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Why do the chasing ??
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
Is it just me or do us guys get a shitload of messages from gay and bi guys and no women lol . The problem is that the women get bombarded by guys messaging them and then rather don't get to read there mail or become highly selective and who can blame them us guys would choose the 9's and 10's if we were that lucky hehe .the problem now arises that because the men are messaging everyone in a hope at least one replies and that means alot of times are messages are lost in the sack loads each woman receives . Surely it would be better to just let the women decide who they message cos at least they will only message guys they like and are probably more selective |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them "
Ok one task complete. Guys blocked 
If you message a mod they will flag your profile as priority so you get to the top of the list on ladies inbox  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox "
They're being hyperbolic with the truth
Your messages aren't getting lost |
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox "
I’m nowhere near that, I struggle with 10 messages a day from ladies and couples wanting my body, preferably with sand bags around my ankles In a river  |
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox
They're being hyperbolic with the truth
Your messages aren't getting lost "
I've seen evidence to the contrary - to your first statement. |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
Oh my god! I didn't say mine were getting lost and I didn't say I was desperate I was trying to say that if a woman has 2-300 messages that she's not opened for several reasons
1. Can't be arsed
2. Too many
3. Those are guys they don't like
4. All of the above
I'm sure you can add loads more but would it not be better if they did like a tinder thing and everyone swipes left or right and only if both like then you can message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox
They're being hyperbolic with the truth
Your messages aren't getting lost
I've seen evidence to the contrary - to your first statement. "
Did you suggest they use their filters? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox
They're being hyperbolic with the truth
Your messages aren't getting lost "
I've seen screen shots with the wee yellow unread box in the hundreds (I've never had it). There are some popular women on here. |
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox
They're being hyperbolic with the truth
Your messages aren't getting lost
I've seen evidence to the contrary - to your first statement.
Did you suggest they use their filters?"
No. That would be counterproductive to my attempts to get in their boxes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Filters for what ? "
You can filter out groups of folk from messaging you...so all single males, all females...all tvs for example.
Sadly all fuckwits is not an option yet |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
Would you agree that seriously filtering would also block people you may want to speak to so you you filter the things you really don't want and then go through the rest . I'm not saying swipe left or right would work but a forum is for discussion not to try and come up with half an opinion of part of a statement |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
No your right it's not and you've proved my point lol you've got loads of messages and have selected the ones you like and the rest are left. Nowt wrong with that but I bet if you reply not interested you sometimes get a nasty reply and if you ignore the message and don't read it then that guy messages again because he knows you haven't read it so probably thinks it's lost and he still has a chance lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not desperate lol I've chatted to women on here I've got female friends who are on here and they've all got minimum 2-300 messages unread in the inbox "
I only get that many messages in a day if it’s a tots out Tuesday etc I clear my inbox all time sometimes I’m just brutal and delete all, tbh though I’m not even looking |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
Don't blame you cos most is bollox anyway lol I message once and if it doesn't get read I take that as a no thanks but I've had replies from a message I'd done over a week ago so it does happen on a rare occasion lol mostly though not read message means not interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have noticed some messages have gone unread to people, and then two or three days later you will be chatting to that person, so i just presume that they missed or deleted said message, i never mentioned it to them, just move on, just my opinion on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you agree that seriously filtering would also block people you may want to speak to so you you filter the things you really don't want and then go through the rest . I'm not saying swipe left or right would work but a forum is for discussion not to try and come up with half an opinion of part of a statement"
dont filter, just sit back and if a female wants contact then fine, if not, no loss
dont go chasing, just let them come to you should they like your profile
and for messages you do not like, there is a delete button and a block button |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be 1 ugly bird as I dont get 100s of messages a day "
Nah it depends where you chat on here too. Single women who frequent the Lounge and are more visible on the site as a whole get loads of messages I think. |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
Clydebank |
Do you think the natural selection that we all use when we are outside at parties or something are a bit warped here ? We kinda judge ourselves in a 1-10 category and have a tendency to look for partners we believe are roughly in the same ranking lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think the natural selection that we all use when we are outside at parties or something are a bit warped here ? We kinda judge ourselves in a 1-10 category and have a tendency to look for partners we believe are roughly in the same ranking lol "
I think some people compose themselves on here as they do in the real world...so drawn to folk of a similar level of physical attractiveness. And others see this place purely as a means to explore and fulfil fantasies that they wouldn't or couldn't achieve on a Friday night in their local.
