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I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha |
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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha "
Move uo north the woman are more down to earth, meets are easier and theres a lot less stuck up also  |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha
Move uo north the woman are more down to earth, meets are easier and theres a lot less stuck up also "
Northern women are easy in other words.  |
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not enough words to say whats wrong, look at the guys that get meets and learn, and most guys have a cock, its the least important part of you, well it is when its that small |
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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago
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"not enough words to say whats wrong, look at the guys that get meets and learn, and most guys have a cock, its the least important part of you, well it is when its that small"
I wrote nothing and have had 2 meets in 3 weeks since i reactivated it,  |
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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago
North Devon, Manchester Middleton |
"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha
Move uo north the woman are more down to earth, meets are easier and theres a lot less stuck up also
Northern women are easy in other words. "
Somewhat true |
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"not enough words to say whats wrong, look at the guys that get meets and learn, and most guys have a cock, its the least important part of you, well it is when its that small"
Now I don’t think I’m amazing, but are you serious? 5.5 is uk average, I’m 7”, so the one thing I wouldn’t say I am is small . Your feedback is hardly helpful |
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over a year ago
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From a womans point of view your profile is abit 'cocky' pun intended.
Profile wording could do with a little shake up too but other than that its prob the fact that there so many men to cpls/single ratio that it could take longer for you to get an experince with either. Its just a case of waiting patiently or look into local social only events to get your foot in the door |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha "
You want to cuddle before?
No, no you don't. Before you want to push them against a wall and whisper what you are going to do to them.
Cuddlings for after.
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"Too much chopper on display
Gotta get it from every angle haha "
If you looked at my profile and my number of meets vs yours I would tend to disagree with the need for 17 pics if your wanger.
I don't have 1 and do just fine along with many other guys on here.
That is 90% of your problem, lose those, tidy up the text and your chances will improve 10 fold easily |
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"From a womans point of view your profile is abit 'cocky' pun intended.
Profile wording could do with a little shake up too but other than that its prob the fact that there so many men to cpls/single ratio that it could take longer for you to get an experince with either. Its just a case of waiting patiently or look into local social only events to get your foot in the door "
Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option |
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"Too much chopper on display
Gotta get it from every angle haha
If you looked at my profile and my number of meets vs yours I would tend to disagree with the need for 17 pics if your wanger.
I don't have 1 and do just fine along with many other guys on here.
That is 90% of your problem, lose those, tidy up the text and your chances will improve 10 fold easily"
I’ll give it a shot |
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Op, you’re appearing to be polite and articulate so should do well. What does strike me as rather bizarre is the total and utter lack of profile Star Wars references, you know ‘suck my lightsaber’ or ‘I’ll Leia” etc. but it might be a generational thing. |
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"From a womans point of view your profile is abit 'cocky' pun intended.
Profile wording could do with a little shake up too but other than that its prob the fact that there so many men to cpls/single ratio that it could take longer for you to get an experince with either. Its just a case of waiting patiently or look into local social only events to get your foot in the door
Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option "
why are socials not an option, most swingers have a life outside of swinging,nobody is going to "out" you, now grow up and go meet some people, and being nice, your profile is all about your cock, which isnt that impressive, people dont want to see that. you will have more luck in a bar than on here tbh, focus on your good points on here, but most swingers are twice your age and arent really into younger guys, sure someone will soon be along to say im wrong, but fact is every party we have been to the youngest was double your age, enjoy being young, go out and pull, forget about swinging for now, and most swingers prefere to meet couples anyway, please dont take this the wrong way, its ment to help |
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Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out. |
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"Op, you’re appearing to be polite and articulate so should do well. What does strike me as rather bizarre is the total and utter lack of profile Star Wars references, you know ‘suck my lightsaber’ or ‘I’ll Leia” etc. but it might be a generational thing. "
Or “I’ll destroy your ass like alderaan “ |
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"From a womans point of view your profile is abit 'cocky' pun intended.
Profile wording could do with a little shake up too but other than that its prob the fact that there so many men to cpls/single ratio that it could take longer for you to get an experince with either. Its just a case of waiting patiently or look into local social only events to get your foot in the door
Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option
why are socials not an option, most swingers have a life outside of swinging,nobody is going to "out" you, now grow up and go meet some people, and being nice, your profile is all about your cock, which isnt that impressive, people dont want to see that. you will have more luck in a bar than on here tbh, focus on your good points on here, but most swingers are twice your age and arent really into younger guys, sure someone will soon be along to say im wrong, but fact is every party we have been to the youngest was double your age, enjoy being young, go out and pull, forget about swinging for now, and most swingers prefere to meet couples anyway, please dont take this the wrong way, its ment to help"
I understand. Currently in a relationship where she is not interested in sex due to just being a young catholic girl I guess lol. I don’t want to leave her , so on here. Therefore pulling at a pub is a bit risky |
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"Op, you’re appearing to be polite and articulate so should do well. What does strike me as rather bizarre is the total and utter lack of profile Star Wars references, you know ‘suck my lightsaber’ or ‘I’ll Leia” etc. but it might be a generational thing.
