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There must be one lady, surely?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How hard can it be to find a lady in Birmingham who wants a free night out tonight? I have a spare ticket for a gig in Brum. My regular Fab date can’t make it for family health reasons, and I’d rather not see it go unused. Just an NSA social.
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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I would imagine because we have been cultured into the idea that receiving gifts from a man means that we owe him - especially if we are not friends with him. And on a swing site, the implication is that we owe him with sex.
If you're just after some company, why not ask your Facebook friends or a colleague? Why are you looking on a swingers site? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would imagine because we have been cultured into the idea that receiving gifts from a man means that we owe him - especially if we are not friends with him. And on a swing site, the implication is that we owe him with sex."
Motive is not wasting a ticket.
"If you're just after some company, why not ask your Facebook friends or a colleague? Why are you looking on a swingers site?"
Yep. Doing that too. First come first served. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?"
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices. "
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it..."
Any more Thought Police out there? |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it...
Any more Thought Police out there?"
I'm not being 'the thought police', I'm just pointing out why women might not want to go.
If you had advertised it equally to both men and women but only picked a woman to go with, you might have had more luck... |
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it..."
He may simply prefer the company of women!! I prefer the company of men too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it...
Any more Thought Police out there?
I'm not being 'the thought police', I'm just pointing out why women might not want to go.
If you had advertised it equally to both men and women but only picked a woman to go with, you might have had more luck... "
It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time. "
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend."
As who knows the social may go to a play meet in time to come. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
As who knows the social may go to a play meet in time to come. "
Exactly! But the OP says that he's not expecting that to happen, so therefore it shouldn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
As who knows the social may go to a play meet in time to come.
Exactly! But the OP says that he's not expecting that to happen, so therefore it shouldn't matter. "
No but like i said. Who knows if they click anything could happen
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it...
Any more Thought Police out there?"
Guilty take him away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just listened to her on Spotify , a lot of good covers, but a nice honest voice.
It’s looking like you and me then, MrBee"
I said I liked her voice, not yours. .
*im messing with you.
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
As who knows the social may go to a play meet in time to come.
Exactly! But the OP says that he's not expecting that to happen, so therefore it shouldn't matter. "
Unless he just prefers the company of women. ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices.
I'm just saying... if it was truly 'no strings attached' then it wouldn't matter if it was a woman or a man, because you wouldn't be hoping to get laid from it...
He may simply prefer the company of women!! I prefer the company of men too! "
I was about to say that 
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend."
I take it it's a no from you then |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then"
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it."
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously. "
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways."
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks? |
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"And if you'd just rather see the ticket used rather than it going to waste... why does it have to be a woman that goes with you? Why not a man?
Because it’s my ticket and my personal choice. I’m not critical of your choices. "
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways."
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?"
im sure i saw a no thank you just  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
North Oxfordshire |
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just "
Indeed. |
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So many women on here assume things.....or read into things something that is not ....I am almost ashamed to be a woman at times.....and wonder why so many have had such messed up life experiences to make them so cynical.....  |
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"So many women on here assume things.....or read into things something that is not ....I am almost ashamed to be a woman at times.....and wonder why so many have had such messed up life experiences to make them so cynical..... "
Even the bit where he said 'NSA Social' got ignored. |
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Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after "
No no, he doesn't want to go with a man. Only women. And we're messed up for reading anything into that. |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
No no, he doesn't want to go with a man. Only women. And we're messed up for reading anything into that."
Oh for heavens sake get over yourselves..... |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
No no, he doesn't want to go with a man. Only women. And we're messed up for reading anything into that.
Oh for heavens sake get over yourselves....."
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after "
He wants to spend an evening in the company of a woman.
Why is anyone reading anymore into than that is beyond me...  |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
He wants to spend an evening in the company of a woman.
Why is anyone reading anymore into than that is beyond me... "
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed."
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck! |
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!"
Ha ha yes she did....busted!! |
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"Maybe some posters just can't let an opportunity to bash a man pass......"
I think that is it....I really do....and why I am saying it is a shame life experiences have taught them to be so cynical.... |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!"
I didn't backpeddle - I pointed out that I preferred to be able to pay half. And as you noted, I said that I didn't have the money to be able to do that.
I'm not the kind of person who likes everything to be paid for me, I prefer to pay my own way so that I don't feel like I owe anyone anything.
There's often threads on here whinging that women don't pay half of the expenses on a date, and yet when a woman expresses that she would prefer to do that, somehow she is in the wrong and 'backpeddling'?
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"Maybe some posters just can't let an opportunity to bash a man pass......
I think that is it....I really do....and why I am saying it is a shame life experiences have taught them to be so cynical...."
My playmate put a genuine post on yesterday and he got all sorts of strange “advice”.....all from women who seem to spend their life being keyboard warriors |
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"Maybe some posters just can't let an opportunity to bash a man pass......
