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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?
I only ask this because if someone messages me and I want to give a proper reply I will normally take a while to reply. I’m simply not wanting to reply straight away and give a half arsed response, especially if I’m busy at the time and really a quick reply would be more of an acknowledgment of their message than a reciprocal reply.
I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?
What do you all think?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope, I don’t find it rude at all, people reply when they can, not when I want 
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To be fair now I think about it, it’s often the guys who send the barrage of “???” messages however I have had a couple who sent some abuse back and called me a timewaster for not replying within about 20minutes. Well I thought fair enough guess it shows me that they’re not for me!! |
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"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?
I only ask this because if someone messages me and I want to give a proper reply I will normally take a while to reply. I’m simply not wanting to reply straight away and give a half arsed response, especially if I’m busy at the time and really a quick reply would be more of an acknowledgment of their message than a reciprocal reply.
I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?
What do you all think??"
I don’t think it’s rude at all.
I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.
It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.
If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.
I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss... "
I shall set 48 hours as the limit then  I’ll be needing an app to remind me when to reply!! I say that as if I have floods of messages haha. |
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"Nope, I don’t find it rude at all, people reply when they can, not when I want
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To be fair now I think about it, it’s often the guys who send the barrage of “???” messages however I have had a couple who sent some abuse back and called me a timewaster for not replying within about 20minutes. Well I thought fair enough guess it shows me that they’re not for me!!"
That’s a bit silly. 20 minutes isn’t exactly that much time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.... it can take ages for me to reply"
Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"So long as it’s not longer than 48 hours.
I mean there’s thinking of a response and then there’s taking the piss...
I shall set 48 hours as the limit then I’ll be needing an app to remind me when to reply!! I say that as if I have floods of messages haha. "
Only teasing  but there are guys on here who message you and then dissapear (after you’ve responded) and then reply weeks or months later like nothings happened. Now THAT is taking the piss, and the only acceptable excuse is that you’ve been ki*n*pped by aliens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t find it rude. It’s the people that can’t be bothered to make proper conversation that irritates me. I’d much rather wait for a considered response.
It annoys me when men continually message ‘???’ Or say ‘you’re clearly not interested as you haven’t replied’ (within 20 mins). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.... it can take ages for me to reply
Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference. "
I can reply quickly, it just depends |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s rude at all.
I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.
It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.
If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me. "
I agree. It’s an interesting perspective. If it’s someone I was hoping to meet I’d definitely take my time. Especially as I write quite lengthy messages! I’m the same with reading them but sometimes if I’m excited to read the reply I’ll have to open it right there and then  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" Only teasing but there are guys on here who message you and then dissapear (after you’ve responded) and then reply weeks or months later like nothings happened. Now THAT is taking the piss, and the only acceptable excuse is that you’ve been ki*n*pped by aliens "
I have once been guilty of this a long time ago. And only once!  Don’t judge me!! It’s infuriating when that does happen. I like to talk most of the time so it’s also irksome when you’re having a proper chat and suddenly it cuts off. Like...what are your answers to my questions?? I was genuinely interested?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.... it can take ages for me to reply
Me too! Even with friends on whatsapp I’ll reply later and give them my full attention rather than a rapid “oh wow” or “thats sad” response which can come across as indifference.
I can reply quickly, it just depends"
Clearly! 5 minutes in this case. Could have been quicker...just saying  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, I don't find it rude in the slightest. I'd much rather people replied when they have headspace and energy to do so than giving a lacklustre, uninspiring response because they feel they need to rather than they want to. We all have lives away from here. |
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I don’t think it’s rude at all.
I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.
It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.
If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me.
I agree. It’s an interesting perspective. If it’s someone I was hoping to meet I’d definitely take my time. Especially as I write quite lengthy messages! I’m the same with reading them but sometimes if I’m excited to read the reply I’ll have to open it right there and then "
I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.
I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s rude at all.
I don’t usually read a message until I’ve got time to sit and reply.
It’s also different depending on whether I’m hoping to meet this person or not.
If it’s just a general chat then I wouldn’t mind when they get back to me.
I agree. It’s an interesting perspective. If it’s someone I was hoping to meet I’d definitely take my time. Especially as I write quite lengthy messages! I’m the same with reading them but sometimes if I’m excited to read the reply I’ll have to open it right there and then
I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.