Up to folk how they use the site and you don't need to dance to someone's tune unless you want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope that's because I use filters.im a clever bird 
what type of pet dog do you have?a 4 legged 1
gathered that from your pics covered in dog hairs "
tip love me love my dog hair |
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"Do you think the natural selection that we all use when we are outside at parties or something are a bit warped here ? We kinda judge ourselves in a 1-10 category and have a tendency to look for partners we believe are roughly in the same ranking lol "
I see myself as a five and normally go for 7's-10's. The fact I'm unverified after 8 years is purely down to bad luck and timing, though. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them "
I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem |
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Guilty as i have unread messages but in my defense most can be read without clicking on them as say "hi", "hello" or "how are you". I answer loads of messages but tend to answer the ones with more than one word. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem "
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. "
I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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When I'm looking for new meets, which to be honest isn't that often, I generally turn on all filters and I directly message people who I would seriously consider messaging. When I don't have filters on I'd say about 95% of the people who message haven't bothered to read my profile & are just the type who take the scatter gun approach. |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do us guys get a shitload of messages from gay and bi guys and no women. "
Absolutely, very frustrating and annoying.
Also, I don't understand the women who read my message, but never reply. Does having a huge inbox do something for their egos??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do us guys get a shitload of messages from gay and bi guys and no women.
Absolutely, very frustrating and annoying.
Also, I don't understand the women who read my message, but never reply. Does having a huge inbox do something for their egos?? "
I'd have thought getting no reply from someone was pretty easy to understand ll |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol "
Sorry I disagree ... I started a single profile and within 2 hours there were over 100 messages! I do not think I am a “10” nor do I think I need to reply to all the unwanted messages! Approx 90% of those messages ranged from “hey gorgeous fancy sucking my dick” (I have no pictures on show) to “I want to get you pregnant” to “I want to fuck you in every hole and hear you scream” .... why should I reply to those ??? If I am interested I WILL reply however I mainly message first should I like a profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What makes you think women arent already doing their own searching?
Some women aremt selective and some more are..just like men.
A lot of the 300+ messages a day bombardment comes from men who fail to comprise a well constructed message. "Absolutely stunning babe, fancy yer hole" just doesn't cut it.
The sign of desperation for sex isn't attractive,some men should recognize that. Handling rejection is another.
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"Is it just me or do us guys get a shitload of messages from gay and bi guys and no women.
Absolutely, very frustrating and annoying.
Also, I don't understand the women who read my message, but never reply. Does having a huge inbox do something for their egos?? "
When I first joined I replied to every message even just to say thanks but no thanks but some of the replies just put me off doing that so I don’t always reply now. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol
Sorry I disagree ... I started a single profile and within 2 hours there were over 100 messages! I do not think I am a “10” nor do I think I need to reply to all the unwanted messages! Approx 90% of those messages ranged from “hey gorgeous fancy sucking my dick” (I have no pictures on show) to “I want to get you pregnant” to “I want to fuck you in every hole and hear you scream” .... why should I reply to those ??? If I am interested I WILL reply however I mainly message first should I like a profile. "
I do agree a newbie will get inudated with messages but it soon tapers off |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. "
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount.
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach."
....some men....not all that should have said... |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol
Sorry I disagree ... I started a single profile and within 2 hours there were over 100 messages! I do not think I am a “10” nor do I think I need to reply to all the unwanted messages! Approx 90% of those messages ranged from “hey gorgeous fancy sucking my dick” (I have no pictures on show) to “I want to get you pregnant” to “I want to fuck you in every hole and hear you scream” .... why should I reply to those ??? If I am interested I WILL reply however I mainly message first should I like a profile. "
You make some very good points and your correct when you say , why should I reply to that.
Im hoping you delete but also block so as not to recieve other similar requests from the same person. If you don't block the person then I'd say you like the attention whether it's good or bad. Ps that is not an accusation just my thoughts in general.
