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What does i expect discretion mean to you ?
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Ok heres a question for you ..time and time again you look at and read profiles that say discretion is a must due to them being either married or in a relationship yet the said same people have face pix on full display ..are attending the likes of sciials and swinging clubs and often with swinging partners  or are airing who they are meeting on the forums so where does the discretion come into this ?cause im baffled by it lol |
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"Often thought that myself lol. I always thought discretion meant you didnt want anyone knowing, seeing your face, knowing your identity, what you've been doing etc etc lol"
Yeah me too seems a bit odd that they go to such extremes to point it out on profiles yet dont do what they need to to kept things discrete |
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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah me too seems a bit odd that they go to such extremes to point it out on profiles yet dont do what they need to to kept things discrete "
Can just imagine them meeting another discreet person and the following day they come to to see they have posted 100 pics of the meet lol |
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Being discreet means you expect the other party not to broadcast your details to friends, family, workmates, employers, etc, who you don't wish to know about your more bawdy activities.
With previous partners, our desire for discretion meant we were unwilling to send face photos. The problem there being that nobody would countenance meeting or going further in conversations without them.
So you have to find a balance. And hope that the other party is genuine and without malice. |
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I suppose for some discretion is about that first social meet - you widnae want tae meet for coffee in a pub etc and be greeted loudly with "hello are you lush tits fae fab swingers. Good . I'm cock4u". Equally- there is the what goes on at the meet stays at the meet - well do you want your dirty details broadcast? And before anyonne reports me comments in this answer do not refer to any fab member who may happen to have a user name of the kind discussed above. |
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For me discretion is just not blabbing to all and sundry about what has happened.
Same goes for any photos taken at the meet then they should not be published which can identify another person without their permission |
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"the best pics are where they have cut their own heads off but only put a tiny black strip over the eyes of the other people in the pics...  "
agree _iew with many even tho blanked out some are still recognisable |
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over a year ago
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Ha ha maybe you don't want miss whiplash in thigh boots latex hood and whip getting out of a taxi in your cul de sac while all the kids are playing.
No reference intended if there is a miss whiplash on this site! If there is please wink ha ha ha |
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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago
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"Ha ha maybe you don't want miss whiplash in thigh boots latex hood and whip getting out of a taxi in your cul de sac while all the kids are playing.
No reference intended if there is a miss whiplash on this site! If there is please wink ha ha ha"
 you said you would be discreet, now my secrets out lol |
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"Ha ha maybe you don't want miss whiplash in thigh boots latex hood and whip getting out of a taxi in your cul de sac while all the kids are playing.
No reference intended if there is a miss whiplash on this site! If there is please wink ha ha ha
you said you would be discreet, now my secrets out lol"
Damn !! sorry Nikki forgot You told me not to mention "The Incident" glad I had the gimp mask on in case my neighbours recognised me lol xx |
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"the best pics are where they have cut their own heads off but only put a tiny black strip over the eyes of the other people in the pics... "
Cracker. That makes me laugh too when I see them.
is it just us, or does anyone else find it a tad OTT when you see people in chat, who have recently met bragging about their meet? I mean warts and all…. everything that went on?
OK, funny as a bit of banter and inuendo…. but do people really want to hear how many times he stuck up her a**e?
Maybe were been prude in our old age 
Another one is 'Oh… were meeting MrsMaddonaWithTheFallenBoobies on Saturday… cant wait'
Or…. 'Are we still meeting at the weekend Mrxxxxxx'
Somethings should just be left to private mail me thinks.
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"Being discreet means you expect the other party not to broadcast your details to friends, family, workmates, employers, etc, who you don't wish to know about your more bawdy activities.
With previous partners, our desire for discretion meant we were unwilling to send face photos. The problem there being that nobody would countenance meeting or going further in conversations without them.
So you have to find a balance. And hope that the other party is genuine and without malice."
I don't think it could be better put.
Discretion sought just means that you don't want your business broadcast all over the place. Usually employment is a reason though Tommy Sheridan may say differently!
I have not been to a social though I have been keen to do so
It does seem daft that folk that request do show faces etc. |
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This is something I encountered on a different site and it EXPLODED on me.
I met Mr X. He said, "let's keep it our little secret," I'm like sure.
Several months after I was chatting to my best friend over a bottle of wine...or four, and he came into conversation.
Turns out she knew him (start to sweat) "No bother she says, I won't tell anybody."
She then chatted to her friend who knew Mr X, and his long term partner of 8 years who hadn't a clue that her fella liked a strap-on, being whipped or gagged.
I then start getting abusive text message, phone calls etc.
Now I know I shouldn't have opened my mouth, but surely you would think twice and explain why it's to be kept a secret.
I'm all up for discretion, but telling people why is also a very good thing to do! |
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"the best pics are where they have cut their own heads off but only put a tiny black strip over the eyes of the other people in the pics...
Cracker. That makes me laugh too when I see them.
is it just us, or does anyone else find it a tad OTT when you see people in chat, who have recently met bragging about their meet? I mean warts and all…. everything that went on?
OK, funny as a bit of banter and inuendo…. but do people really want to hear how many times he stuck up her a**e?
Maybe were been prude in our old age
Another one is 'Oh… were meeting MrsMaddonaWithTheFallenBoobies on Saturday… cant wait'
Or…. 'Are we still meeting at the weekend Mrxxxxxx'
Somethings should just be left to private mail me thinks.
