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we have different opinions of some people than we did before, yet has reinforced our opinions of others.
it has bought us even closer, as Em has admitted that she trusts me more since we started this than she did before
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"it has bought us even closer, as Em has admitted that she trusts me more since we started this than she did before
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That's a pretty good side effect then if it has made your bond stronger.  |
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"it has bought us even closer, as Em has admitted that she trusts me more since we started this than she did before
That's a pretty good side effect then if it has made your bond stronger. "
absolutely.
there is always good and bad to everything |
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"it has bought us even closer, as Em has admitted that she trusts me more since we started this than she did before
That's a pretty good side effect then if it has made your bond stronger.
absolutely.
there is always good and bad to everything"
I always wondered when I first got into the scene about this more trust and was sceptical but having met lots of couples its true with the majority and makes relationships stronger. |
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"it has bought us even closer, as Em has admitted that she trusts me more since we started this than she did before
That's a pretty good side effect then if it has made your bond stronger.
absolutely.
there is always good and bad to everything
I always wondered when I first got into the scene about this more trust and was sceptical but having met lots of couples its true with the majority and makes relationships stronger. "
as long as you have limits and you both agree to them, its fine.
basically, for us, its becuase we met a couple that full swapped and i was told if i wanted to, i could have sex with the other woman, and i refused.
so now she believes me when i say i only have eyes for her. lol fool!!! lol |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to? "
Apart from a few sleepless nights and the occasional bout of knob ache - no!
But have met some lovely folk who you'd never think would be so damn kinky! Which is a great thing!
The only downside is coming into contact (virtual) with the odd saddo and idiot - but sadly that's par for the course. |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to?
Apart from a few sleepless nights and the occasional bout of knob ache - no!
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Where are you putting your cock to get nob ache?  |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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It has certainly seemed to have some effects or we wouldn't be doing it. I can't say how our lives would have gone if we hadn't indulged, but I can look at women and make comments, whereas most vanilla men would get slaughtered! But then again, I have always been an outrageous flirt...
Has it brought us closer? Nah! Ever since that day sitting on the lip of the car boot (long story) I have known that Les is the only one for me on an emotional level. That is being borne out by the many many years we have been together..
Has it improved our sex lives together? I have no idea, we have always been adventurous and early on in our lives together, one of her friends got a bit frisky with me.. But as I think back, perhaps our sex lives would have been the same, with the exception that we also shag other people with each others consent!
So what would change if we stopped swinging? We’d stop shagging other people! We would both still look and we’d both still flirt like mad and we’d both be in love as much as we are now! So yes, it must have had some effect, but I really couldn’t tell you what that effect is!
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"It has certainly seemed to have some effects or we wouldn't be doing it. I can't say how our lives would have gone if we hadn't indulged, but I can look at women and make comments, whereas most vanilla men would get slaughtered! "
That's a pretty good point there is more acceptance of looking at the opposite sex. I have seen vanillas get battered for looking while out shopping. |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to?
Apart from a few sleepless nights and the occasional bout of knob ache - no!
Where are you putting your cock to get nob ache? "
Exactly where it's meant to go - just probably not so many times in so few hours! Mind you - the trouble with some of the women on here is they're so damn nice, it's rude to say no when they say - "just one more" !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have greater confidence in my body.
Still have all the same wobbly bits that I used to have, but these days I dont worry about them"
You mean you now believe guys love wobbly bits! Anything that improves your confidence has to be a good thing though. |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to?
Apart from a few sleepless nights and the occasional bout of knob ache - no!
Where are you putting your cock to get nob ache?
Exactly where it's meant to go - just probably not so many times in so few hours! Mind you - the trouble with some of the women on here is they're so damn nice, it's rude to say no when they say - "just one more" !! "
Ahhh nob fatigue from excess use lol good one and yep would be rude to decline a lady seconds or thirds on pleasure. |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to? "
Yes before swinging i didn't have itch balls!  |
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i am more confident about my looks and have higher self esteem...but there is an element of chicken and egg, kev wanted to try clubs for quite a while, but i was too convinced i was fat to go.
i am more cynical, but that was a feature of us discovering the internet...it just so happens i waste most my time on swinging sites
Becasue i am more confident i am more likely to initiate sex...which kev approves of
Oh and a massive disclaimer...i cannot separate which of these come from clubbing and being on swinging sites and which come from being Sir's...he has had a great influence too |
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swinging helped me when i moved, i totally left the area i was bought up in and lived all my life a few years ago due to work, when i moved here i didnt know anyone at all, i had no friends or family round me so i was totally alone, well still am as far as being away from everyone i know and love from back home, but because i had been to chameleons club a few times before i moved and knew a few people there it made it easier for me to go once i moved, as i only live about a mile away now, and also swinging made it so i didnt have no sex life at all lol it is very hard when you move miles away and dont know anyone and without swinging it would have taken me months maybe years to get to know people and have someone to go out with, im not so bad know as ive been here a few years and know people from outside swinging but when i first moved without clubs like chams and people off here id have been totally isolated |
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A massive boost to my self esteem after a rather long drawn-out decline of a relationship which I finally put an end to.
