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Not all Asian men are bad!!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just accept it as a preference and move on.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Presumably Asian men who were horrid helped cause the reaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a man is a disability lmao

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes there is that stereotype, tbh we’ve met and played with a few Asian couples in the UK and India and all the guys been absolutely lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Absolutely respect preference and types.

My point is about the poor reputation created by some Asian men by their behaviour.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

My point is about the poor reputation created by some Asian men by their behaviour."
that’s there problem. Using homophones is mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You know what, I see this topic come up fairly regularly. I get we all have preferences and occasionally cultural differences but isn't it a bit lame to say 'dont meet Asian guys because we once met a rude one'?

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I've met a couple of Asian hindu men and they've been great!

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

I’ve played with a few Asian men have all been utterly charming .... there’s a lot of white men though with disgusting attitudes to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for sharing that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve played with a few Asian men have all been utterly charming .... there’s a lot of white men though with disgusting attitudes to be fair

That's great to hear. Keep the positives coming

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

Yes they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You know what, I see this topic come up fairly regularly. I get we all have preferences and occasionally cultural differences but isn't it a bit lame to say 'dont meet Asian guys because we once met a rude one'?

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"

Thanks Jennie. Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Preference is fine. Stereotyping isn’t fine. You’re a dickhead or you’re not, regardless of race, culture, religion, sexuality etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x

Yes they are "

Ok, what made you say/believe this? Interested to hear. If you are willing to share.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

My point is about the poor reputation created by some Asian men by their behaviour. that’s there problem. Using homophones is mine. "
Wow. I never knew there were gender specific mobiles. One livers and leans.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Hard to find Asian couples who like to swap with white folks though. Would you like to swap as a couple op?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

Organ specific learning?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x

Yes they are

Ok, what made you say/believe this? Interested to hear. If you are willing to share."

No I'm not willing to share

I have my reasons

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

Organ specific learning?

I think we all have just one liver

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve played with a few Asian men have all been utterly charming .... there’s a lot of white men though with disgusting attitudes to be fair

That's great to hear. Keep the positives coming

I have been with Asian men before. If they have the right attitude and tick my boxes then why not? Skin/tone, culture, belief system are not a preference to me. If I am speaking to someone and I feel a spark then well done them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Preference is fine. Stereotyping isn’t fine. You’re a dickhead or you’re not, regardless of race, culture, religion, sexuality etc. "

Exactly my point. Thanks Nora

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But white / black men can be horrid too. It’s a stereotype, think best to actually get to know the individual first xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like I said best to get to know people first. If it’s not your preference, you can communicate that in a better way x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

Organ specific learning?

Only in cavernous cathedrals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’ "

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

unfortunately it happens, that you are held back by you ethnicity and you feel pre judge by the action of your fellow Asian, but your fab profile is only a small portion of your personality and maybe a club and a face to face will let the real you show though more and maybe you can help change the "misconception" by your fellow humans it may be a long hard road and there will be a few bumps along the way, but good luck.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"Being a man is a disability lmao"

funny

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like I said best to get to know people first. If it’s not your preference, you can communicate that in a better way x"

Thanks God advice.Agree with you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Afghanistan

Armenia

Azerbaijan

Bahrain

Bangladesh

Bhutan

Brunei

Cambodia

China

Cyprus

Georgia

India

Indonesia

Iran

Iraq

Israel

Japan

Jordan

Kazakhstan

Kuwait

Kyrgyzstan

Laos

Lebanon

Malaysia

Maldives

Mongolia

Myanmar (formerly Burma)

Nepal

North Korea

Oman

Pakistan

Palestine

Philippines

Qatar

Russia

Saudi Arabia

Singapore

South Korea

Sri Lanka

Syria

Taiwan

Tajikistan

Thailand

Timor-Leste

Turkey

Turkmenistan

United Arab Emirates (UAE)

Uzbekistan

Vietnam

Yemen

That's a whole lotta Asia ..........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it."

I imagine the walrus would be equally as scarred having a run in with a sea witch!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it."

It's good that you've come this far Jenni. Big tusks ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

I imagine the walrus would be equally as scarred having a run in with a sea witch! "

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"
. It does seem on Fabs Asian guys have been stereotyped with a bad reputation.Sadly I felt I had to state on my profile I am Greek Cypriot born and raised in London as I often asked if I am Asian on Fabs as well as outside of Fabs.Last night I was at a club and 3 Asian couples came in they kept to themselves mostly but chatted to others including myself and yes one of the first things they asked was if I am Asian.All 6 were lovely , pleasant , social people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x. It does seem on Fabs Asian guys have been stereotyped with a bad reputation.Sadly I felt I had to state on my profile I am Greek Cypriot born and raised in London as I often asked if I am Asian on Fabs as well as outside of Fabs.Last night I was at a club and 3 Asian couples came in they kept to themselves mostly but chatted to others including myself and yes one of the first things they asked was if I am Asian.All 6 were lovely , pleasant , social people."

