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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Obviously no one can meet just now anyway because of COVID. But when you do - how do you feel about a social first?
99% of the guys I talk to don’t want one.
I can understand it, but I’m looking for a fwb, not a one and done.
How does everyone else feel about them?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I e been on 2 social distance walks been lovely getting out in this weather with good company shooting shit about fab "
Oh really? That’s not a bad plan! Might be fun to be able to talk to some people about it haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It doesn't matter if they want them or not. Your set your own rules ......
Innocent  "
Yeah I’ve been thinking that. Maybe I’m just not patient enough to wait for the right guy :/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I e been on 2 social distance walks been lovely getting out in this weather with good company shooting shit about fab
Oh really? That’s not a bad plan! Might be fun to be able to talk to some people about it haha"
It's great actually had one this morning very nice guy super sexy wanted to jump on him haha but we remained apart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe I landed lucky but when I was meeting people no one ever had any objections to a social meeting.
Rarely they ever went further than that which tells me it definitely was the best way |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Always a social first, sometimes more than one. If a guy isn't prepared to meet me for a social first, to establish whether there is a connection/attraction, then he won't be meeting me at all!
The only exception to this is in a club environment, but even in those circumstances I'd still expect some social interaction/conversation first.
Not currently meeting at all though, not even for a social, & don't plan to be for quite a while. |
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"always insist on a social but just now I dont see the point as I'm not meeting until this is over"
You could have a long wait unfortunately. There was some professor on the TV saying that Covid will be with us forever like the common cold and flu.
I like a social as I like a good old chat. |
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We’ve made a lot of good friends at socials and they’re a great way of keeping in touch with them.
Before lockdown, we’d just started doing more further afield so that we’d meet new folk as we’re (somewhat) well known at cjs! (We’re there so often) 
Think less pressure at social as you get chance to chat to people and if you do want something to maybe happen later down the line, then you can arrange it on your own/their terms.
Millie x |
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By *arpdiemCouple
over a year ago
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Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with. "
Do you think people who aren't swingers don't like to chat and socialise with people before they have sex with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"always insist on a social but just now I dont see the point as I'm not meeting until this is over
You could have a long wait unfortunately. There was some professor on the TV saying that Covid will be with us forever like the common cold and flu.
I like a social as I like a good old chat."
I'm in no hurry |
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By *arpdiemCouple
over a year ago
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"Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with.
Do you think people who aren't swingers don't like to chat and socialise with people before they have sex with them?"
Think the majority on here that aren't don't no unless it's idle chit chat before the main event but that's not a social lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with.
Do you think people who aren't swingers don't like to chat and socialise with people before they have sex with them?
Think the majority on here that aren't don't no unless it's idle chit chat before the main event but that's not a social lol. "
I think you might be wrong  |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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Always have a social first, the lady not happy, tough. The only time I didn't, and didn't get a phone number either, resulted in a no show!
Having said that, most of my socials have turned into something else, I've obviously met a lot of naughty ladies!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think socials are essential make sure you both click and on same level, last time was on site has a social first and was brilliant first fun meet just made each other laugh so much and laughter means fun |
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"Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with.
Do you think people who aren't swingers don't like to chat and socialise with people before they have sex with them?"
We’ve had that happen; the men tend to talk to Ian about me (when I’m not around) and he says if it’s her you want to play with, talk to HER. But then they just hover round me and don’t say anything; if you can’t even just say ‘hi’ I’m not likely to want to go play. I know some ppl just want a straight ‘meet & fuck’ and that’s fine but it’s not how I am.
Millie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have yet to have a meet of any kind on here but if it was me I would go with a social meet with distance of course. That way both parties can determine if there is a connection build the trust. I think baby steps need to be taken with what's going on right now, but it's really upto yourself. I hope this helped a little |
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By *arpdiemCouple
over a year ago
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"Agree with the comment above, we like a social, we are swingers so the social side of the scene is as important to us as the play plus it gives you a chance to actually chat face to face and see if you actually get along, we'd prefer to make friends we can play with.
Do you think people who aren't swingers don't like to chat and socialise with people before they have sex with them?
We’ve had that happen; the men tend to talk to Ian about me (when I’m not around) and he says if it’s her you want to play with, talk to HER. But then they just hover round me and don’t say anything; if you can’t even just say ‘hi’ I’m not likely to want to go play. I know some ppl just want a straight ‘meet & fuck’ and that’s fine but it’s not how I am.
Millie "
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