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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a lot of talk about a social side to this 'scene', the whys and wherefores, but particularly if it's a 1st time then surely a coffee/drink is the way to go for starters?
Much more civilised!! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of both if being completely honest, we just got stuck in when we first started out, although the ones we did meet at short notice have turned out to be the closest of our friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have done both lol
but always best to have a wee chat to break the ice b4 any sex happens lol
but sometimes tooo much chat and your left wondering ,,,right when is this gonna kick off lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"have done both lol
but always best to have a wee chat to break the ice b4 any sex happens lol
but sometimes tooo much chat and your left wondering ,,,right when is this gonna kick off lol "
as soon as you say so ?? xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to chat - although if its a quick meet were time is an issue we have jumped str8 in lol xxxx (used to luv those afternoon meets, alas full-time work has put paid to that) 
All depends on the situation, there is always the first move issue, although that does add to the sexcitement. |
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We always prefer to meet for even just a quick chat first - there have been the occasions where the chemistry just wasn't there on meeting so it didn't go anywhere (but have to admit that doesn't happen often)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had both....some we've got carried away chatting and after about an hour someone says usually twigs why we're all there!
I've also had some where we all just jumped in and that was pretty hot as well....we sat around in the buff afterwards and had a few glasses of wine and a blether then!
Its all good! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As we said in earlier post its got to be chat / coffee / meal first even with those we meet on a regular basis.
As nice as having someone start tearing thier ( and your's ) clothes off as soon as you walk in the door would be , think it would soon loose its luster and be replaced by a very strong feeling of being used!.
Just our opinion mind ....lol
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By *ubgla KhanMan
over a year ago
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"I always arrange 2 meet for coffee first in public place - single female so hv 2 b wary "
Thats the way I prefer it - and I'd advise everyone to do similar.
Besides, if you cant chat with someone, I'd find sex very bloody boring and after awkward! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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erm.. don't tear anything off.... we can stay dressed for a while after he arrives.. he just likes it that way.. first time we chatted for hours... before and after.. oh.. and during  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"erm.. don't tear anything off.... we can stay dressed for a while after he arrives.. he just likes it that way.. first time we chatted for hours... before and after.. oh.. and during "
It appears you think our previous post was aimed at you, we can assure you and anyone else it was NOT.
It was intended as a generalization for "jumping strait into sex".
We know personally that you like to chat and the social side of the swinging scene.
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Getting right to it can be very good if you tease each other a bit via text etc before the meet takes place. When your par amour walks through the door it can be very erotic to get right to it, having been worked up into a frenzy beforehand. Plenty time for chatting later, post orgasm! Sitting round chatting waiting for someone to suggest some naughtiness can be very awkward and artificial. That said, it all depends on who you are meeting - if you know they like to chat first then, absolutely, go with that. And single fems should always meet in public initially to see what their instincts tell them about someone they are meeting for the first time - that's an absolute given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer jumping on in lol. But also like the flirty bit at a pub or restaurant.
Have done both and enjoyed both.
The sitting hoping someone will make the first move is the most uncomfy feeling when you are not sure of the agenda G x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have done both.
However, that said as we are quite new to this we prefer getting to know ppl 1st, and agree the initial getting things started is still awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some chat first is our way of doing it,even with some girls we have met upteen times. its a defo for first meet with new people too...something wev been kinda busy doing hence the lack of forum posting psml x x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends really, I prefer to meet for a coffee/lunch first. Especially if its a couple, too many men have approached me about various things only to find the lady was not in the loop.
Single ladies I have a laugh with on here first, possibly meeting for a coffee or if we hit it off on the phone its right into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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first time meet then chat yeh !!! but i usually have a social meet with folk first, but first sexual meet always nice to chat as im told i can chat for scotland....
regular meets when they turn up i make sure the doors locked then its game on!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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definitely have to chat first even when actually meeting up i prefer going for a drink and a chat before hand.
It goes a long way to making any potential meet 10 times better than these people demanding you (came across a few couples that are bad for this) to drop what you're doing and meet them because you're a single guy and therefore must be desperate. |
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