Where are all the dirty minded, dirty talking deviant dom/domme tops/Masters/Mistresses.. Im struggling to find guys (or ladies) with anything more inspiring than "I want to fuck your ass" locally, so casting a wider net to see if I can snag an articulate dominant type who can really turn the dirtier, anything goes, submissive side of my mind on
Message here or PM.... Who knows where it might lead when we get back to travel and meets x x x
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over a year ago
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"Where are all the dirty minded, dirty talking deviant dom/domme tops/Masters/Mistresses.. Im struggling to find guys (or ladies) with anything more inspiring than "I want to fuck your ass" locally, so casting a wider net to see if I can snag an articulate dominant type who can really turn the dirtier, anything goes, submissive side of my mind on
Message here or PM.... Who knows where it might lead when we get back to travel and meets x x x
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I know nothing about you. Havd not read you profile. This post is purely based on the forum posting.
Dominants are definitely out there...
Perhaps they are not looking for or are interested in you.
This is not meant to be negative. More an observation and something to build on.
Bdsm is about networking and understanding consent, respect boundaries, limits etc.
If you do now show a basic level of understanding you will be completely overlooked by the majority of community as a wannabe "fifty shades".
You need to show a level of understanding and show good communication skills.
No different to FAB in general.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Maybe read some BDSM literature to gain more of an understanding of the Dom/sub relationship. Once you know what you are looking for then it may be easier to find what you are looking for.
As a sub I learned a lot about myself and what I liked and didn’t like while still pushing boundaries. It takes time and trust but is worth the effort. |
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So, I will start this off by saying I don't mean any offence to those who have replied by what I'm about to say as I'm sure you have the best of intentions to heart... However....
In replying on forum posts maybe take a moment before you decide you have to comment... As one has said they dont know anything about me and didnt bother to read my profile before responding, and throughout the comments many assumptions have been made....
Its been presumed I have asked for advice.
Having been on this site for roughly 10 years as well as others during and before that time advice is not something I'm looking for (unless I've asked something specific)
Its been assumed that I don't know how a Dom/Sum relationship works.
Again I refer you to my last point along with the fact I have been in multiple relationships in both roles (and switch) over the years (decades) so have learnt plenty (in some cases more than I want to know lol) about myself.
The assumption that the scene and your experience of it is the same for all.
Having indulged in the scene in Edinburgh, Glasgow and the North east at various points over the years I can tell you that its not the case. General local attitudes and basic rule of numbers plays a big part in that.
And lastly the assumption that I didn't get what I was looking for out of the forum post.
If you read my post again, I was very precise in what I was asking, and as I do have the understanding that many, especially gay or bi guys, don't want to post in a public forum I included the invitation to PM me. As it happens quite a few did get in touch (yes there were a lot of chancers in there too) and as a result I may have made a couple of good contacts and possibly future friends.
So, as I said no offence meant but please stop and think before posting, or at least look at the post and poster before commenting.
Apart from wasting your own time, the thing you may of may not be aware of is that reply's like these, where the reply doesn't take the original post or posters details into account, (although as I said are most likely coming from a heartfelt place) put people off using forums or can kill a thread as it spirals away from its original intent.
As I said no offence meant, just some things to think about.
Happy Swinging and take care
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"So, I will start this off by saying I don't mean any offence to those who have replied by what I'm about to say as I'm sure you have the best of intentions to heart... However....
In replying on forum posts maybe take a moment before you decide you have to comment... As one has said they dont know anything about me and didnt bother to read my profile before responding, and throughout the comments many assumptions have been made....
Its been presumed I have asked for advice.
Having been on this site for roughly 10 years as well as others during and before that time advice is not something I'm looking for (unless I've asked something specific)
Its been assumed that I don't know how a Dom/Sum relationship works.
Again I refer you to my last point along with the fact I have been in multiple relationships in both roles (and switch) over the years (decades) so have learnt plenty (in some cases more than I want to know lol) about myself.
The assumption that the scene and your experience of it is the same for all.
Having indulged in the scene in Edinburgh, Glasgow and the North east at various points over the years I can tell you that its not the case. General local attitudes and basic rule of numbers plays a big part in that.
And lastly the assumption that I didn't get what I was looking for out of the forum post.
If you read my post again, I was very precise in what I was asking, and as I do have the understanding that many, especially gay or bi guys, don't want to post in a public forum I included the invitation to PM me. As it happens quite a few did get in touch (yes there were a lot of chancers in there too) and as a result I may have made a couple of good contacts and possibly future friends.
So, as I said no offence meant but please stop and think before posting, or at least look at the post and poster before commenting.
Apart from wasting your own time, the thing you may of may not be aware of is that reply's like these, where the reply doesn't take the original post or posters details into account, (although as I said are most likely coming from a heartfelt place) put people off using forums or can kill a thread as it spirals away from its original intent.
As I said no offence meant, just some things to think about.
Happy Swinging and take care
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Your profile doesn’t mention anything about BDSM apart from what you’ve ticked in the ‘likes’ section. If you’re looking for a sub then I’d expect to see more about what kind of dominant person you are.
Don’t have a go at people who have responded for not reading your profile when reading it would’ve left them none the wiser! I have read it 3 times now! |
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over a year ago
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Plenty mistresses out there. Perhaps you need to work on your approach a little.
Focus on what you have to offer rather than listing “requirements”
Just an observation |
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