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Why don't ladies message?
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"So I was going through my messages and the whole time I've been on here only 9 ladies have messaged me first. Is that a high number or not?"
How long have you been on here? One year, 9 would be slightly below average I think. 5 years. Oh dearie me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I was going through my messages and the whole time I've been on here only 9 ladies have messaged me first. Is that a high number or not?"
Because ladies get pestered that much the dont need to message anyone |
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"So I was going through my messages and the whole time I've been on here only 9 ladies have messaged me first. Is that a high number or not?"
I would say your lucky as I think I’ve had 1 lady message me first and that was because of a forum game lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I was going through my messages and the whole time I've been on here only 9 ladies have messaged me first. Is that a high number or not?"
I’ll always message someone first if I’m into them! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"If so many men wernt so shit to the ladies s nice guys would have a better shot  "
Nice guys will do just fine if they conduct themselves as such, in the same way as nice females do. The problematic in both genders don't. |
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"If so many men wernt so shit to the ladies s nice guys would have a better shot
Nice guys will do just fine if they conduct themselves as such, in the same way as nice females do. The problematic in both genders don't."
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Definitely would be nice to receive a wee first message. Doesn’t help that I have a heavily guarded profile but I have my reasons for that which a lot of folk seem to not like. Privacy is privacy and should be respected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because some couldn't cope with rejection in the same way as some guys can't."
True this. Not enough women have been told "no thanks" by guys. Really puts their knickers in a twist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe you're not what they're looking for, maybe they think they're not what you're looking for.
Or maybe they just don't know how to make the first move.
If I like the look of someone, I'll wink. Not because I'm lazy but purely to test the waters. Not everyone responds to winks though.
So I may have screwed myself over, but that's my fault x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of them don't need to they get plenty of messages to choose from either that or they don't like to message first also you may not be what they are looking for |
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Not sure why they don't message me. It's provably a combination of:
They're not attracted to me.
Don't like what's on my profile.
Too far away.
Too close by.
I've been on here too long.
And they generally have the pick of the boys.
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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"So 9 messages in a year is lucky or below what other guys get?"
more likely 9 men pretending to be women; and number is irrelevant. I'd rather than 1 good friend here than 9 nonsense messages.
Majority of men on here see the site as freesex so just harass/spam the good women folk, expecting women to be desperate for sex. Not the case at all!
The decent respectful guys on here have no problems meeting women though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
Aren't you a clever boy getting 6 non fatties to message you. What's your secret? Your charm?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So 9 messages in a year is lucky or below what other guys get?
more likely 9 men pretending to be women; and number is irrelevant. I'd rather than 1 good friend here than 9 nonsense messages.
Majority of men on here see the site as freesex so just harass/spam the good women folk, expecting women to be desperate for sex. Not the case at all!
The decent respectful guys on here have no problems meeting women though "
If it's not free sex ..what is it?
I wouldnt expect women to be desperate, but I would expect them to have an interest in sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)
Aren't you a clever boy getting 6 non fatties to message you. What's your secret? Your charm? "
Oh I'm very charming  and brutally honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
Awww the fatties don't fancy you anyway so I wouldn't worry your head about it |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)
Aren't you a clever boy getting 6 non fatties to message you. What's your secret? Your charm?
Oh I'm very charming and brutally honest "
^^ and herein lies the reason why I never message first!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ladies do message first but they often don’t have to. This is simple arithmetic, the ratio of men to women is reckoned as anything from 25 to 1 up. Therefore women can choose from those that message them or engage by going in chat or the forums for example. They will often then be messaged from that. However women do message, they just don’t do it the way men do. If a woman messages she’s probably thought about it, read the profile and found something genuinely worth her interest. Men tend to message lots of women just hoping for a response (meet) fancy-a-fuck style.
Disclaimer: I’m well aware there are women here who use the site badly and very charming, articulate and intelligent men here, hell I’ve even met a couple of them. There are behaviour patterns though, the above is merely my observation |
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)
Aren't you a clever boy getting 6 non fatties to message you. What's your secret? Your charm?
Oh I'm very charming and brutally honest
^^ and herein lies the reason why I never message first!!! "
I'd be all over the niceness, so message me first  |
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"Ladies do message first but they often don’t have to. This is simple arithmetic, the ratio of men to women is reckoned as anything from 25 to 1 up. Therefore women can choose from those that message them or engage by going in chat or the forums for example. They will often then be messaged from that. However women do message, they just don’t do it the way men do. If a woman messages she’s probably thought about it, read the profile and found something genuinely worth her interest. Men tend to message lots of women just hoping for a response (meet) fancy-a-fuck style.
Disclaimer: I’m well aware there are women here who use the site badly and very charming, articulate and intelligent men here, hell I’ve even met a couple of them. There are behaviour patterns though, the above is merely my observation "
Oh jeez! I might have to change me profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do (and I did when I had a solo profile). In my mind its better to hunt than be hunted.
If guys find their inbox empty and they don't get messages from people they are interested in I would suggest it's because their profile isn't appealing / engaging / of interest to those people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies do message first but they often don’t have to. This is simple arithmetic, the ratio of men to women is reckoned as anything from 25 to 1 up. Therefore women can choose from those that message them or engage by going in chat or the forums for example. They will often then be messaged from that. However women do message, they just don’t do it the way men do. If a woman messages she’s probably thought about it, read the profile and found something genuinely worth her interest. Men tend to message lots of women just hoping for a response (meet) fancy-a-fuck style.
Disclaimer: I’m well aware there are women here who use the site badly and very charming, articulate and intelligent men here, hell I’ve even met a couple of them. There are behaviour patterns though, the above is merely my observation
Oh jeez! I might have to change me profile "
I’ve perved... I mean perused yours, it’s fine, especially the bum pic  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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I will message a profile which I find interesting, or occasionally in response to something someone has said in a forum discussion. A message doesn't automatically mean I'm interested in meeting the person though (which a lot seem to assume it does). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
oh you charmer and men wonder why woman get fed up on this site with guys like you |
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By *iimonMan
over a year ago
glasgow |
6 is more than me but I don't come on enough and chat, leave comments or upload pics. Probably find the more active you are on here the more you will get noticed.
Just my opinion. Have a great day everyone
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
Yet your profile doesn’t state your preference, is that cause your ego needs a boost from all the messages you receive so you’re happy to receive a message from a fatty you just wouldn’t actually go near them?
Block option comes in handy when using forums |
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By *indfkdWoman
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
 really?
We all have preferences, maybe you should put on your profile, you dont like fat birds |
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)
Yet your profile doesn’t state your preference, is that cause your ego needs a boost from all the messages you receive so you’re happy to receive a message from a fatty you just wouldn’t actually go near them?
Block option comes in handy when using forums "
Fat birds are no use if you have a small cock...... |
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By *ugyukMan
over a year ago
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"If so many men wernt so shit to the ladies s nice guys would have a better shot
Nice guys will do just fine if they conduct themselves as such, in the same way as nice females do. The problematic in both genders don't."
So..........whits ma excuse then?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)
Awww the fatties don't fancy you anyway so I wouldn't worry your head about it "
lol
touchy
sometimes there is more fun in reading these messages than an actual meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think I’ve every had a lady message me, I’ve messaged but never seem to get any where so I stopped messaging them, I’ve never had great chat so that’s prob why I don’t get replies |
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"Ive received approx 15 messages from ladies since joining and 6 are very attractive and not obese (unlike many on here)"
See when you’ve finished with the ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ book can I borrow it? Have you even read it? |
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