Who'd have thought that so many sexy young men would be interested in lil 'ole me!
A real eye opener and great for the self confidence. Thanks FAB! |
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im closer to chris emotionally than I ever have been with a man, I think we have a higher degree of honesty and can talk to him about anything......and im getting more freedom than I ever imagined possible.....and getting laid more htan ever xxx  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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Lots more body confident - although as long as I have a hole in my arse there'll be parts of me that I still shudder to look at (although a fair few fellas don't seem to mind....)
Am majorly guilty of assault and battery of my credit cards with the amount of lingerie, toys, hotel rooms, club entrances and tanks of petrol I've spent on my hobby
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"I have greater confidence in my body.
Still have all the same wobbly bits that I used to have, but these days I dont worry about them"
Me too, never felt so positive about myself, should have done it years ago   |
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"Lots more body confident - although as long as I have a hole in my arse there'll be parts of me that I still shudder to look at (although a fair few fellas don't seem to mind....)
Am majorly guilty of assault and battery of my credit cards with the amount of lingerie, toys, hotel rooms, club entrances and tanks of petrol I've spent on my hobby
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same here... umm wonder if we can make swinging exempt from tax?  |
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"Do you think there any side effects from swinging? Has it changed your life in ways you didn’t expect it to? "
Oh god yes!
We used to see red if we noticed each other looking at the opposite sex, now we find it horny 
Since going to swingers clubs we find vanilla pubs/clubs boring.
We always trusted each other but even more now.
We have found out alot more about each other sexual needs and desires than we think we ever would of in a vanilla relationship.
We have both picked up new ways to satisfy each others needs.
Shaz found out she is very very bi
The list goes on!
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"We used to see red if we noticed each other looking at the opposite sex, now we find it horny
We always trusted each other but even more now."
I can't see those two phrases being compatable! Surely, if you would get jealous at your partner looking at others, you must not trust them on some level? If you trusted them, why the need to be jealous? 
Perhaps I am wrong, but that is how I see it! |
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"We used to see red if we noticed each other looking at the opposite sex, now we find it horny
We always trusted each other but even more now.
I can't see those two phrases being compatable! Surely, if you would get jealous at your partner looking at others, you must not trust them on some level? If you trusted them, why the need to be jealous?
Perhaps I am wrong, but that is how I see it!"
It could look that way but I see it more as harnessing your emotions and people learning that their partner isn't going to run off with someone else. I spoke to a couple a while ago about this and they said once they started swinging they viewed things in a different light and didn't get jealous.
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By *orkieMan
over a year ago
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"Lots more body confident - although as long as I have a hole in my arse there'll be parts of me that I still shudder to look at (although a fair few fellas don't seem to mind....)
Am majorly guilty of assault and battery of my credit cards with the amount of lingerie, toys, hotel rooms, club entrances and tanks of petrol I've spent on my hobby
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That smell of burning plastic as the cards are maxed out deffo means ur having a good time xx |
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"We used to see red if we noticed each other looking at the opposite sex, now we find it horny
We always trusted each other but even more now.
I can't see those two phrases being compatable! Surely, if you would get jealous at your partner looking at others, you must not trust them on some level? If you trusted them, why the need to be jealous?
Perhaps I am wrong, but that is how I see it!"
Never said we got jealous!
Before we was in the swinging scene, if I seen Shaz looking at another guy I would be annoyed (not because I think she's going to run of with him) but now we have been in the scene around 8 year I find it horny instead of it making me wonder why. |
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Good side effects was discovering there where other people in the world like me and that i was completely normal and that i can talk about everything.
Bad side effects are when you meet someone you like they can live miles away so meets can be difficult to arrange or as i meet single guys some of them get into relationships and move on. All comes with the territary but can be a little sad when you have known someone years and one of you decides to move on for whatever reason |
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Has swinging changed my life ?
a big ohhhhh yes
after being single for the last 20yrs
I have met some one and we fell in love last year 
and she is moving in with me in july
Neither of us were looking for love it just happened.
I think it is just about the biggest thing you can change in your life and so glad it happened thank you fab |
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