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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anybody ever been chatting to someone on, having a bit of back and forth messages and then all of a sudden out of nowhere they just read your messages with no reply?
I don’t get the whole thing, if I’ve done something tell me. Or say you’re no longer interested
Absolutely baffled here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My TG friends get this all the time, usually married men or online fantasists wanting a fix for that evening then they never hear from them again.. That's why checking a profile over before replying is important I think as there's a lot of these types around I think :// |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It happens...even with people you chat to regularly - sometimes life happens, sometimes what you may consider worthy of a reply, they don't - no point trying to second guess it or fret over it, is just one of those things - if it is meant to go further it will.
It's not always necessarily deliberate "ghosting" either |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My TG friends get this all the time, usually married men or online fantasists wanting a fix for that evening then they never hear from them again.. That's why checking a profile over before replying is important I think as there's a lot of these types around I think :// "
Everything checked out though and they seemed legit but couple of messages in and boom ghosted! So annoying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It happens...even with people you chat to regularly - sometimes life happens, sometimes what you may consider worthy of a reply, they don't - no point trying to second guess it or fret over it, is just one of those things - if it is meant to go further it will.
It's not always necessarily deliberate "ghosting" either"
Yeah sometimes it’s not but when you’re having the initial ‘first conversation’ i.e trying to get to know each other |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"It happens...even with people you chat to regularly - sometimes life happens, sometimes what you may consider worthy of a reply, they don't - no point trying to second guess it or fret over it, is just one of those things - if it is meant to go further it will.
It's not always necessarily deliberate "ghosting" either
Yeah sometimes it’s not but when you’re having the initial ‘first conversation’ i.e trying to get to know each other "
In those instances I just assume, and accept, they're not interested in taking the conversation further  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very strange.. Maybe they get a lot of messages and decided to swap attentiion to another person, it is a swinging site after all, people will chop and change, but it could be a million reasons, I'm just thinking of a obvious thing.. Plenty of people to choose from though 
"My TG friends get this all the time, usually married men or online fantasists wanting a fix for that evening then they never hear from them again.. That's why checking a profile over before replying is important I think as there's a lot of these types around I think ://
Everything checked out though and they seemed legit but couple of messages in and boom ghosted! So annoying "
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"Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry "
We are guilty of this to, you are not alone. |
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"Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry "
Same here- just get overwhelmed with all the messages and tap out after a while |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry "
If you had something on your profile that fair enough but to just be chatting with pretty quick responses to ignoring a message for more than a couple hours becomes annoying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It happens...even with people you chat to regularly - sometimes life happens, sometimes what you may consider worthy of a reply, they don't - no point trying to second guess it or fret over it, is just one of those things - if it is meant to go further it will.
It's not always necessarily deliberate "ghosting" either
Yeah sometimes it’s not but when you’re having the initial ‘first conversation’ i.e trying to get to know each other
In those instances I just assume, and accept, they're not interested in taking the conversation further "
All you can do isn’t it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand people get bombarded with messages and I just don’t see that side... difference in being a man on here 
Guess I’ll just try my luck elsewhere and leave them to it.
Thanks for the advice though, found it really useful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry
If you had something on your profile that fair enough but to just be chatting with pretty quick responses to ignoring a message for more than a couple hours becomes annoying "
Maybe they're having a shit of epic proportion, then ran out of bog roll after the 30th wipe, so now they're doing the waddle to the first hundred shops they can get to coz none of them have any bastard bog roll left.
Maybe their auntie popped in unexpectedly and they left the browser open on their phone.
Maybe they fell asleep with their phone in their hand.
Maybe they just got tired.
Maybe they got a call saying there was an emergency
Or maybe they just couldn't be arsed anymore
There are a multitude of reasons, some of them could be they aren't interested anymore others aren't the case.
Just be patient and accept they either will or won't message back, and that you're not their priority in life or block them and don't give them a chance to even if they wanted to.
Your choice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes they just get lost in their mailbox!
If the little blue dot is on their name it’s worth sending a quick “did this get lost in your mailbox” message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Honestly I know you’re all gonna hate me but I do this, if I’m talking on here and get pulled away but also if I’m being too bombarded I just won’t reply if I lose interest in someone, maybe that’s bad manners but when there are just too many it’s not always possible and I did make sure to put a note on my profile to be fair but yeah, I’m one of those sorry
If you had something on your profile that fair enough but to just be chatting with pretty quick responses to ignoring a message for more than a couple hours becomes annoying
Maybe they're having a shit of epic proportion, then ran out of bog roll after the 30th wipe, so now they're doing the waddle to the first hundred shops they can get to coz none of them have any bastard bog roll left.
Maybe their auntie popped in unexpectedly and they left the browser open on their phone.
Maybe they fell asleep with their phone in their hand.
Maybe they just got tired.
Maybe they got a call saying there was an emergency
Or maybe they just couldn't be arsed anymore
There are a multitude of reasons, some of them could be they aren't interested anymore others aren't the case.
Just be patient and accept they either will or won't message back, and that you're not their priority in life or block them and don't give them a chance to even if they wanted to.
Your choice.
P "
Fair enough haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Had it a few times. Had it after setting up a social which I think it another level of rude. At least have the decency to cancel or reschedule.  "
Yes, can imagine that to be an absolute pain! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had it done to us, and we do it to others. It's down to numerous things such as too many mesages, not compatible after a few mesages, and generally being dragged off on other mesages as someone else has said.
You guys unfortunately sit waiting for mesages and winks, we get inundated with em so for us we're not sat around waiting, a oian for you guys as we can imagine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anybody ever been chatting to someone on, having a bit of back and forth messages and then all of a sudden out of nowhere they just read your messages with no reply?
I don’t get the whole thing, if I’ve done something tell me. Or say you’re no longer interested
Absolutely baffled here"
Yes I had this happen, it can make you paranoid I deleted numerous accounts, usually happens after I sent face pic, I tried to find a word to describe what type of people who do this, I found one "ARSEHOLE" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anybody ever been chatting to someone on, having a bit of back and forth messages and then all of a sudden out of nowhere they just read your messages with no reply?
I don’t get the whole thing, if I’ve done something tell me. Or say you’re no longer interested
Absolutely baffled here"
Had a women do this to us a few days ago. Had no problem talking to my guy friend and was up for talking with me (f) when I messaged the next day no response. Sad really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anybody ever been chatting to someone on, having a bit of back and forth messages and then all of a sudden out of nowhere they just read your messages with no reply?
I don’t get the whole thing, if I’ve done something tell me. Or say you’re no longer interested
Absolutely baffled here
Yes I had this happen, it can make you paranoid I deleted numerous accounts, usually happens after I sent face pic, I tried to find a word to describe what type of people who do this, I found one "ARSEHOLE""
So people are arseholes if they fail to keep messaging? Who are you to call people that? |
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