Thanks for sharing your experience Costas. Hopefully it will change slowly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

It's good that you've come this far Jenni. Big tusks ?"

I do not want to say too much. But whiskers and a strong small of fish ... need I say more? Based on that experience I will not meet any aquatic mammals. They are all the same!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

It's good that you've come this far Jenni. Big tusks ?

I do not want to say too much. But whiskers and a strong small of fish ... need I say more? Based on that experience I will not meet any aquatic mammals. They are all the same!

Love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone who have replied so far.

Almost all of you were very supportive of my cause.

Hope it resonates with others too.

Happy fabbing

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

It's good that you've come this far Jenni. Big tusks ?

I do not want to say too much. But whiskers and a strong small of fish ... need I say more? Based on that experience I will not meet any aquatic mammals. They are all the same!

Goo Goo Goo Joob! ( you had to be there )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying

Agree completely.

It makes people feel better than saying ‘i don’t like Asian men’.

I’ve never once seen anyone say ‘ I don’t meet white men because I had a bad experience’

I had a bad experience with a walrus once.

I dont like talking about it.

It's good that you've come this far Jenni. Big tusks ?

I do not want to say too much. But whiskers and a strong small of fish ... need I say more? Based on that experience I will not meet any aquatic mammals. They are all the same!

Goo Goo Goo Joob! ( you had to be there )"

And I guess you were?

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Thanks for sharing your experience Costas. Hopefully it will change slowly "
. I do hope people’s opinion change on Asian people.There is good and bad in all nationalities

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Hard to find Asian couples who like to swap with white folks though. Would you like to swap as a couple op?

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"
. 100 % agree with this

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"

Couldn't have said it better myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

Have an arrange marriage, you be having plenty of sex

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Hard to find Asian couples who like to swap with white folks though. Would you like to swap as a couple OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being a man is a disability lmao"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

"
. Respect. And wow.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

OP we are also people with no preconceived ideas about meeting people who aren't the same race/ethnicity or whatever as us. I'm from a mixed background, but no one can tell due to my lily white skin. We've met an Asian guy off here, who was lovely. We'd meet anyone who ticked our boxes on the social and sexual side basically.

Also, you look a bit like Seal on your profile pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x

Have an arrange marriage, you be having plenty of sex "

Oh FFS.

Really?

OP ... just avoid all european women .... they are culturally insensitive and rude. Well at least one is!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Absolutely respect preference and types.

My point is about the poor reputation created by some Asian men by their behaviour. that’s there problem. Using homophones is mine. Wow. I never knew there were gender specific mobiles. One livers and leans. "
I was trawking through the thread with desperation and need to give a reply. I can sleep the sleep of the favoured c’est soir (that’s french which all men know makes women’s pantaloons damp)

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By *sianmale89Man over a year ago

Stockport

Honestly I avoid this topic like the plague but I will say my bit as an Asian guy, let’s be brutally honest people be it on here or in everyday real life don’t really have much positive things to talk or to say about Asian men in general. Is it fair nope, can it at times be disheartening yes but unfortunately it’s just life and frankly if I were you I wouldn’t bother dwelling too deep into it or asking why people don’t want to meet guys off our background and here is why you will never hear the end off it as it will practically be a never ending list off horror stories and criticisms being detailed in field like reports at everything from attraction/club encounters/sex/relationship/work related/day to day encounters or another gem referencing crimes committed by Asians guys or culture values etc blah blah so on...and you will be hearing that and then some as people seem to enjoy getting a kick out of coming out with that so ideally if you come across people who aren’t interested just stay well away/leave them be to save yourself from these conversations. Just quietly go swing clubs and have a good time and behave and who knows where it leads to. also I never really message anyone on here I just stick to clubs and interact with people there as I find real life interactions easier/more straight forward with people, hope this helped

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The guy above always comes across as a cool gent

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m Asian and made a few amazing friends on fab.

1- Most men have a struggle on Fab. Too many men and few women in comparison.

2- Some women clearly state it’s an attraction issue. Which has to be respected.

3- You may find a few women who stereotype Asian men, but they are very few. Most women on the site are decent people with basically a LOT of messages to get through.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I meet asian guys just the same as other ethnics. Theyve always been lovely and popular with the women

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By *angzMan over a year ago

Manchester, London & sometimes Newcastle

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hindus and Sikhs are generally lovely people in my experience. They are tolerant, hard working and integrated, an asset to this country

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure why you’d think this as everyone is different and you can’t tarnish everyone with the same brush regardless of where there from just remember everyone has there own preferences likes and dislikes and everyone has to respect each persons individually

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By *ams12345Man over a year ago

london

Yeah it’s hard on here, but i find it quite easy to mingle in clubs

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By *rank33Man over a year ago

London

"Yeah it’s hard on here, but i find it quite easy to mingle in clubs"

I have the same experience as you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

Yeah you’s get a bad rap for sure

I don’t look irish and been mistaken for Asian a few times and some of the reactions where harsh ! But chalk that down to narrow minded people and rock on !

