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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this? |
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Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach 
It's a confidence thing for me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x"
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
hey i don't know why you look a very attractive couple especially the lady omg yowza  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
and i said that knowing you're not interested in single guys |
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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
im the same OP. when i do get chatting to people i generally get on very well with them but i have a big issue with approaching people myself, really dont put myself out there at all. |
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach. "
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach.
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x "
omg just smile thats all thats needed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. Never have tbh.
I anticipate rejection (I know I'm (and we're) not everyone's cup of tea, we're only interested in people that actually fancy us otherwise where's the fun?
Worst that can happen is they aren't interested and that's no loss so nowt to worry about 
Try being a little more forward, be brave! Once you have made that move a couple of times it'll be a natural easy thing!
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach.
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x omg just smile thats all thats needed "
But I smile at everyone because I'm just friendly and happy... doesn't mean I want to fuck them all |
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Im really shy socially though strangely an uninhibited exhibitionist sexually ..
I usually rely on my Stag to make the first moves or messages ... though im working on it ... ive started winking at those profiles that catch my eye and if they wink back ill send a folliw up message ... the key is not to worry if you get no reply ..
At clubs we meet people fairly easily and i do find that easier
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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This will be a problem for a lot of people, I've always been shy in my life, and find it hard to make the first move, on here or in public. However like many, once I gave contact I quickly get over my shyness. It might be the underlying feeling of low confidence in yourself, which makes it hard to make the first contact, as rejection gives you a feeling of low esteem. Sometimes you just have to grab the bull by the horn (no pun intended), and just send a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
I totally get that, it’s horrid thinking you might be rejected or mess things up with a stray word. On the other hand, we are mostly open-minded on here and can read through nervousness to see the other person. We are all nervous so just get stuck in and see what happens.
Not tha you asked about this but I imagine many people would be pretty pleased to get a message from you. I know we would.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, it could result in an amazing experience x Inked messaged me over two years ago and still together, haha, and we’ve met some amazing people because of messages we send x
We’re not everyone’s taste, so accept it and move on x
Viv xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach.
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x omg just smile thats all thats needed
But I smile at everyone because I'm just friendly and happy... doesn't mean I want to fuck them all "
I smile at everyone and chat with lots of people but not usually anyone i would want to have sex with..i just can't put myself out there yet if someone approaches me who i am attracted to then its all fine.Just don't feel able to make the first move..  |
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
Yup. However, most Women/Couples I’m interested in are either too far away or having read their Profile I don’t fit their Criteria. So, I respect that and don’t message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
Yes; very |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?"
You shouldn't do your hot x |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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I really don't mind sending messages, I'm not shy.
If it's someone from the forums then there's normally been some banter/flirting anyway.
Trying to get a conversation with local strangers is hard work, especially when your in the larger side.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely send a first message unless it's thread related.
I don't really fancy very many people at all so I'm in a bit of a wonky place. I could find someone physically attractive and they have similar interests but for me to know if I'd actually be interested in meeting them I'd need to know a fair amount about them and let them know a fair amount about me. I need to believe they're an understanding sort of person/people.
I don't wanna come across as a tease or anything by saying I'd like to get to know them and then after a while getting to know them say "actually, nahhhhhh, I think you're a cunt"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach.
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x omg just smile thats all thats needed
But I smile at everyone because I'm just friendly and happy... doesn't mean I want to fuck them all "
ahhhh but its the way you smile if you want to do the dirty deed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, same here. I just sit and wait for people to message me. This works fine for single men but not so much for couples or women as I think a lot must using the same approach
It's a confidence thing for me x
I just find it really difficult..i don't want to waste peoples time if i am not attracted to them and they to me..i feel ok in a club setting but would still not make the first approach.
I wouldn't make first move in a club either. The problem is if others are thinking the same then we are all missing out on a lot of potential connections x omg just smile thats all thats needed
But I smile at everyone because I'm just friendly and happy... doesn't mean I want to fuck them all
I smile at everyone and chat with lots of people but not usually anyone i would want to have sex with..i just can't put myself out there yet if someone approaches me who i am attracted to then its all fine.Just don't feel able to make the first move.. "
ahhhh well its she who dares wins I'm a gent but I'm not at all shy and i can generally chat to most people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I Mrs Pd feel really difficult making the first move or messaging people...obviously this has a massive impact on our chances of meeting..anyone else feel awkward about this?
You shouldn't do your hot x"
Thank you x |
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