lol "
Hear Hear |
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over a year ago
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"If i actually gave a fuck who knows by business which i don't
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Well some do…. and as supposed adults, it would be good if we all respected that.
We have been to socials where within 10 minutes the venue knew it was swingers. Not ideal for those that live local is it?
Someone will go too far one day and will stop people organising socials. Who will give a fuck then?
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"If i actually gave a fuck who knows by business which i don't
Well some do…. and as supposed adults, it would be good if we all respected that.
We have been to socials where within 10 minutes the venue knew it was swingers. Not ideal for those that live local is it?
Someone will go too far one day and will stop people organising socials. Who will give a fuck then?
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I understand why folk give a fuck but does that mean that i should give a fuck as well ?
There will always be spoilers its part and parcel of the scene roller coaster. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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IF you are worried about others finding out WHY meet up with others swingers in a public place?
As for people getting in touch with the venue, how do you know it wasn't someone who was on the list?
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lets not turn this into somthing it wasnt ment to be it was only a freindly reminder not to discuss venue locations with other people if you arnt happy how things are arranged do your own but pls dont argue and squabble over others hard work jacs heard and understood ah never would anyways but take point onboard |
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"lets not turn this into somthing it wasnt ment to be it was only a freindly reminder not to discuss venue locations with other people if you arnt happy how things are arranged do your own but pls dont argue and squabble over others hard work jacs heard and understood ah never would anyways but take point onboard "
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No need for any squabbling amongst people attending,
Any problem, even if it's minor or potential, is with non-attenders.
Public venues are ideal, you could be there for any reason.
If you've never gone into licensed premises and chatted to a stranger, you are a very dull person. |
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I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship |
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What you may actually find jacs is that noone did leak the venue details. But infact booked under one of their own many fake profiles. Decided to turn up and couldn't hide who they actually where. ie not male but female vice versa ha ha.
Perhaps another way is to give folk a mobile number which they call on the night and only be told where the venue is once you've verified they are on the list ? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship "
No offence to you but I totally disagree that non swingers be allowed to attend socials, I can see why you took her along but it may make you & she more comfortable with swinging but alas, others less so. |
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"I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship
No offence to you but I totally disagree that non swingers be allowed to attend socials, I can see why you took her along but it may make you & she more comfortable with swinging but alas, others less so."
I asked prior to bringing her along and no one had a problem most had seen her on cam with me before and they tried in vain to persuade her to come over to the dark side lol they were quite anamoured with her and now a few of the friends from fab now come out with me and my vanilla friends on nights out, in fact one of my fab friends didn't have any vanilla nights out before she met me and my friends her social life was all fab |
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"I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship
No offence to you but I totally disagree that non swingers be allowed to attend socials, I can see why you took her along but it may make you & she more comfortable with swinging but alas, others less so."
exactly. Bully for you. But who says I want vanillas who could be my neighbours knowing that I'm on fab. Hence topic of post called social discretion |
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"What you may actually find jacs is that noone did leak the venue details. But infact booked under one of their own many fake profiles. Decided to turn up and couldn't hide who they actually where. ie not male but female vice versa ha ha.
Perhaps another way is to give folk a mobile number which they call on the night and only be told where the venue is once you've verified they are on the list ? "
I'd never give out my mobile number cherry because that could also be open to abuse ...it wouldn't matter if details were disclosed two days before two hours before or two mins before if someone wants to ruin things they will not matter what as has been proved before ...it's just a shame that I as an organiser put my trust in people but don't get that same trust back ..but as I said before there is nothing going on at drinks nites that don't go on at any pub over a weekend so really nothing to see its just all about number control and knowing who's who if it was a free for all you wouldn't get that because who the he'll would know who was who ? |
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"What you may actually find jacs is that noone did leak the venue details. But infact booked under one of their own many fake profiles. Decided to turn up and couldn't hide who they actually where. ie not male but female vice versa ha ha.
Perhaps another way is to give folk a mobile number which they call on the night and only be told where the venue is once you've verified they are on the list ? I'd never give out my mobile number cherry because that could also be open to abuse ...it wouldn't matter if details were disclosed two days before two hours before or two mins before if someone wants to ruin things they will not matter what as has been proved before ...it's just a shame that I as an organiser put my trust in people but don't get that same trust back ..but as I said before there is nothing going on at drinks nites that don't go on at any pub over a weekend so really nothing to see its just all about number control and knowing who's who if it was a free for all you wouldn't get that because who the he'll would know who was who ?"