I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. I flirt through messages, mark unread for later or delete. If I can’t respond to it there and then I will come back to it later. "
Exactly!! Love the profile pic btw  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I don't find it rude in the slightest. I'd much rather people replied when they have headspace and energy to do so than giving a lacklustre, uninspiring response because they feel they need to rather than they want to. We all have lives away from here."
This! I don’t feel like it should be an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?
I only ask this because if someone messages me and I want to give a proper reply I will normally take a while to reply. I’m simply not wanting to reply straight away and give a half arsed response, especially if I’m busy at the time and really a quick reply would be more of an acknowledgment of their message than a reciprocal reply.
I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?
What do you all think??"
yes its damn rude many women block for this    |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.
I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol"
Lengthy messages are definitely a good thing. I like to really get to know people. I think the worst is “hey”. Unlike face to face conversing, there are no cues to pick up on and it seems like the effort is on you to check their profile and reply haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don’t find it rude either. Sometimes I need time to think about the appropriate answer, sometimes I read a message and real life gets in the way and sometimes I’m laughing so much, I just want to enjoy the moment |
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"...messaging and someone reads the message then takes a while to reply?
I only ask this because if someone messages me and I want to give a proper reply I will normally take a while to reply. I’m simply not wanting to reply straight away and give a half arsed response, especially if I’m busy at the time and really a quick reply would be more of an acknowledgment of their message than a reciprocal reply.
I only thought recently people may see this as a lack of interest?
What do you all think??"
Rude ?
In whose rule book ?
No it's NOT rude. It's immature and desperate of the sender.
Jesus ........ the women don't WORK here. |
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I’m the same as you, I love having a lengthy message to read, again if I’m interested in that way in the person.
I do hate those “what are you up to messages” lol
Lengthy messages are definitely a good thing. I like to really get to know people. I think the worst is “hey”. Unlike face to face conversing, there are no cues to pick up on and it seems like the effort is on you to check their profile and reply haha"
Lol I most certainly do not get the “hey” and then sometimes you get a cock pic too.
Like the cock does all the talking haha
Like that will make them irresistible.
Those are the ones that gets an immediate delete. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me. "
Ah okay! That’s a good way to do it. I may mark messages as unread more often. Didn’t even notice you could do it until people have posted on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If im unable to reply I will mark it as unread till ive a chance to reply properly. I dont like tsking ages to reply to a read message and absolutely hate it when its done to me.
Ah okay! That’s a good way to do it. I may mark messages as unread more often. Didn’t even notice you could do it until people have posted on here! "
Its a good idea honestly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really, no.
There are far more ways in which people can be rude...
Perhaps this virus may remind us all of how precious life is and how much we all can share with each other...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No I don’t find it rude either. Sometimes I need time to think about the appropriate answer, sometimes I read a message and real life gets in the way and sometimes I’m laughing so much, I just want to enjoy the moment "
Definitely just enjoy the moment! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Rude ?
In whose rule book ?
No it's NOT rude. It's immature and desperate of the sender.
Jesus ........ the women don't WORK here."
Actually for this thread it’s the other way around from the perspective of the OP (me). The MEN don’t WORK here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol I most certainly do not get the “hey” and then sometimes you get a cock pic too.
Like the cock does all the talking haha
Like that will make them irresistible.
Those are the ones that gets an immediate delete."
What? Do you mean a cock shot won’t put you into a trance and have you wanting to be my sub slave?? |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"I do the same. It doesn't bother me. I'd rather have a decent reply.
Honestly this. I hate forced conversations!"
I do mark them unread though. Even though I read and then think about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do mark them unread though. Even though I read and then think about it. "
Yep I am going to start doing this too! So people don’t think I’m purposefully blanking them |
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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago
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No not at all, ww regularly have a quick read of a message when ww get a notification but don't have time to reply because of real life, so will reply later on when we have time. What annoys me is when we do this and come back to several messages questioning why we havnt immediately responded! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never send a first message, and If I did, I would never check to see if it has been read.. I am just not that bothered..."
ahhhh but guys come to you for the most part many guys not all never get first messages so its a very different perspective for guys |
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