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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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morning all. As a single guy on here I find myself getting frustrated on here more than enjoying it. But I think most people will feel that way but for different reasons.
I guess it depends on your circumstances to what frustrations you feel.
Anyway, use this thread to vent them and possibly people who read it will be more tolerant of other people's issues. |
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"morning all. As a single guy on here I find myself getting frustrated on here more than enjoying it. But I think most people will feel that way but for different reasons.
I guess it depends on your circumstances to what frustrations you feel.
Anyway, use this thread to vent them and possibly people who read it will be more tolerant of other people's issues. "
So what is it thats frustrating you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"morning all. As a single guy on here I find myself getting frustrated on here more than enjoying it. But I think most people will feel that way but for different reasons.
I guess it depends on your circumstances to what frustrations you feel.
Anyway, use this thread to vent them and possibly people who read it will be more tolerant of other people's issues. So what is it thats frustrating you?"
Think just generally how difficult it is for a single guy on here. The ratio makes it hard to stand out. I could spend 20 mins on nice constructed message but due to the volume of messages woman receive, it might not even get read. |
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"morning all. As a single guy on here I find myself getting frustrated on here more than enjoying it. But I think most people will feel that way but for different reasons.
I guess it depends on your circumstances to what frustrations you feel.
Anyway, use this thread to vent them and possibly people who read it will be more tolerant of other people's issues. So what is it thats frustrating you?
Think just generally how difficult it is for a single guy on here. The ratio makes it hard to stand out. I could spend 20 mins on nice constructed message but due to the volume of messages woman receive, it might not even get read. "
If your approach isn't working perhaps change it .
Also not having a pic on your profile isn't helping us girls like to see a bit of what's on offer,It doesn't need to be a face pic .
Also we are in the middle of a pandemic so no one is really meeting just now anyway so be patient and I'm sure you will catch someone eye  |
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This isn't a profile re_iew.... But OP, you're going to need to learn how to advertise.
A silhouette is the first thing a person sees on a profile, and if there's nothing there, then they'll just pass on by
It's not easy, heaven knows I've tried enough, but it does require a lot of effort and patience, plus a photoshopped picture of a fit body and huge cock 
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"we were just talking to a nice couple ( so we thought) , swapped some face pictures then "bang" blocked . Another picture collector posing as a couple  ."
That might not have been the case .
maybe you just weren't for them so their way of dealing with it is to block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get more messages from males than females haha!
But yeah I think I've sent out 20 odd messages in past week and not a reply back in any shape or form I think it can be a little frustrating but nothing against the woman but if it was me I couldn't deal with mass mail either and then do they have the time or energy if a guy gets nippy and chances are they are talking to someone already when you message.
So many reasons and variables to why don't get a reply unfortunately its apart of any dating game.
It is good to take a wee break from time to time and recharge don't let it grind you down as theres more to life than fab
and make sure your profile represents the best version of you its all we can do.
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"I get more messages from males than females haha!
But yeah I think I've sent out 20 odd messages in past week and not a reply back in any shape or form I think it can be a little frustrating but nothing against the woman but if it was me I couldn't deal with mass mail either and then do they have the time or energy if a guy gets nippy and chances are they are talking to someone already when you message.
So many reasons and variables to why don't get a reply unfortunately its apart of any dating game.
It is good to take a wee break from time to time and recharge don't let it grind you down as theres more to life than fab
and make sure your profile represents the best version of you its all we can do.
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Block males. Simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get more messages from males than females haha!
But yeah I think I've sent out 20 odd messages in past week and not a reply back in any shape or form I think it can be a little frustrating but nothing against the woman but if it was me I couldn't deal with mass mail either and then do they have the time or energy if a guy gets nippy and chances are they are talking to someone already when you message.
So many reasons and variables to why don't get a reply unfortunately its apart of any dating game.
It is good to take a wee break from time to time and recharge don't let it grind you down as theres more to life than fab
and make sure your profile represents the best version of you its all we can do.
Block males. Simple."
I might just do that |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest I'm more often frustrated at myself.
With the site its more an exasperation at some of the messages and the fact they clearly don't read the profile half the time. Although I've gotten used to it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it's best not to have expectations, just go with the flow.
The majority of guys think they are entitled to replies and sex just because they have a profile.
Guys moaning about the this frustrates me  |
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"we were just talking to a nice couple ( so we thought) , swapped some face pictures then "bang" blocked . Another picture collector posing as a couple .That might not have been the case .
maybe you just weren't for them so their way of dealing with it is to block "
They sent a friend invite after we swapped face pictures then 10mins later after we accepted blocked us so the likelihood is they are picture collectors. I take your point but my money is still on timewasters . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get more messages from males than females haha!
But yeah I think I've sent out 20 odd messages in past week and not a reply back in any shape or form I think it can be a little frustrating but nothing against the woman but if it was me I couldn't deal with mass mail either and then do they have the time or energy if a guy gets nippy and chances are they are talking to someone already when you message.
So many reasons and variables to why don't get a reply unfortunately its apart of any dating game.
It is good to take a wee break from time to time and recharge don't let it grind you down as theres more to life than fab
and make sure your profile represents the best version of you its all we can do.
Block males. Simple."