Exactly you just continue to do it as you do. You do a brill job. Next time tell them they're no getting in lol xx |
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what pisses us off more is when you turn up at a social meet and as the night goes on a member of the bar staff asks if you are part of the swingers gang,so its not all about who attends the socials ,sometimes those that organise could be a bit more discrete also and it is coman knowledege to the bar staff that you are a swinger ,also ask them for their discretion or use a place where they dont know your business also and save those attending the embarassment
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I don't agree either with non fab members attending socials for lots of reasons but main one would be why should a non member get to attend and maybe someone who's been on the site for a long time but missed the post for different reasons miss out on attending because a space is being taken up by a non member .  |
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"what pisses us off more is when you turn up at a social meet and as the night goes on a member of the bar staff asks if you are part of the swingers gang,so its not all about who attends the socials ,sometimes those that organise could be a bit more discrete also and it is coman knowledege to the bar staff that you are a swinger ,also ask them for their discretion or use a place where they dont know your business also and save those attending the embarassment
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I've never booked a venue and said it was for a swingers nite ...btw the Christmas social is actually a works Christmas nite out lol |
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"what pisses us off more is when you turn up at a social meet and as the night goes on a member of the bar staff asks if you are part of the swingers gang,so its not all about who attends the socials ,sometimes those that organise could be a bit more discrete also and it is coman knowledege to the bar staff that you are a swinger ,also ask them for their discretion or use a place where they dont know your business also and save those attending the embarassment
dirty I've never booked a venue and said it was for a swingers nite ...btw the Christmas social is actually a works Christmas nite out lol"
no never said it was booked as a swingers night but some are known as swingers in regular pubs ,so when it gets around the bar staff they all get in on the info,i was asked at the bar at one night out if i was with the swingers ,total embarasment |
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"what pisses us off more is when you turn up at a social meet and as the night goes on a member of the bar staff asks if you are part of the swingers gang,so its not all about who attends the socials ,sometimes those that organise could be a bit more discrete also and it is coman knowledege to the bar staff that you are a swinger ,also ask them for their discretion or use a place where they dont know your business also and save those attending the embarassment
dirty "
Been there one of the guys at a social I went to id given him a lift as I was driving he shouted me over to the bar to get a drink turns out he knew a few of the staff in there and they all knew exactly what sort of event it was mind you the fact people were acting in a particular way during the evening didn't leave much to the imagination however I think prob best event I went to was last years masked ball everyone on their best behaviour putting in a real effort can't wait for this years one got g to be an expensive weekend got an engineering dinner the night before I'd forgot about ooops that's gone cost me 250 straight away for hotel and dinner |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship "
which Social did you attend that allowed a non site member to attend, as I for one will not go to any further socials arranged by this person!!! I thought most social organisers asked for profile names to be given ... |
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"I'm glad your night went well its a shame someone had to try and spoil it not very good at all, Ive taken a vanilla friend to a social before and she knew exactly what she was coming to for us it was about reassuring her that I wasn't involved in anything seedy and putting her mind at ease that I was being careful and enlightening her to the fact its not just s fuck free for all. now god forbid anyone leaked that our and journalists decided to do a story, I'm not ashamed of my involvement in fab and majority of family and friends know I use the site and have fun but for my friend is have died for people to make judgements on her and given her job it would have destroyed me to thing my business being publicised but hers that would just kill me and probably our friendship
which Social did you attend that allowed a non site member to attend, as I for one will not go to any further socials arranged by this person!!! I thought most social organisers asked for profile names to be given ... "
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I've been to a few fab socials and asked people their fab name for them to tell me they're not on fab their friends are theyre from other sites but who's to say whether that's true or not as at the socials there shouldn't be any playing on display
Worst event I've heard of was actually a non fab event that ended up sabotaged by a fab member it was down in south wales it was actually a charity night and the couple who organised it were fab members and had said they weren't playing that weekend as they had this event to go to. A few fabbers went along to support the good cause but one got more than a little d*unk and let it slip to a barman that she knew the cpl through the site and him and management put two and two together to make five and assumed it was a fab run event needless to say the cpl were told the bar wouldn't run another event for them (this was their 12th) and they felt unable to show their face in there what's worse was it got back to the charity who refused to accept the proceeds from the night (£1800) as the charity couldn't risk being associated with "such morally inappropriate events " also said fabber in question also made an arse of themselves at the hotel which the cpl niece worked at !
They left fab I know they still play occasionally as they were at my pals for her 4th July social but they actually moved to another town as word soon spread |
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over a year ago
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"Nope none at all Leggy one common sense common sence lol so tell me about how you'd run a social then since you think others are doing it all wrong ?"
Where to begin, well since you are asking. Reread every post before jumping to the wrong conclusion. |
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"Nope none at all Leggy one common sense common sence lol so tell me about how you'd run a social then since you think others are doing it all wrong ?
Where to begin, well since you are asking. Reread every post before jumping to the wrong conclusion."
i have read every post so maybe youd like to answer the question i asked cause i certainly aint jumping to any conclusions yet...you seem to think im doing something wrong im asking you what that is and for you to tell me how you would do things diffrently ? |
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I was once asked by the bouncer at a social which party i was attending. I was kinda lost for words, before i blurted out "birthday party".
