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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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It's reasonable to politely decline and use the block button option against others. This prevents you from receiving further contact which is, too frequently, of an impolite nature. Always report inappropriate behaviour from others to Admin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.
I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.
Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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I get it all the time, I say "no thankyou" I then block as I cant cope with abuse back tbh x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the ones doing the rejecting do it tactfully, kindly, respectfully then there shouldn't be a problem. If the rejected respond negatively then consider your initial rejection founded. Delete, block and move on, no worries 
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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It’s definitely not just you guys. I have almost given up with trying to let people down gently with the ‘sorry you’re not quite Mrs C’s type message’, as we had a spate of abuse, I was called a slut, told there were far better slags than me on here, asked who I thought I was, did I think this was all about us, did I think this was the Mrs C show.... it goes on & on... It was quite upsetting at one point.
I do feel horrible just deleting messages, but I’ve written in the profile that this is what I will do. If people persist messaging, I just block them now.
Delete, block & report them. They just spoil the place for anyone genuine & decent x |
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"I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.
I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.
Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it . "
You did the right thing. You got to be truthful about these things.
I would just leave it. He mind think he got second chance with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.
I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.
Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it .
You did the right thing. You got to be truthful about these things.
I would just leave it. He mind think he got second chance with you"
Thank you . I tried to be nice about it and I didn't want to hurt him.
Yes you are right I think it I did message he may think I am giving him a second chance .. |
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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To be honest, I'm at that age (and attractiveness) where rejection is pretty much the common response to my messages, so I see no point being abusive when it happens. Also, my mantra is that you should treat others how you expect to be treated yourself, and if they don't abide by that, they aren't the ones I want to associate myself with! Respect should go both ways  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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Not everyone is for everyone, I sadly think that some people on here think because it’s a swingers site everyone’s on offer and that’s definitely not the case, people need to deal with rejection better otherwise they should question what they really want and maybe higher and escort instead |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
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I have no problem with anyone saying not for me. My reply has always been. “Thanks for replying and happy fabbing”.
Don’t get the need to be nasty seriously do people think it will change a persons mind? |
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"I have no problem with anyone saying not for me. My reply has always been. “Thanks for replying and happy fabbing”.
Don’t get the need to be nasty seriously do people think it will change a persons mind?"
This is pretty much how I respond |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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Because they’re probably drama queens looking for a fight , getting to be normal human behaviour nowadays . Block & move on be the bigger person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say no to guys everyday. Earlier I told someone his hair was too big and all he did was ask if shaving it off would make a difference. I very very rarely get abuse and the abuse I do get is usually a first message rather than a response to being told no thank you.
Don’t really class the initial message stage as rejection either, I’d have to have known them and spent time with them and been intimate with them to feel any kind of rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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I just say thanks for taking the time to reply and tell them I'm blocking them (to be polite about it and not to message again on the future). I've never taken offence to being rejected by a woman or a couple here.
There is the understandable annoyance when you agree to a meet that doesn't materialise, in which case the agreement shouldn't have happened and someone is to blame there.
Makes me laugh though the number of gay/bi men who message me and get all uptight when I point out in straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because there is a sense of entitlement for alot of people jn todays society...
Its not just in here and its not just angry horny men...
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Your right there.
I read a message my friend showed me from a couple on here.All he did was say sorry your not for me.
There reply was a tirade of swear words and threats and basically said how dare he turn down a couple on here and that men are a throw away commodity on here and the avalanche of low life desperate men on here should be honoured to even get a chance to meet.
I think some do feel entitled or the attention on here as made there bubble massive lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't expect everyone to like you, can you? Rejection is part for the course. It's a case of deal with it. No need to be nasty about it is there?
I'd never stop swearing at people otherwise!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well a barely get replys and if i do is nasty ones ..like to kill myself or calling me a troll but i just move on"
What ??
People reply telling you to kill yourself? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s tough being rejected but it happens to us all. If you can’t cope with it it’s time to call it a day. "
It doesn't bother me at all.I take rejection as that person has different sexual attraction to what I am.its not a insult.Its just there looking for something different to you  |
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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It’s the Tom Jones phenomenon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined this site and I had plenty of free time to meet women, I would get rejected all the time and not just rejected but ignored or messages not read.
It did get to me. But now I'm in no rush to meet anyone and it doesn't bother me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.
If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.
Is it just us or does most of you get this?
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I get this too, it's completely uncalled for. Everyone isn't going to be attracted to everyone else, if people can't handle rejection without becoming abusive, then maybe swinging might not be the best thing for them. |
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