That's not a cop out. I believe that some people will find it attractive or at the very least bearable.
If i'm being pushed for an answer i'd say NO because invariably your needs are not being met if your partner is obsessed with themselves.
HOWEVERRRRRRR I don't think it pays to focus on one characteristic.
I have a long term friend who is entrenched in how he looks and is narcissistic and self obsessed...... so why do I hang out with him ? Cos he's funny and kind and very intelligent and his self obsession is borne of lack of confidence and he is great at discussion is very political , helps me out if I ask ( with anything ) he's too self obsessed to notice without being told. He has tremendous moral values and is highly loyal and makes a good friend. Plus he doesn't drink so is a great lift for socials  |
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Can't stand narcissistic behaviour, confidence and a sense of humour yes.
But self love that borders on obsession not for me thanks.
We played with a couple a few years ago in a club with a mirror room and the lady of the couple was oblivious to the other three of us she was more interested in looking at herself and feeling her tits it really killed the mood we just got up and left her to it her hubby came with us.
Not sure she even realised we had gone.
So no thanks |
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"That's not a cop out. I believe that some people will find it attractive or at the very least bearable.
If i'm being pushed for an answer i'd say NO because invariably your needs are not being met if your partner is obsessed with themselves.
HOWEVERRRRRRR I don't think it pays to focus on one characteristic.
I have a long term friend who is entrenched in how he looks and is narcissistic and self obsessed...... so why do I hang out with him ? Cos he's funny and kind and very intelligent and his self obsession is borne of lack of confidence and he is great at discussion is very political , helps me out if I ask ( with anything ) he's too self obsessed to notice without being told. He has tremendous moral values and is highly loyal and makes a good friend. Plus he doesn't drink so is a great lift for socials "
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"That's not a cop out. I believe that some people will find it attractive or at the very least bearable.
If i'm being pushed for an answer i'd say NO because invariably your needs are not being met if your partner is obsessed with themselves.
HOWEVERRRRRRR I don't think it pays to focus on one characteristic.
I have a long term friend who is entrenched in how he looks and is narcissistic and self obsessed...... so why do I hang out with him ? Cos he's funny and kind and very intelligent and his self obsession is borne of lack of confidence and he is great at discussion is very political , helps me out if I ask ( with anything ) he's too self obsessed to notice without being told. He has tremendous moral values and is highly loyal and makes a good friend. Plus he doesn't drink so is a great lift for socials Thanks."
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Is it you that is self obsessed ? |
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"Can't stand narcissistic behaviour, confidence and a sense of humour yes.
But self love that borders on obsession not for me thanks.
We played with a couple a few years ago in a club with a mirror room and the lady of the couple was oblivious to the other three of us she was more interested in looking at herself and feeling her tits it really killed the mood we just got up and left her to it her hubby came with us.
Not sure she even realised we had gone.
So no thanks"
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"Can't stand narcissistic behaviour, confidence and a sense of humour yes.
But self love that borders on obsession not for me thanks.
We played with a couple a few years ago in a club with a mirror room and the lady of the couple was oblivious to the other three of us she was more interested in looking at herself and feeling her tits it really killed the mood we just got up and left her to it her hubby came with us.
Not sure she even realised we had gone.
So no thanks"
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"an attractive trait?
I would say no but confidence is. Can the one be mistaken at times for the other?
No. Not ever. They are two highly distinguishable characteristics."
I agree but only to those with the ability to discern the difference. In this climate of putting it all out there the most seen could be equated with the most confident. |
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"That's not a cop out. I believe that some people will find it attractive or at the very least bearable.
If i'm being pushed for an answer i'd say NO because invariably your needs are not being met if your partner is obsessed with themselves.
HOWEVERRRRRRR I don't think it pays to focus on one characteristic.
I have a long term friend who is entrenched in how he looks and is narcissistic and self obsessed...... so why do I hang out with him ? Cos he's funny and kind and very intelligent and his self obsession is borne of lack of confidence and he is great at discussion is very political , helps me out if I ask ( with anything ) he's too self obsessed to notice without being told. He has tremendous moral values and is highly loyal and makes a good friend. Plus he doesn't drink so is a great lift for socials Thanks.
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Is it you that is self obsessed ?"
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