Perhaps I should have made my point more clearly though, any woman who dosnt take the time to reply to respectful messages I think are either ignorant or relishing the attention to boost egos etc.
You say your happy to message first so by not using stronger filters you are OK with guys messaging even though there is some twat messages in among the respectful ones. I don't think women have any excuses for an endless list of unread messages it's a choice not an expected circumstance of being a single woman. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount.
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach."
So you are leaving messages unread as a kind of get it up ya mate. Why not just delete it unread. That at least can be taken as a no thanks.   |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
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No I have strong opinions about the message system being a nightmare for some women and very difficult for most men . At no point was my original message about criticising women or how they approach there inbox |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I have strong opinions about the message system being a nightmare for some women and very difficult for most men . At no point was my original message about criticising women or how they approach there inbox "
Mine was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount.
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach.
So you are leaving messages unread as a kind of get it up ya mate. Why not just delete it unread. That at least can be taken as a no thanks. "
No...I'll open and read if I can be arsed or sometimes if I recognise the name from the forum and think they might be interesting. I like the forums so mainly have a nosey round them...I'll check the new pics when the mood takes me and have a nosey on the cams if I feel like it.
Point I'm making is this place shouldn't feel like a daily task or a chore....but if I feel obliged to reply to every single message then it will do. Sometimes I'll go in and mass reply "no thanks" when I can be bothered. But a message could have been sitting unread for a couple of weeks before that. It's nothing personal, not a power trip on my part though it will no doubt be perceived that way by some. Fortunately I don't care. |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount.
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach."
This  once you’ve been on here a while and especially if you socialise with other females you can easily compare identical messages from the same guys who literally just copy and paste to every female within a 100mile radius, when you first join it’s soooo hard trying to filter through the messages and pick out any potential guys that tickle your fancy, but new females can easily get several hundred messages on their first day if they’re top of the newest members list, like a lamb to slaughter  |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount.
Disagree ...Most women on here know that a full inbox is a reflection of the men on the site and the fact that they'd fuck the crack of dawn if it had hair on it. If I have unread messages and wish to completely dinghy folk it means I have far more important things going in my life ( might be the ironing, might be cleaning the grout...) This place is supposed to be fun....if I come on and feel obliged to reply to a message rather than wanting to because someone genuinely peaks my interest then no one wins. No one is owed a reply, sure it would be nice but as Mr often reminds me, so would being able to suck his boabie but some things will forever remain out of reach.
So you are leaving messages unread as a kind of get it up ya mate. Why not just delete it unread. That at least can be taken as a no thanks.
No...I'll open and read if I can be arsed or sometimes if I recognise the name from the forum and think they might be interesting. I like the forums so mainly have a nosey round them...I'll check the new pics when the mood takes me and have a nosey on the cams if I feel like it.
Point I'm making is this place shouldn't feel like a daily task or a chore....but if I feel obliged to reply to every single message then it will do. Sometimes I'll go in and mass reply "no thanks" when I can be bothered. But a message could have been sitting unread for a couple of weeks before that. It's nothing personal, not a power trip on my part though it will no doubt be perceived that way by some. Fortunately I don't care."
I know you answer messages, you've spoke to me a few times , I was more aiming my views at you saying when you want to completely dinghy folk. I'm 100% sure if you get a respectful message you will always reply. Whether it's immediate or once your finished yer woman's work ( go Mr Doggy ) I'm sure you would reply.
Ps 8pm clap on Monday for men like Mr Doggy who can get his bitch to clean the grout as well as do the women's work. |
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On the basis of more messages popularity or being the top ten..aw that means feck all.
For a majority of men, they would feck a silhouette aslong as the profile stated "woman" regardless if you're a 10 or less.
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol
Sorry I disagree ... I started a single profile and within 2 hours there were over 100 messages! I do not think I am a “10” nor do I think I need to reply to all the unwanted messages! Approx 90% of those messages ranged from “hey gorgeous fancy sucking my dick” (I have no pictures on show) to “I want to get you pregnant” to “I want to fuck you in every hole and hear you scream” .... why should I reply to those ??? If I am interested I WILL reply however I mainly message first should I like a profile.
You make some very good points and your correct when you say , why should I reply to that.
