 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yes
Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean.
How did it make you feel? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."
Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."
I don’t agree tbh... it’s about building up the connection and making plans to meet and for me there is an element of exclusivity or agreement between both parties beforehand .... whatever the dynamics of the relationships being honest and up from mr from the off is essential |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Yes
Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean
How did it make you feel?"
A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yes
Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean
How did it make you feel?
A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks "
I think it’s down to communication before ... you do what makes you happy.
Enjoy your meet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
"Yes
Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean
How did it make you feel?
A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks "
Are you after elusive?
And you may of clicked in messages or on the phone but may not so face to face and I wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket before I met someone either  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting "
. Yes I would still meet them they deserve a face to face conversation .From my experience the thing with fwb is you have to agree a few ground rules so that are no problems further down the line which is why a face to face conversation is important to me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I often do 2 clubs in 2 nights, wether a meet is arranged or not.
Cant say I have had anyone put off by this, we are on a swingers site after all.
Even if I have a FWB (I do) they are aware I sleep with others, regular |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Yes
Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean
How did it make you feel?
A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks
Are you after elusive?
And you may of clicked in messages or on the phone but may not so face to face and I wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket before I met someone either "
Thanks that sounds very logical |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.
Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?
"
From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.
That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.
Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?
From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.
That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.
"
To be fair you can use it how u want nothing is set in stone |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
I'd still meet them yes, but I think I'd feel a bit disheartened.
I was chatting to someone and arranged to meet and he told me he'd been out and had sex with his ex.
It doesn't really matter but it felt a bit....pfft! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.
Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?
From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.
That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.
To be fair you can use it how u want nothing is set in stone"
Very true |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I'd still meet them yes, but I think I'd feel a bit disheartened.
I was chatting to someone and arranged to meet and he told me he'd been out and had sex with his ex.
It doesn't really matter but it felt a bit....pfft!"
Pfft! Is exactly how I felt |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."
I understand where you're coming from, but I'd want someone bringing their A game, not shagged out from the night before. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
Id still meet them.
See if you still click face to face. Chat properly and make a decision from that.
Give you an opportunity to ask them about the future - that's more important than the past.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Maybe they had that night already arranged.
I would be upset if they had cancelled meeting me to do that, or to meet someone else (had that happen and it is not nice)
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting "
yeah why not? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
