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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi , been wondering what kind of message is best for first contact ? Saying hi and describing your self and your interests or a little dirty message saying what you would like to do to them ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A dirty message makes you look like a creep and gets you blocked more often than not. Just because it is a swingers site, doesn't mean that manners don't need to be applied |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thats what i thought and never have sent a message like that . Was starting to think i was sending the wrong type of message as dont get many replys back , just get messages deleted |
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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago
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I know what not to do... just type "hows u" with a pic of a cock. That seems to be what the majority think will work.
Another one that wont work is assuming sending a message gets you a shag.
Basically for me I get about 10-15msgs and they all say the same thing, no one stands out and doesnt look like they have even tried or read the profile. If someone were to message me with something different they have more chance of a reply but depends how much messages im sifting through at the time |
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"I know what not to do... just type "hows u" with a pic of a cock. That seems to be what the majority think will work.
Another one that wont work is assuming sending a message gets you a shag.
Basically for me I get about 10-15msgs and they all say the same thing, no one stands out and doesnt look like they have even tried or read the profile. If someone were to message me with something different they have more chance of a reply but depends how much messages im sifting through at the time"
Really - that disnae work? FFS lol - need to reassess how to address women on here lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is, even if you take the time to read the profile, write an email (not cut n paste job) and send a photo you still aren't guaranteed a reply.
Have a wank, it's less complicated, doesnt cost anything and your hand never complains if you fall asleep afterwards.  |
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"Fancy a shag lol"
Oh Vikky why are others not like you. How easy and uncomplicated life would be lol x
Is there not a site where you buy presents and things for folks to send with messages? Bet you'd probably still get no answer lol 
Oh - and aye, if you're offering x! |
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By *macv9Woman
over a year ago
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May be a personal thing, but my advise would be show you've put effort into reading the profile AND thinking about the message. You can't do this in one sentence so make the first contact count by having a fair bit of detail about yourself (if it's not in your profile) or questions about me. I've had a couple of first messages from people who have apologised for the length of their first message but there's been no need to! I've got back to each of them and they've all turned out to be the best contacts i've had through this site and the only ones I've gone on to meet. It really does come down to effort - not an easy thing to impress on people who've put effort in and still not got replies. Truth is that you need a touch of luck too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while, try to send respectful well thought out messages with face pics attached and not seeming to get anywhere can anyone help? X "
Only 1 veri from a year ago! Get on cam in chat socialise more, bit cloak and dagger with your first paragraph its only really apropriate if ud had previous veris or something but uv no, no profile pictures obv doesnt need to be a face or a cock but some nice half clothed pics, and probably a bit more charming sounding or maybe its your grammar? Try describing your interests a bit more, socialise definetly more, dont expect meets and sex expect socialising and befriending sex comes later oh and also u are only 23 so could be the ages ect of couples and women you are going for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while, try to send respectful well thought out messages with face pics attached and not seeming to get anywhere can anyone help? X
Only 1 veri from a year ago! Get on cam in chat socialise more, bit cloak and dagger with your first paragraph its only really apropriate if ud had previous veris or something but uv no, no profile pictures obv doesnt need to be a face or a cock but some nice half clothed pics, and probably a bit more charming sounding or maybe its your grammar? Try describing your interests a bit more, socialise definetly more, dont expect meets and sex expect socialising and befriending sex comes later oh and also u are only 23 so could be the ages ect of couples and women you are going for"
The irony.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while, try to send respectful well thought out messages with face pics attached and not seeming to get anywhere can anyone help? X
Only 1 veri from a year ago! Get on cam in chat socialise more, bit cloak and dagger with your first paragraph its only really apropriate if ud had previous veris or something but uv no, no profile pictures obv doesnt need to be a face or a cock but some nice half clothed pics, and probably a bit more charming sounding or maybe its your grammar? Try describing your interests a bit more, socialise definetly more, dont expect meets and sex expect socialising and befriending sex comes later oh and also u are only 23 so could be the ages ect of couples and women you are going for
The irony. "
If hes sending well thought out messages its the profile girls look |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while, try to send respectful well thought out messages with face pics attached and not seeming to get anywhere can anyone help? X
Only 1 veri from a year ago! Get on cam in chat socialise more, bit cloak and dagger with your first paragraph its only really apropriate if ud had previous veris or something but uv no, no profile pictures obv doesnt need to be a face or a cock but some nice half clothed pics, and probably a bit more charming sounding or maybe its your grammar? Try describing your interests a bit more, socialise definetly more, dont expect meets and sex expect socialising and befriending sex comes later oh and also u are only 23 so could be the ages ect of couples and women you are going for
The irony.