Im hoping you delete but also block so as not to recieve other similar requests from the same person. If you don't block the person then I'd say you like the attention whether it's good or bad. Ps that is not an accusation just my thoughts in general.
Perhaps I should have made my point more clearly though, any woman who dosnt take the time to reply to respectful messages I think are either ignorant or relishing the attention to boost egos etc.
You say your happy to message first so by not using stronger filters you are OK with guys messaging even though there is some twat messages in among the respectful ones. I don't think women have any excuses for an endless list of unread messages it's a choice not an expected circumstance of being a single woman."
You are correct I block all those profiles that send messages of that ilk! I do reply to all messages that have been well written even if it is a no thanks however and I don’t want to filter to disallow all guys messaging as there may be one that messages that I’m attracted to. I’m happy to receive and filter accordingly. |
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At the end of the day tough titties if your message dosnt get replied to.
Suck it up move on and go to the next profile you see.
No one can tell others what the should or shouldn't be doing on their profile.
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I actually wasnt having a go at anyone I was only saying generally that no one can change how others answer their messages or not.
I very rarely message guys unless they have a status that catches my eye or something in a forum post.
Saying that I like a clean inbox so I delete all my messages. |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
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The whole point has absolutely nothing to do with what you do with your messages it was about how could it be better for both parties so men don't get irate and women don't get bombarded . Seriously do you not think it would be nice not to have messages that are just bold shite like "fancy a fuck" and crap like that ? Maybe just maybe if the idiots who write insulting first messages or nasty replies didn't have that option then when normal humans messaged you they may actually have a better chance of you being interested ? And before you reply with you skip through to the ones you like and ignore the rest those extras won't be there and your just get normal messages exactly like the men do and the equilibrium will be balanced again |
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"The whole point has absolutely nothing to do with what you do with your messages it was about how could it be better for both parties so men don't get irate and women don't get bombarded . Seriously do you not think it would be nice not to have messages that are just bold shite like "fancy a fuck" and crap like that ? Maybe just maybe if the idiots who write insulting first messages or nasty replies didn't have that option then when normal humans messaged you they may actually have a better chance of you being interested ? And before you reply with you skip through to the ones you like and ignore the rest those extras won't be there and your just get normal messages exactly like the men do and the equilibrium will be balanced again "
Message a mod and suggest it then. Folk (men) have complained about this since I've been on here but nothing has ever changed to improve the messaging system and I doubt it will sadly. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm a man complaining about men lol and somehow I've managed to make some women irate lol . "
Not irate...honest...just think we're all going a bit nuts just now |
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"The whole point has absolutely nothing to do with what you do with your messages it was about how could it be better for both parties so men don't get irate and women don't get bombarded . Seriously do you not think it would be nice not to have messages that are just bold shite like "fancy a fuck" and crap like that ? Maybe just maybe if the idiots who write insulting first messages or nasty replies didn't have that option then when normal humans messaged you they may actually have a better chance of you being interested ? And before you reply with you skip through to the ones you like and ignore the rest those extras won't be there and your just get normal messages exactly like the men do and the equilibrium will be balanced again "
it was to do with messages being unread because chicks have that many and again I know its a shit answer but it's something that's never gonna change as others have said.guys look at the pics then fire a message good bad and the ugly.
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
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No it wasn't! It was never about unread messages maybe someone else wrote that but I specifically put on one of my messages that I don't blame women for leaving unread messages because I would do the same. My point has always been that maybe if there was a different way of contacting each other at the start then men wouldn't be stupid enough to blanket message everyone and women wouldn't be bombarded with nasty or stupid messages and would have a smaller but higher quality inbox selection |
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Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does |
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By *2169asap OP Man
over a year ago
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Difference of opinions is what the whole forum should be about so I'm certainly not losing my shit over someone's opinion but people should be ever give opinions without reading up the whole research |
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"Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does "
What gives you the right to tell the OP to calm down!? Only 10's can do that. No 9.5's |
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"Im hoping you delete but also block so as not to recieve other similar requests from the same person. If you don't block the person then I'd say you like the attention whether it's good or bad. Ps that is not an accusation just my thoughts in general.
Perhaps I should have made my point more clearly though, any woman who dosnt take the time to reply to respectful messages I think are either ignorant or relishing the attention to boost egos etc.
