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over a year ago
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Just a general question for both male and female.
The phrases “just thought I’d chance it” or “worth a try” in a message... I won’t say what my thoughts are just yet what’s YOUR thoughts???
Play nice fabsters, the question is supposed to enlighten not create a stramash, genuinely interested in viewpoints from all xxx  xxx |
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"Would have to get a message first.
Your status implies you have my dear zero "
That was folk asking if I was ok over a lyric,I don’t take offence in anything I’ve been sent,regardless of what’s in it,good or bad |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes it has paid off when we have received a message like this and we have met, sometimes it hasn’t .... I like to see what the text of the message says before I make a call x"
Yes I guess context has a bearing  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would have to get a message first.
Your status implies you have my dear zero
That was folk asking if I was ok over a lyric,I don’t take offence in anything I’ve been sent,regardless of what’s in it,good or bad"
Ok noted, that’s a great attitude to take here |
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"Just a general question for both male and female.
The phrases “just thought I’d chance it” or “worth a try” in a message... I won’t say what my thoughts are just yet what’s YOUR thoughts???
Play nice fabsters, the question is supposed to enlighten not create a stramash, genuinely interested in viewpoints from all xxx xxx"
Some of my just though I'd chance it messages have lead to some lovely friendships so I'm quite glad they did take the chance lol. It wouldn't offend me at all.
As for the worth a try I'd say the same  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just a general question for both male and female.
The phrases “just thought I’d chance it” or “worth a try” in a message... I won’t say what my thoughts are just yet what’s YOUR thoughts???
Play nice fabsters, the question is supposed to enlighten not create a stramash, genuinely interested in viewpoints from all xxx xxxSome of my just though I'd chance it messages have lead to some lovely friendships so I'm quite glad they did take the chance lol. It wouldn't offend me at all.
As for the worth a try I'd say the same "
Sometimes the unlikeliest things happen I agree  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends on the rest of the message, but it usually doesn't bother me. I prefer that to them asking me to fuck, or asking if my husband doesn't satisfy me  "
True it is a more subtle approach, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if I look at a profile and see by how attractive I find them I'd be more in the mind set that it's worth a go , because I don't know what their type is ether , so yes I'd use it sometimes . Normally leads to a polite, not my type reply right enough lol |
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They can also be used by people who don’t have that much confidence and see themselves as being below someone’s standard or not attractive enough for someone,they can just put that in there as a way of initiating contact,messaging,thinking negatively first and hoping for the best if contact works and getting a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well if I look at a profile and see by how attractive I find them I'd be more in the mind set that it's worth a go , because I don't know what their type is ether , so yes I'd use it sometimes . Normally leads to a polite, not my type reply right enough lol"
Thanks for that, I see no problem with you messaging a profile if you both are seeking the same thing, I’m sure you’ll find patience is a virtue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They can also be used by people who don’t have that much confidence and see themselves as being below someone’s standard or not attractive enough for someone,they can just put that in there as a way of initiating contact,messaging,thinking negatively first and hoping for the best if contact works and getting a reply."
Thank you for that, that’s something I hadn’t thought about |
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"They can also be used by people who don’t have that much confidence and see themselves as being below someone’s standard or not attractive enough for someone,they can just put that in there as a way of initiating contact,messaging,thinking negatively first and hoping for the best if contact works and getting a reply."
Yeah, I agree... it's almost kinda like self deprecating, like "I know you're outta my league but I thought I would give it a go!" Again, it depends on the context. Self deprecating can be funny, until it crosses into self sabotage xx |
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"They can also be used by people who don’t have that much confidence and see themselves as being below someone’s standard or not attractive enough for someone,they can just put that in there as a way of initiating contact,messaging,thinking negatively first and hoping for the best if contact works and getting a reply.
Yeah, I agree... it's almost kinda like self deprecating, like "I know you're outta my league but I thought I would give it a go!" Again, it depends on the context. Self deprecating can be funny, until it crosses into self sabotage xx"
Yes,it’s giving up before you have even sent the message,therefore if it is a knock back or no reply,delete etc,you can put it down to I was expecting that,I knew she was out of my league.i think it can be harder for guys trying to start contact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a some messages that start with these words but it depends on what else they say in the rest of the message. If a bit of thought has been put into it then that's a good thing x |
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"Makes no odds to me what msg folk send I appraise it then decide if I will respond or not 
You never reply to me I clearly have to up my game cmon you know that's just me being cool and a fool "
Couldn't resist . |
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When I refused to watch a guy fuck a melon in cam, he ended the convo with ‘it was worth a try’. I didn’t respond. Cos I’m my eyes, it really wasn’t!