You can’t reason with stupid and if that’s wat there like why bother

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure why you’d think this as everyone is different and you can’t tarnish everyone with the same brush regardless of where there from just remember everyone has there own preferences likes and dislikes and everyone has to respect each persons individually "
very true but not wen they make it abundantly clear it’s ur race and not actually you they dislike ! Im just saying the way it has been put to me on occasions!

It was less then subtle

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By *ingmaster1Man over a year ago

coulsdon

i have met three they were all cheating on their wife and expected me to drop everything for a splash and dash when they were free for 30 minutes or so

sorry to say i will not meet them any more i am sure there are some genuine ones out there but i wont find out shame

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own but definitely are stereotyped online. The idiots spoil it for the genuine ones.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Each to their own but definitely are stereotyped online. The idiots spoil it for the genuine ones.

Yep !

but it takes nothing to take the polite approach of saying your not interested without bringing ur race in to it...I’ve had it thrown at me and I’m Irish ffs haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

"
right I’m a tad lost Mary who you aiming your comment at ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

right I’m a tad lost Mary who you aiming your comment at ? "

I was half asleep when I answered the question

I'm assumed that it was the usual Fab xenophobic comments

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I hate stereotypes because of race... I've been spoken to politely and rudely (not in a good way) by all races, race isn't something that would put me off but preferences being very different would or a poor attitude..

Happy fabbing OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's any consolation there's also plenty of people quietly avoiding the folk who say shit like that

right I’m a tad lost Mary who you aiming your comment at ?

I was half asleep when I answered the question

I'm assumed that it was the usual Fab xenophobic comments "

All good Mary and love the use of that word not many bang that one out ! Not bad for been half asleep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are some gems around x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

tbh race isn't an issue for me. its people's attitude and personality that counts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met and spoken to several highly disrespectful white guys, yet I dont have a "no whites" rule.

Peter Sutcliffe was a lorry driver ... does that mean all lorry drivers need to be avoided because they are all murderers?

This is not a rant ... so please dont eviscerated me!

#JustSaying"

All of this

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Nice profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

stupid is as stupid does ! ( forest gump )

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By *spotpleasurerMan over a year ago

Norwich

You are right that these prejudices may be unfair. Often, it's a matter of ignorance or stereotyping.

The majority of people are white which means the majority of encounters are white with white. Some may have never met another racial type and are uncomfortable with the idea, and you have to acknowledge their preference. Others may be tolerant and occasionally meet non-whites. However, the frequency of such encounters is small compared to white-white so one bad experience will come across as a high percentage. As a result, they'll have a negative impression. If they are unlucky to have a second bad meet, then it will only reinforce the opinion and they're not going to want to take the risk of more in future. Whereas two bad meets with whites will be compensated hopefully by lots of other good ones.

My advice is to get to know people by chatting online and don't give up out of frustration. While it is challenging, there are plenty of people here who do not discriminate based on race. It's also important to recognise that someone say no or ignore your message for any number of reasons and not because you're Asian.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have met a few Asian men who are pure gents and lovely people who have perfect manners.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t understand how anyone can dismiss a whole ethnic group.

If a person does that then they need to realise they’re prejudiced and it’s not just “preference”. It’s time to stop letting people use that excuse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

Probably bad press coverage..

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By *onkey_boy87Man over a year ago

derby

[Removed by poster at 07/07/20 12:57:40]

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By *onkey_boy87Man over a year ago

derby

By Donkey boy Man

just this minute!

derby

They are stereotypes boarder line racism. I get you may not be physically attracted to another race which is fine. But to say its because of attiude is silly. You get arse hole's and good people from all ethnic groups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn’t agree more, attitude has nothing to do with the colour of your skin, sexual orientation, religion, etc...

By Donkey boy Man

just this minute!

derby

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

How many of you Asian guys would share your wives should you meet women who want extra cock? Of the few BAME couples ive seen on fab, many seem to only want to only mff or to swap with other couples of their own race.

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

[Removed by poster at 07/07/20 13:21:11]

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"How many of you Asian guys would share your wives should you meet women who want extra cock? Of the few BAME couples ive seen on fab, many seem to only want to only mff or to swap with other couples of their own race. "

Your inflammatory post holds no water nor relevance

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Your inflammatory post holds no water nor relevance

whatever Karen.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I don’t understand how anyone can dismiss a whole ethnic group.

