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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meaning can be lost, however it can have some benefits. Some of my most in depth conversations with people over the years have been on email. They are able to articulate everything they wanted to say clearly and if meant you're actually really taking in what is said.
Face to face or on the phone most don't practice active listening. We often just hear with the intent to answer rather than actually understand |
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By *wazuluMan
over a year ago
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It's interesting to read it from a female perspective. As a male on here, I type messages to women and take the time to individualise my message...... I'd say 99% of the time due to the amount of men in here it just gets deleted. So never really get a meaningful conversation going.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Meaning can be lost, however it can have some benefits. Some of my most in depth conversations with people over the years have been on email. They are able to articulate everything they wanted to say clearly and if meant you're actually really taking in what is said.
Face to face or on the phone most don't practice active listening. We often just hear with the intent to answer rather than actually understand "
I never thought of the active listening part but you are so right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately "
Totally agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gotta be phone call wins hands down for me. I find women giving out their number is the first step to building a little trust between one another. Plus I'm an awesome conversationist. 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately "
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best "
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues. |
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By *ljamMan
over a year ago
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Both are fine by me. If you're careful with your language it can be easier to construct and convey meaning through written correspondence. The days of letter writing are long gone, but it's an incredible art.
On the other hand, the immediate feedback of a face-to-face convo, or chat on the phone, is great too. Just different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues. "
You'd think it would be fairly straightforward eh
I gave my number to a guy once and he wanted me to do a whole lotta faffing around with my WhatsApp pic to prove it was actually my number
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think its very easy to misunderstand texts, sometimes what you are trying to put across isn't properly understood and can lead to arguments, or even thinking that the other person is rude or worse, Humor can be hard to get across aswell i find  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best "
I'm the same miss the video call option that used to be on kik as then could see and speak easily |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues.
You'd think it would be fairly straightforward eh
I gave my number to a guy once and he wanted me to do a whole lotta faffing around with my WhatsApp pic to prove it was actually my number
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Sod that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think its very easy to misunderstand texts, sometimes what you are trying to put across isn't properly understood and can lead to arguments, or even thinking that the other person is rude or worse, Humor can be hard to get across aswell i find "
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues.
You'd think it would be fairly straightforward eh
I gave my number to a guy once and he wanted me to do a whole lotta faffing around with my WhatsApp pic to prove it was actually my number
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Yeah or they take your number and post it on a fake profile for everyone to use   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately "
100% agree. An hour over coffee is worth a 1000 messages back and forth. I seem to have less tolerance and patience nowadays for trying to build up a rapport with someone purely by messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues. "
This.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that typed messages are easy to misconstrue? whereas face to face or chats on the phone are less likely to be as tone etc are picked up on more accurately
Totally agree.
But in saying that I never give out my phone number so for me face to face is always best
But don't you think a 5 minute phone call first could save you a lot of time . Ive spoken to some women on the phone and within 5 minutes the conversation goes flat and you could see the same thing happen at a face to face meet. Other times the telephone chat has lasted an hour but flew by, you just know when you meet that person for the first time it's gonna go just as good face to face. Add to that you can simply block telephone numbers if giving out your number to someone causes any issues.
You'd think it would be fairly straightforward eh
I gave my number to a guy once and he wanted me to do a whole lotta faffing around with my WhatsApp pic to prove it was actually my number
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone . "
He wanted me to change my pic to something like a cartoon just to prove it was me he was messaging before he phoned. He could have just called the number and chatted instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone .
He wanted me to change my pic to something like a cartoon just to prove it was me he was messaging before he phoned. He could have just called the number and chatted instead "
He only wanted you to alter your whatsapp pic just to be reasured that he wasnt calling some random stranger.?
Not exactly a whole lot of faffing about but I suppose little things matter and it can take the smallest of details for women or guys to pull out of taking things further especially on a site like this. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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I actually quite enjoy the written word, I even still send old fashioned letters to friends and family (written with an actual pen on paper!). I hate talking on the phone though, especially to strangers. I'll occasionally have brief video chats with people on here prior to meets, usually just to confirm that I/they are real/who they say they are etc (but that's generally after quite a lot of messages first)
I have found on a couple of occasions that people can have very different personas online and in real life though. It's why I always insist on at least one social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone .
He wanted me to change my pic to something like a cartoon just to prove it was me he was messaging before he phoned. He could have just called the number and chatted instead "
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.
That sounds he was a bit paranoid and controlling.
Definite alarm bells material. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone .
He wanted me to change my pic to something like a cartoon just to prove it was me he was messaging before he phoned. He could have just called the number and chatted instead
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.
That sounds he was a bit paranoid and controlling.
Definite alarm bells material. "
Or she gave a fake telephone number and was unable to make a small change to the whatsapp profile picture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like he probably never trusted you, surely you got on fairly well with the guy thats why you gave him your number , is that right ? What do you mean by 'a whole lot of faffing around'. Sry just being curious as obviously as said earlier phone chatting is important to me before meeting someone .
He wanted me to change my pic to something like a cartoon just to prove it was me he was messaging before he phoned. He could have just called the number and chatted instead
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.
That sounds he was a bit paranoid and controlling.
Definite alarm bells material.
Or she gave a fake telephone number and was unable to make a small change to the whatsapp profile picture. "
Nah
He sounds like a bit of a Devil to me.
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"It's interesting to read it from a female perspective. As a male on here, I type messages to women and take the time to individualise my message...... I'd say 99% of the time due to the amount of men in here it just gets deleted. So never really get a meaningful conversation going. "
Sending a message isn't a conversation, it's the precursor to one
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