I've personally not seen any 'bashing' on this thread. Perhaps some posts were removed?"
You would make a good politician...  |
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It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
Offer withdrawn. "
Don’t blame you my friend....why would you want to spend an evening in the company of someone who was trying to second guess you every move |
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
I didn't backpeddle - I pointed out that I preferred to be able to pay half. And as you noted, I said that I didn't have the money to be able to do that.
I'm not the kind of person who likes everything to be paid for me, I prefer to pay my own way so that I don't feel like I owe anyone anything.
There's often threads on here whinging that women don't pay half of the expenses on a date, and yet when a woman expresses that she would prefer to do that, somehow she is in the wrong and 'backpeddling'?
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Like I say backpeddling  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
Offer withdrawn. "
I mean, it's ok. I'd already said 'no thank you'. I would have assumed the offer was withdrawn the moment I said that! |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
I didn't backpeddle - I pointed out that I preferred to be able to pay half. And as you noted, I said that I didn't have the money to be able to do that.
I'm not the kind of person who likes everything to be paid for me, I prefer to pay my own way so that I don't feel like I owe anyone anything.
There's often threads on here whinging that women don't pay half of the expenses on a date, and yet when a woman expresses that she would prefer to do that, somehow she is in the wrong and 'backpeddling'?
Like I say backpeddling "
How can it be backpeddling when you state the reason up front? |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
He wants to spend an evening in the company of a woman.
Why is anyone reading anymore into than that is beyond me... "
Ok and where was I bitching at him for it? I didn’t read the other replies... i said If I was Birmingham based still I would have gone and I said I would mention to my friends in Birmingham which I have done. It wasn’t reading more into it I was trying to add friendly advice. How about not jumping on other woman in a defensive fashion!! |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
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Ok and where was I bitching at him for it? I didn’t read the other replies... i said If I was Birmingham based still I would have gone and I said I would mention to my friends in Birmingham which I have done. It wasn’t reading more into it I was trying to add friendly advice. How about not jumping on other woman in a defensive fashion!!"
No no, we are clearly wrong here. Suggesting he open it to men so that he doesn't waste money is wrong! |
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it."
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later... |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later..."
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening. |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
He wants to spend an evening in the company of a woman.
Why is anyone reading anymore into than that is beyond me...
Ok and where was I bitching at him for it? I didn’t read the other replies... i said If I was Birmingham based still I would have gone and I said I would mention to my friends in Birmingham which I have done. It wasn’t reading more into it I was trying to add friendly advice. How about not jumping on other woman in a defensive fashion!!"
I am not the defensive one my dear.....if you feel I am being defensive then you need to look at the way you read things.....yet again!! |
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening."
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment."
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you? |
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I think people need to stop making assumptions.... OP is merely wanting some nice company on a night out after unfortunately being let down, nothing sinister or underhand at all!
She is amazing live.... powerful voice!!! I am seeing Postmodern Jukebox in February, hope she is going to be there!
Hope you find somebody to take OP!! |
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"Awe If I was still in Birmingham I possibly would have gone. I like NSA socials. I’ll ask a few of my Birmingham based friends if they are interested - maybe you should offer it to men as well so people know that it’s definately just a social nothing else your after
He wants to spend an evening in the company of a woman.
Why is anyone reading anymore into than that is beyond me...
Ok and where was I bitching at him for it? I didn’t read the other replies... i said If I was Birmingham based still I would have gone and I said I would mention to my friends in Birmingham which I have done. It wasn’t reading more into it I was trying to add friendly advice. How about not jumping on other woman in a defensive fashion!!
I am not the defensive one my dear.....if you feel I am being defensive then you need to look at the way you read things.....yet again!!"
yet again... are you confused my reply wasn’t to you. Seen you like to cause trouble in a few threads and think you need to brush up on your own reading skills!
Op I hope you do get something sorted and I have mentioned it to me Birmingham based friends as I clearly stated in my reply |
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?"
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"I think people need to stop making assumptions.... OP is merely wanting some nice company on a night out after unfortunately being let down, nothing sinister or underhand at all!
She is amazing live.... powerful voice!!! I am seeing Postmodern Jukebox in February, hope she is going to be there!
Hope you find somebody to take OP!! "
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Perhaps you could go with him!"
He’s a man. You’re finding it really difficult to reconcile that I have a preference for female company aren’t you? |
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over a year ago
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Perhaps you could go with him!
He’s a man. You’re finding it really difficult to reconcile that I have a preference for female company aren’t you? "
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over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?
Immensely thankyou . It's rather tiresome when one feel's they have to justify everything isn't it!"
No, I don't find that particularly tiresome. I see it as a personal failing that I didn't make myself clear enough in the first place. |
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?
Immensely thankyou . It's rather tiresome when one feel's they have to justify everything isn't it!
