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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Because of this virus bollocks. I can't see my little one at the contact center. Which is understandable in the circumstances. We can't go back until they say we can. So i don't know when i will see little one. Breaks my heart that i get to see them every two weeks. Never mind not at all. So fuck you lot banging on about toilet roll and no food. What about us single dad's who are suffering because we can't see our prince's or princesses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury! "
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My last visit for the weekend was a month ago as I had shingles. Now I've changed to a shit 6 on 3 off shift. I would see her this weekend, but as her mum is on the vulnerable list for this poxy virus, plus I travel by train and book a hotel, she's said not to. I understand, but it is still shit |
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"Because of this virus bollocks. I can't see my little one at the contact center. Which is understandable in the circumstances. We can't go back until they say we can. So i don't know when i will see little one. Breaks my heart that i get to see them every two weeks. Never mind not at all. So fuck you lot banging on about toilet roll and no food. What about us single dad's who are suffering because we can't see our prince's or princesses."
Genuinely feel for you and my heart breaks for parents in similar situations, especially the Children. Unfortunately Children won’t understand the ramifications of the current crisis but they are very resilient wee people. I’ve been in a similar situation to you in the past and I know how soul destroying and gut wrenching it is without all this shit happening and making it vastly worse for you.
Don’t know what else to say in case it comes across as patronizing due to being typed and not verbal but head up, mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury!
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since"
Sorry to hear that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Awwwww, sorry to hear that. Stay in contact with them phone, FaceTime, write a letter I know it's not the same and it will be a tough time but it's all you can do. Hugs x"
Wrote little un a Thinking of you card. Not talking to her mam. Can't ring em x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awwwww, sorry to hear that. Stay in contact with them phone, FaceTime, write a letter I know it's not the same and it will be a tough time but it's all you can do. Hugs x Wrote little un a Thinking of you card. Not talking to her mam. Can't ring em x"
Heartbreaking times for all and it's most difficult when your times were rigimented by others.
Just a suggestion - what about writing a online blog (even if the littleuns can't access it just now). You can make your blog private in that only you can see it. Journal your thoughts there, tell them how you feel. Upload photos of anything you wish that may be linked with your journal entry. Every time you create a new entry, a time line is also created so effectively they can see that you hadn't given up on them so to speak. If they are too young, you could use it as a book to read to them.
Huge xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Awwwww, sorry to hear that. Stay in contact with them phone, FaceTime, write a letter I know it's not the same and it will be a tough time but it's all you can do. Hugs x Wrote little un a Thinking of you card. Not talking to her mam. Can't ring em x
Heartbreaking times for all and it's most difficult when your times were rigimented by others.
Just a suggestion - what about writing a online blog (even if the littleuns can't access it just now). You can make your blog private in that only you can see it. Journal your thoughts there, tell them how you feel. Upload photos of anything you wish that may be linked with your journal entry. Every time you create a new entry, a time line is also created so effectively they can see that you hadn't given up on them so to speak. If they are too young, you could use it as a book to read to them.
Huge xx
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Lovely idea. I do get photos of em from a third party |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury!
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since
Sorry to hear that! "
I'm not. The guys a fuck stain |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Awwwww, sorry to hear that. Stay in contact with them phone, FaceTime, write a letter I know it's not the same and it will be a tough time but it's all you can do. Hugs x Wrote little un a Thinking of you card. Not talking to her mam. Can't ring em x"
That's tough, sorry to hear that. Maybe she'll have a rethink given the extreme circumstances. |
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Anyone who can't see their kids in all this, I honestly don't know how you cope and my (our) heart goes out to you all. Anyone who wants to chat, to vent etc are welcome to message for a chat. There are some brilliant guys commenting on here who all deserve to see their kids  |
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury!
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since
Sorry to hear that!
I'm not. The guys a fuck stain "
Don’t hold back on those colourful quotes...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never ever met my dad.my mam had me out of wedlock when she was 20.my dad took off when he knew my mam was pregnant with me.my mam explained it all to me when i was 55.i was brought up by my mam and nan. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury!
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since"
pretty much me. found him when I was 15. met him at 16. second/last time I saw him was the ICU dept |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just found out I won’t be able to see my Son for the foreseeable due to all this ballix. Hearts fucking breaking for all the other parents in the same boat "
Hang on man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice that your actually good dads who want to see their kids for the right reasons! Some kids don’t have that luxury!
True. I didn't meet my dad till I was 18 and haven't spoken to him since
Sorry to hear that!
I'm not. The guys a fuck stain
Don’t hold back on those colourful quotes...! "
I could have said a lot worse about him |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It looks like shared custody is still allowed as long as you only travel between the childs two houses"
I have t see little one at the contact center only. Can't go see her at house because ex is at high risk
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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All *this* is effecting all of us in so many different ways far beyond just the basic illness and it's heartbreaking for anyone that can't see or have contact with family members - there are some great ideas on the thread that we could all use.
Maintaining some element of communication with the ones we love but can't see, is important, as is just having some form of contact with other humans.
It's not the same of course but in this day and age there are so many ways of maintaining contact as best we can but my heart truly goes out to you when even at a time like this circumstances mean those ways are limited.
I just hope your ex softens and allows you to find a way to maintain contact with your kids, which is just as important for them as it is for you.
Maybe contact her somehow and try to explain that and see if perhaps a daily call at a set time could be arranged - again not the same I know but we're all going to have to adapt and find "different" ways as this progresses.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All *this* is effecting all of us in so many different ways far beyond just the basic illness and it's heartbreaking for anyone that can't see or have contact with family members - there are some great ideas on the thread that we could all use.
Maintaining some element of communication with the ones we love but can't see, is important, as is just having some form of contact with other humans.
It's not the same of course but in this day and age there are so many ways of maintaining contact as best we can but my heart truly goes out to you when even at a time like this circumstances mean those ways are limited.
I just hope your ex softens and allows you to find a way to maintain contact with your kids, which is just as important for them as it is for you.
Maybe contact her somehow and try to explain that and see if perhaps a daily call at a set time could be arranged - again not the same I know but we're all going to have to adapt and find "different" ways as this progresses.
Good luck to you "
Thank you. I'm trying to get ex t let little one ring me through messenger. But haven't heard out yet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That’s a real heartfelt post OP
went through similar myself but full time Dad with my lad now so things can change
Good luck to all single parents and those who can’t see them"
I hope it does change. And all this has finished soon. So i can see my heart again . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you facetime? Video call?
Maybe see if you could do it over a meal together? My phone doesn't have a camera at the front"
I would change it then.
Laptop? Webcam? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Could you facetime? Video call?
Maybe see if you could do it over a meal together? My phone doesn't have a camera at the front
I would change it then.
Laptop? Webcam?"
Don't have either |
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The new lockdown rules explicitly state children who live in two households can move between them. It is possible to see your kids if they don't usually live with you (U18s). It's stated in the Govt guidance document. |
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