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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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I do both, each to their own  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well |
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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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In your case i’d say very interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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Just politely replying.
Or starting conversation.
I like a more obvious sign . Like “ we want your cock “ if they are interested.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty' "
I get those messages too!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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I'm always polite  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty'
I get those messages too!! "
Damn fine bum young lady.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy, I’ve found a reply means they’re interested. I always reply, whether that be to say I’m not interested or that I am, but a lot of single females who make up the majority of messages I send, either don’t reply or delete and block, so 9 times out of 10 a reply means interest in my experience. |
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It depends what the reply says.
It could be politness, to create conversationor to say no thankyou.
If a message is deleted i always take that as a No.
If it is left read, well maybe you have made their maybe pile for further consideration or will be discussed with their partner.
Its so nice to get a reply even if it just to say 'sorry you are not for me / us' |
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"I think if a woman replies you are in a virtual marriage and virtually live together...
Very funny
Alas so true to some guys on here "
But the virtual divorce can be messy and not sure who gets the virtual kids... I’m in a virtual mess here   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything "
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I assume nothing- a reply is a reply nothing more, it may lead to further conversation which may lead to interest but a single reply in itself means nothing...have had many a conversation here that has fizzled over a period of time to prove that |
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If someone has put a bit of effort into their message I do reply. If I'm not sure if I'm interested I'll leave it open for them to reply so I can see if we can get a conversation started and see if it leads anywhere. I do let people know if I am not interested though x |
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"I think if a woman replies you are in a virtual marriage and virtually live together...
Oh shit....well then I'm a virtual bygamist many times over 
Naughty... that’s time in virtual jail  "
As long as it's a virtual womens jail  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked?"
Why would I ? He was only saying hello so no need to block |
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The reply means no more than the content of the reply.
Many of us will chat with or meet many people who we aren't interested in sexually. The site is not instashag nor rellymeansdefiniteshag dot com.
No one should expect that even if having surpassed messages, social meet or other milestones that someone will have guaranteed action.
This is a social venture and especially so during this period of social isolation. People may not turn out to be your partner but may ultimately be a good friend, support buddy or introduce you to people who they know. Heck, they may be the easiest person for you to chat with if you are ever visiting a club for the first time etc.
The reply meant only what its contents were at that time. The sender may already have other interests. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No and it depends what kind of reply. If it is very to the point and doesn't allow you to engage further, by asking questions back or sharing something, then I dont feel like making effort again/don't want to become a nuisance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked?
Why would I ? He was only saying hello so no need to block "
He means you can block all males from messaging you , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked?
Why would I ? He was only saying hello so no need to block
He means you can block all males from messaging you , "
Thanks I'll have to get that done. Thanks again |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I reply to most of my messages. It doesn't mean I'm interested usually we might exchange a few messages and that's all. Recently tho I don't reply to as many. As too many take a reply as you are going to meet them. |
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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No I sometimes just politely reply back if it’s just a general question but I keep it short, Not that I want to carry on chatting but because I don’t want to rude.
Guys tend to think that a reply is a sign for more sometimes tho lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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The latter. I never assume a reply indicates interest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well"
I have the same experience or they will as me a general question and I'll answer and in their next message they'll reply with something explicit even though the context didn't call for it. This is a swingers site not a fuck site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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Definitely the latter. It's a welcome opportunity to interact and explore personalities. It might lead to something else but usually wouldn't. |
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"Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well"
Yes this...you simple just say thank you to a compliment and they feel like it’s you opening the door |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
No I sometimes just politely reply back if it’s just a general question but I keep it short, Not that I want to carry on chatting but because I don’t want to rude.
Guys tend to think that a reply is a sign for more sometimes tho lol"
Yea they do it's weird |
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"Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well
I have the same experience or they will as me a general question and I'll answer and in their next message they'll reply with something explicit even though the context didn't call for it. This is a swingers site not a fuck site."
And this too lol
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"Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well
Yes this...you simple just say thank you to a compliment and they feel like it’s you opening the door "
This is why the 'no reply is a reply' was made part of the rules |
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"Ugh most men do
It’s annoying
Some men compliment me and seem lovely and I wanna thank them. But usually when I do, they assume I’m interested
It’s hard, I feel like a bitch sometimes when I just delete messages. But ah well
Yes this...you simple just say thank you to a compliment and they feel like it’s you opening the door
This is why the 'no reply is a reply' was made part of the rules"
Sadly not everyone gets that tho hun.
Some just clearly haven’t got the rule book... |
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"It is possible that some of us guys just want to say something nice. "
No that’s understandable and most of wouldn’t happily just take a nice message or a compliment.
It’s when they think that a reply means that you’re seeing them next week. Or if you reply to the second message saying “sorry I’m not interested” the next question is always “but why” |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"It is possible that some of us guys just want to say something nice.
No that’s understandable and most of wouldn’t happily just take a nice message or a compliment.
It’s when they think that a reply means that you’re seeing them next week. Or if you reply to the second message saying “sorry I’m not interested” the next question is always “but why” "
My last reply normally consist of me saying "Best wishes and good luck" |
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In all honesty I get more replies than not and it’s always a pleasant reply even though there may not be any interest .... and I also reply to all that message me ... don’t see the point of being a cock Womble about it... it’s nice to be nice... except those that have abused me... you can kiss my hairy white arse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A reply definitely doesn't mean they are interested! This is actually the reason I rarely reply... And even if they have pointed out they aren't my type or that they know I am not looking, far too many see that, because we are getting on,during convoy about whatever they contacted me about, it means they are definitely up for getting a meet... They aren't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A reply definitely doesn't mean they are interested! This is actually the reason I rarely reply... And even if they have pointed out they aren't my type or that they know I am not looking, far too many see that, because we are getting on,during convoy about whatever they contacted me about, it means they are definitely up for getting a meet... They aren't! "
*conversation ffs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go with the principle of - Treating people the way I would like to be treated.
Assuming someone is interested always bears a risk.
Let's not also forget us (people) are just sophisticated animals.
Some behaves better than others. Some need to be told, some need to be ignored and some need to be shot.
Good day folks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots do reply just to chat, but when the convo turns to why arent you meeting, or we could meet I usually just fade away. I also fade away in general I am a terrible messagee. |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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I reply to all messages... I'm not interested it all I reply to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of a difficult one this.
Unless the lady is interested in me in no uncertain terms....."come round and fuck me NOW" lol, I tend not to make a nuisance of myself. I can usually tell by the way the conversation wains. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked?
Why would I ? He was only saying hello so no need to block "
I mean just have your filters set so men can’t message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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sorry, got distracted there...
i would say being polite. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just had a message from a bloke and replied saying I'm straight and he was ok with that, no horrid ness or anything
Just out of curiosity, why don’t you have them blocked?
Why would I ? He was only saying hello so no need to block
I mean just have your filters set so men can’t message "
Because not all men are douches and I'm am interested in meeting single men and also the post isn't just directed at men as I find that couples do the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good manners and politeness cost nothing and are even more important now
I don't see a reply to a message as an I'm interested I see it as someone who maybe just wants a chat
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty' "
Aw.....Chunky  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
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depends on the message contents, a general message doesn't usually mean she wishes to jump me, but a guy can wish. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty'
Aw.....Chunky "
I know. They could've at least said "please fuck off fatty" |
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"Do you think if someone replies to your message that that means that the person is automatically interested in you or where just being polite and having conversation?
Manners don't cost anything.
But depends if the reply says 'fuck off fatty'
Aw.....Chunky
I know. They could've at least said "please fuck off fatty" "
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