Just wondering what most people’s approach is to sending a follow up message if you didn’t get a reply first time around?
Obviously if you’re message is deleted then that’s a clear sign. However conscious that some go unread or have too many to get through.
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I wouldn’t be shy about sending one follow up message as often the messages get so many and overwhelming that you get a bit numb to it all.
Just don’t send “so I’m not your type then?” Or something like that- it feels a bit passive aggressive and is definitely a turn off |
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over a year ago
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Personally I find repeat messages sent to me annoying, if they spam messages to me all day, I end up blocking them, but a second message 99.9% of the time will be ignored, quite cutthroat on here for a guy I would of thought |
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You don't. If they haven't responded to your first message, a second will most likely earn you a block at the very least. A non reply on fab, as stated in site FAQ's constitutes a 'no thank you' |
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"OP. as harsh as it sounds - if there's no reply, then it's a no.
Sending more isn't a good idea. "
Not always. If I have a lot of messages I might be intending to respond to but the message gets lost in history. I delete when I have no intention of responding, but keep it read if I am looking to chat. |
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Just move on. Their lack of reply (even just a courteous no) only fuels guys who send copy and paste messages.
Block them if you want so they don't appear in your searches anymore bit apart from that, just don't be a pest.
Plenty more fish amd sausage in the chip shop |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"OP. as harsh as it sounds - if there's no reply, then it's a no.
Sending more isn't a good idea.
Not always. If I have a lot of messages I might be intending to respond to but the message gets lost in history. I delete when I have no intention of responding, but keep it read if I am looking to chat."
I've had friends say mine get lost in the mass of messages they get, so get your meaning. |
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"I personally don't mind a second message.However if it's a second message within a short space of time, or 3 and 4 messages I block"
This 
I don't mind a second message that acknowledges the fact they've already mailed but are just hoping I missed it. Any more than that or any hint of desperation and I block. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I personally don't mind a second message.However if it's a second message within a short space of time, or 3 and 4 messages I block
This
I don't mind a second message that acknowledges the fact they've already mailed but are just hoping I missed it. Any more than that or any hint of desperation and I block. "
The difference between admiration and desperation.  |
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"OP. as harsh as it sounds - if there's no reply, then it's a no.
Sending more isn't a good idea.
Not always. If I have a lot of messages I might be intending to respond to but the message gets lost in history. I delete when I have no intention of responding, but keep it read if I am looking to chat.
I've had friends say mine get lost in the mass of messages they get, so get your meaning. "
To give it context I once got 200 messages in one night. Most were garbage but that leaves dozens of decent messages from great guys. I have to shut messaging down to catch up sometimes (like now). And I'm nothing special - I can't imagine how the popular ladies begin to cope! |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
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"OP. as harsh as it sounds - if there's no reply, then it's a no.
Sending more isn't a good idea.
Not always. If I have a lot of messages I might be intending to respond to but the message gets lost in history. I delete when I have no intention of responding, but keep it read if I am looking to chat.
I've had friends say mine get lost in the mass of messages they get, so get your meaning.
To give it context I once got 200 messages in one night. Most were garbage but that leaves dozens of decent messages from great guys. I have to shut messaging down to catch up sometimes (like now). And I'm nothing special - I can't imagine how the popular ladies begin to cope!"
Don’t think I’ve had 200 messages in the time I’ve been on here |
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In the past...I have ignored messages then after a while bored ended up responding and meeting & having a great fucking time. But that has been a one off as such. I'm not saying pester, that's a no no. But we do get bombarded & sometimes I suppose some of us can be a little spontaneous & pick a lucky fucker & think fuck it.
Have no shame.
You can always be blocked.
Nothing to lose right... |
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"I personally don't mind a second message.However if it's a second message within a short space of time, or 3 and 4 messages I block"
We are with you on this one, we don’t mind a second one as long as it’s not template written or being passive aggressive as sometimes we get overwhelmed with messages but also as a couple, it is nice if we are both addressed as our profile says we will only play together and are a couple not a single lady  The Mrs |
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The general fab rule is that no reply means no interest atm or ever.
The main rule is to always respect others and not giving them potential inbox overload could be 100% that.
Spread effort broadly to many and leave a longer break before you think about any further contact. It's better to move on and create many choices |
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