Maybe there should be a designated birthday boy / girl which differs on each social so that all are saying the same thing if asked? |
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"I was once asked by the bouncer at a social which party i was attending. I was kinda lost for words, before i blurted out "birthday party".
Maybe there should be a designated birthday boy / girl which differs on each social so that all are saying the same thing if asked? "
Hey thats sounds a good plan....get them to wear Birthday Badges or Sash...lol |
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( from davy ) been reading this post, intresting,
all a can say is, the dip shit thats blabing there gub n telling people where a social night is, do us a favour and shut the fuck up,
me and jan started up the ayrshire social again after someone use to run them and it got ruined by people blabbing there gub, and pubs cancelling venues as they know its swingers meet,
now we are still running ayrshire socials, and as all socials getting bigger n better and people enjoying it more as meeting more people to chat, get to know them, and even get meets out it,
so if ya keep running your mouth off, it will be your loss as all socials will end up dead again,
and ruin it for everyone including the people that spend loads of there own time orginising a hard event, just so a rent a gub can ruin it,
so go back to rule 1, keep it discreet,
rule 2, dont tell anyone,
rule 3, if you dont like rule 1 and 2, piss off and dont get involved in social nights, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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my sentiments exactly, i was at a social evening a while, back in glasgow, that was nearly ruined, but not quite, because somebody blabbed to management at the venue, so your right davy discretion is paramount, and if folk cant respect that they can get tae fuck |
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Please calm down peeps what happend on friday was not a major catastrophy i just wanted to remind people that when they are given venue details to please keep them to themselfs really no need to be so aggressive with your postings . |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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it can also be done by accident
I spoke to a female at the bar and introduced myself and asked her what her profile name was from the site, she answered by telling me she was the barmaid's best friend.
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"it can also be done by accident
I spoke to a female at the bar and introduced myself and asked her what her profile name was from the site, she answered by telling me she was the barmaid's best friend.
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Must admit...that was funny...
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"it can also be done by accident
I spoke to a female at the bar and introduced myself and asked her what her profile name was from the site, she answered by telling me she was the barmaid's best friend.
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lol... I remember a guy ages ago going up and introducing himself to a girl by his username....She wasnt with us... And looked somewhat shocked |
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"Bet you wish you hadn't started this thread because not everyone will keep stoom "
No not at all a wee gentle reminder doesnt do any harm..just people assuming something else is going on when it isnt lol xxx |
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To add my 2 bobs worth in..
We have been to some great socials over the yrs
But recently the behaviour from some folk at them Has been embarressing.
No wonder staff work it out.
Maybe just maybe individuals need to have a Word with themselves and ask would i behave/dress like this åt a family night out?
Just saying like
Auds |
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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago
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I find thats the problem with social events in pubs , if vanilla people wander in a sit in the area designated for the private function its easy to make a blunder , must admit i did try at the last drinks night i was at to keep two men informed of who wasnt with the group as they were like rabid dogs lol , u know who u are xxx |
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By *ig jugsWoman
over a year ago
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see this is the reason i wary of going to a social nite.I thot at a drinks nite/lunch u act and look like normal people? ie tits hanging out, skimpy bedroom outfits etc, and nothing at all happens ie no sex etc.Am i wrong? Im scared to go to one in my home town incase people find out as id get the sack lol
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By *ig jugsWoman
over a year ago
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oops spelling was meant to read not tits hanging out etc
"see this is the reason i wary of going to a social nite.I thot at a drinks nite/lunch u act and look like normal people? ie not tits hanging out, skimpy bedroom outfits etc, and nothing at all happens ie no sex etc.Am i wrong? Im scared to go to one in my home town incase people find out as id get the sack lol
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"see this is the reason i wary of going to a social nite.I thot at a drinks nite/lunch u act and look like normal people? ie tits hanging out, skimpy bedroom outfits etc, and nothing at all happens ie no sex etc.Am i wrong? Im scared to go to one in my home town incase people find out as id get the sack lol
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Ask anyone whos ever been to any of my socials what they are like ..they are nothing more than a bunch of people having fun drinking dancing and ok maybe gettting a little bit flirty nothing more than you wouldnt see in an pup on any given weekend x |
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If people are worried,when they go to the socials about anyone finding out they are swingers in their areas maybe should not get involved in the nights out,as I've read there are some people in glasgow like this,you should only go to the socials if your confident in yourselves and don't give a famn who knows,if there are people you know there well they must be wanting sane as you do xx |
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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago
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"it can also be done by accident
I spoke to a female at the bar and introduced myself and asked her what her profile name was from the site, she answered by telling me she was the barmaid's best friend.
Must admit...that was funny...
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