No, I don't find that particularly tiresome. I see it as a personal failing that I didn't make myself clear enough in the first place."
Surely you’re finding it tiring continuing to contribute to a thread where you are giving no value?? |
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over a year ago
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?
Immensely thankyou . It's rather tiresome when one feel's they have to justify everything isn't it!
No, I don't find that particularly tiresome. I see it as a personal failing that I didn't make myself clear enough in the first place.
Surely you’re finding it tiring continuing to contribute to a thread where you are giving no value?? "
Nope, I'm finding it far more stimulating than doing what I'm supposed to be doing. |
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?
Immensely thankyou . It's rather tiresome when one feel's they have to justify everything isn't it!
No, I don't find that particularly tiresome. I see it as a personal failing that I didn't make myself clear enough in the first place."
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Perhaps you could go with him!
He’s a man. You’re finding it really difficult to reconcile that I have a preference for female company aren’t you? "
I too would want female company I’m OP’s circumstance, company of the opposite sex is generally more engaging!
I know it’s hard to grasp but.... even though we are on a swinging site it doesn’t mean we need to relate everything to something sexual!! |
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I know it’s hard to grasp but.... even though we are on a swinging site it doesn’t mean we need to relate everything to something sexual!! "
Some people only ever have one thing on their mind, and thus tar all others with that same brush.
I said NSA in my first post, and that’s what I meant, although some claim to know my thoughts better than I do. |
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I know it’s hard to grasp but.... even though we are on a swinging site it doesn’t mean we need to relate everything to something sexual!!
Some people only ever have one thing on their mind, and thus tar all others with that same brush.
I said NSA in my first post, and that’s what I meant, although some claim to know my thoughts better than I do. "
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!"
She doesn't want him to pay for her. Is that so hard to understand? |
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
She doesn't want him to pay for her. Is that so hard to understand?"
We've had that conversation and she’s apologised,move on. Don't derail the thread anymore than it has been. |
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over a year ago
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
She doesn't want him to pay for her. Is that so hard to understand?
We've had that conversation and she’s apologised,move on. Don't derail the thread anymore than it has been. "
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
She doesn't want him to pay for her. Is that so hard to understand?
We've had that conversation and she’s apologised,move on. Don't derail the thread anymore than it has been. "
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Update:
No actual taker for tonight yet, but some friend requests, and others expressing an interest in doing something another time. One guy on the backburner, to keep everyone happy.
Thanks for your participation. |
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I know it’s hard to grasp but.... even though we are on a swinging site it doesn’t mean we need to relate everything to something sexual!!
Some people only ever have one thing on their mind, and thus tar all others with that same brush.
I said NSA in my first post, and that’s what I meant, although some claim to know my thoughts better than I do. "
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It's his preference, I hear women on Fab talk about it all the time.
I have no problem with preference at all - I'm merely pointing out why on a sex site it might feel like he's expecting sex from the date.
I'm not saying that the OP is expecting sex, or if he has any ulterior motive at all. But sometimes things can come across in a way that we don't intend.
I take it it's a no from you then
Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
Nope can't see in this answer where you said you like paying your way,that came later...
My apologies - I think the 'if I had more money' covered that from the start, for it suggested that I didn't feel I had enough money to cover my expenses for the evening.
No it didn't,hence the backpeddling comment.
My apologies. I will make sure that I am more articulate in the future when saying that I don't have enough money to do things like this. I will ensure that I express that it's for the reasons that I prefer equality of payment rather than anything else. Would that please you?
Immensely thankyou . It's rather tiresome when one feel's they have to justify everything isn't it!
No, I don't find that particularly tiresome. I see it as a personal failing that I didn't make myself clear enough in the first place.
Surely you’re finding it tiring continuing to contribute to a thread where you are giving no value?? "
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OP I hope you have a great night out, even if you do end up going by yourself.
If you were closer to me and I was feeling a little less under the weather I would have taken up your offer. It's rare for me to be able to go out and enjoy live music. |
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Actually, if I'd had more money I'd proberbly have been well up for it.
It’s a free night out. Come on, it would be great if you’d join me. I’ll pay your train ticket for you. Seriously.
No thank you. I believe in paying half otherwise I'd feel obliged to make it up to the other person in other ways.
You wouldn’t be obligated or obliged at all. The Internet is watching. How about you buy your own drinks?
im sure i saw a no thank you just
Indeed.
Yeah but come on you said you'd be well up for if you'd had more money,then when told he'd even pay your train fare you backpeddled like heck!
She doesn't want him to pay for her. Is that so hard to understand?
We've had that conversation and she’s apologised,move on. Don't derail the thread anymore than it has been.
well I beg your pardon that the thread was moving faster than my appalling signal was able to keep up with...I wasn't aware that someone had died and made you the queen of fab...I consider myself suitably chastised your majesty"
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