You say your happy to message first so by not using stronger filters you are OK with guys messaging even though there is some twat messages in among the respectful ones. I don't think women have any excuses for an endless list of unread messages it's a choice not an expected circumstance of being a single woman."
Blocking the person sending the rude message doesn’t solve the problem as they can make a new profile and they are not one of a kind there are hundreds of idiots sending shitty messages!
Not responding doesn’t mean you are relishing in the attention it means you aren’t interested and in my case it means I decided not to risk getting rude replies to my saying no thanks.
I am not aware of any filter that allows us to stop idiots messaging us but still let decent people message
Attention seekers are also on the forums when they argue with every little point that is made and keep going back to - shall we say debate but I really mean argue - debate the point and don’t see other people’s points of view at all! Thankfully profiles can be blocked without them having to send a message first
I understand it’s not great when guys message lots of people and get no response but everyone has to do what makes fab enjoyable for them.
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"Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does
What gives you the right to tell the OP to calm down!? Only 10's can do that. No 9.5's"
oh cheers il just go put this paper bag back over my head |
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"To be honest I had to work out what the fuck OP meant lol "
To be honest even on dating sites when you swipe right you can end up with real dodgy messages so I suppose there isn’t a foolproof method.
I remember when I first got back on the dating scene A few years after my marriage breakup one of my friends was worried in case I met a nutter online and I said I married a nutter that I had known for a while before we even started dating so that reassured her I have as much chance of meeting/chatting to a nutter online as I do have in meeting someone face to face |
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"I've done the filter that's not what my point was lol I was trying to say that women are more selective so they should message us rather than us bombarding them I totally 100% agree with you.
women are always moaning about the quality of messages they recieve or the volume when it could be so easily solved .
Block all males from messaging and do your own seach is all they have to do to fix this problem
Ahh but miss D your missing the point of how some women on Fab see themselves . If there was such a thing as a numbered rating scale some women would make the assumption that a full inbox of unread messages must equal a 10 on the rating scales. Note to the dreamers, it really doesn't make you a 10, it just makes you an ignoramus for not dealing with the unread messages one way or another, simply replying " no thx, your not my type " then blocking to prevent repeat messaging will ensure your inbox message count does not confuse you from the reality that your actually just a 3 . Start doing that and I know you will soon enough get to the point where your inbox is not full of unwanted messages but a smaller manageable amount. I totally agree with this too!
some women will think they are more popular or better than others and rave about having hundreds of emails a day .
Ive been on here since just a few days after the site was set up & have never had hundred of messages a day like other women claim to have but then again Ive got tight filters in place where maybe other women dont or maybe Im just not as fanciable as other females who knows lol
Sorry I disagree ... I started a single profile and within 2 hours there were over 100 messages! I do not think I am a “10” nor do I think I need to reply to all the unwanted messages! Approx 90% of those messages ranged from “hey gorgeous fancy sucking my dick” (I have no pictures on show) to “I want to get you pregnant” to “I want to fuck you in every hole and hear you scream” .... why should I reply to those ??? If I am interested I WILL reply however I mainly message first should I like a profile.
You make some very good points and your correct when you say , why should I reply to that.
Im hoping you delete but also block so as not to recieve other similar requests from the same person. If you don't block the person then I'd say you like the attention whether it's good or bad. Ps that is not an accusation just my thoughts in general.
Perhaps I should have made my point more clearly though, any woman who dosnt take the time to reply to respectful messages I think are either ignorant or relishing the attention to boost egos etc.
You say your happy to message first so by not using stronger filters you are OK with guys messaging even though there is some twat messages in among the respectful ones. I don't think women have any excuses for an endless list of unread messages it's a choice not an expected circumstance of being a single woman.
You are correct I block all those profiles that send messages of that ilk! I do reply to all messages that have been well written even if it is a no thanks however and I don’t want to filter to disallow all guys messaging as there may be one that messages that I’m attracted to. I’m happy to receive and filter accordingly. "
I think this is the perfect way to deal with and control messages.
But to others who do things differently as stated , it's your profiles to use any way that suits you. |
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"Im hoping you delete but also block so as not to recieve other similar requests from the same person. If you don't block the person then I'd say you like the attention whether it's good or bad. Ps that is not an accusation just my thoughts in general.