I had ours open to everyone as I'll talk to just about anyone but have blocked all men now. The amount of shite I had received in recent weeks was unreal. As my status update stated a while ago...if you wouldn't approach a woman in a pub and ask her if she likes it bareback and fancies having your hot cum shot up inside her...best not to send it in a message on here!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we were just talking to a nice couple ( so we thought) , swapped some face pictures then "bang" blocked . Another picture collector posing as a couple .That might not have been the case .
maybe you just weren't for them so their way of dealing with it is to block
They sent a friend invite after we swapped face pictures then 10mins later after we accepted blocked us so the likelihood is they are picture collectors. I take your point but my money is still on timewasters ."
Even if you've got a face like a stuntman's knee that's still pretty shite. A simple "no thanks" would have been nice. C'est la vie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"morning all. As a single guy on here I find myself getting frustrated on here more than enjoying it. But I think most people will feel that way but for different reasons.
I guess it depends on your circumstances to what frustrations you feel.
Anyway, use this thread to vent them and possibly people who read it will be more tolerant of other people's issues. So what is it thats frustrating you?
Think just generally how difficult it is for a single guy on here. The ratio makes it hard to stand out. I could spend 20 mins on nice constructed message but due to the volume of messages woman receive, it might not even get read. "
Do what I do mate , just let others contact you. Saves any over expectations.
There's a lovely couple and a singe female message me regular, I think there name was admin or something similar, offer me holidays and all sorts.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab has got worse over the years in terms of how single guys behave on here. Yeah couples and females can be A-holes as well but the shite single guys send and then the way they go on really doesn't help genuine newbies. |
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By *ljamMan
over a year ago
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What I've found is that it's best to not take it too seriously. Exchange unrealistic expectations for achievable ambitions, then try to realise them, and be glad when you do. Even the most modest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get more messages from males than females haha!
But yeah I think I've sent out 20 odd messages in past week and not a reply back in any shape or form I think it can be a little frustrating but nothing against the woman but if it was me I couldn't deal with mass mail either and then do they have the time or energy if a guy gets nippy and chances are they are talking to someone already when you message.
So many reasons and variables to why don't get a reply unfortunately its apart of any dating game.
It is good to take a wee break from time to time and recharge don't let it grind you down as theres more to life than fab
and make sure your profile represents the best version of you its all we can do.
Block males. Simple.
I had ours open to everyone as I'll talk to just about anyone but have blocked all men now. The amount of shite I had received in recent weeks was unreal. As my status update stated a while ago...if you wouldn't approach a woman in a pub and ask her if she likes it bareback and fancies having your hot cum shot up inside her...best not to send it in a message on here!
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And they probably don't learn that's not the best approach either, Yeah I like to be chatty myself it's nice to be nice sounds like hard work being a woman on here!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get more frustrated at myself, I come on with meeting someone in mind and then I freeze, find it so difficult to take the next logical step and if I converse with someone or see someone that I think ohhh yes, they are too far or I'm too old. |
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By *r humanMan
over a year ago
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Fab as good points and bad points just learn from your mistakes meet on online all way risk meet in person is better just person got great photo good banter not being any thing he or she next ted bunday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most frustrating for me is to see more and more posts about frustrated guys here. Come on guys, do You really think it's attractive for women to see guys crying about how hard it is to get a meet here? Grow a pair and stop acting sad little puppy as You'll never be as cute. It's rather off putting. Just to clarify, my post is not directed to OP personally. I mean all guys who trying to make people sorry about them. |
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In my time on here I’ve definitely found that I’ve gained a good rep outside the site. Head to socials, clubs etc... get your face known to folk. The site is getting increasingly more hard work for the decent single males because of the utter dross that pollutes it as well. How that could be combatted I don’t know, but keep plugging away mate, and maybe don’t have a high expectation.. I dropped that rather quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was here before and left after a bad experience. I would say the best way to get meets would be to go to a few socials. On here I'm just another middle aged white guy but at a social people can see I'm a nice, well spoken friendly guy.
(Waves at NaughtyMissDynamite who I met at a social in Glasgow  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My tuppence worth is... with the proviso that men, women and couples can all be entitled arses.
Men join and there is a glut of men... why? (always remember the above proviso in the following)
Men join and are more excitable, desire sex more (yes women want sex too I know), and have the impression every woman and couple here are either gagging for it and will shag if they just ask (or make a limp profile saying “genuine guy, ask me anything”). Most seem to think it’s some kind of sex on tap fantasy which allows them to be rude and crude. And yanno sometimes that happens but it’s not for most who desire a definite NSA but grown up approach. That means should two individuals find each other attractive, for the best sex (for most), it’s a layered thing I.E. looks AND personality. It’s why this was set up as a swinging site not a hook up site (though it can do that too).
Single guys for the most part are rude and crude which is why women often appear rude back from the frustration of unread profiles and random fancy a fuck messages (remember proviso I know there are women with a shit attitude too) but there are MORE men and so that rich deep vein of deeply sensual sexy and fuckable gentlemen (Uhuh there are) sometimes get a hard time. But you know something... I don’t think the real gents do struggle. I’ve met one or two... Just my opinion...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been on here before and yes you just have to be patient last time was over 6 months before finally had a meeting with a lovely lady who had been chatting with 3 months prior to the meet and we had a great few months but distance ended up being the problem but still good friends and keep in touch.
I think as mentioned before have a photo or two make interesting introductions and always be honest just enjoy and relax .... just my thoughts |
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Sometimes especially on forums, a tagging feature would be so useful so you could answer questions or make a specific couple/person know that you are responding to them or adding to their comment, rather than having to message them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes especially on forums, a tagging feature would be so useful so you could answer questions or make a specific couple/person know that you are responding to them or adding to their comment, rather than having to message them "
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