Or “I’ll destroy your ass like alderaan “"
yes and that will help pmsl |
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"Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out. "
No other choice , in a non-sexual relationship, with someone who I do love, but am not receiving intimacy from due to her personal reasons. |
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"From a womans point of view your profile is abit 'cocky' pun intended.
Profile wording could do with a little shake up too but other than that its prob the fact that there so many men to cpls/single ratio that it could take longer for you to get an experince with either. Its just a case of waiting patiently or look into local social only events to get your foot in the door
Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option
why are socials not an option, most swingers have a life outside of swinging,nobody is going to "out" you, now grow up and go meet some people, and being nice, your profile is all about your cock, which isnt that impressive, people dont want to see that. you will have more luck in a bar than on here tbh, focus on your good points on here, but most swingers are twice your age and arent really into younger guys, sure someone will soon be along to say im wrong, but fact is every party we have been to the youngest was double your age, enjoy being young, go out and pull, forget about swinging for now, and most swingers prefere to meet couples anyway, please dont take this the wrong way, its ment to help
I understand. Currently in a relationship where she is not interested in sex due to just being a young catholic girl I guess lol. I don’t want to leave her , so on here. Therefore pulling at a pub is a bit risky "
well if the relationship isnt working for both of you, then it isnt a relationship, and cheating on her isnt going to end well, sounds like you need to grow a pair and move on, unless shes minted and has great tits lol |
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"Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out.
No other choice , in a non-sexual relationship, with someone who I do love, but am not receiving intimacy from due to her personal reasons. "
At your age 20, I wouldn’t be with anyone that wasn’t giving me good sex. Get the fuck outta dodge whilst you’re both still young enough to find more suitable partners. |
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"Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out.
No other choice , in a non-sexual relationship, with someone who I do love, but am not receiving intimacy from due to her personal reasons.
At your age 20, I wouldn’t be with anyone that wasn’t giving me good sex. Get the fuck outta dodge whilst you’re both still young enough to find more suitable partners. "
But she’s so lovely , been together nearly 4 years . She is perfect in every other way. To me, seems worth using here for awhile , instead of leaving her and ending up with some bitch who will treat me shit |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha
Move uo north the woman are more down to earth, meets are easier and theres a lot less stuck up also
Northern women are easy in other words. "
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck. "
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic "
Are you sure you want your face up |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up"
Well most seem to think it’s good |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good "
except.....” Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option....”? |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good except.....” Understood, I have to be discrete so the socials aren’t really an option....”?"
Well I’m trusting the fabbers |
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so if she wont fuck you, why not, will she in the future, or is she getting it somewhere else? women love sex as much as men, if shes not fucking you there is a reason |
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"so if she wont fuck you, why not, will she in the future, or is she getting it somewhere else? women love sex as much as men, if shes not fucking you there is a reason"
She’s not getting it somewhere else , she has just had a very traditional upbringing, and nervous to explore her sexual side |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good "
What about being recognised ...don't you have a partner? |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good
What about being recognised ...don't you have a partner?"
I’m just trusting people here |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha "
Try Tinder?
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"Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out.
No other choice , in a non-sexual relationship, with someone who I do love, but am not receiving intimacy from due to her personal reasons.
At your age 20, I wouldn’t be with anyone that wasn’t giving me good sex. Get the fuck outta dodge whilst you’re both still young enough to find more suitable partners.
But she’s so lovely , been together nearly 4 years . She is perfect in every other way. To me, seems worth using here for awhile , instead of leaving her and ending up with some bitch who will treat me shit "
So you'll treat her like shit instead? Selfish.
Dunno about you ending up with some bitch, I'm certain she would be broken if she found out and would think you were a complete areshole and she deserves better. Her whole life ahead of her has been built on deceit and you sticking with her so you don't get lumbered with a bitch.
As long as you're ok eh.
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"so if she wont fuck you, why not, will she in the future, or is she getting it somewhere else? women love sex as much as men, if shes not fucking you there is a reason
She’s not getting it somewhere else , she has just had a very traditional upbringing, and nervous to explore her sexual side "
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Well I’m trusting the fabbers "
Quick heads-up, that’s a terrible idea - this is still the internet after all and not everyone is here for genuine and honest reasons. You may be fine but if you’re freaked out about going to the pub and pulling, I wouldn’t recommend popping your face on a publicly accessible sex site... Mr. |
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You are very young and inexperienced (your word). Both of those things will seriously count against you on Fab.