Perhaps I should have made my point more clearly though, any woman who dosnt take the time to reply to respectful messages I think are either ignorant or relishing the attention to boost egos etc.
You say your happy to message first so by not using stronger filters you are OK with guys messaging even though there is some twat messages in among the respectful ones. I don't think women have any excuses for an endless list of unread messages it's a choice not an expected circumstance of being a single woman.
Blocking the person sending the rude message doesn’t solve the problem as they can make a new profile and they are not one of a kind there are hundreds of idiots sending shitty messages!
Not responding doesn’t mean you are relishing in the attention it means you aren’t interested and in my case it means I decided not to risk getting rude replies to my saying no thanks.
I am not aware of any filter that allows us to stop idiots messaging us but still let decent people message
Attention seekers are also on the forums when they argue with every little point that is made and keep going back to - shall we say debate but I really mean argue - debate the point and don’t see other people’s points of view at all! Thankfully profiles can be blocked without them having to send a message first
I understand it’s not great when guys message lots of people and get no response but everyone has to do what makes fab enjoyable for them.
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Not for the sake of argument or debate but I disagree with some of your comments Cadbury.
Blocking the people with rude messages you are correct won't stop them but it will stop them being repeated by the same person. I know women on Fab that rarely get rude messages as those types of guys get blocked with no reply instantly. Your right it won't eradicate it but it will make your inbox more manageable once lots of the idiots are technically filtered down.
So I would say our block buton is a great filter and only 1 click away.
You said guys can just set up a new account, how long does it take to set up a new acoount , new bio, new pctures, new status, perhaps new email ad, new passwords etc, compare that to the time it takes you to click 1 button. Block. |
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"Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does
What gives you the right to tell the OP to calm down!? Only 10's can do that. No 9.5's"
She's a 9.8 actually...can you no feckin count...
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"Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does
What gives you the right to tell the OP to calm down!? Only 10's can do that. No 9.5's
She's a 9.8 actually...can you no feckin count...
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Maybe to you, but I'm only a 5. By my calculations that makes you a 5.3. It's all relative, ya handsome bugger. |
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"Yip and I said you cant stop guys sending shit messages
Most chicks on here do use their filters to stop alot of unwanted messages but a site supporter with 10 verifications can still send a fancy a shag luv message.honestly if it was up to chicks to message guys I'd say it would be a very poor site.
Ps..calm down no ones having a go you started a post on this forum expect diffrent opinions and it going off topic as that what it usually does
What gives you the right to tell the OP to calm down!? Only 10's can do that. No 9.5's
She's a 9.8 actually...can you no feckin count...
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Maybe to you, but I'm only a 5. By my calculations that makes you a 5.3. It's all relative, ya handsome bugger. "
Cheers Pal ...
Ffs dont message me....
I've been bombarded by 656 messages today from sexy women looking for coffee meets. Always happens when you're self isolating.
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"Bloody hell you too get a room!! Oops you cant "
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"Bloody hell you too get a room!! Oops you cant "
We are just 2 straight guys looking for a 3some with another female..
But it's only 10s at the moment. |
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I haven't read all the comments. I'm a bit lazy. However you do realise that many people don't need to look at a message to decide you aren't for them.
The number of messages I sometimes get are high but I ignore most of them because I'm not looking to engage in chat with anyone new at the moment. |
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"The whole point has absolutely nothing to do with what you do with your messages it was about how could it be better for both parties so men don't get irate and women don't get bombarded . Seriously do you not think it would be nice not to have messages that are just bold shite like "fancy a fuck" and crap like that ? Maybe just maybe if the idiots who write insulting first messages or nasty replies didn't have that option then when normal humans messaged you they may actually have a better chance of you being interested ? And before you reply with you skip through to the ones you like and ignore the rest those extras won't be there and your just get normal messages exactly like the men do and the equilibrium will be balanced again "
Less messages does not mean guaranteed replies to all messages. If you dont float our boat you just dont. No matter if we get 1 or 100 messages. I reply to those I wish to find out more about after reading their profile and perving their pics.
If someone wants to chat or meet they WILL reply. Very few women get 100s mails every day so they either love the attention or never delete a message for bragging purposes. |
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