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"Being discreet means you expect the other party not to broadcast your details to friends, family, workmates, employers, etc, who you don't wish to know about your more bawdy activities.
With previous partners, our desire for discretion meant we were unwilling to send face photos. The problem there being that nobody would countenance meeting or going further in conversations without them.
So you have to find a balance. And hope that the other party is genuine and without malice.
I don't think it could be better put.
Discretion sought just means that you don't want your business broadcast all over the place. Usually employment is a reason though Tommy Sheridan may say differently!
I have not been to a social though I have been keen to do so
It does seem daft that folk that request do show faces etc. "
Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet |
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"the best pics are where they have cut their own heads off but only put a tiny black strip over the eyes of the other people in the pics...
Cracker. That makes me laugh too when I see them.
is it just us, or does anyone else find it a tad OTT when you see people in chat, who have recently met bragging about their meet? I mean warts and all…. everything that went on?
OK, funny as a bit of banter and inuendo…. but do people really want to hear how many times he stuck up her a**e?
Maybe were been prude in our old age
Another one is 'Oh… were meeting MrsMaddonaWithTheFallenBoobies on Saturday… cant wait'
Or…. 'Are we still meeting at the weekend Mrxxxxxx'
Somethings should just be left to private mail me thinks.
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"Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet "
I agree - but I do take it that if someone goes to a social there is enough discretion that it won't go round that such and such was at our meeting etc?
Or am I wrong |
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"the best pics are where they have cut their own heads off but only put a tiny black strip over the eyes of the other people in the pics...
Cracker. That makes me laugh too when I see them.
is it just us, or does anyone else find it a tad OTT when you see people in chat, who have recently met bragging about their meet? I mean warts and all…. everything that went on?
OK, funny as a bit of banter and inuendo…. but do people really want to hear how many times he stuck up her a**e?
Maybe were been prude in our old age
Another one is 'Oh… were meeting MrsMaddonaWithTheFallenBoobies on Saturday… cant wait'
Or…. 'Are we still meeting at the weekend Mrxxxxxx'
Somethings should just be left to private mail me thinks.
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Agree, its "too much info", "toe curling" at times. I think its a type of insecurity, same with blow by blow verifications that read so detailed you feel you were almost there yerself,lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Another bugbear is the peeps who message you and ask who is in ure pics because they would like to meet them lol Sorry,im not pimping out my friends or giving out details,my business,nor do i reccommend guys lol I think some think im the yellow pages hehe
Find your own bloody meets !!!
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"Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet
I agree - but I do take it that if someone goes to a social there is enough discretion that it won't go round that such and such was at our meeting etc?
Or am I wrong"
Well some will some won't ...but again your missing the point ,if discretion is so Important to them why are they attending swinging socials and swing clubs where they can be easily recognised ? When at a social we all know what we are but don't everyone and their aunty to know to but once alcohol is consumed some can't hold their tongues lol |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet
I agree - but I do take it that if someone goes to a social there is enough discretion that it won't go round that such and such was at our meeting etc?
Or am I wrongWell some will some won't ...but again your missing the point ,if discretion is so Important to them why are they attending swinging socials and swing clubs where they can be easily recognised ? "
Because they expect/hope that the people at Swinging clubs and socials are discreet? |
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"Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet
I agree - but I do take it that if someone goes to a social there is enough discretion that it won't go round that such and such was at our meeting etc?
Or am I wrongWell some will some won't ...but again your missing the point ,if discretion is so Important to them why are they attending swinging socials and swing clubs where they can be easily recognised ?
Because they expect/hope that the people at Swinging clubs and socials are discreet?"
Inceed but many of the social drinks nites and lunches are in public places not behind closed doors just for swingers |
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Have to say I have been contacted by strangers and have meet really nice people because I have been recommended by friends of theres. But in most cases I have been asked by the couples/ladies if its all right if I pass on your contact details.
I do not disagree with what you are saying and I have no problems arranging my own meets, but sometimes it works the other way as well  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Well if they dont want thier business all broadcast they need to do more to protect themselfs having face pix on their profiles and flaunting themselves about in public is not being discreet
I agree - but I do take it that if someone goes to a social there is enough discretion that it won't go round that such and such was at our meeting etc?
Or am I wrongWell some will some won't ...but again your missing the point ,if discretion is so Important to them why are they attending swinging socials and swing clubs where they can be easily recognised ?
Because they expect/hope that the people at Swinging clubs and socials are discreet?Inceed but many of the social drinks nites and lunches are in public places not behind closed doors just for swingers "
I am assuming as they are lunches and drinks nites in public places you don't have a sign around your neck saying " we are swingers on a meet and greet night"...so I am also assuming lunch and drink nights just look like a few people meeting for ...drinks and lunch. |
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"Ok heres a question for you ..time and time again you look at and read profiles that say discretion is a must due to them being either married or in a relationship yet the said same people have face pix on full display ..are attending the likes of sciials and swinging clubs and often with swinging partners or are airing who they are meeting on the forums so where does the discretion come into this ?cause im baffled by it lol"
Discretion to me is minding my own profile and not worrying about everyone else's.
It's up to them how they get their meets, conduct themselves throughout meets and if they wish photograph themselves during their meets.
If they feel they are being discreet then who am I to worry about it?
I know I can be discreet about my affairs if I wish to be ..... all part of being an adult, and last time I looked this was an adult site.
Some may only regard being discreet as just not letting on to their OH they are on here!
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