You should also consider what messages you are sending out. We get a ones which somebody presumably thinks are OK but really they are awful. Try posting on here an example of what you send out and we'll give you feedback on it. If you send out substandard messages you'll get nowhere. |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good
What about being recognised ...don't you have a partner?
I’m just trusting people here "
Don’t trust people on here and don’t have a face picture just cos someone’s told you to have one.
You’ve been with your girlfriend 4 years, why risk being spotted and it getting back to her and hurting her feelings.
You shouldn’t have let it go so far without have a sexual element to your relationship. I got with my child’s father when I was 18 and it was very sexual, he even pulled my tampax out of me the first time we fucked cos he couldn’t wait for me to go to the bathroom. That’s what it should be like in the beginning when you’re young.
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good
What about being recognised ...don't you have a partner?
I’m just trusting people here
Don’t trust people on here and don’t have a face picture just cos someone’s told you to have one.
You’ve been with your girlfriend 4 years, why risk being spotted and it getting back to her and hurting her feelings.
You shouldn’t have let it go so far without have a sexual element to your relationship. I got with my child’s father when I was 18 and it was very sexual, he even pulled my tampax out of me the first time we fucked cos he couldn’t wait for me to go to the bathroom. That’s what it should be like in the beginning when you’re young.
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Well that’s not what mines been like, it’s been a handjob once in awhile |
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"Some women don’t like a penis picture and you have one as your profile. I don’t mind dick pictures but I’d prefer to see a face or hint of what the face is like.
Also your age might put most people off. I’d say most the women on here are over 30 and a 20 year old guy would just be too young.
I’d never have even dreamed about using a site like this when I was 20, well I was in a relationship then but when I was young I was out all the time and would meet people on nights out.
No other choice , in a non-sexual relationship, with someone who I do love, but am not receiving intimacy from due to her personal reasons.
At your age 20, I wouldn’t be with anyone that wasn’t giving me good sex. Get the fuck outta dodge whilst you’re both still young enough to find more suitable partners.
But she’s so lovely , been together nearly 4 years . She is perfect in every other way. To me, seems worth using here for awhile , instead of leaving her and ending up with some bitch who will treat me shit
So you'll treat her like shit instead? Selfish.
Dunno about you ending up with some bitch, I'm certain she would be broken if she found out and would think you were a complete areshole and she deserves better. Her whole life ahead of her has been built on deceit and you sticking with her so you don't get lumbered with a bitch.
As long as you're ok eh.
P"
This is what I wish I'd said...it's so true |
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"Cock pics, every woman/couple knows what one looks like. Get some other photos without a cock in it. My wife finds a smile appealing over a body. Good luck.
That seems to be the overall feedback, so I’ve changed to a face pic
Are you sure you want your face up
Well most seem to think it’s good
What about being recognised ...don't you have a partner?
I’m just trusting people here
Don’t trust people on here and don’t have a face picture just cos someone’s told you to have one.
You’ve been with your girlfriend 4 years, why risk being spotted and it getting back to her and hurting her feelings.
You shouldn’t have let it go so far without have a sexual element to your relationship. I got with my child’s father when I was 18 and it was very sexual, he even pulled my tampax out of me the first time we fucked cos he couldn’t wait for me to go to the bathroom. That’s what it should be like in the beginning when you’re young.
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That made me laugh, rampant ! |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha "
try a different profile pic ! As you scared me to death almost
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Well I’m trusting the fabbers
Quick heads-up, that’s a terrible idea - this is still the internet after all and not everyone is here for genuine and honest reasons. You may be fine but if you’re freaked out about going to the pub and pulling, I wouldn’t recommend popping your face on a publicly accessible sex site... Mr. "
Ive changed it back to a cock now...half of you say put face not cock , half say never show face ! |
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At 20 years old you shouldn’t be just getting hand jobs.
Twenties are your time to be mad cunts.
I’m more concerned with the girlfriend to be honest. She doesn’t deserve to be cheated on just because she’s not sexually actively. Let her go now whilst she’s young and can easily find someone more suitable to her.
Don’t be selfish. |
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha try a different profile pic ! As you scared me to death almost "
I changed it, then got told to change it back haha
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"I’ve been on here 4 months , and had no meets with women or MF couples yet. What am I doing wrong ? I’ve never hounded anyone, I send messages if they are near and I like their profile , but it seems the only replies I get are from the husbands , wanting a gay experience. Please advise me, I’m young and should be in my prime haha "
Welcome to Fab. It's a numbers game really.
Try not caring it's much more fun that way. |
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"Too much chopper on display
Gotta get it from every angle haha
If you looked at my profile and my number of meets vs yours I would tend to disagree with the need for 17 pics if your wanger.
I don't have 1 and do just fine along with many other guys on here.
That is 90% of your problem, lose those, tidy up the text and your chances will improve 10 fold easily"
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