But if someone is respectful but it’s not meant to be and ends the chat with a similar phrase....fair enough, can’t argue!
I was always taught if you don’t ask you don’t get! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People are chancers, and often in life, if you don't ask you don't get. I can see why it could or would wear thin after a while in certain circumstances, though. "
Thanks Ima, yes that’s it, one even told me I was rude for politely declining x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had a some messages that start with these words but it depends on what else they say in the rest of the message. If a bit of thought has been put into it then that's a good thing x"
Yep that’s the one lovely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I refused to watch a guy fuck a melon in cam, he ended the convo with ‘it was worth a try’. I didn’t respond. Cos I’m my eyes, it really wasn’t!
But if someone is respectful but it’s not meant to be and ends the chat with a similar phrase....fair enough, can’t argue!
I was always taught if you don’t ask you don’t get!"
That’s interesting as are others take on it thanks maluv |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've you similar phrases in messages, I don't think it would bother me if I receive it in a message.
Thanks doc "
It would help if I actually made sense!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've you similar phrases in messages, I don't think it would bother me if I receive it in a message.
Thanks doc
It would help if I actually made sense! "
The last bit did lol x |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Wouldn't say j take offence at it, it does get wearisome though. Usually it is people who message without reading my profile, who have very different interests and who apply a scatter gun approach to messaging. When I politely point out the content of my profile they respond with "thought I'd take a chance/worth a try", as if that makes it OK that they didn't bother to read my profile or deliberately chose to ignore what it says. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I've used a similar sentiment In a message, in my mind it's been more of a, "you're out of my league but it thought it would give it a go" not those exact words but that idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think ultimately it depends on who sent it and more importantly what follows the first part,
ie, message from Hornyglesgaw guy
Just thought I chance it, can i su** your co**, ehhhhh naw!!
But the idea of it doesn't really bother me, it's just a little lead up to the rest of the message, |
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90% of the time its ignore or a fuck off reply anyway.
For the rest I read the profile, decide if it's worth chatting, if the follow up chat is low effort drivel or presumptuous then its "no thanks, happy fabbing etc.." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess I should put some context here as everyone has contributed so much (thank you all ). Had quite a few messages of late and I always reply if polite, my standard being to point out my profile is very clear, thank them and wish them well. Usually it’s end of with a “thanks and happy fabbing” all round. That hasn’t bothered me but if it’s “just thought I’d chance it” I’ve felt annoyed where I didn’t before 
Is it maybe that it almost starts to feel like maybe they're not all that bothered, but they just thought they would see if you said yes? Because if that's how I started to interpret it, I can see how that would get really irritating really fucking quickly lol xx"
I can see what you mean there but I’d say it’s more like they just ask everyone because someone will eventually say yes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wouldn't say j take offence at it, it does get wearisome though. Usually it is people who message without reading my profile, who have very different interests and who apply a scatter gun approach to messaging. When I politely point out the content of my profile they respond with "thought I'd take a chance/worth a try", as if that makes it OK that they didn't bother to read my profile or deliberately chose to ignore what it says. "
YES... definitely this, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I've used a similar sentiment In a message, in my mind it's been more of a, "you're out of my league but it thought it would give it a go" not those exact words but that idea."
This is an viewpoint I hadn’t thought of so it is interesting thanks doc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think ultimately it depends on who sent it and more importantly what follows the first part,
ie, message from Hornyglesgaw guy
Just thought I chance it, can i su** your co**, ehhhhh naw!!
But the idea of it doesn't really bother me, it's just a little lead up to the rest of the message, "
Agreed, as another poster said though, it can get wearisome when you go to great lengths to be clear in both profile and message. Thanks though it’s been really interesting hearing all the differing views |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"90% of the time its ignore or a fuck off reply anyway.
For the rest I read the profile, decide if it's worth chatting, if the follow up chat is low effort drivel or presumptuous then its "no thanks, happy fabbing etc..""
OR ... they get flung aboot like an empty tracksuit . Agreed Jo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's pretty daunting as a new person on this site sending a message for the first time.
Navigating your ways through what to say and what not to say is trial and error.
The likelihood is that whatever is put in a message, you'll have seen before, especially if you've been here a while.
I don't see any harm in those phrases on their own, although that depends entirely on the words that follow or precced them.
Like everything, context is key. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's pretty daunting as a new person on this site sending a message for the first time.
Navigating your ways through what to say and what not to say is trial and error.
The likelihood is that whatever is put in a message, you'll have seen before, especially if you've been here a while.
I don't see any harm in those phrases on their own, although that depends entirely on the words that follow or precced them.
Like everything, context is key."
Well said and thank you, agreed. As I said further back they weren’t but I didn’t want to say that in my original post as I was trying not to colour replies. |
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