If a person does that then they need to realise they’re prejudiced and it’s not just “preference”. It’s time to stop letting people use that excuse.

I understand everyone has a type and nobody has a right to be thought of as “attractive”, but to dismiss billions of people you’ve not even seen or met is definitely prejudiced. If you have those views you need to address the reasons why."
. I don’t think it’s prejudice to have a preference for a black skin person or white skin person but I do think it’s prejudice to dismiss someone because of the nationality

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By *siancouplehantsCouple over a year ago

K-PAX

I do

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x"

To be fair i doubt they actually say that to you i think maybe thats how you choose to interperate it .These threads seem to pop up regular i think asian men have as much chance on this site as any other single guy. Some guys are good at playing the game of fab others are not regsrdless of race.

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By *atJWMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Afghanistan

Armenia

Azerbaijan

Bahrain

Bangladesh

Bhutan

Brunei

Cambodia

China

Cyprus

Georgia

India

Indonesia

Iran

Iraq

Israel

Japan

Jordan

Kazakhstan

Kuwait

Kyrgyzstan

Laos

Lebanon

Malaysia

Maldives

Mongolia

Myanmar (formerly Burma)

Nepal

North Korea

Oman

Pakistan

Palestine

Philippines

Qatar

Russia

Saudi Arabia

Singapore

South Korea

Sri Lanka

Syria

Taiwan

Tajikistan

Thailand

Timor-Leste

Turkey

Turkmenistan

United Arab Emirates (UAE)

Uzbekistan

Vietnam

Yemen

That's a whole lotta Asia .......... "

Geography not your strong point then?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I do

Then you are indeed a diamond!

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By *siancouplehantsCouple over a year ago

K-PAX

I do

Then you are indeed a diamond!

Thank you

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By *yes146Man over a year ago

London

To be honest I haven't felt any discrimination during my correspondence with people on here. At clubs too. I've met some great people here and look forward to in the future.

However people have preferences and that needs to be respected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a young woman, I was only exposed to white men, my community was predominantly white. I had no Asian or Black friends. Fast forward 25 years and my best friend now is Asian. I'm extremely attracted to people of all races because I'm more exposed to them now. Tastes in food, music, and sex is, in part, a result of imprinting. I think what I'm trying to say is that may be people have a preference to who they meet because of how they grew up and it's not because of race? I have met some bloody horrible white guys in my time on here and a few truly wonderful Asian guys. I will meet a guy I connect with no matter the colour of his skin. If he's nice, he's nice

I'm rambling on here but hope you understand what I'm getting at?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t understand how anyone can dismiss a whole ethnic group.

If a person does that then they need to realise they’re prejudiced and it’s not just “preference”. It’s time to stop letting people use that excuse.

I understand everyone has a type and nobody has a right to be thought of as “attractive”, but to dismiss billions of people you’ve not even seen or met is definitely prejudiced. If you have those views you need to address the reasons why.. I don’t think it’s prejudice to have a preference for a black skin person or white skin person but I do think it’s prejudice to dismiss someone because of the nationality "

Eh? Weren’t you the same guy saying you have to constantly tell people you aren’t Asian because you get discriminated against?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 07/07/20 23:01:41]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meh not been on here long enough but not had much issue being Asian in real life..

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Who said they were?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife loves asian men.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"My wife loves asian men."

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I don’t understand how anyone can dismiss a whole ethnic group.

If a person does that then they need to realise they’re prejudiced and it’s not just “preference”. It’s time to stop letting people use that excuse.

I understand everyone has a type and nobody has a right to be thought of as “attractive”, but to dismiss billions of people you’ve not even seen or met is definitely prejudiced. If you have those views you need to address the reasons why.. I don’t think it’s prejudice to have a preference for a black skin person or white skin person but I do think it’s prejudice to dismiss someone because of the nationality

Eh? Weren’t you the same guy saying you have to constantly tell people you aren’t Asian because you get discriminated against?"
. I do get asked a lot if I am Indian not just on Fabs but outside of Fabs.Yes I believe single Indian guys have been stereotyped in a bad way on Fabs but at the end of the day if someone has a preference for a black skin person or a white skin preference I don’t believe the first thing we should do is say it’s racist which some people do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Fabbers

I am frustrated by the number of responses I had from women and couple telling me they dont trust Asian men and wouldnt go anywhere near them.

So annoyed by this stereotype and want to break it.

A friend of mine told me that it is difficult to do online and I would do better in clubs.

Any suggestions/Advice?

What caused this stereotype?

Thanks

Raj x

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By *ediMan over a year ago

Leeds

"You are right that these prejudices may be unfair. Often, it's a matter of ignorance or stereotyping.

Great well balanced response

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