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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door. |
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door."
On here, yes. It's a sex site. Outside of fab I probably would think it's just coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably not the best place to be looking for just a coffee. On one hand as you say, it won’t be taken at face value and if that’s genuinely all you want then she might feel insulted that you didn’t want more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door."
No. I’m a real people’s person so I will always meet up for coffee and cake  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door.
No. I’m a real people’s person so I will always meet up for coffee and cake "
Throw cake in and I'll happily meet anyone too |
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Yes because in our experience it nearly always is, there has been one exception.
We had a long on line conversation with a guy who began by stressing that he was interested in social interaction only. We agreed to meet him for a coffee. Within hours he switched his attitude and began to talk about getting sexual. So the coffee never happened.
We would love to meet people socially only, to be able to talk freely without that pressure, so far it's happened only once. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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A lot of people would think that. I probably wouldn't - it's nice to be able to talk freely and hear another's experiences in this funny old world. I guess it does depend on the interaction though, sometimes you can tell they just see the coffee as a stepping stone into your quim. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have suggested coffee socials with a strict understanding not to interfere with underwear, just because she intrigues me as a person. Only one has ever taken me up on it..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 1 who enjoys a cuppa, I met someone from here whos local to my parents. So when I go over there I pop into his for a cuppa and a good natter. I even pop the kettle to make my own when I get there at times |
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We're perfectly happy meeting purely socially. We may well be open to more but we don't try to make it anything it isn't. We may go with hopes but we don't go with expectations. It's far more likely that somebody will want to take things further if they don't feel any pressure from us. |
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We hope nobody feels we would only meet them because we want something sexual to happen. We wouldn't want anything like that to happen unless we enjoyed being with them socially in the first place.
However, we also hope that somebody we meet feels comfortable seeing we are interested in taking things in that direction if that's something they would like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the social side of this site and have a couple of just coffee meets. But I do have to stress sometimes that's all they are and I'm very cautious about what I'm told by other people |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door."
I wouldn’t think that and have thought about similar myself, particularly with people where it obvious that friendship comes first.
As long as you’re not being underhand about it, there’s no need to bullshit you can ask someone for a coffee that you obviously fancy too, without any pressure or expectations |
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I'm more than happy to have a coffee social without anything sexual going on, in fact I've just got home from doing just that to verify a new couple to fab
Really lovely people and it's a great way of meeting new friends too.
I get that sometimes it may need to be said that it's purely for a coffee if you're reaching out to someone to lend an ear to so I will also make it clear that it is non sexual too.
Sure we're all here for the swinging sexual side but that doesnt have to be the only reason we are here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door.
No. I’m a real people’s person so I will always meet up for coffee and cake "
Oh no, as soon as you add Cake I would assume there is a sexual undertone. Coffee sure, people can just chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door."
I love a coffee social most of my veris are just that |
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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy chatting to females more than males, the obvious for me is a different insight, I'm just more comfortable and more at ease with the opposite sex. IF the odd bit of flirting arises, of course it's enjoyable.
With sites like this is there always the stigma that something sexual has to be an undertone, if someone messaged you to say
"fancy a coffee Friday afternoon"
honestly, would you be thinking it's just a vain attempt to get their foot in the boudoir door."
yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love a coffee meet to see if I actually like the person in reality.
I think women assume I want to have sex with them ASAP because I've messaged them, but it's not the case.
I'm not sure what the word is for it, but I like getting to know someone before I really want to have sex with them. Otherwise meh I rather have a wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would enjoy meeting women off here for a coffee, but there are very few, if any, locally that I imagine would be interested. Either there aren’t many locally or they all have me blocked already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would enjoy meeting women off here for a coffee, but there are very few, if any, locally that I imagine would be interested. Either there aren’t many locally or they all have me blocked already."
I seem to have the same issue in my area  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would enjoy meeting women off here for a coffee, but there are very few, if any, locally that I imagine would be interested. Either there aren’t many locally or they all have me blocked already.
I seem to have the same issue in my area "
You both need to move and get blocked and ignored by a whole new set of people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would enjoy meeting women off here for a coffee, but there are very few, if any, locally that I imagine would be interested. Either there aren’t many locally or they all have me blocked already.
I seem to have the same issue in my area
You both need to move and get blocked and ignored by a whole new set of people "
Oh go on then ...if you feel the need to ignore me feel free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"9/10 I'd feel like it was because they wanted to get my knickers off yes! "
Not all of us are the same. I like a coffee.. if anything else happens that's a bonus... but not essential x |
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