If hes sending well thought out messages its the profile girls look"
Eh??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while, try to send respectful well thought out messages with face pics attached and not seeming to get anywhere can anyone help? X
Only 1 veri from a year ago! Get on cam in chat socialise more, bit cloak and dagger with your first paragraph its only really apropriate if ud had previous veris or something but uv no, no profile pictures obv doesnt need to be a face or a cock but some nice half clothed pics, and probably a bit more charming sounding or maybe its your grammar? Try describing your interests a bit more, socialise definetly more, dont expect meets and sex expect socialising and befriending sex comes later oh and also u are only 23 so could be the ages ect of couples and women you are going for"
thank you for your advice I’ll be sure to take it on board x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know what not to do... just type "hows u" with a pic of a cock. That seems to be what the majority think will work.
Another one that wont work is assuming sending a message gets you a shag.
Basically for me I get about 10-15msgs and they all say the same thing, no one stands out and doesnt look like they have even tried or read the profile. If someone were to message me with something different they have more chance of a reply but depends how much messages im sifting through at the time"
I hate the mesage with just an X and a dick pic ..... I mean WTAF  |
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"hi , been wondering what kind of message is best for first contact ? Saying hi and describing your self and your interests or a little dirty message saying what you would like to do to them ? "
I send messages which are polite and include a face picture, though the majority will delete with no reply. It’s no different to speaking to someone face to face, they either want to or not. I don’t let it phase me. |
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"A message that shows the person has actually read the profile is always good. Imo. "
That’s what I hope for, but still doesn’t guarantee a reply - even if it is a no thanks. However I do realise that females are inundated with messages on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know
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#### "I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics." ####
Just wanna say incase someone bites my head off, I don't mean this for every female and couple, some of them may like it but generally most I've chatted to, don't like it, until they are ready to see it.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know
The bit I said about
#### "I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics." ####
Just wanna say incase someone bites my head off, I don't mean this for every female and couple, some of them may like it but generally most I've chatted to, don't like it, until they are ready to see it. "
When are you ever ready to receieve a cock pic? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know
The bit I said about
#### "I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics." ####
Just wanna say incase someone bites my head off, I don't mean this for every female and couple, some of them may like it but generally most I've chatted to, don't like it, until they are ready to see it.
When are you ever ready to receive a cock pic? Lol"
I don't know, all I know is that there are a few girls now and then who have on their status that they love cock pics. But personally being on here even they would expect to have had enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know
The bit I said about
#### "I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics." ####
Just wanna say incase someone bites my head off, I don't mean this for every female and couple, some of them may like it but generally most I've chatted to, don't like it, until they are ready to see it.
When are you ever ready to receive a cock pic? Lol
I don't know, all I know is that there are a few girls now and then who have on their status that they love cock pics. But personally being on here even they would expect to have had enough "
No horsey we just love cocks |
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Hello
I was reading your sexy profile and I noticed you like to.............
If that’s in the message preview with an ok name and your profile picture shows you in a suit at a social function you will have your foot in every woman’s door. Not necessarily her vagina. But it’s a start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A dirty first message is never a good thing and will get you blocked as will anything abusive. Be yourself and show your personality but don't be cheeky or big headed about it. Manners cost nothing  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never sent a first message to anyone before but I don't like autobiographies. I like a few sentences of small talk and I will look at the profile then if the message appeals. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always best to avoid ironic humour as well imo.... Not everybody is bright enough to get that particular brand of wit.
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Often the way in which it is read is the let down...people find it harder to interpret others' intended sarcasm through words and text |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello
I was reading your sexy profile and I noticed you like to.............
If that’s in the message preview with an ok name and your profile picture shows you in a suit at a social function you will have your foot in every woman’s door. Not necessarily her vagina. But it’s a start. "
Not 'every' woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics. Make sure they have read the persons profile whom they are contacting and make the message interesting and clear what you are trying to convey.
Then I suppose the person sending the message should make sure their own profile should be clear and concise what they want/looking for and hopefully interesting and funny (don't even bother looking at mine, its boring).
I really suppose it's all common sense and just cause everyone, even females and couples are on fabswingers, it does not mean they all want the same thing as you so you need to find out, reading their profile, their verifications and if you get a reply get a feel for their messages and what they are interested in and why would you make them sit up and take notice.
But hey, what do I know
The bit I said about
#### "I think any guy messaging a female or Cpl I would expect they lessen their chances with a cock pic as their avatar and then a cock pic inside their public pics." ####
Just wanna say incase someone bites my head off, I don't mean this for every female and couple, some of them may like it but generally most I've chatted to, don't like it, until they are ready to see it.
When are you ever ready to receive a cock pic? Lol
I don't know, all I know is that there are a few girls now and then who have on their status that they love cock pics. But personally being on here even they would expect to have had enough
No horsey we just love cocks "
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"Hello
I was reading your sexy profile and I noticed you like to.............
If that’s in the message preview with an ok name and your profile picture shows you in a suit at a social function you will have your foot in every woman’s door. Not necessarily her vagina. But it’s a start.
Not 'every' woman "
Not if the lock is rusty. |
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